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The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship: A Toltec Wisdom Book by Don Miguel Ruiz

4.27  ·  Rating details ·  32,288 ratings  ·  1,124 reviews
In The Mastery of Love, don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering and drama in our relationships. Using insightful stories to bring his message to life, Ruiz shows us how to heal our emotional wounds, recover the freedom and joy that are our birthright, and restore the spirit of playfulness that is vital to ...more
Kindle Edition, 210 pages
Published April 18th 2018 (first published January 1st 1999)
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Laura
Feb 20, 2008 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Mastery of Love is one of the most influential books I have ever read. I recommend it to all of my girl friends and I think every guy should read it as well. Ruiz also wrote The Four Agreements...very good read but I liked Mastery of Love more b/c as a girl that has grown up in a (pleasantly) divorced family, I am a skeptic of love and it’s hard for me to open up.

This book starts off discussing love on a conceptual level but then turns into more of a How To book...which is the part I enjoyed t
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Matt
May 06, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Disclaimer – I doubt I ever would have chosen to read this book without a recommendation from someone else. It was lent to me by a co-worker, and I read it, in part, out of respect for her.

The author: Miguel Ruiz once went to medical school and became a surgeon. Later in life after a traumatic accident he forsook it all to learn the healer’s ways and become an “Eagle-Knight” in the Nagual tradition. He has since studied the “Toltec” people and written about their teachings. He has wr
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Michele Harrod
Aug 26, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is one of those perfect books, that sits on my bookshelf, and then miraculously falls into my bag, just as I head away for a long weekend - just when I need it the most. You know the times, those short breaks, when you need to take some time out to try and make sense of the world, and where you fit into it. This book answered those questions perfectly. In fact Don Miguel Ruiz's explanation of the hell that is earth, and how and why we have so foolishly created this for ourselves, was just w ...more
Shannon
We practice and practice, and we master how to be what we are not.
Soon we forget who we really are, and we start to live our images. We create not just one image, but many different images according to the different groups of people we associate with. p20

If you take your happiness and put it in someone's hands, sooner or later,s he is giong to break it. If you give your happiness to someone else, she can always take it away. Then if happiness can only come from inside of you an
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Liz
Apr 01, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
This book certainly contains some good and well needed advice, for example it frequently stresses the importance of self acceptance and self love, a concept which I think many of us struggle with.

However, I found the book difficult at times because it frequently seemed to fall into the realm of over simplification. Perhaps non western based concepts of 'enlightenment' are supposed to be by nature - simple - and I am missing the point? But I'm not entirely convinced of this. I agree that Western
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Brad
Oct 07, 2008 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I just can't get past the bad writing. The concepts occasionally seemed worth a bit of thought yet by the time the author finished beating them into the ground through repetitive poor sentences I disregarded the ideas in disgust. Really, I didn't know someone could rephrase a single thought so many times without once expressing it in a succinct, (or even quasi-intelligent,) manner. Ah well, I guess I won't be able to 'self-help' after all... Ghost writer, anyone?


Jeanny
Oct 11, 2015 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
My reaction after I completed the book:
Well, that was .....{o_0}..... I think ..... I need a moment to compose my thoughts....

This is not my usual choice of reading material. However, I stumbled upon a discussion about this book & its merits & became intrigued with the concepts being discussed. So much so as I walked out of the room I immediately purchased the audible version of the book. The narrators Jill Eikenberry & Michael Tucker did a decent job reading the materia
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Ursy
Jun 15, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book has very little and everything to do with creating meaningful relationships with others. It's sole focus is about creating a loving relationship with yourself. It gives real world examples of how we create our own hell. If we can create it, we can destroy it. This book looks at how and why we've created a dream of hell and sheds light on how we can turn that dream into a dream of heaven.

Although I was not big on the slightly religious undertones in some of the chapters, I d
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Esmeralda Jimenez
Jan 13, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: spiritaul
The best spiritual book I have ever read. It teaches you how you can reach happiness and love, within yourself. Once you have mastered self-love and have healed from emotional wounds, happiness is achieved and this is vital for a healthy loving relantionship. This book will have a dramatic influence in 2010 for me, just what I needed. Can't wait to start reading the Four Agreements.

"Happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love. When you are aware that no one else ca
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paloma
May 11, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: best-books-2019
This book is everything.
Roy Khadra
I guess "Don Miguel Ruiz" is the best-known to represent the Toltec philosophy. The link that connects all his books together is based on the idea of considering Life as a collective dream that each person plays the main character in the scene, he is participating in. One's life is the story he is writing according to some images reflected by light reaching his position. This light phenomena is better known to us by "Conscience" or "Awareness". Conflicts occur when two different stories interfer ...more
Christie
Jan 23, 2009 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Ruiz's delivery irritates me just as much as Thomas Friedman of the World is Flat. Of course, I have been in the minority before, and I don't mind being in it again.

On the positive side, this book contains some healthy and true messages about how we love, and why we fail, and how so many of our actions and reactions are based on fear. There were some messages in this book that I needed to hear, but I could have removed a lot of fluff of the analogies and stories. They either just fel
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Kennia
Aug 07, 2015 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
What beautiful messages! Don Miguel Ruiz writes of the toltec teachings on love. The toltecs were known as men and woman of knowledge and for thousands of years they have passed down their knowledge. I can definitely see myself going back to this book and rereading any chapter. The reason I gave it 3 stars was because there was a lot of repetition and the writing was not the best BUT I will not let this stop you from reading this book. I'm going to read more of Don Miguel Ruiz in the future!
EN
Sep 06, 2017 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Sexist oversimplification with the occasional good point.
Kathryn
Jun 12, 2009 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
didn't "technically" finish it....it was too terrible...boring, lame, corny, and repetitive...highly unrecommend
Mehrsa
Oct 22, 2018 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Good wisdom here, but this is really not the kind of book I like. It feels so ethereal and hard to pin down. I guess I should have known based on the cover and the promise of the book. I just thought that perhaps there was more depth in here than I had assumed.
Mads P.
Good. One should definitely read the Four Agreements first, even though this repeats some of that. The basic message is that you can't love anyone else until you love yourself. Love comes from within, not without. I think most people know this, but don't really live it. One of his big points in both books is that most of what we see/think about life is an illusion. Everything exists in our perception, we don't see things as they really are, we see them how we're trained to see them. He asserts t ...more
Diana Cervantes
What a beautiful book. What a wonderful book. I can't even describe how amazing and how much this book changed me in just 4 hours. I can't put in words how relieved I felt while reading it. How satisfactory was to understand that somethings I thought were made out of the evil and desesperate side of me, where actually all in the name of love, but I couldn't see that because we are so blinded and afraid. We start accepting things that only make us hurt other people, because we can't see we are do ...more
Amy Lesher
Feb 03, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
If you are seeking to understand how & why relationships work out they way they do, this book is a gem. From it's all about you to it's not about you, these teachings will shift your understanding to a different level.

"A Toltec is an artist of Love,
an artist of the Spirit,
someone who is creating every moment,
every second, the most beautiful art--
the Art of Dreaming.

Life is nothing but a dream,
and if we are artists,
then we can create
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Brian Tucker
Apr 10, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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Maryam
Feb 05, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
"The teachings that come from India, from the Toltecs, the Christians, the Greeks - from
societies all over the world - come from the same truth. They talk about reclaiming your
Divinity and finding God within you. They talk about having your heart completely open and
becoming wise. Can you imagine what kind of world this would be if all humans opened their
hearts and found the love inside?"
Cheese
Sep 12, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Informative, inspiring and enjoyable.
Alaa Bit Hashim
Aug 20, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I can never be thankful enough to Nada for recommeding this book to me, this book is exactly what I have always needed to read, and the universe conspired to make me read it, exactly when I needed it the most. One of the books I read as part of my birthday celebrations, my "new year, new me" resolutions, part of my year of yes, year of let's do this right, and year of finding my true self. And in the pages of this book I was enlightened to knowing exactly how I abused my super power and my ultim ...more
Sandeep Bindal
Feb 09, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
After reading various reviews, I felt that people who gave low rating are grumbling because they are trying to interpret this book logically. If you have a tendency to do the same then you would probably not like this book. This book has statements like "You are perfect." "Everything around you is perfect" "Happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love." - which are impossible to explain using logic.

Miguel has touched a number of basic but important aspect
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Hal Elrod
Sep 30, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
One of my top 10 favorite books. I learned that "love" alone is never enough to sustain a happy relationship. We can fall in love with any living thing (such as a dog) if we spend enough time with it. Just because we love our dog doesn't mean we should carry on a romantic relationship with our dog.

What's most important is compatibility -- sharing the same values and views on major issues (money, sex, children, attitude, etc.)
Sara Jardim
Oct 11, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Although the book isn't a literary masterpiece, as it is poorly written and circular in content.. I would say it's a must read..

The content may actually change the way you face other, and your relationship with another... Romantic and not romantic relationships.

I take from this book several important concepts which I'll definitely share with others as I believe them to be precious.. And positively life changing!

Please read!
Yulia Yulchik
May 28, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
An awesome wisdom book about the power of self-love. Happiness can only come from within you and is the result of self-love. When you are aware that no one else can make you happy and that happiness is the result of your love, you can accomplish anything, anything becomes possible.
Wilhemina
Mar 28, 2013 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Not sure what he was trying to say...thoughts are not coherent. Not very well written. Definitely a waste of my time trying to read it!
Alejandro I Sanoja
There is a lot of research showing that one of the most important variables that determine the quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.

Yet, there is not a lot of formal education our there on how to build great relationships. No wonder there are a lot of people suffering.

Shortly after getting married, my amazing wife and I have decided to be intentional about building a great relationship and this book is a great tool to do so.

As humans, most of us don't come with the necess
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Flaminia
Feb 28, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: dub, non-fic, eh
I was never a fan of self-help books, nor was I ever a fan of the author, but I decided to give this a try anyways. Mostly because February is the month of love and I figured “why not” , most definitely because I couldn’t find the book I was actually eager to read.
I decided to dive into the book, head over toes, no looking back. I read through the first 2/3 on the first day. I couldn’t agree more with what the author says, and I still agree, but it is the way he puts his thoughts into words t
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The tools shared by don Miguel are based on common sense and shared with such simplicity, that the universal message underlying his teaching is recognized by many. don Miguel's message is simple, practical and when implemented, even incrementally, changes lives.

In the tradition of the Toltec, a Nagual guides an individual to personal freedom. Combining new insights with old wisdom, don Miguel has
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“You don't need to justify your love, you don't need to explain your love, you just need to practice your love. Practice creates the master.” 239 likes
“And what is the right woman, the right man? Someone who wants to go in the same direction as you do, someone who is compatible with your views and your values-- emotionally, physically, economically, spiritually.” 168 likes
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