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3.99  ·  Rating details ·  694 ratings  ·  216 reviews
A forthright, honest and rousingly triumphant memoir from a woman who has to live with a highly visible different appearance due to a rare skin condition. Say hello to Carly.

'In fairytales, the characters who look different are often cast as the villain or monsters. It's only when they shed their unconventional skin that they are seen as "good" or less frightening. There a
Paperback, 336 pages
Published February 23rd 2019 by HarperCollins
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Carly Findlay
Jan 09, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  (Review from the author)  ·  review of another edition
This is not a review of my book. It’s a review of how my book - that I wrote - has changed my life.

It’s almost a year since Say Hello came out.

A year of so many emotions, so much travel and meeting many, many wonderful people. I can’t keep track of the number of people who have posted the orange and pink cover on Instagram, or told me they’ve given it to their friend as a present, or who have asked me where they can buy my book for their school or workplace. I’ve signed hundreds, if not thousa
Another author I rep as literary agent; full-disclosure!

Normally I'd say that my liking and reviewing one of my agency's books can be taken with a grain of salt, because of that conflict-of-interest, but that there's also no BS to my opinion. BUT with *this* review, I really especially have to stress a (let's say - tablespoon?) of salt because I feel very affectionate towards this one in particular.

Carly’s book is both memoir & manifesto: about her life growing up with a Disability and facial
Feb 16, 2019 rated it did not like it
Self absorbed and whiny
Jan 23, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book certainly lived up to the hype and TL;DR: everyone should read this book.

Carly is an Australian writer and blogger, appearance activist, speaker, television and radio star, podcast host, fashion icon and fangirl. This book is both her memoir and manifesto, detailing her life with Ichthyosis, a rare and severe skin condition.

I'll admit it, I do not like reading biographies or memoirs. They're usually too much like history for my taste (ugh) or I don't really care enough about a person
Catherine Hull-Roberts
Feb 02, 2019 rated it did not like it
I really wanted to like this book but unfortunately it didn’t meet my expectations. I borrowed a copy from a friend who picked it up at the book launch and kindly loaned it to me. Findlay generally writes well but on the whole it didn’t hold my attention. In my opinion there are far more engaging memoirs out there.
Natasha (jouljet)
Jan 30, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: memoir, disability, poc
This is a bold, strong, vulnerable and real memoir on disability, visable difference, and being your own advocate.

A volume to educate us non-disabled about the experience of disability, from inside and out. The bullying experienced throughout school, the self doubt, the medicalised treatment Carly experienced and her reversing of power in that role from patient to educator. The search for love and acceptance, and the joy of fangirling and fashion.

Carly teaches, shares, and stands up for disable
Carly Findlay
Jan 09, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  (Review from the author)
This is not a review of my book. It’s a review of how my book - that I wrote - has changed my life.

It’s almost a year since Say Hello came out.

A year of so many emotions, so much travel and meeting many, many wonderful people. I can’t keep track of the number of people who have posted the orange and pink cover on Instagram, or told me they’ve given it to their friend as a present, or who have asked me where they can buy my book for their school or workplace. I’ve signed hundreds, if not thousa
Feb 02, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I could relate to so much in this book, almost like I had written it myself. I hope those that really need to understand and develop empathy for people with disabilities read this. What I related to most is constantly feeling exhausted from having to battle for our needs to be understood and met and having the same discussions over and over. No wonder we get defensive. Thank you Carly for articulating your story so well.
Jan 26, 2019 rated it really liked it
Having respected and admired Carly and her work for several years, I had been eagerly anticipating Say Hello since she announced that it was forthcoming, and it didn't disappoint.

This book offers a unique perspective on disability that mainstream Australia really needs, and that is equally important and valuable for both disabled and abled people.

Parts of the book resonated with me in such a profound and rare way that I've been thinking about them since I read them, and I'm sure they'll stay wit
Owl Eyes
Mar 22, 2019 rated it did not like it
I wasn’t impressed by this book and I’m glad that I managed to find it second hand and heavily discounted online. While Findlay seems like a very nice person, this doesn’t mean that she’s a good writer. In particular her “fangirling” irritated me by the end and to be honest I found myself rolling my eyes many times. I also feel like you can find out a lot about her story online at her blog and in various articles, so personally I wouldn’t recommend buying this book unless you really want to know ...more
Mar 28, 2019 rated it did not like it
The best part of this book is that it made me realise how lucky I am to have good skin and not have to endure horrible behaviour from others as a result of a visible disability. Even though I also have a disability that means I am in chronic pain much of the time, it really made me feel so grateful for my health. I realise Findlay doesn’t want to be pitied or seen as an inspiration but this was the result of reading the book for me - I often think of her story when I’m about to complain about so ...more
Apr 24, 2019 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I read this as part of a book club with several other women. I usually love memoirs and this was incredibly disappointing... to be honest I think it’s one of most boring books I’ve read all year. After reading these reviews I guess I had high hopes.

As others have mentioned, the tone of the book and the nonstop fangirling were irritating. The only part I thought was interesting was the discussion about skin hunger, which I experienced myself after suffering from severe eczema in my teens. Unless
Feb 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: australian
I saw a Clementine Ford quote along the lines of "it's okay to be angry... All these years, people have been calling you 'angry' as if it's a shameful thing, when what they really mean is 'your refusal to be contained frightens me'. It is okay for you to be angry."

Carly Findlay's taken her absolute right to be very angry about a heap of stupid things, and turned it into an opportunity to point out some truths. The micro-aggressions, the blatant ableism, the intrusion, the mindless behaviour, th
Trigger warnings: ableism, ableist slurs

Carly's blog was one of the first I started reading back when I started a personal blog in 2009, because she was the first person I didn't know IRL to ever leave me a comment. So when I heard that she had a book deal, I was absolutely thrilled for her and I've been excited to read this ever since.

This is really a mixture of things wrapped up in one book. It's partly Carly's story of her life to date and learning to love herself. It's partly an open letter
Ann Single
Apr 23, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I save my 5 stars for books that change the way I see the world and are, therefore, life changing. Carly Findlay’s perspective on enduring despite ableism and discrimination should be read widely (along with other writers with disabilities). I laughed out loud during the chapter on activism - horribly familiar, but more often wept for the ignorance (my own included) that inflicts suffering. Now to turn these tears to change.
Georgie Burg
Feb 07, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
As a clergy abuse survivor with a disability caused by the abuse, I look for works that are not only validating, but give me a broader insight into my own recovery from my terrible abuse and the subsequent criminal trial. This book by Carly is, in honesty, in the same league of importance as Albert Facey’s book ‘A Fortunate Life’. In Australian biographies, it’s tricky to find a truly unique perspective that is fresh, profoundly intelligent but relatable. Carly’s work Is multi layered, completel ...more
Julia Tulloh Harper
This was a really great memoir/manifesto by disability activist and writer Carly Findlay who has ichthyosis, a skin condition with pretty severe symptoms including a facial difference. I've followed Carly's writing for a long time so was really excited for this and it didn't disappoint. It was a mixture of memoir (including a lot of the discrimination she has faced), her view of the social model of disability, practical tips for non-disabled people about how to not be ableist, (ie how to chat to ...more
Oct 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Came over here to write a glowing review of this illuminating and courageous book by a luminous and brave woman and have been floored by the negativity of some reviewers. If those commenting with vehement criticism are people with disabilities, all power and fair play to them for expressing their views on a subject with which they have personal experience.

If not, then the criticisms seem only to be proof of the painfully entitled ableism Carly describes having to deal with daily in the book. Ir
Jan 31, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book is an honest and authentic read by a phenomenal woman. It is simultaneously heartbreaking, educational and amusing. The book itself discusses facial diversity and disability in relation to her own experiences and is highly relatable to anyone that comes from a marginalised group/minority. I had to pick my jaw off the floor after some of the stories about overt ableism as well as the microaggressions. In this memoir Carly's personality shines through the page while she not only narrates ...more
Feb 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Carly's story had a real impact on me. I have a son who has a disability, but I would never have said that before reading this book. His medical condition is mild and I didn’t want him to associate with a word I felt was negative. Carly helped me understand what he will face because of the invisible symptoms if not the visible ones. I now realise how empowering it can be for him to identify as disbaled, ask for the changes he needs and find his tribe. There is something in this book for everyone ...more
Kristy Moondaughter
Feb 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This is a wonderful book about diversity, and I believe it will make me a better disability activist. I have had the pleasure to meet Carly and she is a wonderful and intelligent person. I hope you read and enjoy this book then I hope you share it with a friend . I can relate to many things she shares on employment, diversity, online dating and pride is growing in me (slowly).
Katt Schultz
Feb 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Carly is a brilliant writer, and tells an important story - hers. My hope is that one day, this book will be part of the national high school curriculum. It’s so important in the realm of disability and ableism, and the more people who read it the better we will all be.
Jan 11, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: auslit
In her memoir-manifesto, SAY HELLO, Carly Findlay shares her experience of living with a rare skin condition, Ichthyosis, her work advocating for disability awareness and representation, and so much more! There’s just so much packed into these pages that I think every reader will have something that they can take away and learn from reading this. I found it a really informative read particularly as Findlay really breaks down practical ways to be a better ally, how to have conversations with chil ...more
So beautiful and honest and challenging. I feel like this should be required reading for all medical professionals. I feel so overwhelmed right now with so many emotions, mainly with love for Carly and others, friends that I know resonate with much that she shares and wishes that the world was different.

With all that I found encouraging there was much that I found disheartening too. You can't help but feel angry and sad by the up hill battle of judgement and exposure that Carly and so many other
Jan 28, 2021 rated it really liked it
I really enjoyed this book. I've been following Carly online for a long time and was eager to read more of what she has to say. I think this is a great book, particularly for those new to terms like ableism, as she explains very clearly how the behaviour of other people has an impact on her life. I could identify with much of what she said, from being bullied as a child, to well intended but ultimately hurtful comments she receives as an adult.

Not all sections of the book applied to me, for exam
May 02, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Thank you Carly for writing this powerful book. You don't know what you don't know, and this book helped me realize how much I didn't know about life with a facial difference, really life with a disability.

Key takeaways for me:
- I'm going to start with one I knew, but have been challenged to go deeper on: it is my job to educate my children on diversity. This is not only responding to THEM, i.e. answering their questions and guiding them through a live interaction, but intentionally educating t
Mar 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-2019
This is a powerful, honest and important book about disability and difference, and being your own champion. Carly is a compassionate and intelligent writer who also (quite rightly) doesn’t pull any punches. Say Hello, she explains, is the book that she needed when she was younger, that she hopes disabled readers will find useful and supportive. But Say Hello is also an invitation to non-disabled readers to really listen to the experiences of others, to reflect on and acknowledge our privilege, a ...more
Ali Berg
Mar 23, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This should be compulsory reading for everyone. It's a powerful, authentic, relatable moving and sometimes funny memoir on disability and on being true to yourself. The writing is brilliant and Carly is a phenomenal woman, storyteller and activist. I've been thinking about this book a lot since I finished it - and I'm sure it's one of those books that'll stay with me forever. Hands down, my favourite book of the year so far. READ IT!
Ellen McMahon
Everybody should read this book.

Carly is phenomenal writer, evoking both laughter and the occasional tear. OK, more like a lot of tears. Some of the experiences she has had to (and continues to) endure are frustrating at best and traumatic at worst. Her words on the importance of physical touch were especially poignant, and made me want to run out to the street and hug someone. Although the content is often confronting, her justifiable anger is conveyed with patience and the tone of the book re
Feb 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
A wonderful and unique insight into Carly's world, which is full of colour, rich experiences, and a love for music and fashion.

'Say Hello' encompasses the intricacies of life with a chronic illness, disability or impairment like nothing I've ever read before.

It is equal parts activism and biography, making it relatable for everyone, with the added guarantee you'll learn something; be it profound, or simply hilarious.

Above all, it is a riveting collection of snapshots through the life of one of
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Carly Findlay is a blogger, writer, speaker and appearance activist. She challenges people’s thinking about what it’s like to have a visibly different appearance.

Carly was named as one of Australia’s most influential women in the Australian Financial Review and Westpac 100 Women of Influence Awards for 2014. Carly received the 2010 and 2013 Yooralla Media Awards for Best Online Commentary for her

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