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Yes, You Are Trans Enough: My Transition from Self-Loathing to Self-Love

4.46  ·  Rating details ·  246 ratings  ·  40 reviews
This is the deeply personal and witty account of growing up as the kid who never fitted in. Transgender blogger Mia Violet reflects on her life and how at 26 she came to finally realise she was 'trans enough' to be transgender, after years of knowing she was different but without the language to understand why.

From bullying, heartache and a botched coming out attempt, thro
Paperback, 1st edition, 352 pages
Published June 21st 2018 by Jessica Kingsley Publishers
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Avery Delany
When I first came across Yes, You are Trans Enough, I knew that it was going to stand out in the busy crowd of transgender memoirs as something different and special. The colorful cover was not only bright, bold and charismatic, just like it’s author Mia Violet, but it reached out a welcoming hand with its affirmative declaration that, yes, you are trans enough.

The overwhelming anxiety over whether you are “trans enough” to be transgender is a far more common concern than many of us realize and
Feb 25, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: owned-ebook
This is a fantastic read, and I loved it so much. I related to so, so much of her story, and I found myself highlighting passages on my Kindle every few pages (I'll share some of them here). If you're trans or questioning, I would definitely recommend this book, especially if you have any doubts (hence the title). If you're cis and wanting to learn more about a trans experience, I'd recommend this but would like to note that this is one person's experience, there are no universal trans experienc ...more
C.L. Ogilvie
Jun 24, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: lgbt, memoir
Insightful, informative and deeply affecting. I feel very fortunate to have had the opportunity to read this. Written with warm and humor, a very moving read. Highly recommended!
Logan Hughes
Jan 30, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: anyone questioning their gender identity or curious about the trans experience
Shelves: trans
Mia Violet is the sweet, wise trans older sister you wish you had. In this frank autobiography of her first 28 years, Mia describes her feelings of doubt and confusion and the difficult path to understanding her gender identity, with digressions along the way to gently explain trans 101 concepts for questioning and cis audiences.

Mia's story is not a remarkable one; that's sort of the point. It's a story shared by hundreds if not thousands of trans millennials (including myself). Yet, it's one y
Sam Alexander-Eames
Oct 28, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I love Mia's matter-of-fact writing style, and her ability to form a coherent narrative out of several decades of incredibly detailed personal history.

For me, a lot of the more general messages in the book were already very familiar. I took away two things:

1. It can be really important as a trans person living in a hateful world to find some confidence and positivity in your own identity, and to remember to take happiness from that.
2. A lot of her experiences were more familiar than I expected.
Isaac R. Fellman
Feb 18, 2019 rated it really liked it
A lovely memoir. Sometimes the level of detail leans towards the exhaustive, but detail is reassuring when you’re anxious, and Violet’s project is obviously very self-aware about the prospect of anxious just-out trans people being among her readership! I’m so happy she’s around.
Tabitha Cole
Jun 30, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Mia's so lovely.

Great book. Great message to it.
Jul 26, 2020 rated it liked it
This book is fine. I'm pretty sure I'm the wrong audience for this book, but it's fine. I'm a transwoman, and I am trans enough. That should make me a good fit, but I found it pretty tough to connect with the author's life.

On the one hand this book gives me some serious hope. This story is "Thunder and Fury Signifying Nothing: The Book". The author spends so much time worrying about things and then it just turns out to be nothing. Over and over again. The entire book is like that. It makes for a
Aug 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing
‘Transphobia is still epidemic in the media and in our society’

British author Mia Violet is a bisexual trans woman who turned her love of oversharing and analysing everything to death into fuel for her writing career. She uses her sense of humour and passion for helping others to write about queer issues and positive thinking. She also draws deeply from her own experiences of going from a miserable grump to an excitable ball of glitter.

The pleasure of reading Mia’s book is her warmly insightful
Jul 14, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Excellent work with one drawback

There are no resources at the end of the book for readers in the United States and Canada. All of the resources are for the United Kingdom. With so many transgender people in North America who need help but may not know where to turn, it would be great if a new section could be added to the Resources section at the end of the book for us. It took me years to figure out where to turn, and I finally had to do it by coming out on Facebook.

The book itself is wonderfu
Aug 04, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This might be my new favorite book about gender. Mia Violet writes an incredibly engaging narrative, weaving together her own life story and basic information about transition to create an educational memoir. I found it especially harrowing to read about her childhood experiences of being bullied by boys. On the educational front, I learned about the UK's awful gatekeeping approach to trans healthcare and how it threw a bunch of unnecessary barriers in front of her transition. I love the overall ...more
Mar 07, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I'm sending this to a number of relatives who had many invasive questions about my trans identity that I wasn't up to answering. I think it will be a gentle, but informative read for any cisgender person struggling to understand transgender identities.

I'm also recommending it to all my trans friends, especially the ones who wonder if they're trans enough. It's a love letter and a balm and I think it will bring a lot of readers peace.
Christine Burns
May 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Honest, raw, moving: This intimate blow by blow account of a young trans woman’s odyssey to personal acceptance and authenticity really ought to be compulsory reading for anyone who ever thought in ignorance that a change of gender was a whimsical adventure.
Dec 30, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I started following Mia Violet on Twitter (@OhMiaGod) once I started being more active on Twitter a year or two ago and she consistently posts good stuff, mostly on trans topics but also on mental health and other subjects.

This book is a memoir of Mia’s life from her childhood in a brutal British boarding school to her life as an out trans person working in a white-collar job. It explains her experience of being trans: what it feels like to be trans, how she knew she was trans, how dysphoria fee
Nov 16, 2019 rated it liked it
I liked this book. Mia Violet's story is interesting and is an excellent addition to the trans-person story genre. I particularly like how she stresses that each person is an individual, and there is no one (or dozen) way to be trans. And that not all trans people have the goal of passing a cis person of their gender.

But parts of the book drag on. I can't say what could have been cut, but something should have been. I got used to the way she would end a chapter about her personal life with gene
Ash Campo
Jan 25, 2020 rated it it was amazing
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Jul 13, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: queer, non-fiction
Mia puts her heart on the line, as she tells us what it was like growing up trans. This is a story of bullying, mental illness, denial, failed coming outs. It is also a story of acceptance, of love, of success and transition.

I'd certainly recommend this to anyone struggling with their identity, anyone who has come out as trans, and to cis people who want to know more about what it is like to be trans.

The book is well written, and is in no way dry or boring. It is quite entertaining throughout.
Sep 10, 2018 rated it it was amazing
An urgent read for both those whose experiences align with the author's, and those who need to learn from them. Equally unsettling and uplifting, Violet's memoir both identifies and begins to fill a notable vacancy in literature on the experiences of trans people in the UK, with the market often being dominated by an American context, which doesn't always apply. To learn more about Mia Violet and to continue following her journey, I recommend following her on twitter, where, as she describes, th ...more
Jan 04, 2019 rated it liked it
Personal story on transitioning from the author, with a bit of explanation of the environment, her schooling, and all the abbreviations. Its good for the author that she lives in Great Britain, where the medical portion (or at least part of it) is supported by the NHS. The author never really discloses the extent of her transition other than estrogen-- so I'm not certain that NHS will pay for surgery should that be selected. Nevertheless, it was a good educational book, more on the psychology th ...more
Jenny Stevens
Feb 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Very good book. Author goes over her struggles with gender and eventual transition. Its refreshing to hear a story in which breaks from the normal narrative of wanting to play with dolls and where her mother's clothes. She still is a very much femme trans woman and you get to read an honest story of how she gets there.

She also does an appropriate and nice job of trying to explain what other trans ppl go through, while simultaneously reminding the reader she only speaks for herself and humbles he
Jan 07, 2021 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites, lgbtqia
I've never been someone who sits down to read a book and feels like a different person after it. Undoubtably, my love of reading overall has greatly changed me over the years, but I've never had a pile of books that changed how I've thought and I've often doubted how much people are truly changed by what they read. That was until I read this book. I can say with complete certainty that reading this was a life-changing experience. I haven't had time to process all my thoughts about it, but I'm so ...more
I first came across this last year when I was challenging myself to read books outside my usual genres. Last month I walked into my library and saw it prominently displayed on the "Transgender day of visibility" support and awareness stand. So I thought it was obviously time. It's a beautiful read. Well written. Carefully exploring the difficulties, and challenges she has faced but in a way that is mostly positive and growth focused. ...more
Jul 25, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, lgbt
It was a bit of a slow read for me but I don't think that's at the fault of the book. I had to read it slow. Despite being cis (or maaaaybe nonbinary?????) it was pretty triggering for me, the way Mia's parents reacted.

Otherwise, I really enjoyed this book. Not in a "oh it was a nice light read, very enjoyable" way but in understanding one trans woman's perspective and learning about it. That's all I really have to say, tbh lol It's worth a read if you can handle possible triggers.
Rianne Marijke
Sep 08, 2020 rated it really liked it
Interesting autobiographical account of the author's transition interwoven with more generalized information. Well-balanced and interesting to the end. As it is more of an introductionary text, it's a little superficial overall, but it occasionally reaches unexpected depths and I did come away with new knowledge. However, it's really the personal story that made the book most interesting in my eyes. ...more
Feb 08, 2019 rated it really liked it
It's weird reading a book by someone you know, especially such a personal story! Mia writes honestly and clearly about her trans experience. As a cisgender (gay) man, I learned a lot about the lived reality of being a trans woman, and I also identified with some of the mental and emotional stresses that being queer can have on a person. ...more
Jan 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: lgbtq, transgender, memoir
One of my new favorite trans-related books. I enjoyed how Mia wove general bits of transgender information within her own personal story. The writing was clear and easy to read - I tended to feel more like I was reading a novel than a work of non-fiction.
Rachel Marie
Feb 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Mia's autobiographical tale of slowly accepting herself as a trans woman is inspiring beyond words. From chapter to chapter, her words made me feel as if I were sitting with a close friend talking about our pasts together. Her words are relatable, honest, and soul-touching. ...more
Feb 27, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
While I’m struggling to come up with succinct words for this book, but Mia Violet is succinct and decisive with her message: Yes, You Are Trans Enough.

If you need to hear a story of a person growing to love themselves and to stop doubting themselves, this is a good story for it.
Friedrich Sarah E. Thompson
Aug 30, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This memoir was the exact thing I needed to see. Maybe I'll eventually figure out how to articulate how much this book meant to me, but for now, all I can say is thank you, Mia. ...more
Oct 06, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: queer, non-fiction
CW: bullying, self-harm, narcissistic parents
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Mia Violet is a queer writer with a passion for exploring how to live a life of self-love and positivity. She also dabbles in public speaking, podcasting, and modelling. Her main drive is to help people feel better about themselves and their bodies, especially fellow trans people,

As a queer woman who suffers from body dysmorphic disorder, with a history of anxiety and self-loathing, she knows how

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