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How to speak and listen more effectively--to communicate mindfully and improve all relationships--based on the author's unique synthesis of mindfulness practice combined with the principles of nonviolent communication.
Communication is hard. Here's a proven method that makes it not only considerably easier, but also much more effective for people on both sides of the conver ...more
Communication is hard. Here's a proven method that makes it not only considerably easier, but also much more effective for people on both sides of the conver ...more
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What we say matters. This book came at a great time for me and was a powerful read of helpful advice based on the mindfulness practice, to have more positive communication. Words can heal, sooth or uplift us and they can also cause great harm.
Mindfulness is being aware of what is happening in the present moment in a balanced and non-reactive way. In order to connect mindfulness to your daily communication Sofer recommendations following these three basic guidelines...
1. Lead with presence.
2. Co ...more
Mindfulness is being aware of what is happening in the present moment in a balanced and non-reactive way. In order to connect mindfulness to your daily communication Sofer recommendations following these three basic guidelines...
1. Lead with presence.
2. Co ...more
This brilliant book opens with a perfect analogy: “Communicating is a bit like learning an instrument. Playing scales is essential, but the aim is to make music.” I smiled and entered the book with an eagerness that’s often lacking when I read other books that prescribe a rigid list of rules and “shall nots.” Sofer encourages readers to use this book as a field guide, to try the suggestions and see how they work, and to start small, in low-stakes situations. Fluent, open communication develops w
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A couple of years ago I was at a retreat which included a workshop on nonviolent communication (NVC). It started with a video in which a crazy man called Marshall Rosenberg got people to wear giraffe ears and talk to each other using hand puppets. The guy running the workshop then handed everyone a list of feelings, and got us to think about how we could've resolved a past conflict by talking about our unmet needs. This was such an insane experience that I couldn't help but suspect the guy was h
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"Say What You Mean" is an excellent resource for anyone interested in learning how to authentically connect and communicate with ease and clarity.
I loved it! I have dog-eared many pages and underlined numerous sections. There are also 12 free guided audio meditations that I use to support my daily practice. It is a book that I will go back to again and again.
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This is a powerful, yet practical book that combines the practice of mindfulness with the methodologies of nonviolent communication as taught by Marshall Rosenberg, along with Somatic Experiencing as taught by Peter Levine. Each of these is effective and powerful and it’s own right, but this author weaves them together to for. Something new and transformative. He breaks the process down into three steps:
1. Lead with presence.
2. Come from curiosity and care.
3. Focus on what matters.
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1. Lead with presence.
2. Come from curiosity and care.
3. Focus on what matters.
Each section ...more
“Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication” by Oren Jay Sofer is a book I’ve long needed to read, as my hubby says I can “never land the plane” when I’m speaking to him! I’m so glad I found this incredibly helpful guide for improved connection through better communications with others!
I learned to speak and listen more effectively based on the author's unique approach that mixes mindfulness practices with the principles of nonviolent communication, a popular modality sinc ...more
I learned to speak and listen more effectively based on the author's unique approach that mixes mindfulness practices with the principles of nonviolent communication, a popular modality sinc ...more
Communication can be hard, but luckily it’s a skill that anyone can learn. It comes down to cultivating presence, consciously choosing when to speak, learning how to listen deeply, and paying attention to our needs and emotions. When we have the sincere intention to connect, we can practice the steps that lead to truly fulfilling and productive conversations.
A surprising disappointment, boring didactic style.
A book filled with useful strategies to help reframe your communication with others and the dialogue you create within.
The topic of communication fascinates me. Whether between two people in an intimate one-on-one conversation or between a professional speaker and her audience, effective communication is both a skill that can be learned and an art that can be mastered. So when I was asked to review the new book, Say What You Mean, by Oren Jay Sofer, I jumped at the opportunity.
And. Wow.
Say What You Mean, by Oren Jay Sofer, captured my attention on the first page and kept hold until the final page.
Before digging ...more
And. Wow.
Say What You Mean, by Oren Jay Sofer, captured my attention on the first page and kept hold until the final page.
Before digging ...more
This was a book also recommended to me by a therapist and it’s the single most helpful thing I’ve read this year. While I read it for personal relationships, it also helped me strengthen my communication at work.
Hmm. This is another book I really wanted to like but didn't. I am a big fan of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication ("NVC") Framework. I honestly think it can change the practice of law, and that's why I am a devotee of it - I think it can make cross-examinations more humane, client meetings more empathetic, and defuse some of the tension of certain contentious areas of the field (which lawyers often have an unnerving tendency to amplify when they are uniquely positioned as potenti
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I had expected a more informational guide on the art of conversing, yet this book gives the same tips that I hear from YouTube; listen deeply, be present and 'mindful'. Perhaps the most useful tip it gave was that communicating is like swimming; you need to practise for it to come smoothly.
To summarise, I guess I shall just go out into the world and talk to a lot of people. ...more
To summarise, I guess I shall just go out into the world and talk to a lot of people. ...more
A lot of rich information. I will definitely reference this book for years to come.
What a joy it has been to explore and read this book. I'm a therapist who works with families and am constantly thinking about and working on my own ability to communicate. No other book I've read has helped me with this as much as this book has. He breaks down the basics and supports you with concrete practices you can easily do as well as guided meditations that help you deepen into understanding your own habits around communication. I plan on keeping this book on my shelf so the next time som
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Best book on communication I’ve ever read. Oren’s holistic and mindfulness-based approach not only provides guiding principles, but practical examples and concrete tools. Lead with presence, come from curiosity and care, focus on what matters. Really valuable advice for anybody, but especially useful for leaders and managers.
Practical advice on how to improve communication based on the author's Buddhist teachings. Good everyday examples and Q&As throughout the book.
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Three and a half
* be active part of the conversation
* care about the topic sincerely
* your questions should lead to where you want to arrive
* care about the topic sincerely
* your questions should lead to where you want to arrive
Vital reading. Everyone would benefit from the knowledge within this book.
When I read that this book applied mindful practice to communication skills I was worried that it would a metaphysical junk. I was wrong. This books takes a very practical approach to mindfulness with some common sense approach to improving communications. The book is filled with practices and examples that I use daily.
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I can’t recommend this book highly enough. It’s so much more than the superficial techniques described in most communication books; I have a sense that what I’ve learned is truly significant in a life-altering and relationship-changing way. As both a physician and a warden (RD) of a university residence hall, communication is central to everything I do and I have read many texts, exploring communication, feedback, and conversation from varied perspectives. This is the best. I will re- ...more
I can’t recommend this book highly enough. It’s so much more than the superficial techniques described in most communication books; I have a sense that what I’ve learned is truly significant in a life-altering and relationship-changing way. As both a physician and a warden (RD) of a university residence hall, communication is central to everything I do and I have read many texts, exploring communication, feedback, and conversation from varied perspectives. This is the best. I will re- ...more
I really enjoyed this book. My background has mostly been in mindfulness and until now I didn't know much about different communication strategies. I thought this book was going to be just mindful communication but it also integrates a school of thought called Non-Violent Communication, a system created by Marshall Rosenberg.
The book is a good mix of stories, theory, and practices to try out at home. It felt like I took a class with Oren while reading the book. One of my main takeaways has been ...more
The book is a good mix of stories, theory, and practices to try out at home. It felt like I took a class with Oren while reading the book. One of my main takeaways has been ...more
One of the best and most influential books I have ever read. I just finished and am going right back to page one to read it again.
This book is so perfectly well thought out and laid out; everything is explained in SUCH a clear manner. This is the type of book so chock full of insights and teachings that even if after applying even one tiny change or idea from the book, you will notice a difference in your conversations. It has the potential to have such an incredible impact in your life.
I just ...more
This book is so perfectly well thought out and laid out; everything is explained in SUCH a clear manner. This is the type of book so chock full of insights and teachings that even if after applying even one tiny change or idea from the book, you will notice a difference in your conversations. It has the potential to have such an incredible impact in your life.
I just ...more
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Probably the best book on communication I’ve read. Oren takes us through the tools we need to mindfully communicate. Throughout the book there are practical exercises and meditations to help reinforce the principles discussed.
A must read.
A must read.
I found many of the ideas appealing. However, for a book that's supposed to be about clarity in communication, he sure doesn't say things clearly and succinctly.
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I recommended this to my coworkers it puts NVC into a useable format.
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Here is a brief summary of Say What You Mean by Oren Sofer.
We spend so much of our lives talking to each other, but how much are we simply running on automatic—relying on old habits and hoping for the best? Are we able to truly hear others and speak our mind in a clear and kind way, without needing to get defensive or go on the attack? In this groundbreaking synthesis of mindfulness, somatics, and Nonviolent Communication, Oren Ja ...more
Here is a brief summary of Say What You Mean by Oren Sofer.
We spend so much of our lives talking to each other, but how much are we simply running on automatic—relying on old habits and hoping for the best? Are we able to truly hear others and speak our mind in a clear and kind way, without needing to get defensive or go on the attack? In this groundbreaking synthesis of mindfulness, somatics, and Nonviolent Communication, Oren Ja ...more
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