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How to Be Successful without Hurting Men's Feelings: Non-threatening Leadership Strategies for Women

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The unspoken rules for how women should behave in the workplace are as numerous as they are confusing.

Ask for a pay rise? Pushy.
Take credit for an idea? Arrogant.
Admit a mistake? Weak.
Successfully juggle work and family? Unpromotable.

In How to Be Successful Without Hurting Men's Feelings, Sarah Cooper, author of the bestselling 100 Tricks to Appear Smart in Meetings, illu
Paperback, 216 pages
Published October 30th 2018 by Andrews McMeel Publishing (first published September 6th 2018)
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Carol (Bookaria)
Jul 19, 2018 rated it really liked it
This book in two words: hilarious and relevant.

A guide to help women navigate difficult workplace situations. It is marketed as a humorous book (and in fact is very funny) but is also an accurate portrayal of many issues women still face today on their professional lives.

Some of the chapters titles are "COMMUNICATION: How to talk like a man but still be seen as a woman", "AMBITION: How to advance your career without shoving it in everyone's face", and "NEGOTIATION: gaslightning for beginners".

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Fun fact: the ink for this book was made from male tears.

I applied for this book on a whim because I think breaking the glass ceiling is still a challenge that many professional and professional-aspiring women face in the workplace, particularly in the fields of science and tech. And yes, I realize that some workplaces are the exceptions. Some do an exceptional job incorporating diversity and acceptance into their corporate culture and m
[Shai] Bibliophage
Feb 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Dear author and publisher, why do you come up with this book only now?! Ten years ago, a friend who recruited me to their company told me that the reason I was not hired because the supervisor who conducted the interview was threatened by my skills. Several years after that, I had a job interview in the I.T. department of a huge local T.V. station here in the country. I had no problems with my series of interview with the human resources head, but when I was interviewed by two supervisors from t ...more
Jun 19, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: humor, cartoons, work
When I first got into the work world, the book we were all supposed to read was "Games your mother never taught you." Very good book. I would like to say it is a little dated, but some of those things still go on, and women have to adjust to them, unfortunately.

If you have every worked in a corporate office, and if you are a woman, you have run across the things that are being made fun of in this book. I worked in corporate offices for 10 years, in the 1990s. From the looks of this book, things
Nov 18, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: arc, wellness, humor
When I first started reading this book, it annoyed me. Yeah, yeah, okay: Better not wear this hairstyle because men find it threatening! And better not talk too loudly because men find that threatening, too! Etc., etc. It was all stuff I'd heard a million times before. Boring.

But as I kept reading, it really started to dawn on me that I do a lot of the "passive female" mannerisms shown in the book. That overly-fake-excited tone in emails? Yep, I do that. Letting men (and sometimes women) talk ov
Nov 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
I ended up buying this on Thursday and was happy when it arrived Saturday. After a long road trip back from the southern part of VA, I was happy to be back in my house and reading something funny.

I had seen a post about this book on Ask A Manager, and loved the images that were shown.

Later on a friend and I going into work looked it up and were dying about some of the the things that Cooper gets into, but then of course we also got mad and then sad, because though this is humor, it still stings.
Dec 30, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read-2018
I love funny/sarcastic books and this one was funny from the very first page.
Jan 19, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: discovered-irl
The art and layout are really appealing and the humor is spot on. It made me LOL on the bus home.
Oct 15, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Occasionally depressing how many examples were very close to real things I have seen and/or done myself. But also amusing.
Sep 14, 2018 rated it it was amazing
"Because you know what's more precious than my hopes and dreams? A man's ego.

A man's ego must be protected at all cost."

How to Be Successful without Hurting Men's Feelings: Non-threatening Leadership Strategies for Women is really, really good.

It's one of those books that is so successful because not only is it genuinely funny (with wonderful visual aids and illustrations to boot) but it's all so painfully true, and timely.

Within the pages of this book, you will find helpful tips for
Jun 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fic-ref, f, net-g
Hilarious, yet painfully accurate commentary on how to succeed with hurting men's feelings or damaging their ego. A must read for everyone.
*eARC Netgalley*
Oct 16, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: netgalley, read-in-18
What's the worst part of being a woman in business?

We asked these three men what they think.


Just based on the title, you know you're going to laugh until you cry. And you're going to laugh because you want to cry. And maybe you're just going to cry.

This book is very funny, but also very real, which makes it...not funny. You see the conundrum here, yes?

Irony runs rampant throughout, and I think the best part is the fact that maybe, just maybe, you can find
Wendy Bunnell
Dec 19, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
It's short, and you definitely need to see the illustrations. Not sure if audio is even available. but you need pictures for this one.

And it's funny. Because it's true. Holy hand grenades, I wish I'd read this 25 years ago when I was starting my career as a lawyer. But then, I really wish it wasn't true and I wouldn't have spent a quarter of a century being underpaid and mansplained to, but, here we are.

I'm definitely donning a fake mustache next time I have to give a presentation so there's a c
Zheen Khalil Kamala
Mar 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
At the end of the day, it’s up to you to decide how you’d want to be perceived by men and how you wouldn’t care anyways.
Pooja Bhoi
Sep 09, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: graphic-manga
Absolutely loved this. Thank you to the author for coming up with such ideas!
Mar 28, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Highly recommend. Frustratingly hilarious and real.

"So how do you be successful without hurting men's feelings? You don't. You be successful whether men's feelings are hurt or not, because really that's up to them, not you. [...] More rules on how we should change in order to better deal with their issues ain't gonna help us, honey. What will help us is more of us. A lot more of us. Everywhere. So get out there! And be as threatening or as non-threatening as you want."
Yukari Watanabe
Feb 02, 2021 rated it it was amazing
I enjoyed the audiobook version of this book very, very much! It's funny but also encouraging. BTW, my husband belongs to the 3rd category men. He laughed when I told him the title of the book. ...more
David Wineberg
Sep 11, 2018 rated it it was amazing
After the razor-sharp 100 Tricks to Appear Smart in Meetings, I wondered if Sarah Cooper could do it again. She did. How To Be Successful Without Hurting Men’s Feelings is a sendup of two sexes working together, sparing no feelings and cutting to the bone. It is uproariously funny and deeply painful. It is painful to those who will see themselves, possibly for the first time, for who they really are. It is funny because working relationships are so distorted, you couldn’t just make this stuff up ...more
Reading this book made me realize how happy I am in my industry. Libraries tend to be female-heavy workplaces. My first job out of college, though, I was the only woman in a computer building business. I always wondered if I was the “diversity hire,” but don’t recall anyone ever hassling me outright. Now that I’m older, I can look back and recognize how paternal (and slightly condescending) all those guys were to little ol’ me. One mustn’t forget, however, that the shoe can always be on the othe ...more
Sep 01, 2018 rated it it was ok
I know I should laugh and find the irony of the book funny. I do, but I cannot enjoy it. I understand that the book is filled with irony and should be lived on the complete opposite, but I am a little offended of the book. Working woman have fought hard to be where they are now, and to make fun of uncomfortable situations is not the way to go. I work in a male dominated tech industry, and yes some of the pages spoke to me, but they also spoke to negative of my male coworkers. This book play on s ...more
Nov 27, 2018 rated it really liked it
Who said feminists don't have a sense of humor? Hilarious and too true. ...more
Neil R. Coulter
Dec 21, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
Sarah Cooper's goal was "[t]o write a book that was hopefully funny but could also make people want to throw it across the room" (208). She achieved much more of the first part than the second part. Like her previous book, 100 Tricks to Appear Smart in Meetings, the humor here is perfect: perceptive, biting, and dry. Also, and despite its title, this book features a lot of content that is just basic office humor, able to be appreciated by any reader, regardless of gender. Some of the attitudes a ...more
Jul 12, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Sarah Cooper is the hilarious comic that shot to fame through her Trump parodies. She has written a ridiculously funny book that is ironically an accurate representation of what women have to do to succeed in a male dominated world. She worked as a UX designer on Google Docs and it appears much of the material is inspired by her experiences in the tech world. It’s no secret that successful women are criticized as being “intimidating”, “stubborn”, “aggressive” while the same behaviour is praisewo ...more
Sher❤ The Fabulous BookLover
I didn’t realize this was supposed to be more on the humorous side so you can imagine my surprise when I read some of the things in this book. I must say it was pretty funny and kinda sad that some of it was true. It’s a super quick, comic like read. So if you’re actually looking for a book with substance this isn’t it, but it’ll make you laugh for sure.
Jan 15, 2019 rated it really liked it
"To write a book that was hopefully funny but could also make people want to throw it across the room..." Yes I felt this way while I was reading the book. Not sure how to rate this book, it's funny and sarcastic but many problems mentioned are true in reality. ...more
Erica Larson
Nov 01, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I just binge read this and it is sadly fantastic or perhaps hilariously sad because it is so spot on with the satire. I laughed my way into hyperventilation up until Chapter 8: How To Be Harassed Without Hurting His Career. The following chapter was also a bit painful regarding likability versus success and I found myself yearning for the bottle of Rose I have downstairs. But then it was all five stars uphill from there by making me cackle far too loudly to be perceived as non-threatening. Ladie ...more
Apr 10, 2019 rated it really liked it
“It’s all about finding that perfect balance that doesn’t exist.”
Cry-laughing because it’s too real.
Nov 27, 2018 rated it really liked it
Very, very funny satirical "guide" to succeeding in a male-dominated world. And kind of depressing in its hilarity and accuracy. ...more
Jan 24, 2020 rated it really liked it
Fun and witty take on how life is a losing game, if you’re a woman. This book would make a great gift/coffee table book for the men in your life.
Jane Chu
Nov 01, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Hilarious book with great images to match. I plan to buy for all my female working friends as gifts.
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Sarah Cooper is a writer, comedian, speaker and author of the bestselling book, 100 Tricks to Appear Smart in Meetings. She built her comedy career in between working as a user experience designer for companies like Yahoo! and Google, where she was fed free lunches and lots of material. She is the creator of satirical blog, which has been viewed by millions around the world and ...more

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