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Signs In The Rearview Mirror: Leaving a Toxic Relationship Behind

4.65  ·  Rating details ·  23 ratings  ·  17 reviews
What kind of person ends up in a toxic relationship? And why does she stay? This searingly honest novel answers both those questions head-on. Coming out of a failing marriage, Kelly turns to Gabe out of fear of being alone. Her gradual slide into danger is at once terrifying and inevitable, and the steps she takes to get out of it will both inspire and offer hope.
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Published April 3rd 2018
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Aug 22, 2018 rated it really liked it
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This was a raw and real look into toxic relationships... what I truly appreciated about this book was that the victim of abuse in this book was a strong smart woman... abuse does not discriminate and unfortunately I think a lot of times the victims are portrayed as frail weak women... how many times have you heard “why doesn’t she just leave“ or “I’ve never let anybody treat me that way.“ well, as somebody who has been in an extremely toxic relationship with a narcissistic abusive man I can tel ...more
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4☆ A Thought Provoking, Raw and Poignant Read

Signs in the Rearview Mirror: Leaving A Toxic Relationship Behind is a powerfully honest and emotional look into an abusive relationship and breaking free.

Dating someone is always a scary yet exciting time. We can only go on first impressions as we get to know each other.
But what happens when things change. The person who you thought you knew turned out to be abusive.
Could you walk away?
It's easy for people to judge but until you have been in that si
Aug 24, 2018 rated it really liked it
This is a book for anyone who has weathered the storm of a toxic relationship or even if you haven’t it’s a decent insight into what happens and how the victim slides into various forms of self abuse in the hope of becoming somebody else to please the abuser.

Kelly has opened up and laid her life bare in Signs in the Rearview Mirror she is now your average American but at the start of the book she is in a relationship which leads to a pregnancy at age seventeen. For both of them it wasn’t the way
Apr 22, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This was a great open honest book about overt Narcissism. I think it will still help people that are dealing with covert narcissism because the end result is the same but there are a lot of differences between overt and covert narcissism. But all in all I applaud her for her bravery and being so open about some of the things that we don’t like to admit to ourselves when we are in this type of situation
Christie Page
Apr 16, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I started this book with the intent to read a few chapters before a meeting and pick it back up again later. I ended up reading the book cover to cover, right through my meeting. This book was inspired, insightful and introspective. I began reading the familiar signs of a toxic relationship and was pleasantly surprised to find that this was not a book about assigning blame or finger-pointing but a poignant look into how easy it is to fall victim under the expert manipulation of those who prey. T ...more
Amanda Nguyen
Oct 23, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book is a page-turner for sure. I am so proud of the author for putting her experiences of a toxic relationship in a book for others to have hope.
Ibjoy1953 Hannabass
Aug 04, 2020 rated it really liked it

Kelly Smith does amazing work in writing this book. I admire her for her honesty and vulnerability as she tells her story. She digs very deep into her life and the toxic relationship she was in. Starting with the steps of how she became involved in this relationship, not even realizing what she is doing.

I have never been in an abusive relationship so I can not relate to Kelly and what she went through. Sometimes I don’t understand why women don’t just leave, and I unders
Jennifer Gilmour
Aug 27, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book is an important read for many, it has the power to create change. I always find it courageous of an author to put their story out there and Kelly has done just that. Its not an easy read at times but it is a fast paced book that leads you on from one incident to another. I felt that I was reading the book as it was spilling out of Kelly’s mind and onto the pages at times, skipping into what was yet to come when we were at the early stages of the relationship. This made it an interestin ...more
Jewel Hart
Apr 23, 2018 rated it it was amazing
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Aug 27, 2018 rated it really liked it
This is the story of Kelly Smith. It’s an autobiographical account of her experiences in an abusive relationship, but it is also in a way an attempt to apologise for her own failings in her relationships.

It is incredibly hard to admit to your own mistakes or wrong paths taken in your life. Smith does so to a certain extent, but there is either an attempt to shield or a refusal to dive too deeply. I can understand both of those reasons. It’s hard enough to share your mistakes with the world witho
Caroline Venables
Aug 25, 2018 rated it really liked it
This book broaches the subject of toxic partnerships, and does so successfully.  This is a true account of a relationship the author, Kelly Smith was part of.  She wrote the book to share her experiences with others so that they might recognise the signs of an unhealthy pairing.
Kelly discusses frankly the decline of the relationship, and why she made the decisions she did. It can be hard for outsiders to understand why someone would stay with a partner like Gabe.  They say ‘oh just leave’, it re
Jun 09, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Signs in the Rearview Mirror is an eye-opening book. It tackles the tough subject of abusive relationships, and it showcases the reasoning the author had for sticking it out for as long as she did. Why do people stay in toxic relationships? Fear. Loneliness. What they think is love. Hope for change. There are a myriad of reasons, and while others may think it's easy to just leave and stop using those reasons as excuses, it's honestly not. As someone who was in a toxic, abusive relationship for a ...more
The message in this book was extremely important, and I love how Kelly Smith wrote this book. She incorporated tips and advice into a narrative, which made it easier for me personally to read.

I really liked how she included the ways her family and friends felt and reacted to the relationship she had with Gabe. I think this added a bit more of a rare red flag for toxic relationships. It also helped show just how much damage a toxic relationship can do.

I also loved that she was a strong woman who
Jun 25, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Signs in the Rearview Mirror: Leaving a Toxic Relationship Behind by Kelly Smith was a touching audio book that anyone in a toxic relationship should take the time to listen to or read as it might just help them get away and improve their lives. This was not one of those step by step self help books written by some ghost writer, but instead a useful book written by a woman who has been there herself and managed to get out and not lose hope for future relationships.

Tabitha (Tabi Thoughts)
May 30, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Signs In The Rearview Mirror is an enlightening, courageous, and powerful book detailing Kelly Smith’s personal experience with a toxic relationship. Though the book largely focuses on Smith’s romantic relationship, it also touches on her impaired relationship with her mother and how that relationship affected her into adulthood.

Signs In The Rearview Mirror paints a clear picture as to how a toxic relationship begins and ends. Through Kelly’s experience, we are able to become more aware of the r
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Signs In The Rear View Mirror is written with courage, strength and honesty. Kelly's story is one people the world over are experiencing and more often than not in silence.
*Domestic abuse effects 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men. On average 2 women are being murdered a week and 30 men per year due to Domestic violence.
We need more people like Kelly to tell their story, to make people living in fear aware they are not alone and to give them the courage to do something about it.
Kelly's story is brut ...more
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