Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read.
Start by marking “I Miss You When I Blink: Essays” as Want to Read:
I Miss You When I Blink: Essays
Enlarge cover
Rate this book
Clear rating
Open Preview

I Miss You When I Blink: Essays

3.84  ·  Rating details ·  6,090 ratings  ·  987 reviews
One of Esquire’s Best Nonfiction Books of the Year
One of NPR’s Favorite Books of the Year
One of the Year’s Most Anticipated Books: BuzzFeed, Bustle, HelloGiggles, Literary Hub, She Reads

“I've spent my adult life prowling bookshelves for the modern-day reincarnation of my favorite authors—Nora Ephron, Erma Bombeck, Jean Kerr, and Laurie Colwin—all
Hardcover, 288 pages
Published April 2nd 2019 by Atria Books
More Details... Edit Details

Friend Reviews

To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up.

Reader Q&A

To ask other readers questions about I Miss You When I Blink, please sign up.
Popular Answered Questions

Community Reviews

Showing 1-30
Average rating 3.84  · 
Rating details
 ·  6,090 ratings  ·  987 reviews

More filters
Sort order
Start your review of I Miss You When I Blink: Essays
Jun 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing
4.5, rounded up in a blink

Wow. I just love the title of this book! And it sent me right down memory lane. I’m waving my hand in the air, desperately signaling, “Me too! I put ‘blink’ in a title, too! We’re twins!” No, no, no, “blink” wasn’t in a title of a story I wrote. It was in the title of a necklace I made. Seriously.

The inspiration came when I was 30,000 feet in the air, a place where I hate to be (“feet on the ground” is my motto). As always, I tried to tune out the flight attendant as
May 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2019-reads
I knew the author and I were simpatico when, in her first essay, she tells the story of having no sense of direction and she loses her car in a parking garage. This is my life and I’m totally stealing her tip to start taking pictures as a bread crumb trail.

And then there’s her to-do list. I thought I was the only crazy person who had a post-it note addiction. Like the author, If it’s not on my list and I complete a task I will write it down just to have the satisfaction of crossing it off. Hello
Elyse  Walters
Apr 10, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Audiobook.. narrated by the author.

Mary Laura Philpott is so enjoyable!!
.....wise, savvy, smart, funny!

“What happens when you check off off the boxes on your to-do list and realize you might need to reinvent the list—and yourself?”

Maybe.....that’s why most of us never complete our to-do lists....we’re afraid to reinvent ourselves. Ha!

Very satisfying Audiobook.....
looking at life in CHUNKS!!!!

“I Miss You When I Blink”..
is marvelous!!!!

May 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
How can we sum up our life's experiences? Does it boil down to a word, to a moment, to an event that defines us and makes us who we are? In this collection of essays, one might find oneself totally depicted as a wife, a mother, a person so trying to achieve that excellence that our mothers so ingrained in us. Is this a revelation that happens at a certain age, a time when we feel the years speeding up so much that you want to yell "stop". I want this day, this hour, this minute, to hold still, ...more
Skyler Autumn
Apr 16, 2019 rated it it was ok
2 Stars

Ummmm, this was not great and I'm a little surprised by that. This book is quite hyped up and being compared to a personal favourite read of mine The Rules Don't Apply by Ariel Levy so I did go into this book expecting a lot more substance than was actually delivered.

I Miss You When I Blink was slated as a collection of personal essays that address feelings of depression, anxiety and inadequacy amidst having what most (everyone honestly) would classify as a very successful, loving and
Tyler Goodson
Sep 04, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: arcs
This book will make you feel better. Mary Laura is open and honest about personal anxiety, family life, professional complacency, and, of course, the existential damage wreaked by Atlanta traffic. She makes you feel less alone, and encouraged, and confident. It's like hanging out with your best friend, your life coach, and your favorite writer all at once. I Miss You When I Blink is an impossibly perfect reading experience.
Dec 30, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: audiobook, netgalley
3.5 stars

Another one I should have reviewed a long time ago...

I listened to I Miss You When I Blink as an audio, which worked well. These are personal essays by Mary Laura Philpott. She talks about her childhood, her college years and her years as an adult with young children. There’s nothing dramatic about her life but she’s honest, which is what I appreciated most. There’s a good balance of humour and painful self-examination.

While I listened to the audio, I had received an ARC from the
Ashlee Ward
Apr 16, 2019 rated it it was ok
DNF. Okay, so some of these essays may have made me giggle, but, ultimately, what’s the purpose of this? This is going to sound harsh, but it’s clear that some people get to publish a book just because they have money. This book is an affluent white lady’s blog in print. I want a book to do more for me than this...I want a bit more substance, even if we’re simply talking essays.
Janelle | She Reads with Cats
Thank you so much Atria Books for my free copy!

I MISS YOU WHEN I BLINK is a personal, witty, and heartfelt collection of essays where every sentence is pure gold. Philpott writes beautifully and with such authenticity I felt like I was getting to know a friend. Like everyone, there are milestones in my life that I want to go back and revisit but the moments are gone and memories are all that is left.

“You can stand by your past decisions even if they took you to a present where you don’t belong
Sep 14, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: audiobook, essays
This was such an enjoyable memoir to listen to! Philpott is wise and funny and writes about small moments in an entertaining way. Her essays invite the reader into her life and elevate the daily grind into something illuminating.
Jun 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Really loved this one!
Jessica Jeffers
Jan 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Believe the hype on this one; it's flippin' brilliant. More to come.
Smart, witty personal essays are some of my favorite reading. Philpott reminds us that being an adult, even one who seemingly has everything, is hard and periodically sucks. Sometimes we have to step back and assess ourselves; tweak a few things or make drastic changes. As someone who has moved a lot, I understand that urge (though, like Philpott, I currently reside in the Nashville area and quite like it). I enjoyed these stories, but feel like they scratch the surface. I’d read the hell out of ...more
Kristy K
Mar 25, 2019 rated it really liked it
3.5 Stars

I’m learning that I really like memoirs in essay form, or maybe just essays in general. Philpott fills hers with relatable anecdotes and a great mixture of humor and authenticity.

I received an advanced copy through Netgalley in return for an honest review.
Debbie "DJ"
Aug 27, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: own, non-fiction, essays
Okay, so it’s like pulling teeth to get me to read short stories. Now my friend wants me to read essays? Oh hell no...but the pleading? What can I do but say okayyy already! I am eating every word I said against essays. These were fantastic! They were smart, funny, and oh so well written. Loved every minute, and couldn’t wait to get back to reading them! You win my friend!
May 30, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: essays
“I Miss You When I Blink” is a book club read that resonated with our group because author Mary Laura Philpott’s self deprecating humor made us all see ourselves in her stories. I’m not a fan of Memoirs, mostly because I think the author is coloring their story in the best possible light. Philpott doesn’t do that. In fact, one of her chapters is entitled “Ungrateful Bitch” because she realizes all her problems are first world problem, yet, we are all entitled to feeling disappointed or ...more
Renee (itsbooktalk)
Mar 31, 2019 rated it it was amazing
4.5 rounded up
“I know already how much I miss things that happened in the past- how they’re right there behind my eyelids but also gone forever. “

This quote and so many others in @marylauraphilpott ‘s new memoir really spoke to me. As a mom to one son already in college and the next (and last) son heading there in the fall, I often wish I could go back in time, just for a day and revisit them when they were young children. Those moments are right there in my memory, but as Mary said...gone
Diane Barnes
May 19, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: bedtime-books
The author is a Type A, driven, perfectionist, competitive workaholic, who always needs to be right and pile up compliments and kudos to prove her self worth. I am none of those things, but I know people who are, so it was worth reading to figure out what makes them tick. It was also very funny, as Philpott knows how to make fun of herself.
Amy Imogene Reads
Aug 07, 2019 rated it really liked it
4 stars

I loved this small collection of essays, but I think read it at the wrong stage of my life.

Feelings: 1/2

I Miss You When I Blink: Essays was a cover that refused to let me ignore it in my local bookstore. I hovered around it for weeks. "I miss you when I blink," I thought. "Huh." And then I went home and I thought about it. A lot. The cycle repeated until I finally broke down and walked out with my own copy.

Let's get this out of the way first—the writing is
Andrea (Born and Read in Chicago)
This collection of essays was super high on my to-be-read list. Two of my favorite books of 2018 could be described similarly (Heating & Cooling and Tell Me More). And on paper, this practically shouts YOU ARE THE TARGET AUDIENCE. I was born a year before the author and have checked all those boxes and, yes, can sometimes be type-A and a little anxious. Plus she works at Parnassus! It's blurbed by Ann Patchett! Although, while relatable in many ways, it didn't engage me like I hoped it ...more
Corrin Foster
Apr 21, 2019 rated it did not like it
Very surprised that this book received so much hype. Kudos to the marketing and PR team.
Jun 01, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: nonfictions, memoir
This was fine. I really enjoy memoirs as a genre, and I appreciate memoir/essay collections like this one as easy-to-read, relaxing books. I Miss You When I Blink is a pretty standard book from the memoir genre - the writing is good (if not particularly insightful or witty) and the essays are enjoyable enough (although some are better than others) - but there's nothing particularly special or compelling about this book to meaningfully differentiate it from others. A few passages here and there ...more
Kelsey (Kelseylovesbooks)
Jan 16, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: netgalley, 2019
I Miss You When I Blink spoke to a spiritual level within me. At times, it was like Mary was looking into my soul and saying “As a type-A person who likes control, I know you need to hear this.” And within the essay titled “A Letter to the Type a Person in Distress”, that is literally what she was doing. I felt seen by this book, I laughed during this book, and I gained permission I didn’t know I needed from this book.

Several essays are about Mary’s life with children, and while I do not have
May 27, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2019
Reviewed on: Ashes Books & Bobs.

I decided to pick up I Miss You When I Blink with one of my credits and I’m so glad I did. I love listening to audiobooks narrated by the author because it allows readers to catch all of the inflections and the tone behind the words on the page. It makes the reading experience feel more personal. This book was one of the most honest, authentic reading experiences I’ve come across and it was 1000% refreshing.

“Maybe we all walk around assuming everyone
Diane Yannick
Sep 30, 2019 rated it did not like it
This author bashed a women’s night out because they talked so much about how to make chicken salad. WELL, THIS IS WHAT THE WHOLE DAMNED BOOK WAS LIKE FOR ME. It took forever to make a point and often the point wasn’t even worth making. She whined and made problems where none existed. She wallowed in her privilege without even recognizing it. She kept seeking “some acknowledgment from somewhere that I was important”. Yep, that pretty much sums it up. I liked the title.
Melanie  Hilliard
Mar 17, 2019 rated it liked it
3.5 stars with the caveat that if you’re a certain class of white woman on the far side of 40, this might hit a little too close to home. Also, full disclosure: I won this in a Goodreads give away!

Charming. Thought-provoking. And infuriating in the all the ways today’s upper middle-class white women can be. Or maybe I just related to Philpott’s essays more than I’d care to admit. I imagine if I had children, this book would describe my adult experiences to a tee.

For all the overachievers in the
Brittany | thebookishfiiasco
Feb 17, 2019 rated it it was amazing
(@atriabooks #partner)
this was one of the most pleasant, funny, real, honest, and friendly reads i’ve ever read. every time i had this book with me and read a few of the stories, i felt like i was with a friend. that’s some pretty stellar writing, if you ask me. each story encapsulated a bit of wisdom, a bit of humor, and a lot of realness, which is pretty much all i’m ever looking for.

i think it’s that authenticity that made this book the great experience that it was for me. i felt like i
Jaclyn Crupi
Mar 19, 2019 rated it liked it
Smart and funny essays. ‘Good Job’ hit particularly close to home. I do prefer essays from minority voices and this is definitely from a wealthy, privileged white woman but her voice is authentic and her experiences her own.
Jul 15, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: own-it
I feel not one way or another about this book. I didn’t really connect to a specific narrative before each essay would end, and it seemed to try too hard to be funny for me to go along with whatever was happening. I ended up passively listening to the audio, chuckling here and there, but overall I felt let down that I didn’t feel more.

Essays can be so hit or miss I think because of my expectations going in. Either I’m expecting more of a segmented memoir, a factual delivery of the world, or a
May 17, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
delightful! though, i will admit to MLP-bias, having followed her for years on twitter. she's clever, astute, funny, and quirktastic. not to mention super, professionally, bookish (in a way that, maybe, turns me an unflattering shade of green with envy). in other words, she's my people (the quirktastic part). and i have never, ever felt more seen than while reading her essay about a childhood school assignment that had to include the word 'lobsterman'. MLP brings perspective, warmth, and humour ...more
« previous 1 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 next »
topics  posts  views  last activity   
Mt. Lebanon Publi...: I Miss You When I Blink by Mary Laura Philpott 1 1 Jun 11, 2019 04:14PM  
Similarity 1 11 Apr 02, 2019 02:20PM  

Readers also enjoyed

  • Save Me the Plums: My Gourmet Memoir
  • Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed
  • Ask Again, Yes
  • Evvie Drake Starts Over
  • The River
  • The Dutch House
  • The Dearly Beloved
  • The Most Fun We Ever Had
  • Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love
  • Southern Lady Code
  • Red at the Bone
  • The Last Romantics
  • City of Girls
  • The Lager Queen of Minnesota
  • To Night Owl from Dogfish
  • Waiting for Tom Hanks (Waiting for Tom Hanks, #1)
  • Time After Time
  • The Bookish Life of Nina Hill
See similar books…
Mary Laura Philpott is the author of the memoir-in-essays I Miss You When I Blink. Her writing has been featured in print or online by The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Los Angeles Times, McSweeney’s, The Paris Review, and other publications. She’s the founding editor of Musing, the online publication of Parnassus Books, as well as an Emmy-winning cohost of the show A Word on Words on ...more
“Maybe we all walk around assuming everyone is interpreting the world the same way we are, and being surprised when they aren't, and that's the loneliness and confusion of the human experience in a nutshell.” 14 likes
“But maybe the trick isn't sticking everything out. The trick is quitting the right thing at the right time. The trick is understanding that saying "No, thank you" to something you're expected to accept isn't failure. It's a whole other level of success.” 10 likes
More quotes…