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How to Be Alone: If You Want To, and Even If You Don't

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The former Sex & Relationships Editor for Cosmopolitan and host of the wildly popular comedy show Tinder Live with Lane Moore presents her poignant, funny, and deeply moving first book.

Lane Moore is a rare performer who is as impressive onstage—whether hosting her iconic show Tinder Live or being the enigmatic front woman of It Was Romance—as she is on the page, as both a former writer for The Onion and an award-winning sex and relationships editor for Cosmopolitan. But her story has had its obstacles, including being her own parent, living in her car as a teenager, and moving to New York City to pursue her dreams. Through it all, she looked to movies, TV, and music as the family and support systems she never had.

From spending the holidays alone to having better “stranger luck” than with those closest to her to feeling like the last hopeless romantic on earth, Lane reveals her powerful and entertaining journey in all its candor, anxiety, and ultimate acceptance—with humor always her bolstering force and greatest gift.

How to Be Alone is a must-read for anyone whose childhood still feels unresolved, who spends more time pretending to have friends online than feeling close to anyone in real life, who tries to have genuine, deep conversations in a roomful of people who would rather you not. Above all, it’s a book for anyone who desperately wants to feel less alone and a little more connected through reading her words.

224 pages, Paperback

First published November 6, 2018

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About the author

Lane Moore

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Lane Moore is an award-winning stand-up comedian, writer, actor, and musician living in New York City. Paste Magazine named her #19 of the 75 Funniest People On Twitter, Brooklyn Magazine named her one of The 50 Funniest People in Brooklyn, BUST Magazine named her one of 10 Funny Ladies You Need To Be Watching, and Village Voice named her “Queen Of Disdain,” in their Best Of New York issue, Out Magazine named her one of the “Out 100 of 2017,” and Bustle named her one of their Comedy Class of 2017 comedians. Her monthly comedy show Tinder LIVE! was named on The New York Times Critic’s Picks, and CBS called it one of the 5 Best Comedy Shows in NYC. BUST Magazine named her band It Was Romance the Best Band of 2015 and Billboard named them one of 16 Female-Fronted Bands You Should Know.

The New York Times called her comedy show Tinder LIVE! “truly addictive entertainment…[it’s] ingenious. Moore transforms the banter on a dating app into compelling long-form improvisation. Ms. Moore, a cagey and humane performer, has developed an instinct for turning the raw materials of sexually charged chat with ordinary strangers into honed and generous jokes. “Tinder Live” has a comic momentum and energy that is unusual. The way she manipulates tone and pace reveals an artist supremely confident in her form, not to mention a flirt par excellence.”

The New York Times called her appearance on season five of HBO’s GIRLS “one of my favorite moments of this season…[Moore is] wonderful.” Vogue called her a “jack of all trades,” adding, “her Instagram videos give me life.” She is also a recurring panelist on the brand new Rooster Teeth TV show “What Do You Know?” airing on GO90. In 2017, she had an appearance on @midnight with a segment based on her popular Instagram account, Hotties of MTV’s Next, and an appearance on MTV’s TRL.

In 2016, she won a GLAAD award for her work with Cosmopolitan for Best Overall Magazine Coverage and was also nominated for a 2016 White House LGBT Champions of Change award. Pride.com named her one of their 67 Young People Who Are Changing The World, who praised her for “creating queer visibility in Cosmopolitan Magazine” and being “funny as hell.” In 2017, Go Magazine named her one of 100 Women We Love, praising her for “managing a nonstop cycle of creativity.”

She is a prolific writer for The Onion, The New Yorker Shouts and Murmurs, The Washington Post (where she regularly writes for relationship column Solo-ish), McSweeney’s, GQ, Glamour, Playboy, MTV, former Sex & Relationships Editor at Cosmopolitan.

The Laugh Button called Lane Moore “a real triple threat – an NYC-based stand-up comedian, she’s also the host of hit show “Tinder Live,” and a seriously badass singer who fronts the band It Was Romance.”

In 2015, Pitchfork named the self-titled debut album from her band, It Was Romance, one of their Records To Watch This Summer, BuzzFeed called their first single one of the Best Of The Summer, and BUST Magazine called the band the Best Band of 2015. Village Voice premiered the first single, “Philadelphia,” calling the song “mysterious but undeniably attractive. It evokes feelings of loneliness with a danceable beat, not unlike a somber nighttime walk home on wet roads, with colorful, joyous city lights reflecting like a black mirror” and praising the album for its “glittering instrumental aspect and Moore’s velvety vocal delivery make the rest of “It Was Romance” saunter around like the life of the party, occasionally winking just to make sure you’re hooked.”

Paste Magazine described the band as “Hearkening back to a Dig Me Out era Sleater Kinney, Moore’s expansive sound covers love and all its mishaps with a catchy, blast loud and sing proud thoughtfulness."

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