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The author of It’s Okay to Laugh and host of the popular podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking—interviews that are “a gift to be able to listen [to]” (New York Times)—returns with more hilarious meditations on her messy, wonderful, bittersweet, and unconventional life.

Life has a million different ways to kick you right in the chops. We lose love, lose jobs, lose our sense of self. For Nora McInerny, it(New
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Audiobook, Unabridged, 8 pages
Published March 26th 2019 by HarperAudio
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Beth Lacey I think this stands alone just fine. Nora provides plenty of context that will help you know what she's talking about. I'm a longtime listener of the…moreI think this stands alone just fine. Nora provides plenty of context that will help you know what she's talking about. I'm a longtime listener of the podcast, and I think that helps, but isn't necessary to follow her or adore her.(less)
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Christine (Queen of Books)
Thank you to Nora McInerny for a free finished copy of No Happy Endings.

It's amazing how sometimes a book can just hit you at the right time. No Happy Endings did that for me. This is a book I needed to be reading tonight, and I was reading it because Nora mailed me a copy and maybe I also needed that surprise act of genuine kindness. (Honestly, it's going to take me months to stop being excited that I own a book signed by #ralphiegrams. Note this wasn't in exchange for review, literally just a
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Rebecca
“Everything good in my life had a sad aftertaste. Everything good in my life had come from loss. Everything sweet was just a little bitter.” I didn’t appreciate this as much as It’s Okay to Laugh, McInerny’s first memoir, although it’s in the same style: lots of short, witty but bittersweet essays reflecting on life’s losses. In this follow-up, she writes about what happened next for her after she became a reluctant grief expert when her father, first husband and unborn baby all died in a matter of weeks. Wit ...more
Katelyn
Dec 18, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favorite-2019
Wow. Nora McInery's writing style is hilarious and real. She bravely bares it all in this book, going through the many mixed emotions she felt after falling in love again a little over 6 months after her first husband died of brain cancer at 35. After dating her soon to be second husband, Matthew, for a few months, she becomes pregnant, and they merge their families--his 14 and 9 year olds with her 3 year old. I can't overstate how much I enjoyed McInery's writing. This book is about sad, tough ...more
Melora
Jun 13, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: death, memoir
I've never heard Nora McInerny's podcast, “Terrible, Thanks for Asking,” but reading No Happy Endings has very much of a podcast feel to it. Casual, conversational, littered with profanity and pop culture references. She comes across as likeable and sympathetic even while sharing what at least feels like a “warts and all” tale of the guilt, pain, fears, and longings she suffered during the past three(?) years of rebuilding her life since her husband's death from brain cancer. What makes the telling engaging ...more
Kaloyana
Between 3 and 4 stars.
Mostly I like it, but also I see it like Nora McInerny is actually more confident in giving advices that she should be. And this is not an accusation for her, it is a setback of the book. Because if she wants to be someone who advices people, who have been and still are grieving after a big loss, she should try to talk to people who didn't find another best husband and family and friends and everything so soon. Of course, I am sure it is disguised under the mask of this-is
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KP
Apr 08, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: books-read-2019
I love her sense of humor, and think her resilience is amazing, so my rating of this book doesn't reflect how I feel about the material as a whole. I just felt that several of the chapters were somewhat repetitive, and could have been condensed into one chapter, or perhaps more focused. I still appreciated reading this follow up to her first book, however, and think she's a wonderful writer.
Alex
May 25, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I am a religious listener of Nora McInerney's podcast. The great insights and compassion she shows her interviewees and the way she tells their complex stories is the podcast's highlight. The low-light (for me - this might not be everyone's experience) is hearing Nora carry on about herself and make her own story 1) somehow part of everyone else's and 2) saccharine and melodramatic. I'm not sure why I thought a whole 7 hours of listening to her talk about herself was a good idea. I'll keep up wi ...more
Katie Janowicz
Jul 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I listened to the audio version of this book, narrated by the author, and I highly recommend. She basically just says it all....all the hard stuff and all the daily mundane stuff with utter honesty and wicked humor. She is very, very sarcastic but also seems to wear her heart on her sleeve. Another book that had me laughing so hard, out loud, on multiple occasions, where people in the cars next to be may have thought I was a little crazy. The tears came too but this memoir exuded hope that after ...more
Jenna
Mar 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
One of my guilty pleasures is watching the latest season of The Bachelor and The Bachelorette. Rachel Lindsay, one of the former Bachelorettes, always used this line with her guys - and it was about being honest and open with her..."keep it 100." I think that is why I am such a big fan of Nora McInerny - she keeps it 100.

It takes a lot of courage and strength to throw your most vulnerable thoughts and feelings out into the world, but that's what she has done with No Happy Endings. He
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Tyler McCubbin
Jun 09, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
“And is where the good part happens. The good part is a conjunction? You bet it is. Because ‘and’ is about possibility and opportunity. ‘And’ includes ‘what is’ and makes room for ‘what could be’. ‘And’ doesn’t require you to love the situation, or to like the situation; it just requires you to live.” (267-68)

Being my first memoir in a LONG time, this was just everything that I needed at this point in my life to read and reflect on. Certainly not because I’ve experienced the same typ
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Gina
Mar 27, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I just love Nora. I took the long way to work when I downloaded the book and found myself laughing till there were tears, then sitting in my car crying till I was laughing. It took me two days to finish. ❤ ...more
Fishgirl
May 19, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I WILL be back because I have so much to say about this book. I wish I knew how I came to it - was it a "Goodreads" recommendation? I think the librarian who is my friend maybe put it on hold for me. I'll ask her next time I see her. Yeah, I have a lot to say about this. I'll be backkkkkkkk...
Okay, I'm back. Tea at hend. I'd never heard of NOra McInerny before reading this memoir. I kind of think I saw it here in the list on "Goodreads" that says something akin to "you might like this beca
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Donna Hines
Nevertheless She Persisted!
Life has a way of knocking you to your knees, dusting off, and going another merry go round.
How you choose to enter the arena is your choice but the exit may not be what you hoped but in some ways was exactly what you needed.
Look nobody enjoys having to say goodbye. Our lives are on a time clock as I truly believe everything happens for a reason.
Some wonder if the person who is about to pass knows as in my case with my niece at 12yo when she gave a f
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Naila (aka BooksandBachelor)
I listened to the audio version narrated by McInery herself, and I loved every minute of it. McInery is honest, and brave, and wickedly witty as she tells her story about love, loss, life, and what it means to move forward.
Even though I haven’t experienced the type of loss McInerny had, I still identified with her. Especially her personal account about antepartum depression. It put into words so much of what I’ve gone through but too guilty, ashamed or afraid to share. And now i feel like
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Kelly Hager
This book is exactly what I needed. It's sad---heartbreakingly so---in parts. But it's also hopeful and warm, and it's so, so funny.

Nora is my imaginary best friend, and she's very real in this. There are a lot of emotions (not all of them sad ones although obviously when you lose a baby, your dad and your husband in back to back losses, there are plenty of sad ones) and we feel them all with her. 

I believe this will be on a lot of Best Of lists this year and it deserves
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Lauren
May 08, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I will read anything Nora McInerny writes. She has a way with humor and honesty, that I dream of. Nora makes me feel like even the worst of the absolute worst happens, you can fall apart, and figure out your own timeline to pick yourself back up. And when you pick yourself back up, to know that you will look totally different.
Beth
May 24, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2019
I'm a big fan of Nora's podcast (Terrible, Thanks for Asking), a source that helped me confront my own grief after a number of losses in a short period of time. I'll admit that I've always had a hard time accepting that I "enjoy" work like this because in order for it to exist someone has had to suffer deeply, but it's reality that we don't live in a perfect world and life can be difficult and thank god for writers who share their stories with us. This isn't a manual on how to grieve or even wha ...more
Shannon
Mar 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: own, audible
I love everything Nora has to say. I could listen to her tell her stories of love and loss all day long.
Cori
I always hate reviewing a memoir since it feels wrong. I love love love her podcast & I feel like I know her a little from listening to all the episodes. While reading this book it was her voice I could hear reading it. Some of these stories I already knew from her podcast. I love her style & personality. And I don’t know why it bugs me so much but I really want to know what Baby’s name is!! Can’t wait to meet her in a few weeks!!
Jess knutson
Mar 31, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Nora has a way of making you want to shed tears and laugh all in the same breath, and this memoir is no different. I was lucky enough to see Nora during her book reading last week and she's just as charming in person as she writes in her book. We all have hard things, and Nora is phenomenal at making you feel like your own things are okay, and that there's no timeline to any feelings you have, there's no need to conform to social norms, and there's no reason you need to be ashamed of anything yo ...more
Anna Smith
Memoirs are not something I usually but the story was compelling and at times made me laugh
Katie Pelton
Apr 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book made a direct, immediate impact on my life. Not because I've had any major losses specifically but I got the message that life is short and you should tell people you love them when you feel it. You should tell them you're glad you found them.

She's witty, smart, transparent, vulnerable, all in a very digestible way. I'm sorry she had to experience such loss to share her light so publicly but we're all lucky to see it.
Melissa
May 10, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2019, audio
I really don't know about this book. There were some very deep and thoughtful perspectives that were good takeaways, but the author didn't paint herself in the best light. I'm not really sure she came across as likeable. Yes she experienced great loss (husband, father, and baby) in a very short time and there's certainly compassion for her in that loss, but the way she described her life with her new husband was odd. I'm not sure if she was trying to be funny and self-deprecating. She often came ...more
Abrar Hani
It's easy for us to read a storyline for someone and keep judging on him and his decisions, even if you tried to put yourself in his shoes you will never be able to understand his sorrow.

This memoir is about loss and how to deal with it when the whole life that you used to live just change suddenly, and found that everything just became empty and meanless.

The author talks about her life after she lost her husband, father and miscarriage her baby and how all these losses leave her in a swirl of
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Britta
Jun 07, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Nora's writing is pure wit and a joy to read. I had heard about this book via Mandy Moore and it intrigued me. Most authors won't touch the subject of grief because it's uncomfortable and sad. However, Nora has a way of putting a positive spin on it. She looked at the people, and the life, she had lost and was so real about how she felt through the whole ordeal that I think we can all relate to her. I love that she chooses to love her current husband Matthew and speaks openly about her deceased ...more
Mary Ellington
Oct 02, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I'm not a fast reader. I devoured this book in 2 days. The story is a combo of as sad as something can be and as happy. It's about losing your one true love, your father and a 12 week old fetus in just a few weeks time. It's about finding love again, having another baby, combining families.
I first heard the author's voice in a podcast with Kate Bowler. I confess I have a girl crush on Kate Bowler. I love how she thinks, how she writes, mostly, the sound of her laugh. Listening to a conversation
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Kelsey
Jun 24, 2019 rated it really liked it
Big fangirl of Nora and her podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking. For this reason, I chose audiobook and her delivery is just so great. I appreciate how she can make me laugh and then tear up approximately 30 seconds later. She’s brash with a big heart. She’s brave with insecurities like us.

“Use it up. Wear it out. Leave nothing undone or unsaid to the people you love. Let it get banged up and bruised. That is what your heart is there for.”

“Grief is a byproduct of love. We don’t grie
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Rebekah Frank
Apr 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I read this book because I really enjoy Nora’s podcast, Terrible, Thanks for Asking. I enjoy her sense of humor and the way she can bring levity and gravity to a situation at the same time which I never thought was possible. There were some chapters that I thought weren’t completely necessary but at the same time someone probably needed to read those words and maybe chapters that spoke to me were not necessary for other people. Anyway, Nora is a voice on grief that we so desperately need and i a ...more
Bethany
I knew of Nora because we have a mutual friend in common, and her story (and that of her late husband) were local news at the time of his passing. She's a wry and intelligent writer, who's taken up the mantle of being genuine in the face of grief and life after a traumatic experience.

This book made me laugh, and want to cry a little, and nod along at many moments. The book meanders its way through the lessons and moments that marked Nora's life since Aaron's passing in delicately sha
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Michele
Apr 12, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I’ve followed Nora for a long time, and I liked her first book, and I listen to her podcast, so I was probably always going to like this book. But I *loved* this book. Nora’s essays are crisp, and funny, and sad, and honest. And her footnotes are gold. Yes, this book deals in some heavy stuff. Read it still. Hell, read it because it deals in heavy stuff, and as Nora points out, none of us gets out of a full life without it.
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