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Sober Curious: The Blissful Sleep, Greater Focus, Limitless Presence, and Deep Connection Awaiting Us All on the Other Side of Alcohol

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Would life be better without alcohol?

It’s the nagging question more and more of us are finding harder to ignore, whether we have a “problem” with alcohol or not. After all, we yoga. We green juice. We meditate. We self-care. And yet, come the end of a long work day, the start of a weekend, an awkward social situation, we drink. One glass of wine turns into two turns into a
Hardcover, 240 pages
Published December 31st 2018 by HarperOne
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Alison S
Mar 20, 2019 rated it it was ok
2.5 stars rounded down. I read an article by this author in a Sunday supplement about giving up drinking, which inspired me to go teetotal myself and to buy this book. Although the book contains some good insights into why and how we use alcohol, and offers some handy hints for living without alcohol, the overall tone and the writing style grated so much that it was almost impossible for me to see past that. The author used to write "lifestyle" features for a magazine, so this perhaps partly ...more
Kris Patrick
Jan 09, 2019 rated it really liked it
With the all the references to Brene Brown, I kind of wished Brene Brown was writing it.
Jan 07, 2019 rated it really liked it

Ruby Warrington does a good job in this book of posing the ultimate question of “Would my life be better without alcohol?” This book is not necessarily a self-help book, and not for individuals already gripped by deep addiction to alcohol. Although, as Warrington states, those who have already entered a program may use this book as another tool to help continue a sober lifestyle. In my opinion sober curious is more for those who wish to not drink, out of the sheer choice of wanting to embrace a
Peter Galamaga
Feb 28, 2019 rated it did not like it
Several years ago I made some big changes in the areas of diet and exercise. The program I started with involved cutting out alcohol. After I was done with a program, I found that drinking had lost its appeal. I have always loved a good drink...or two. But now I simply don't feel good when I drink alcohol and it is no longer enjoyable for me. I've been curious about what may have happened physically and/or mentally during that long layoff.

The title of this book intrigued me and, after flipping
DL Indziniak
Jan 27, 2019 rated it did not like it
I read through this entire book rolling my eyes—some parts I found minimally enjoyable and other parts useful. I appreciate her encouraging folks to get curious about their experiences but came to the conclusion that you could find her advice in ANY OTHER self help book. What I couldn’t ignore was the classism, racism, and anti-sexwork(er) sentiment that ran undercurrent (meaning indirect, meaning covert) throughout this book. A ww saying “hey I know I’m a wealthy ww and that i struggle ...more
Amy C.
Jan 05, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book is a must read for anyone who drinks, even if alcohol isn't an issue in your life. Warrington offers fresh insights and questions into why we turn to alcohol in the first place, what role it plays in our lives and challenges us to get on board with the notion that we already have everything we need inside us and that alcohol actually doesn't give us the things we look for in it but in actuality, alcohol does the opposite. Instead of focusing on all the reasons we shouldn't be drinking ...more
Jan 09, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: health, self-help
7th book for 2019.

Sober Curious refers to people who are not alcoholics, for who taking an AA oath of lifelong abstinence would feel false, but who do want to explore the potential joys of living without alcohol for extended periods of time.

Warrington, a former journalist who has worked in both London and NYC, knows the alcohol fueled lifestyle, puts forward a good argument for the virtues of a Sober Curious lifestyle and offers many useful suggestions for how to navigate this choice.
Sep 22, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction
Thought-provoking and so useful. I've long sought a book about sobriety and the culture of drinking but most of the stuff I find is about rock-bottom alcoholism, which isn't really what I'm looking for. So, I was happy to discover this title. Lots of helpful jumping off points in this book. I didn't mind the spiritual chapters; I think it's a good thing that the author provided so many avenues for exploring sobriety and one's relationship to... well, oneself. Most importantly, having read this I ...more
Jan 13, 2019 rated it it was ok
A soccer mom's guide to alcohol issues. Some good insight for those not sick enough for AA, but really... "just order dessert instead!" and other surface-level suggestions make this one long Chatelaine article. If you want a good read regarding recovery for those that question AA, pick up the critic's favourite of 2018, The Recovering.
Jan 16, 2019 rated it it was amazing
A thoughtful critique of our collective obsession and individual relationships with booze through a spiritual lens. Warrington writes without judgment and speaks about alcohol not as the 'bad guy,' but as a prop we use to alter, obscure and numb our emotions. She offers solutions and resources of doing the hard work of sitting with these uncomfortable feelings instead and speaks to the joy and presence on the other side. Great read!
Oct 25, 2019 rated it liked it
I've been reading a lot of articles about the "sober curious," movement and thought I'd do a little dive into a book on it too. I listened to this one on audiobook and was excited to learn better habits for unwinding and more about Warrington's own journey to sobriety.

Warrington writes very honestly about her struggles with alcohol that lead her to the decision to cut it out of her life. She shares some of her favorite side effects from quitting booze, like better sleep, more energy, and deeper
Katie Topp
Apr 04, 2019 rated it it was ok
If you find yourself reading this book I think it's safe to say you want to/wish you/already do drink less and you're curious about this title. That's me. Someone who has realized that even casual drinking, that almost never results in getting sloppy or hangovers, just isn't fun anymore. And maybe never was.

For those reasons, the book starts out great and really jives with what I'm already thinking. I appreciate the realization that I am not the only person out there who thinks booze sucks. Who
Andee Marley
Jan 16, 2019 rated it really liked it
I love, like, admire and adore Ruby Warrington! I listened to Material Girl, Mystical World as an audiobook in my car, and it was honestly like I had a new best friend, chatting about Everything I love and think about. It was AMAZE!

Imagine my excitement when my new BFF published a book about being Sober Curious! OMG we are truly on the exact same LIFE PAGE!

Well, I liked it, alot. But just 4 stars. And that's my personal experience, just where I am right now.

I am about 13 weeks down the road of
Jan 29, 2019 rated it really liked it
My last book for #dryjanuary and I enjoyed her approach that drinking isn’t really black or white and taking extended breaks are ok. I enjoyed her segments on physical improvements/focus/sleep and how alcohol doesn’t really fit into your wellness goals or the fact that in today’s world we really can’t be “out of it”. Some of her chapters got a bit out there for me, but I don’t judge. This is her journey and what helped her and good for Ruby for putting herself out there and sharing her truth and ...more
Callie Sokoloski
Mar 23, 2019 rated it liked it
The ideas in this book are so fantastic, and as a sober curious person I really enjoyed reminding myself why I mostly choose to decline alcohol! Unfortunately the ideas were presented in a somewhat disorganized way, and with a lot of personal stories... which made the book a little tough to get through for me. It may work well + resonate with others!
Kelly Krucki
May 06, 2019 rated it really liked it
I found this book to be well written and helpful for anyone considering taking a break from drinking. I also liked that she acknowledged the privilege she has in addressing these issues.
Oct 08, 2019 rated it it was ok
Ah, well, what to say of this book?

If nothing else, it was validating to know that there are a whole host of people out there wondering what a completely alcohol-free existence might look like. Drinking is so embedded into the fabric of our lives that to leave it behind for any reason, save life-ruining addiction, seems almost a revolutionary act. Or at very least highly unconventional. Discovering that there are other sober curious folk out there has fed the fire to continue pondering, and
Stefan Dolan
Jan 25, 2020 rated it it was ok
The book started off stronger than it ended. Don't get me wrong, it has some good information and insights and it was a decent exploration of the subject, but it becomes long-winded. The author does make several salient points without coming across as demeaning, which I appreciate; and she helps you get curious about what you may gain versus what you think you may lose by giving up alcohol, which I think is an important consideration. The writing style, being relatively fragmented and pretty ...more
Lee Adams
Jan 17, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
There's nothing mind-blowing about this book but the reality, I think, is that there's nothing mind-blowing about realizing the benefits of skipping alcohol. I read this in conjunction with a month-long 'break' from the sauce to add to excitement of things. Warrington is real and funny and has some good points. I liked the author's subtle comparison of someone who might be a 'dry drunk' versus someone who is really 'sober curious'
Annette Steyn
Jan 10, 2020 rated it did not like it
As expected I was not convinced, converted or recruited in the slightest by this - an unpalatably idle self-help book. To be fair, however, I was reluctant and severely underwhelmed by the prospect of this book from the get-go.
Cara Meredith
Apr 14, 2019 rated it liked it
While it wasn’t the most well-written book (from a journalist, no less), I’ve ever read, it definitely makes me Sober Curious ...which is perhaps the whole point.
Eve Dangerfield
Jan 24, 2020 rated it liked it
I liked it. I find Ruby Warrington’s style of woo pretty endearing and I liked her tone and writing style. I liked the tips in here too. I want to make alcohol free unicorn shots.
Sep 07, 2019 rated it liked it
Definitely made me think about my relationship to alcohol, lots of good reasons and ideas about becoming sober. Not the best writing but an easy read.
Melissa Levesque
Jul 17, 2019 rated it did not like it
Read this book because I had seen several newspaper articles mentioning it and a "sober curious" movement. Great concept and I wholeheartedly agree with the sober curious idea; however, I thought the author's writing was smug, overreaching and only a step or two above awful. I'm all for people controlling their alcohol intake, but would not recommend this to anyone.
Oct 20, 2019 rated it did not like it
Shelves: health-lifestyle
This book actually made me want to drink! Such a disappointment. I picked it up feeling ‘curious’ about why giving up alcohol (something I’d cut down on over the last few years) could be beneficial. But despite the tag line this book was at times painful to read. I was hoping for some science, and pros and cons. Instead we have long rambling stories from the author about her history of black-out drinking binges and supposed friends who mocked or judged her when she went out with them and said ...more
Feb 10, 2019 rated it did not like it
Shelves: never-finished
Not what I was expecting or hoping. Thought there would be more of an emphasis on the detailed benefits of no booze. Relatively speaking, the authors seemed to previously drink way more than I do and so it seems like a no brainer that you’ll feeling better if you aren’t getting wasted several nights a week. Felt like the author just rambled on without enough focus or data. And again, I couldn’t really relate to where she was coming from. Maybe a very helpful book for people who are heavy ...more
Amanda Sexton
Aug 10, 2019 rated it liked it
Eh I’ll give it 3 stars cause I think any book that helps shed light on alcohol and may help others on their journey is worth giving stars to. This would be a greater starter book for those questioning their alcohol consumption or wanting to try sobriety. However, my go to books and recommendations are This Naked Mind, Alcohol Explained, and Alcohol Lied to Me.
Jul 21, 2019 rated it liked it
Well, I actually really enjoyed this book, and I found it a helpful glimpse into the sober/sober curious world that I’ve been contemplating for a while now. In that sense, I would give it 4 stars for the insight and advice.

However, I had to skip over a lot of the talk of “spiritual vibrations” that Ruby admits might be too “woo-woo” for some of her readers. Perhaps I should have done more research into the author of the book before I picked it up, but I was so drawn to the idea/title that I
Ann T
Aug 12, 2019 rated it really liked it
I picked up this book after hearing a podcast with Ruby as a guest speaker and was interested and intrigued in what she had to say.

I earmarked a couple authors that she mentioned regularly throughout the book, who are also part of my TBR list.

I mostly really liked this book. Ruby has some really interesting thoughts and questions for everyone to ask about their use of alcohol and the intention that comes from. I really really liked the premise of ‘sober curiosity’ its compassionate, shameless,
Jan 22, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2020
Found this thought-provoking, and the chatty style made for a quick read.

This is writing aimed especially at those of us who would regard ourselves as ‘regular’ rather than binge / problem drinkers. To question why we drink & consider alcohol as a treat when, as Ruby sees it, it is a poison that acts as a depressant, affects sleep, raises anxiety and ... ... ...

She talks of the ‘Now Age’ of a growing awareness of people wanting to make a positive contribution to our fragile world. Of a
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Ruby Warrington is a lifestyle writer and former features editor of the UK's Sunday Times Style supplement. In 2013, she created The Numinous, an online magazine that bridges the gap between the mystical and the mainstream. She is also cofounder of Moon Club, an online mentoring program for spiritual activists, and "sober curious" event series Club SODA NYC. She now lives in New York City with her ...more
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