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Walking Each Other Home: Conversations on Loving and Dying

4.44  ·  Rating details ·  470 ratings  ·  58 reviews
We all sit on the edge of a mystery. We have only known this life, so dying scares us—and we are all dying. But what if dying were perfectly safe? What would it look like if you could approach dying with curiosity and love, in service of other beings? What if dying were the ultimate spiritual practice?

Ram Dass and Mirabai Bush began their friendship more than four decades
Hardcover, 212 pages
Published September 4th 2018 by Sounds True
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“Walking Each Other Home: Conversations on Loving and Dying” by Ram Dass and Mirabai Bush is a wise guide for end-of-life living, loving and grieving. The authors, well-known spiritual gurus and friends, share in the most personal fashion about how best to support the dying, how to leave a spiritual legacy, and how to walk this final path together. This poignant and illuminating book explores how to live and how to die consciously, treating this final stage as perhaps one’s most important spirit ...more
May 14, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I received this book, for free, in exchange for an honest review.

This book didn't resonate with me as much as some of my favorite Ram Dass books (Polishing the Mirror and Be Here Now). That being said, it is one of his better books and a book most people familiar with him will be sure to love. My main complaints about this book are that it repeats some stories from earlier media and is a bit less dense than it could be. I think most people will not mind these problems as the love and wisdom that
Dealing with grief any time is awful, but there's a special kind of awful when it happens this time of year. This book has been tremendously helpful and insightful and affirmed a lot of things I saw and experienced at my grandmother's bedside as she passed this week, a day after Dass himself died. ...more
Sep 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This is a wonderful book, with ambitious goals: To help readers get rid of their fear of death; to help those living with grief and loss; to help those sitting with the dying; and to help those who are dying. To my mind, it is a very successful effort, but then, I may not be entirely unbiased.

I first heard of Ram Dass when my older brother brought home a copy of "Be Here Now," back when the book came out (I was in my teens). I was fascinated, but life went on and I didn't read another book by Ra
Kari Yergin
Mar 25, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audio
Book: walking each other home. Ram Das

There are a lot of good questions, some real nuggets of answers. The structure felt so randomly conversations, though, which they admit right in the title. Had it been less informally structured and therefore less repetitive, it would have seemed better to me

If I’m going to die the best way for me to prepare is to quiet my mind and open my heart. If I’m going to live, the best way for me to prepare is to quiet my mind and open my heart.

Getting close to wh
Aug 10, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This is a powerful book full of wisdom and love. I have not read any other books by these authors but I certainly will seek them out next. I love the fact that the book was written as a conversation between the two authors as they sought to ponder the topic of death and why we are so afraid to talk about it, think about it and except it. It felt like I was right there with them, experiencing their time together and their conversation, which made the book easy to read even though the topics are d ...more
Jan 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
How do you enjoy a book on death and dying? Get the info from Ram Dass. While I’ve read most of what he has said on the topic in his many other books, this is getting it all in one place. It is fresh from the standpoint of Ram Dass’ advanced age and experience at this point in time, nearing his own death. Also it’s co written with longtime friend, Mirabai Bush. I got to know Mirabai a bit more here and she’s great! I am biased about Ram Dass.

I genuinely love Ram Dass. I first loved him because
Oct 01, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A good conversation starter for discussing the inevitable for all of us. I'm not a guru follower myself, but do share Ram Dass' perspective of the how we are all part of a greater 'consciousness' or whatever your concept of god(s) might be. I especially like the ice cube metaphor (p. 60) for our passing, i.e. that we are each, physically and metaphysically, like an ice cube (although I would say snowflake) that melts into the ocean when we pass away, the ocean being the Universal Consciousness. ...more
The topic of death is sensitive. It could bring out feelings of fear & grief or of love & acceptance or all of these together. I listened to the audio-book (~7 hours duration). There are no definitive answers in this book as no one knows how is it to die. I liked that they just shared their knowledge and learnings rather than providing definitive answers. We need to talk to ourselves daily on this topic to navigate through the feelings and emotions that this universal truth props in us. I many r ...more
Dec 23, 2018 rated it really liked it
just beautiful.
death can paradoxically be a transformative gift and one of the greatest teachers in life.. a final culmination of all experiences on earth, often bringing spiritual opening and expression of true reverence for life. it can seem so terrifying at the same time, loss of self/everything one “knows”, not to mention the impact on loved ones. rd and mirabai really hit all the points i wanted in this book, how to approach death (and life), how to be with a dying person, work with grief,
M. Sarki

Many of the spiritual ideas and ensuing guidance read in this book I previously have already considered. Some points made by Ram Dass and Mirabai Bush I reject and others I am still considering. However, there are many Ram Dass positions that I do believe. But for a person who thinks this life is it, that this life is all he has and that the worms will get him just as they get everyone else, the importance of reading this book becomes paramount given the o
Jackie St Hilaire
No matter where you live, no matter if you are influential, rich or famous; we are all alike.

We were all born from the same "source" and we will all return to the same "source".

When our natural physical state leaves our body we are hopeful that we will not have to go through this transition alone. If we live our present life alone and don't let another into our 'inner sanctum", our transition will be painful, there will be much suffering and purification in the letting go process.

It is good to b
”If we love well, we will die well. Making peace with death and being fully in the moment allows us to lose ourselves in love, in the love of the beauty and awe of the manifestation of God, in the love of ourselves and others, and in the love of everything else – the suffering, the pain, the joy. We can’t know when we will die, and living without knowing requires surrender, surrendering our hope and fear so we can open our hearts to life and compassion grow. Then when death comes, we are read to ...more
Laekin Anania
Dec 08, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Beautifully written perspectives on the difficult conversations we have with people who are approaching death. It is a topic that we often choose to avoid; we almost qualify it away, denying it out of our fear of the overwhelming emotions that it can bring when we do discuss it. The authors raised an interesting point by explaining that this can then isolate the person who is experiencing their moment to go, as it limits their expression of what they’re experiencing. They described this moment a ...more
I wanted to really love this book, but it was just to woo-woo for me. A few things that I marked before I put it down:
pg xiii [about meditating]- I began to see the impermanence of thoughts and emotions as they rose and fell away, and I started taking them less seriously. I felt much less dependent on the ideas and opinions of others, and it gave me a kind of radical self-confidence, like I belonged here on the planet and would be able to understand how it was all unfolding. That's what it felt
Dec 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Drawing on several different religious traditions, Walking Each Other Home offers a spiritual perspective on death to help attend others in their deaths as well as to help us with our own. The book is written as a series of reflective conversations between Ram Dass and Mirabai Bush. The book beings with a preface and an introduction to the eight following sections of conversations which progress from a consideration of death, to personal experiences of death, to being present as another dies, to ...more
Tomomi Landsman
I received an Uncorrected Proof of this book for free from Kew & Willow as part of their rewards program. Given a choice among non-fiction, fiction, and young adult, I chose non-fiction.

While I am not a complete skeptic and have sought out meditation and mindfulness practices, I was mostly unconvinced by this book. I found the psilocybin and LSD use especially eyebrow-raising, with Ram Dass using LSD during his father's funeral.

I did appreciate how this book encourages you to think about death a
Jun 04, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Loving Ram Dass for over a decade, but learning something new about him and his legacy everyday, this beautiful book of conversations found me at just the right time. My grandfather died last summer, and I have been stuck in grief since that time. I didn't know how to move on, or that I was even stuck at all. Just that life has been dull and I can't find my voice, or have the courage to make hard choices.

Reading these conversations through the lens of love, about death, dying, compassion, and so
Chasity Mayo
This book was not only beautifully written, but filled with intense spiritual information that critically analyzes our ideas of death itself. I love that it covers everything from being supportive to forgiveness. I have also read “Healing Into Life and Death” which covers a lot of similar topics about our ideas of death & how to prepare our spirits for transcending the physical realm. If I had to choose one of the books to recommend, I would pick Levine. I love Ram Dass and he has a beautiful ou ...more
Victoria Manning
What a beautiful book... Ram Dass discusses life and death and loving awareness with his friend Maraibi Bush. This was written after his stroke and she speaks what he says in their conversations. Anyone who is struggling with an incurable disease or facing end of life issues with fear, questions and uncertainty will be deeply moved by what he shares. I had not studied his works back in the 60’s when he became popular, but I am so glad I’ve discovered him. I will be reading all his books.. He has ...more
Cathryn Wellner
A gentle, heart-opening book created by two long-time friends. In my eighth decade, I am comfortable with conversations about death and have the inevitable experience of sitting with friends nearing that passage. But there is always more to learn about how others approach the mystery and what they believe happens once that spark of life is extinguished. I found this book as comfortable as a warm robe and slippers but not as helpful as two other books, Being Mortal (my favourite) and Everything H ...more
Pt Wallace
Nov 21, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I wonderful guidebook for anyone who is grieving the loss of a loved one or who may be approaching death themselves.
Together, Ram Dass and Mirabai Bush guide readers through some of the most fearful parts of our lives. They explain that fear is natural in the face of death because we have only known this life. They explain how we can release fear by approaching death with a new way of thinking and show readers that there are spiritual opportunities within the dying process.

I recommended for tho
Dan Schaller
Jan 27, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Radically Perspective-changing

Miraba does a wonderful job of summarizing hours and hours of conversation and contemplation about living, dying, and embracing death into an extremely readable book.

She and Ram Dass, through their conversations, share the results of lifetimes of contemplation of, and experience with death that offer a radically different view of dying than that held by the majority of westerners.

In addition, they give us practical, loving instruction on being with someone in the im
Mar 31, 2019 rated it really liked it
You don't have to believe everything in this book to find plenty to nourish your thoughts about love, death and dying. You need not know anything about Ram Dass, whose thoughts these are, or Mirabai Bush who put them together in a meaningful way. The point of the book is that this is something we're collectively afraid of and so, refuse to think much about it at all, much less spend time thinking about in a personal manner - till we're in the same room with it, and don't know how to cope with th ...more
Jane Bystry Weyers
I found the tone of this book to be a pleasantly relaxed, low key exploration of the end of life through repeated conversations between two long-time friends. Author Ram Dass primarily shares Buddhist beliefs and practices, but is not trying to convert anyone. Rather, he is inviting persons of all faiths/practices to find something useful that they can adopt in their own lives, guiding us to live fuller lives and approach death as a natural ending to a life well-lived. Toward the end of the book ...more
Jan 24, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I love Ram Dass. This one is full of insight about aging and dying. Co-written with Mirabei
Bush it take us on the pathway to easing ourselves into old age and eventually death, but without fear. It is like Ram Dass and Mirabei take our hands and show us the way to navigate those years without fear but through our spiritual practice, love and gentle kindness. A wonderful book about a taboo subject, at least here in the U.S. Anyone who is 50 or above or any age really give it a read. Surely squel
Nov 08, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
4.70 Library book I was going to give this a 5 star but it didn't quite make it. I skimmed over the opening paragraph or 2 in each chapter as I wasn't particularly interested in who was visiting that day or what they were having for breakfast. But then I got into the gist of the daily conversations and that is where the aha nuggets are! There were many, and they were often profound and so thought provoking. I saved many to my journal and plan to revisit this book again sometime down the road.... ...more
Aug 06, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I had hoped for a better book, but found this one disappointing. It just did work for me. had hoped for a bit more on accepting death, maybe, or understanding it. Hmmmm, I guess we all have to figure it out ourselves. Just to New Age-y for my tastes. But I am sure it will have a ppeal as it is very personable and an easy read. Just not for me.
Aug 13, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: death, philosophy
I read a little of this each night before going to sleep, and I found it comforting and relaxing. It wasn't exactly profound, but I think the title exactly captures the book and the conversations it contains. I love the idea that being with someone through their death is a way to walk them home. I'm looking forward to reading Ram Dass's thoughts on aging. ...more
Amanda Palmer
Nov 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
If you are dying, have a loved one dying, have ever dealt with a painful death, are afraid of death - THIS is the book for you! My mother died when I was 15 and I have had a real fear of death my whole life - this book has helped me to understand death from a new perspective and I feel strongly that everyone should read this book!
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