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Yes, You Are Trans Enough: My Transition from Self-Loathing to Self-Love

4.43  ·  Rating details ·  502 ratings  ·  57 reviews
This is the deeply personal and witty account of growing up as the kid who never fitted in. Transgender blogger Mia Violet reflects on her life and how at 26 she came to finally realise she was 'trans enough' to be transgender, after years of knowing she was different but without the language to understand why.

From bullying, heartache and a botched coming out attempt, thr
Kindle Edition, 352 pages
Published June 21st 2018 by Jessica Kingsley Publishers
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Avery Delany
When I first came across Yes, You are Trans Enough, I knew that it was going to stand out in the busy crowd of transgender memoirs as something different and special. The colorful cover was not only bright, bold and charismatic, just like it’s author Mia Violet, but it reached out a welcoming hand with its affirmative declaration that, yes, you are trans enough.

The overwhelming anxiety over whether you are “trans enough” to be transgender is a far more common concern than many of us realize and
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My first trans memoir and a really honest, heartfelt, and witty one at that. Mia has a lovely, affirming, matter-of-fact voice, and she generously details her struggles and euphoria growing up. This is helpful because it gives me a realistic look into the experiences of an everyday trans person.

Mia also helpfully emphasizes throughout the book that another person's trans journey does not have to match hers. You don't have to always experience your standard ~childhood dysphoria~ to be trans. You
Feb 25, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: owned-ebook
This is a fantastic read, and I loved it so much. I related to so, so much of her story, and I found myself highlighting passages on my Kindle every few pages (I'll share some of them here). If you're trans or questioning, I would definitely recommend this book, especially if you have any doubts (hence the title). If you're cis and wanting to learn more about a trans experience, I'd recommend this but would like to note that this is one person's experience, there are no universal trans experienc ...more
Feb 23, 2021 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book was an easy five stars. While the story is personal, broader issues of transition and of trans people in society are covered, along with some consideration of issues of general self-worth and value. Although the author's story wasn't always easy, there's an uplifting and encouraging spirit, and a lot of genuine insight. ...more
This book is fine. I'm pretty sure I'm the wrong audience for this book, but it's fine. I'm a transwoman, and I am trans enough. That should make me a good fit, but I found it pretty tough to connect with the author's life.

On the one hand this book gives me some serious hope. This story is "Thunder and Fury Signifying Nothing: The Book". The author spends so much time worrying about things and then it just turns out to be nothing. Over and over again. The entire book is like that. It makes for a
May 30, 2022 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
such an unbelievably affirming read. it made me a little anxious honestly to read this because i connected so heavily with her story about how she realized she was trans as a teenager, and it scares me a little bit about how undeniable its becoming that i am a trans girl. (if u didnt know that, now u do! hi)

more than anxious though, this book made me feel so much better about myself. it told me that all the strange thoughts ive had throughout high school are totally normal, it showed me that the
C.L. Ogilvie
Jun 24, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: memoir, lgbt
Insightful, informative and deeply affecting. I feel very fortunate to have had the opportunity to read this. Written with warm and humor, a very moving read. Highly recommended!
Jul 14, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Excellent work with one drawback

There are no resources at the end of the book for readers in the United States and Canada. All of the resources are for the United Kingdom. With so many transgender people in North America who need help but may not know where to turn, it would be great if a new section could be added to the Resources section at the end of the book for us. It took me years to figure out where to turn, and I finally had to do it by coming out on Facebook.

The book itself is wonderfu
Jonathan Wichmann
Oct 02, 2021 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: lgbt
Really fascinating. Mia Violet shows clearly that not all trans people grow up consciously knowing they are trans. As she writes, "I’d never been longing to become a girl, I’d been struggling with pretending to be a boy." "But how can you diagnose yourself with a problem you don’t know exists?"

I might as well share more great quotes :) - "But my transition had never really been about hormones, clothes, or my body; it had been about that feeling deep in my gut, the one that had reminded me that
Feb 28, 2021 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I felt very seen reading this book, the things the author mentioned in the first few chapters really resonated with me and made me consider things from my childhood that I hadn't necessarily noticed as 'trans indicators' before. The author went into detail about how she liked video games, batman and throughout her childhood liked 'boy' things - but never fit in with the boys or the girls, which is something I can relate to. ...more
Sam Alexander-Eames
I love Mia's matter-of-fact writing style, and her ability to form a coherent narrative out of several decades of incredibly detailed personal history.

For me, a lot of the more general messages in the book were already very familiar. I took away two things:

1. It can be really important as a trans person living in a hateful world to find some confidence and positivity in your own identity, and to remember to take happiness from that.
2. A lot of her experiences were more familiar than I expected.
Tabitha Cole
Jun 30, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Mia's so lovely.

Great book. Great message to it.
Aug 16, 2022 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
would give the book 4 and 1/2 stars but unable to on this app. really helped me accept myself more and during the reading period my mental health was increasingly good. i don’t like to be dependant on things like that, but this book seriously was very good for me
Aug 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
‘Transphobia is still epidemic in the media and in our society’

British author Mia Violet is a bisexual trans woman who turned her love of oversharing and analysing everything to death into fuel for her writing career. She uses her sense of humour and passion for helping others to write about queer issues and positive thinking. She also draws deeply from her own experiences of going from a miserable grump to an excitable ball of glitter.

The pleasure of reading Mia’s book is her warmly insightful
Jun 14, 2021 rated it it was amazing
The title message "Yes, you are trans enough" mainly speaks to the author's experience of being told as a teenager by her mother that she was mistaken about being transgender. But it also applies to anyone who is struggling with feeling that they might be transgender, but don't relate to the predominant narratives about being trapped in the wrong body or having "always known," or someone who may be nonbinary or not want any medical interventions. I also really appreciated the author's assertion ...more
Jun 18, 2021 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: kappapride, favorites
Although I was originally going to give this book a rating of 4.5 stars for some minor issues I had with the writing (grammar, repetitive language), I could not bring myself to do so. This book was far too important to me to bring it down by half a star for the couple of minor gripes that I had with it.

Wow, wow, wow. Mia’s story reflects so much of my own and it was as though I was looking into a window of my soul. The words and affirmations within this book resonated with me so deeply and were
Finlay Games
Jan 17, 2021 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I loved this book so much! As a trans male myself, it's so interesting to read a memoir from the perspective of a trans woman. Although our stories and journeys are different, there are so many similarities in the emotional and social processes we go through.

The struggle to identify oneself as trans , feeling that label belongs to people more worthy and being not trans enough to call yourself trans was a feeling that echoed my own experience.

I particularly related to the journey of finding out w
I liked this book. Mia Violet's story is interesting and is an excellent addition to the trans-person story genre. I particularly like how she stresses that each person is an individual, and there is no one (or dozen) way to be trans. And that not all trans people have the goal of passing a cis person of their gender.

But parts of the book drag on. I can't say what could have been cut, but something should have been. I got used to the way she would end a chapter about her personal life with gene
Iz G.
Jun 15, 2021 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition

Not one of my all time favorites but solidly one of my favorites in 2021.

Yes, you are trans enough is so good. The balancing act between memoir, education, and advice is so brillianty done. The way that Mia Violet weaves in bits of wisdom and education about the larger trans community between stories from her life is so good. I think it’s a must read for anybody questioning their gender or early in their transition. But I also think it would be an amazing read if somebody wanted to be a be
Jul 13, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction, queer
Mia puts her heart on the line, as she tells us what it was like growing up trans. This is a story of bullying, mental illness, denial, failed coming outs. It is also a story of acceptance, of love, of success and transition.

I'd certainly recommend this to anyone struggling with their identity, anyone who has come out as trans, and to cis people who want to know more about what it is like to be trans.

The book is well written, and is in no way dry or boring. It is quite entertaining throughout.
Sep 10, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
An urgent read for both those whose experiences align with the author's, and those who need to learn from them. Equally unsettling and uplifting, Violet's memoir both identifies and begins to fill a notable vacancy in literature on the experiences of trans people in the UK, with the market often being dominated by an American context, which doesn't always apply. To learn more about Mia Violet and to continue following her journey, I recommend following her on twitter, where, as she describes, th ...more
Aug 04, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This might be my new favorite book about gender. Mia Violet writes an incredibly engaging narrative, weaving together her own life story and basic information about transition to create an educational memoir. I found it especially harrowing to read about her childhood experiences of being bullied by boys. On the educational front, I learned about the UK's awful gatekeeping approach to trans healthcare and how it threw a bunch of unnecessary barriers in front of her transition. I love the overall ...more
Jan 07, 2021 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: lgbtqia, favorites
I've never been someone who sits down to read a book and feels like a different person after it. Undoubtably, my love of reading overall has greatly changed me over the years, but I've never had a pile of books that changed how I've thought and I've often doubted how much people are truly changed by what they read. That was until I read this book. I can say with complete certainty that reading this was a life-changing experience. I haven't had time to process all my thoughts about it, but I'm so ...more
The writing style was so nice, easy to read, and quick paced. I relate a lot to the book as a trans person but i would recommend anyone interested in trans issues and topics to read this book but definitely wished i read sooner i just put it off so much since I’ve never read a memoir before. This book has definitely made me excited to read more memoirs in the future. While the authors story isn’t always easy the book has a uplifting and encouraging spirt!

Genuinely loved this book so much can’
Mar 07, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I'm sending this to a number of relatives who had many invasive questions about my trans identity that I wasn't up to answering. I think it will be a gentle, but informative read for any cisgender person struggling to understand transgender identities.

I'm also recommending it to all my trans friends, especially the ones who wonder if they're trans enough. It's a love letter and a balm and I think it will bring a lot of readers peace.
Sep 08, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Interesting autobiographical account of the author's transition interwoven with more generalized information. Well-balanced and interesting to the end. As it is more of an introductionary text, it's a little superficial overall, but it occasionally reaches unexpected depths and I did come away with new knowledge. However, it's really the personal story that made the book most interesting in my eyes. ...more
May 16, 2021 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Fantasticly fun millennial memoire. The perfect mix of nostalgia for 2000s rock, online chatrooms, and cosplay cons through honest story telling and the occasional reminder of why we loved these things in the first place: to escape our shitty small towns and find community elsewhere.

Mia also does a great job at weaving in Trans myths and medical realities into her narrative, so it never feels heavy handed or separate from the story.
Jul 18, 2021 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is easily 5 stars

The writing style is friendly and is like listening to a friend. It's easy to follow and interesting

As someone who is trans, I related to so much of this book, and although it is only the experiences of 1 trans person, I feel like I'm not the only person who will be able to relate

This is a beautifully heart breaking and uplifting memoir and a recommended read for trans and cis people alike
Feb 08, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
It's weird reading a book by someone you know, especially such a personal story! Mia writes honestly and clearly about her trans experience. As a cisgender (gay) man, I learned a lot about the lived reality of being a trans woman, and I also identified with some of the mental and emotional stresses that being queer can have on a person. ...more
Lola Grey
Jan 20, 2021 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
During a time where I've probably felt my worst with dysphoria, being lonely and feeling like I dont fit in, this book as been a ray of light in an otherwise dark period of my transition. An extremely relatable story which had me laughing and crying.

I couldn't reccomend this enough, it will probably be something I read yearly.
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Mia Violet is a queer writer with a passion for exploring how to live a life of self-love and positivity. She also dabbles in public speaking, podcasting, and modelling. Her main drive is to help people feel better about themselves and their bodies, especially fellow trans people,

As a queer woman who suffers from body dysmorphic disorder, with a history of anxiety and self-loathing, she knows how

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