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Slutever: Dispatches from a Sexually Autonomous Woman in a Post-Shame World

really liked it 4.00  ·  Rating details ·  972 ratings  ·  107 reviews
We've come a long way in recent years. The sexual double standard is slowly beginning to shift. But we're still a culture with a massive slut-shaming problem. It's still taboo to be a girl who sleeps around. Vogue columnist Karley Sciortino is out to change this perception. Because the world needs more slutty role models, and more intelligent, sex-positive, responsibly pro ...more
Kindle Edition, 289 pages
Published February 6th 2018 by Grand Central Publishing
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Valerity (Val)
I began to pass this book by just on the face of it. Then I read the description and I got interested and thought, "well why not delve deeper?" So I went ahead and got it.

Vogue columnist and writer/producer Karley Sciortino knows her stuff when it comes to Slutology. It's been her area of interest as she developed along the way from high school in the US, finally escaping small town life to a brief attempt at university across the pond, then hanging out in London squats. She writes very intelli
May 15, 2018 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: did-not-finish
YIKES! The intentions behind this book are nice and all, but the execution is clumsy and cringeworthy. All the sex positive stuff is great, until it shits the bed. Anti-sex worker slurs are used as pejoratives in the same breath as the author claims sex workers should be respected, then she goes on to present many of the same slut shaming anti-sex worker stereotypes as true but in a “good way.”

Then there’s the completely mishandling of rape culture or should I say “supposed rape culture.” Fuuuuc
Heidi The Reader
"Without question, if I weren't a slutty as I am, my life thus far would have been far less interesting. ... But my sluttiness has also been the cause of many existential bathroom-mirror moments." pg 8, ebook

Karley Sciortino, sex blogger and author, has led a self-described colorful life. It certainly comes through in this tell-all memoir.

Through her experiences, Sciortino has proudly embraced her sexuality and her place in society as a woman who knows what she wants in the bedroom, and takes it
Jun 14, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a fun read- there’s a lot of sex-positive, feminist content, and the broad message that women should be able to explore complex and unconventional sexual experiences and identities is important. Some of the execution was a bit clumsy, but overall it was a good time.
Victoria (Latte Nights Reviews)

Initially I was intrigued because I thought this book was about reclaiming the word slut and the double standard women face, however, once I started reading I realized this is more of a memoir.

I also had issues with some of the comments the author was making. She was insensitive and making jokes about eating disorders and also made comments about underage girls being in sexual relationships with older men (just mentioned them, didn't talk about how wrong it was).

I also couldn't finish readin
Whitney Hansen
This has been one of the hardest books to rate because there were so many quotations and anecdotes that I'd rate 5/5 followed by a plethora of problematic comments that I would rate -10000/5. Oofta. Overall, I'm happy to have read it but it took a lot of mental gymnastics to keep moving through the parts that were just immature and ignorant. ...more
Olivia Hilyard
Feb 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I was either laughing, agreeing, or staring at the wall w "Jim Halpert face" because something I read was just so on point or over the top ridiculous ...more
Feb 03, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I did NOT know what to expect when I picked this book up. I've dabbled in Karley's blog "Slutever" on and on since its conception, but I'd never been a "ride or die" fan. Mostly because I'm not sure I fall into the category of women Sciortino would refer to fondly as "sluts". In any case, this memoir is enthralling. From Catholic school in New Jersey to squatting in a loft in London to romping around New York, this is a memoir about modern sexual freedom. I couldn't put it down and read it in tw ...more
Sep 01, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I enthusiastically leant this book to a friend three years ago even though I was only half way through it myself (?????) and subsequently never got round to finishing it when she gave it back to me (?????) but I finally completed it. It's a good mix of badass, insightful and wholesome, and I really appreciated how well Karley captured her own voice - I could hear her speaking every sentence aloud in my head. Her frankness and openness came through really well and I appreciated her acknowledging ...more
Aug 21, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: feminism, funny, self
This was really good. I recognize that nine times out of ten, when people laud authors for "not being afraid to be politically incorrect!", they're usually praising nazis or nazi-adjacent folks. Consider this to be the tenth time. Karley has a firm grasp on reality and its societal constraints but isn't afraid to dream big and imagine possibilities for our future. She isn't afraid to express opinions that she knows detract from an ~ultra woke progressive queen~ image. I wish she was a bit more p ...more
Sep 11, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2020
I've followed Karley Sciortino's blog for about ten (!) years now and although I haven't checked it in some time, when I remembered she had written a memoir I knew I had to pick it up, even if it were mostly a refresher of the most memorable parts of her stories. I was mostly right about that, but that's not a bad thing! Karley was always an inspiration for me to explore my sexuality and to not give a fuck about slut-shaming negative people. I've happily followed her since she was doing ketamine ...more
Leo Robertson
Aug 01, 2021 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I used to live vicariously through this woman's blog when I was at uni studying chemical engineering and she was squatting in an abandoned warehouse in London and attending raves. I'm glad of her experiences for that purpose, haha! :D ...more
Mar 12, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Really enjoyed this fun (and sometimes laughable) memoir.
Leib Mitchell
Mental illness masquerading as sex positivity

Reviewed in the United States on September 30, 2020

"A cautionary tale of mental illness masquerading as sex positivity, with some bits of interesting information."
What this book feels like:
1. A very long justification of a woman with mental illness who ultimately ended up working as a prostitute;

2. A cautionary tale about what can happen when someone doesn't have good guidance.

It was presented as a woman who was sex positive, and was makin
Anne-Marie DT
Between untold eye-opening stories and enlightening facts, Slutever hits the nail on the head by addressing many sex-positive feminism challenges together and contributing pieces of the puzzle. With humour and passion, Karley contributes to boosting open-minded visions on sex and modern relationships.
May 20, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
The three stars are basically for being entertaining. I watched season 1 of slutever on tv, and I knew about Sciortino's blog although I hadn't read it. I think this book had a touch of the 'blog to book' scenario where the writing that passes muster online seems a bit subpar when you're reading it in a book. There's also a phenomenon here which made the work seem a little disingenous--I'll elaborate. So--Sciortino's wheelhouse is basically sex and she cites her own experiences extensively. I li ...more
Apr 29, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I loved and also had a hard time reading this book.

I loved when Karley was vulnerable with us and shared her deepest personal stories and experiences. Hearing her unabashedly talking about her desires and mistakes, relationships, and her internal struggle with not being 'basic' was refreshing and heartbreaking at once. Her humor and irreverence really worked in those passages.

Still, I finished the book wanting. I wanted more acknowledgement of how privilege affects sluttiness and identity, and w
Mar 20, 2019 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audiobooked, swork
For a book about OMG EDGY SEX this is surprisingly boring at times. Sorry if this review is incoherent, I just really did not enjoy this book. I listened to this on audiobook, and the author's narration made me like this book even less than I would have read the print version of this. OF COURSE she's a former Vice columnist. This book is alternately extremely smug, condescending, and clueless. Rife with choice feminism bullshit. I don't want to read another book by wealthy women getting involved ...more
Sonia Reppe
Apr 09, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
In a #metoo world, I think it's refreshing when a woman proudly displays her sexuality and sexual choices, and in this case, her pro-slut stance and kinky confessions.

Karley is a sex blogger. (If you're looking for erotica, look to erotica writers. This was interesting but not arousing). Karley shares her experiences, a lot of them are weird and kinky as she was doing research for her blog, but mostly, this is about deviant and kinky sexual behavior in context of societal norms and psychology a
Apr 24, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
As someone that works in reproductive health, I was super excited to read this. It started out pretty strong; she has an energetic, conversational voice. The chapter about dominatrixes was great. By the last two chapters I wasn't as charmed. There's a surprising judgey undertone to some of her non-sexual observations (and even some sexual ones, too), some of her interjections undermine what she's saying, and I guess I was expecting more musings on sexual exploration than a memoir (granted one ab ...more
May 15, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Interesting memoir. She goes and tries a lot of different ways of having sex, and it's good to hear about it. I listened to the audio book version, and she's definitely not the best narrator. A lot of upspeak which got annoying after a while. I'm a self-identified millennial, and even I got tired of her "Oh this is what we millennials do" tropes. She's also fairly hung up on her desire to have a traditional relationship despite wanting to try it all.

Overall it's entertaining and good to normaliz
Gerta Rehfeld
Apr 27, 2018 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
DNF for a number of reasons, but mainly the overall insensitivity and selfishness/narcissism of the narrator.
Eleonora Voltolina
All in all, I liked the book - and I would recommend it, if only to discover a different world where people have an incredible amount of sex more than the average, and with an incredible range of kinks. It delivers positive messages about sex work, fights the “double standard” between men and women when it comes to casual sex (or sex full stop).

But that’s the way it goes, right? When a guy wants a lot of sex, it’s because he’s horny and thinks sex is fun, duh. But when a girl wants a lot of sex,
Keith Schnell
May 26, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I first got into Karley Sciortino’s writing almost ten years ago, when she was living in a squat in South London, eating out of dumpsters and taking a lot of drugs. Even at that early stage in her career, she was easily in the top tenth of a percent of garbage-eating, squat-dwelling 20-something writers, and it was easy to imagine her developing into the next great Gonzo journalist. If ever anyone in the 21st Century was going to wind up alone in Las Vegas, completely twisted on drugs, with no c ...more
May 25, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: own-it
This book is so well rounded, its hard to pick a starting point to write this review. The main thing I'm left with is a feeling of gratitude: that a female pioneer like Sciortino exists who while telling her own story, celebrates the accomplishments and ideas of those that have come before her (like Camille Paglia and my girl Nina Hartley, swoon). But its women and books like these that are going to make an actual change in the world. Even if its not in the conventional way of shouting from the ...more
Le Sex en Rose
Apr 25, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
(My entire review on my blog:

When I first came across Slutever, I thought it was yet another book reclaiming yet another word (and yet another time the word ‘slut’) in the name of sex positivity and female empowerment, two often-abused topics in a (supposedly) sexually liberated world.
I’m obviously referring to The Ethical Slut, the radical guide to nonmonogamous relationships worshipped as ‘the poly bible’ that, back in 1997, re-framed the word ‘slut’ t
Jun 28, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: to-buy, favorites, sex-ed
When I picked this up, I thought I would be in for a 280 page long episode of Viceland's Slutever, and in some ways, that's what I got. Karley Sciortino's unmistakable, unapologetic wit and charm coat the narration of this book, along with spotlights on the stories of slutty individuals from all walks of life (some of which, if you have seen the show, may sound familiar to you). However, the book also provides a more personal insight to Karley as a person and her commentary on sexual autonomy, g ...more
Jul 24, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Now some may immediately be turned off by the title, I understand. So was I, but after giving it a chance out of pure curiosity I was blown away by the actual contents of the book. Karley Sciortino discusses the idea of sexual freedom, flexibility, and discovery in a way that draws
Jenny Hartnett
Mar 27, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
“You can be a hedonist and still have composure. You can be a sec maniac and also be a decent human being who communicates your desires in a way that doesn’t offend anyone. You can be a slut with poise. You can even, is I’ve heard, be a slut with morals. You just have to get the dance right.”

“Visibility is power, because we cannot be what we cannot see.”

“Gay men and lesbians have already opened up the question of what qualities and roles are male and female in ways that can be liberating for str
Jun 11, 2020 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This book had some good insights. There were many good points, albeit sprinkled throughout sporadically. Ultimately, the personality of the author and her lack of ability to be self-aware made the book almost unreadable. Her entire personality is that she's sexual. There are so many times in this book that it is abundantly obvious that she wrote for Vice (iykyk). It seemed as though she had no editor to sit down and tell her that maybe she shouldn't admit that she got off as a five-year-old to t ...more
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