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Motherhood Missed: Stories from Women Who Are Childless By Circumstance

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Many women expect to become mothers but are childless through social rather than biological reasons - perhaps they haven't met the right person or they prioritised career or education earlier in life. Featuring international interviews by grief counsellor and researcher Lois Tonkin, this collection of first-person stories provides insight into the under-discussed situation ...more
Paperback, 224 pages
Published September 21st 2018 by Jessica Kingsley Publishers
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Trish Knight
Oct 31, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I read this book from cover to cover, in one day.
I couldn’t put it down!
I was so moved by these women’s stories.
I am a mother, but I know many women who are childless, but not by choice., And now I feel like I understand the experience much better, and have more idea about what to say to someone in this situation.
This is a beautifully written book about a very important topic.
Nov 03, 2018 rated it it was amazing
For quite some time, I had been looking for a book like this. I wanted something that I could relate to. I wanted my own feelings of loss over being childless to be validated and understood. More than anything, I wanted to feel like I wasn't alone in those feelings or feel as if I should not be feeling the way that I do. This book was a great comfort to me and helped me to understand myself better.

It is very difficult to find literature for those childless by circumstance. It also seems as if w
Aug 21, 2018 rated it really liked it
This book couldn’t have come at a better time. Since my divorce, I’ve been struggling with grief over opportunities lost. I’ve most often berated myself over missing my chance to be a mother. While I was in a relationship, I had come to terms with not having children, but a change in circumstance changed my feelings.

This book validated those feelings. The numerous stories of other women who have also remained childless by circumstance have helped me to feel like it is okay to experience these f
Ann T
Nov 25, 2018 rated it really liked it
Thank you Jessica Kingsley Publishers and Netgalley for an ARC of this book.

This book shares honest, raw stories from females (mainly from NZ and Australia) who have missed the opportunity to become a mother. Their circumstances differ, their lives differ but the honesty and emotion throughout this book is shared.

An important subject which is so painful for those going through it. I hope that books like this will become more normalised in our society to help those who need to, understand the pai
May 05, 2018 rated it liked it
The different thoughts and feelings were interesting. Good premise.

Thanks to author, publisher and NetGalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating i gave it.
May 25, 2018 rated it liked it
As my 42nd birthday quickly approaches it's pretty clear that children are not in my future so it was nice to discover this book about other women who are "childless by circumstance". I never made the decision not to have kids; I just haven't met a man and married. And I've never wanted to have a child alone. And childlessness by circumstance is something that really isn't discussed much in our society. Infertility and Child-Free By Choice is discussed much more often.
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Dec 31, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Finally, finally, finally, someone besides me has written about the many complex ways of being childless “by circumstance,” including being childless by marriage. Tonkin is not childless herself, but she gets it. In this book, after a brilliant overview of the situation, she offers the stories of women in their 30s, 40s, and 50s who for one reason or another do not have children. We have women partnered with men who already have children and don’t want more, women who had abortions when they wer ...more
Rachel B
Nov 04, 2019 rated it it was ok
I was really excited to find this book, since the topic is not one that's talked about openly very often, but I was disappointed after reading it.

There are stories from 32 women between the ages of 33 and 57. While the author talked about excluding stories from women who have experienced childlessness due to medical causes (infertility) she does include many stories of women who've had miscarriages. Personally, I put the two in the same camp. A lot of the women have also had abortions. Therefore
Nov 23, 2018 rated it really liked it
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Stories from women that are childless and their thoughts on it. Interesting to read their take on this subject. Some prefer to not have children of their own, some want children badly and cannot have them. :I commend these women for allowing their thoughts and feelings to be published. I am sure this book will help a lot of women, Men may benefit from it also, as it may give them insight on what the woman may be going through. Thanks to NetGalley, the author and the publisher for the ARC of this ...more
Oct 13, 2018 rated it it was amazing
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Wow! A heartfelt read for me! A truly moving collection of those that are Childless by Circumstance I highly recommend it.
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Cristie Underwood
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Thank you to the author for writing this book. My husband and I have been unable to have children and it has been devastating watching others get pregnant easily. Reading this book let me know that I am not alone.
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Well researched and informative, the author brings a neglected aspect of modern women's life. Choices, that past generations did not make.
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