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Stop Being Mean to Yourself: A Story About Finding The True Meaning of Self-Love

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Stop Being Mean to Yourself is a compassionate guide filled with new ideas for overcoming the pitfalls of guilt and self-doubt, and helps readers find a happier place in the world.

In this wonderfully practical book, Melody Beattie gives you the tools to discover the magnificence and splendor of your being. -- Deepak Chopra, M.D. Beckoning readers toward a spiritual territo
Paperback, 228 pages
Published September 17th 1998 by Hazelden Publishing (first published April 29th 1997)
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Jan 06, 2015 rated it it was ok
I enjoyed reading about the people she met in the Middle East, but I didn't really connect with the rest of what she was writing.
Synopsis: the author is feeling lost in life. She has the desire to get up and change something (she says she felt the pull of some unnamed vortex), but she's not sure what. She decides to go to the Middle East to find answers. The insights into the people and culture are interesting, but I'm not convinced she found what she was looking for. She finally had enough and
Oct 02, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: i-own-this
I enjoy Melody's writings. This book kind of left me wanting more compared with some of her other writings. But, I appreciate the struggles she's shared.
Mar 14, 2017 rated it liked it
I didn't love the lay out if this book...the story telling by way of interrogation, but the message is there. it was all worth the end when it was brought home to me.
May 11, 2013 rated it it was ok
If you like mysteriously smiling camels, being sucked into vortexes and spit out again, and tales of airport interrogations, this might be the book for you. For me, it was more annoying than enlightening. Beattie does have something of value to saying about transforming loss into something meaningful. Unfortunately, in this book it is buried under layers of fluff and an inane story about her interrogations (pre-9/11) in Middle Eastern airports. The book parallels the 1001 Arabian Nights in that ...more
Nov 29, 2016 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
So, after having decided I liked some of what I read by Melody Beattie I wanted to work my way through the bulk of her writing. She was an interesting writer, some of her ideas resonated with me, and I felt like at the very least I could learn something from each of her books. They weren't necessarily life-changing, but they were interesting and helping me to reframe some of the ways I view the world and my relationships with others. That's always a good thing, right?

I was intrigued by the titl
Jul 25, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Well, sometimes in live you just stop and think to yourself, that if you are having many problems, then is your fault and that you have to change. But, with this book I understood that you should trust in yourself more that anything. Because no one knows you better than you do, therefore no one knows whats better for you than you do. Therefore, we should be able to love ourself with our scars and imperfections, and overcome every problem or difficulty we have since we have to love our self first ...more
Sally McRogerson
Aug 29, 2011 rated it it was ok
Shelves: non-fiction
I read this a few months ago, partly because I've read some of her other work, partly because it relates to my clients and partly because it relates to me. It felt like the ramblings of a self-indulgent, self-obsessed middle-aged woman, or an expense account trip in which she had discovered nothing of note but needed to claim the expenses anyway. I wasn't enchanted but I thought I may be missing something so I'm reading it again, more slowly this time and reflecting on what I've read.

I'd love t
Denton McCabe
Sep 01, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I knocked one star off because there was a heavy amount of filler in this book. The overall message is inspiring. The thought that we choose to remain in toxic and hurtful situations. It completely defeats the thesis of all AA rhetoric, mainstream psychology, psychiatry, and even religion. Awesome book.

I noticed the introspective parts were italicized for ease of reference. I didn't skip everything, but if you wanted to, you could skim and just read the italicized passages. There were two chapt
Apr 10, 2016 rated it liked it
There is a complete disconnect between the title of this book and the contents, which was a bit of a head scratcher for me. The book, for the most part, reads more like a travelogue of her trip to the Middle East---there is very little in here that constitutes any meaningful element of self-help content. The crux of the book is that she decides to go to the Middle East for enlightenment and to write her next book, which effectively doesn't happen. (She writes it upon her return.) There is an ann ...more
Shannon Cox
Nov 14, 2015 rated it liked it
Not sure if it was just the way people wrote in the previous millennium, but it felt badly written. Awkward at times. Though the author claims to have gotten to some sort of enlightened place, her arrogance or ignorance often shows her lack of self-awareness. Further, it's more like a travel diary of Egypt/Algeria/Morocco with small portions of reflection, than a self-help book.
Sep 12, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: travel, self-help, self-exploration, journal memoir
I have this on audiotape, wish I had it on cd and in book form. I loved this book/audio. If you liked Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert, you'll definitely like this one. If you didn't like that book, you might enjoy this anyway...
Kevin Milhorn
Sep 23, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I am not going to comment much on this book other than to say that it is not what you expect it to be from the title. It seemed a little slow to me in the beginning but picked up speed and was more than worth sticking with!
Sep 02, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Melody Beattie is intriguing to me. I really appreciate her willingness to share her story. Love all of her books!
Feb 06, 2014 added it
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Awful book, no meaning at all.
Mar 03, 2010 rated it liked it
This is an autobiographical journy tail. Melidy shares what she found in her journey to Africa. Definetly not the best Melody's books.
Julie Pixie
Feb 24, 2016 rated it it was ok
Shelves: self-help
Should be called "I Got An Advance From My Publisher To Take this Trip, So Now I Have to Write Something"

Two stars for small bursts of genuine insight
Jan 02, 2015 rated it it was ok
I like most of Beattie's books, but this one struck me as contrived.
Sep 11, 2009 rated it did not like it
Shelves: non-fiction
Very disappointing. More a memoir about her trip to Egypt and some of her new-Age type experiences in a pyramid than what the title suggests.
Nov 11, 2012 rated it it was ok
I read this book and didn't care for it. I didn't realize it was autobiographical.
MaryKay Keller
Feb 23, 2011 rated it it was amazing
May 06, 2012 rated it it was amazing
The book was absolutly wonderful. One of my all time favorites!
Erin Mcnaughton
May 12, 2013 rated it really liked it
I found her approach of bringing me on the journey with her very enlightening and accessible. It was a gentle illustration of how each of us can begin again with our selves.
Jul 24, 2012 added it
Inspirational! Need to review content.
Jul 28, 2008 rated it liked it
Pretty good.
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Over the years, Melody Beattie has become well-known in the world of self-help literature. After turning away from a life of addiction and suffering, Melody shared her own story in order to help others change theirs. Her overnight sensation, Codependant No More, has been influencing millions for over twenty years. Her passion for writing has resulted in fifteen books, including: Co-Dependants Anon ...more
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