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Damaged Angels: An Adoptive Mother Discovers the Tragic Toll of Alcohol in Pregnancy

4.10  ·  Rating details ·  90 ratings  ·  14 reviews
Part heartfelt memoir, part practical guide, Damaged Angels recounts Bonnie Buxton's struggles to raise an adopted daughter whom she didn't realize was afflicted with fetal alcohol disorder. Her book also offers guidance to parents who have children with FASD. By the time Bonnie's daughter Colette hit first grade, her parents were coping with her frequent stealing and lyin ...more
Paperback, 336 pages
Published April 28th 2005 by Da Capo Lifelong Books (first published 2004)
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Oct 20, 2007 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: people just learning about FASD
Shelves: fetal-alcohol
I was afraid I wouldn't like this book because of the sappy, over-the-top title. Fortunately the book is better than the title. It tends, as most books on this topic do, to focus on young children, but its strength is that it includes many case histories that differ from the stereotypes and really help to clarify the diversity of experiences possible for families coping with fetal alcohol damage. I wish this had been the first book I found on the topic, as it is clear, comprehensive, exhaustivel ...more
May 16, 2011 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Bonnie Buxton- Damaged Angels (Knopf Canada 2004) 3 Stars

When Bonnie Buxton adopted Collette she had no idea what a life of struggles she had found. Collette always struggled in school, had weird mood swings, lied, stole, and even threatened to take her sister’s life with a knife. Going to doctors was useless as they blamed her parenting, even when she suspected what it was they still told her she was wrong. Finally, many years too late, Collette was diagnosed with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome Disorde
Cynthia Martin
Apr 23, 2015 rated it it was amazing
For any parent who has adopted, fostered or mentored a child of the system....or thought "just one glass of wine a day could be ok" - this book put it into perspective for us and helped change our style of parenting.

If you were to look at the kiddos and me out in a store you might think "That woman doesnt know how to control her children...." Little do you know the how damaged their brains are....because they LOOK normal. 5 kids born to two different mothers who heinously abused multiple drugs a
Jun 10, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
As an adoptive parent with a child who has FAE - confirmed only after adoption and after a few years in which everyone refused to accept that he had 'issues' - I believe this book should be mandatory reading for any potential adoptive parent. It should also be required reading for any woman who believes it's safe to consume alcohol - in any amount - while pregnant.

There are so many misconceptions about alcohol consumption during pregnancy. There are many more misconceptions about FAE and how it
Jun 29, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A well written, well-researched book. Engaging personal stories mixed with useful facts, supports and resources. Some of it is heartbreakingly sad, some of it is very enlightening. You may well find yourself thinking, "oh, that explains ______'s kid so well!"

If you ever hear a pregnant (or planning pregnancy) woman say "oh, a couple of drinks now and then don't hurt" or "I'm a very moderate drinker" or (gods forbid, the alcohol companies personal fave) "a glass of wine every day is good for you"
Apr 23, 2014 rated it really liked it
There just is not enough information about the horrible affects of fetal alcohol syndrome but this book helps. The author has hands on experience with raising a child she adopted that besides having learning/developmental problems has some physical issues and then due to depression along with other brain disfunctions turns to drugs...all before this loving mother finds out what is wrong and then the journey of research and doctor after doctor before getting help that works to some extent. It's a ...more
Karen Stock
Aug 18, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
this is a great book for anyone who is thinking of adopting an FAS child or wanting to know more about FAS. What i like most about this book is that there are canadian stats in it.

Although the examples of FASD children she uses are extreme it certainly allows you to see that life with an fas child is not easy. FAS is a spectrum and everyone functions at different levels and continuims on a spectrum

FAS is real and real preventable
JoAnna Van Vleet
Feb 14, 2013 rated it really liked it
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It is difficult to use positive words to describe a book that covers such a sad and tragic topic. But this was very good and necessary read, especially because it was during a time when we were awaiting an answer from CPS to find out if we would be adopting a little girl with FAS. It truly was a powerful and insightful book that was most helpful in educating myself more on this. It is a must read for any one in the foster/adoption/education/ circle of things.
Dec 17, 2012 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: ALL
Shelves: grad-school, 2013
This book was incredible. I think that anyone who works with people--kids or adults--should read this book. Nay, all should read this book because it dispells a lot of myths about alcohol and pregnancy.

For me, while reading this book, I was immediately able to think of students I have/have had who might have been undiagnosed. I really enjoyed reading the stories of these brave families--the only thing I wish it had more of was information about interventions.
Carol Macdonald
Aug 06, 2016 rated it really liked it
This was a continued education requirement read full of personal insight about parenting Fetal Alcohol Syndrome disabled children. Its main theme was the grief drinking causes in the unborn child, and society's denial of that preventable damage, but also offered some helpful advice for those who choose to raise those damaged, and challenging angels.
May 14, 2010 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A book about prenatal alcohol exposure. Very very interesting read. Also a very sad read. The author is the mother of daughter with FAE and she writes about her struggles as well as the struggles of other parents and their children and what could be done about it.
May 27, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Very informative Canadian resource. Statistics were well presented. Author does not sugar coat FASD, so be prepared for the cold harsh truth.
If the author had elaborated on the positive personal stories a little more, this would have been a 5/5
Lois Glenn
Jul 02, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Excellent insight and factual information. You would have thought she was writing about my daughter. Opened my eyes and gave me peace in that 'this is my life with my fas daughter'!
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