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Not the Girls You're Looking For

3.36  ·  Rating details ·  679 ratings  ·  199 reviews
Not the Girls You're Looking For is debut author Aminah Mae Safi's honest and smart audiobook about how easy it can be to hurt those around you even if —especially if—you love them.

Lulu Saad doesn't need your advice, thank you very much. She's got her three best friends and nothing can stop her from conquering the known world. Sure, for half a minute she thought she’d near
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Published June 19th 2018 by Macmillan Young Listeners
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Aminah Safi As of right now, yes it is! I’m always never say never about what future projects will hold, but this book was written to be read as a standalone!
Aminah Safi Yup, she is! She is fasting for Ramadan during much of the story. Her father is also Muslim. Her mother is not Muslim. Hope this helps!
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may ❀
full rant posted

this book was supposed to make me feel represented and instead it gave me a migraine

you know what the saddest thing about this is that I want to support authors of colour, I want to read their books and squeal over them and recommend these books to my friends and family and be like WOW this book was written for me

but that’s rarely happens :) like :) ever :)

so here we are again

DISCLAIMER DISCLAIMER, before y’all @ and subtweet me, im aware that everyone has their own views and
Aimee ♥ | Aimee, Always
Not the Girls You're Looking For wasn't what I expected it would be--but that's definitely not a bad thing! It's just that I expected a light, fun read based on the way the synopsis was written, but this book was brutal. It was a tad dark, but it was just so truthful and hit me right in the feels.

I'll admit, the start was a tad slow, and I was iffy about the girl-on-girl hate, but I came to love this book so much, and I definitely want more! Generally, here's what you will LOVE about this book (
Fadwa (Word Wonders)
I received a review copy in exchange of an honest review

Full review originally posted on my blog: Word Wonders

CW: Dubious consent, sexual assault, racism, underage drinking, drug use, slut shaming, ableist language.

I’ve been absolutely dying to read this book for the longest time so when I saw that Aimee over at Aimee, Always was organising the blog tour, I jumped on the occasion and joined the fun. I read the book as soon as I got it and ended up enjoying it despite a few qualms I had with
Jodi Meadows
Official comments: NOT THE GIRLS YOU'RE LOOKING FOR is an intense, emotional debut about finding one's place in the world and throwing off labels applied by other people. These are girls with teeth, claws, and hundreds of razor-sharp edges that protect their vulnerable hearts.
alexandra ling
i'm so in love with these messy friendships and angry girls!!!! *sobs* it took a while to get into it, but once i got the swing of things i didn't want to stop. there isn't much of a plot, but i think that's part of why i enjoyed it more. it reminded me what it feels like to be ~peak teen~ when friends argue, love-hate family thrives, and you're filled with SO MANY EMOTIONS. lulu is so loud and angry and it's so so wonderful!!!!!

diverse rep: arab, muslim, bisexual, lesbian, latina, and so much m
Aimal (Bookshelves & Paperbacks)
DNF at 48%

I really wanted to like this, but I just couldn’t get into it so instead of taking another 10 days to trudge through the second half, I’m just going to DNF.

Not the Girls You’re Looking For has a lot going for it. It centers a biracial Arab-American Muslim teenager during the month of Ramadan. She is fasting throughout the book, and you get to see her home-life, school-life and personal struggles revolve around a month that is so vital to Muslims everywhere but is often glossed over in
Apr 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: own-physical-arc
Loved this! Review to come soon!
chloe ♡
my read for the third reading rush prompt - read a book you meant to read last year ; this one started out a bit slow for me, but i loved the last few chapters!
Cori Reed
Oct 03, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
3.5 Stars!

Lara Kareem
May 17, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Not the Type of Girls You're Looking for is that book that is going to creep up on you, that you won't expect to like but at the end, you'll end up loving it so bad, the story stays with you forever. This story is hell-bent on kicking stereotypes to hell, and judgemental asses to the curb.

The story starts off slow and then you're going to be like wth? Are these characters, these girls alright... These girls are messy and I was constantly thinking wtf is going on, but as the story, progressed so
Katy Upperman
Sep 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: young-adult
1. aMaZiNg characterizations. I’ve been searching for one perfect adjective to describe Lulu and her girl friends and… I don’t think there is one? They’re fierce yet vulnerable, confident yet afraid, always exuberant, and so very real. There are some A+ parents plus a pretty great boy, too. ❤
2. Enviable prose. This is one of those novels chock full of passages you’ll want to read over and over again, because they are either lovely, or sharply insightful, or darkly funny.
3. Feminism for the win.
Brooke — brooklynnnnereads
Unfortunately, this was just not the story for me.

From the start, I felt somewhat out of sorts as I felt the story began abruptly without an introduction of any kind. At one moment, I even questioned whether I was reading a sequel due to the beginning of this novel. I like novels that begin with a quick pace but for this one, I felt that it was too quick and as if the reader was supposed to already know the background and these characters.

As for the characters, that was another issue that I ha
Aminah Safi
Jun 25, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  (Review from the author)  ·  review of another edition
Darling, Lulu. I didn't know you'd get to breath fresh air and take up shelf space when I wrote you. I got you wrong so often in that first draft. But I kept plugging away and you took on shape and you took on life and here you are out in the world. I'm so proud of how messy and vulnerable and angry and hopeful you are. I let you do your worst, and in turn, you showed me your best. Your growth and determination. Your love and your humor.

Anyways, this is me being a sap and telling you my first n
1 star.

“He was a boy made to be conquered, maybe even saved. But not by Lulu. She was neither a knight or a Nightingale. She was a girl made to be selfish. She would have her own adventures.”

I'm having a terrible time coming up with my own summary of this book, so here's the Goodreads summary: “Lulu Saad doesn't need your advice, thank you very much. She's got her three best friends and nothing can stop her from conquering the known world. Sure, for half a minute she thought she’d nearly drowned
Samantha (WLABB)
Not the Girls You're Looking For was a look at one girl's struggle with self identity and complex relationships, which was very thoughtful, witty, and honest.

The Good

•Lulu was a force to be reckoned with! She was interesting and complicated, and I never knew what to expect from her. To others, she seemed so tough, but that was only on the outside. Inside she was nursing wounds, grappling with personal demons, and slowly unraveling.

•Safi's exploration of Lulu's inner struggle of not be white eno
Haley • Fangirl Fury •
3.5/5 Stars

My review for Not the Girls You're Looking For can be found here on Fangirl Fury:
This is easily one of the most difficult book reviews I’ve ever had to write because I have plenty of mixed feelings about Not the Girls You’re Looking For that make expressing my opinion just a tad more complicated.

While I eventually learned to appreciate many aspects of this story, its beginning was rough, slow, and oftentimes confusing and this continued to drag on for a significant portion of the whole book. There was a lot of weirdly written dialogue that showed no direction and came across
So clearly I'm in the minority so far, but this book was like a 2.75/3 stars for me.

First off, what I did like:
1) Yay, a Muslim main character! Well, a 16 year old high school girl who just happens to be Muslim and fasting for Ramadan.
2) The culturally blended family! Lulu's mom is white and southern, and I love the way that she... seemingly gracefully and like a normal human person... takes on and supports the culture of her husband's family, even though she's not fully included
3) The MC who f
This is an important book that about feeling split between two cultures and trying to figure out how to fit in. In addition to addressing racism and multiculturalism, the book also deals with safe sex and violence against women. It is a feminist, sex-positive, girl-power story that I hope will empower many teen girls. It’s one of only two YA contemporaries I can think of that actually portrays a visit to a gynecologist, which is amazing to see. Only two things stopped me from giving a full 5-sta ...more
Jun 19, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 1018
Absolutely funny and brilliant!
Laura (bbliophile)
This book has some wonderful character exploration but the writing just didn't click with me at all
Morgan Rhodimer
May 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
"You aren't who anyone decides you are. You aren't how anyone treats you. You have to find peace in that."

A book of deeply flawed, sharp-clawed, and relatable girls, especially the main character Lulu. This book ripped me open and handed me a mirror to see, before sewing up the wound and kissing it better. I cheered and held the book to my chest with a grin on my face when I finished, unable to contain my joy. Some parts made me laugh, some made me swoon, some made me cry. I love this book to pi
I can't wait for everyone to read this book!
May 23, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Lately, Lulu has been screwing everything up. Her three best friends are all pulling apart at the seams, an almost accidental drowning at a party has her grounded for life (or at least the remainder of Ramadan), and she finally snaps at one of the aunties for saying something that—as it turns out—she didn’t even say. So, yeah, Lulu’s life is a bit complicated. But she’s determined to set things right, because as painful as it is to admit you’re wrong—or that you’ve been wronged—there are some th ...more
hajer ☽
Jul 30, 2018 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2018
Honestly, I can’t even write a proper review, because if I did, I’d probably fall asleep just like I did while reading this book. So here are my notes/thoughts on it while reading (when I actually thought I’ll like it. Good times):

[But first, please keep in mind that I won’t talk about the Muslim representation in here. Everyone practices their religion differently, and while I don’t agree with how Lulu treats her religion in here (she doesn’t drink, date, etc while she’s fasting but does it th
Fafa's Book Corner
Mini review:


GR Ultimate Summer Reading Challenge: Diversify Yourself.

I was a bit vary when I read the synopsis. Regardless I still wanted to give it a shot. Unfortunately it wasn't for me.

The writing style was a bit clunky and just all over the place. I didn't enjoy reading about Lulu and her friends. I was more interested in her mother.

Overall I didn't really enjoy it. I still recommend.
I don't really end up enjoying this. There were some solid moments i really enjoyed but overall I just didn't click with any of the characters.
Suzanne (The Bookish Libra)
3.5 Stars. I loved the focus on female friendships but at times, it didn’t feel like much was going on in terms of plot.
Feb 25, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book comes out in June, 2018.
Slow start but about 1/4 of the way in, it just starts steam rolling forward. If John Hughes had written one of his 80's rom coms with a quartet of girls as the main characters, this would be it.
Chantal Aurora
“Queens, Lulu-cat. We've crowned ourselves. We run ragged as we please. The only people who tell us what to do are each other.”

4.5 stars
I love this book with every fiber of my being. It is so close to being a 5-star read, I docked half a star for lack of a plot. The conflict and resolutions were a bit weak as well. The timeline of this book was murky it would casually mention it was freshmen year then not much later it was sophomore year. Then it skips to them being juniors and going to
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Aminah Mae Safi is a writer who explores art, fiction, feminism, and film. She loves Sofia Coppola movies, Bollywood endings, and has seen all of the Fast and Furious franchise. She lives in Los Angeles, CA with her partner and a cat bent on world domination (and another cat that is just here for the snacks). Her 2016 We Need Diverse Books winning story will appear in their forthcoming anthology F ...more
“He was a boy made to be conquered, maybe even saved. But not by Lulu. She was neither a knight or a Nightingale. She was a girl made to be selfish. She would have her own adventures.” 2 likes
“You gave me books and articles. You keep telling me not to forget I'm Arab. But it's not just the white people reminding me who I am, Baba. Arabs remind me I'm not one of them too. This world may never let me forget I am Arab, but it will also keep me from belonging as one of them.” 2 likes
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