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13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don't Do: Own Your Power, Channel Your Confidence, and Find Your Authentic Voice for a Life of Meaning and Joy

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International bestselling author and leading global expert on mental strength Amy Morin turns her focus to feminism, explaining what it means—and what it takes—to be a mentally strong woman in the age of the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements.

The emergence of the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements have awakened society and encouraged women to find their voice and claim their power. But to do this, women must learn to improve their own mental strength. Contending with a host of difficult issues—from sexual assault on college campuses, to equal pay and pay gaps, to mastering different negotiation styles—demands psychological toughness. In this crucial book, prominent psychotherapist and licensed clinical social worker Amy Morin gives women the techniques to build mental muscle—and just as important, she teaches them what not to do.

What does it mean to be a mentally strong woman? Delving into critical issues like sexism, social media, social comparison, and social pressure, Amy addresses this question and offers thoughtful, intelligent advice, practical tips, and specific strategies and combines them with personal experiences, stories from former patients, and both well-known and untold examples from women from across industries and pop culture. Throughout, she explores the areas women—and society at large—must focus on to become (and remain) mentally strong.

Amy reveals that healthy, mentally tough women don’t insist on perfection; they don’t compare themselves to other people; they don’t see vulnerability as a weakness; they don’t let self-doubt stop them from reaching their goals. Wise, grounded, and essential, 13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do can help every woman flourish—and ultimately improve our society as well.

352 pages, ebook

First published December 31, 2018

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Amy Morin

9 books561 followers
Amy Morin is the editor-in-chief at Verywell Mind. She's also a psychotherapist and the host of the Mentally Strong People podcast.

Her article, "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do," has been viewed by more than 50 million readers.

Her book explains the personal story behind that article and provides practical ways to avoid those 13 common pitfalls that can hold us back from reaching our greatest potential.

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do is an international bestseller that has been translated into more than 40 languages.

Her second book, "13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don't Do," focuses on the habits parents can avoid if they want to raise mentally strong kids.

Her third book, "13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don't Do," explains how women can avoid the common pitfalls that are likely to rob them of mental strength.

Her fourth book, "13 Things Mentally Strong Kids Do," goes on sale in 2021.

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Profile Image for Jayyan Al-Bailasan.
60 reviews23 followers
March 22, 2019
1. They don't compare themselves to other people.
2. They don't insist on perfection.
3. They don't see vulnerability as a weakness.
4. They don't let self-doubt stop them from reaching their goals.
5. They don't overthink everything.
6. They don't avoid tough challenges.
7. They don't fear breaking the rules.
8. They don't put others down to lift themselves up.
9. They don't let others limit their potential.
10. They don't blame themselves when something goes wrong.
11. They don't stay silent.
12. They don't feel bad about reinventing themselves.
13. They don't downplay their success.

Profile Image for Carl Handy.
11 reviews3 followers
February 2, 2019
I've had past relationships and friendships with women who weren't mentally strong and it was both confusing and frustrating to deal with. These were amazing women with great potential but always spoke negatively about themselves.

This book helped put into perspective why they were that way and what I can do differently to better help.

More men should be reading this!
Profile Image for KC.
2,378 reviews
February 12, 2019
An average score as far as self-help books go. That being said, I can see how many would benefit tremendously from her words and suggestions. The format is simple and is broken down in an approachable manner. A huge complaint I have though is there is so much man bashing in this book and no women bashing. Women can treat other women just as horrendously as men but it's not mentioned.
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187 reviews1 follower
September 26, 2021
Essentially, the book elaborated 13 key points that woman could change their mindset to make their life less miserable. The content wasn't just a random opinion from the author. It consists of researches, statistics and real case studies from her patients as well. The books showed that women in the society have been through a lot. Society hasn't been kind to women, and they always put so much pressure to women comparing to what men received. Not only the book fitted for all women in the world, to encourage that they are already competent enough to receive many good things, they just need to change their mindset a bit, but also Men who wanna understand how society was structured till today and why it made women so inferior, and help changing the current structure to be more equal. You don't have to read it in one go, just keep digesting a little bit by bit each day. Lastly, don't be so hard on yourself
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190 reviews5 followers
October 29, 2018
I'm filing this one away for future reference, but my quick and dirty read of this Advanced Review Copy is positive. Morin is re-treading familiar territory, but manages to put a new spin on the topic with her case studies and examples in each chapter. The book is perfectly fine in a normal straight-through read, but could also work well as individual topics for introspection or journal explorations. I also think it could work well for a reader to tackle the chapters as they apply to the individual. A reader could successfully use chapters as stand alone topics.

Profile Image for Shannon.
49 reviews8 followers
April 18, 2019
Clear, concise, well laid out, and inspirational. I got a lot out of this book.
1,186 reviews34 followers
October 12, 2018
I am a huge fan of Amy Morin’s 13 Things Mentally Strong...series and this is a great addition. Even though the list contains familiar precepts, the meat of the text is in the examples and in the sound advice. Her expertise really shines through. If anything, this book is a great reminder when unhealthy thoughts creep in.

Thanks to the publisher for the advance reading copy.
Profile Image for Erin.
223 reviews12 followers
January 28, 2019
This book was just “ok”. I didn’t have any new revelations while reading it and didn’t feel overly empowered to change my life because of it. But if this is your first “self-help” book ever, you might benefit from it more than I did.
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706 reviews3 followers
July 8, 2019
Didn’t learn anything new from this read.
Proves we have all the answers within we just need to ask the right questions.
Believe in yourself, never apologize for who you are and go balls to the wall in everything you do.
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Author 1 book157 followers
August 14, 2022
الاسم حلو ويشد
اعتقد اللون اللبني متعمد اختياره بالرغم أن المتعارف عليه أن ده لون الذكور والبينك لون انوثي وكده

بالنسبة للكتاب حسيته طويل اوووي والموضوع مش مستاهل وع كل نقطة ف أمثلة كتير لستات ناجحة ف النقطة اللي بتتكلم عنها والمجهود باين من تجميعة الاحصائيات والكتب والشخصيات اللي ذكرتها

ف المجمل لطيف بس طويل وساعات يصدع من كتر الامثلة والتفاصيل 😅
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374 reviews81 followers
May 29, 2019
I have been on a self help book kick this year, hence why I am not reading as much as I normally do, because for some reason, self help books take me longer to read. Nevertheless, I continue to read them and occasionally come across ones that seem like they were written for me.

Girl, I know there are other books that are getting way more traction and hype, but this one tops those. I struggle with a lot of self confidence issues that also play into other facets of my life/personality. This explains my newfound need to read every self help book I can find that pertains to women.

I like to think I am a mentally strong woman, but upon further self exploration, I realized I have a lot to work on. The books is broken into chapters that focus on each of the 13 things mentally strong women don't do.

1. They don't compare themselves to other people.
2. They don't insist on perfection.
3. They don't see vulnerability as a weakness.
4. They don't let self-doubt stop them from reaching their goals.
5. They don't overthink everything.
6. They don't avoid tough challenges.
7. They don't fear breaking the rules.
8. They don't put others down to lift themselves up.
9. They don't let others limit their potential.
10. They don't blame themselves when something goes wrong.
11. They don't stay silent.
12. They don't feel bad about reinventing themselves.
13. They don't downplay their success.

There are several chapters that really resonated with me and made me realize that in past relationships and friendships, I was the primary problem.

A really good book for those of you who want to better yourselves and be a more confident woman!
Profile Image for Lee Woodruff.
Author 12 books213 followers
January 31, 2019
I’ve covered this series of books before, but I found this one particularly interesting as the mother of three daughters during a time when it seems more important than ever to help women find their own voice and channel confidence that can lead to lives with more joy and meaning. OK, that was a mouthful and it sounded like shrink speak, but there is a lot in this book that’s relevant to the mature woman as well. Morin covers everything from social comparison and pressure to social media and sexism using examples from former patients and well-known figures to flesh out the anecdotes. At the end of the day the focus is on how to become mentally strong, which will only benefit everyone at the end of the day.
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289 reviews6 followers
June 13, 2019
Some helpful stuff here, but it could’ve been a quarter of the number of pages. I still gave it three stars because it addressed what many self-help type books don’t: the systems (i.e. patriarchy, capitalism) in place that create an atmosphere in which only certain types of people and personalities are held up as templates for the rest of us.
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232 reviews28 followers
May 4, 2021
☑فصل اول: آن‌ها خود را با دیگران مقایسه نمی‌کنند
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مقایسه کردن، رسانه‌ها، زندگی خانوادگی و اجتماعی، روابط، تلاش برای بهتر شدن، تبلیغات.
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کسایی که توی شبکه‌های اجتماعی اکانت دارن، تلویزیون میبینن، آدم اطرافشون وجود داره؛ همه ما:)
🤍خوندنش چه کمکی بهم میکنه؟
دیدمون رو نسبت به آدمای موفق‌تر(بهتر، زیباتر، پولدارتر و...) باز میکنه، برامون از تاثیر مقایسه بر روابطمون، سلامت روانمون و اطرافیانمون میگه، بهمون راهکار میده تا سعی کنیم کمتر مقایسه کنیم و بدونیم مقایسه درست چیه.
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☑فصل دوم: آن‌ها اصرار ندارند کمالگرا باشند
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کمالگرایی، اینکه چجوری دست و پامون رو میبنده برای پیشرفت. اینکه کمالگرایی تا یه حدیش خوبه ولی وقتی باعث میشه برای "بهترین بودن" دست بکشیم از آرزوها و هدفامون، میشه مشکل!
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کسایی که کمالگران، اونایی که از شکست و اشتباه‌کردن میترسن
🤍خوندنش چه کمکی بهم میکنه؟
دیدمون رو نسبت به کمالگرایی باز میکنه و باعث میشه متوجه شیم، ریسک کردن و بهترین نبودن، کسی رو نمیکشه(حالا شاید ریسک کردن یه جاهایی بکشه😂).

☑فصل سوم: از نظر آن‌ها، آسیب‌پذیری نقطه ضعف نیست
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اضطراب، آسیب‌پذیری، اعتماد، ترس از اعتما�� کردن، ترس از خطرکردن، قوی نشون دادن خودمون و سرکوب احساسات.
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کسایی که مشکل اعتماد دارن، کسایی که فکر میکنن همیشه باید خودشون رو قوی و آسیب‌ناپذیر نشون بدن، کسایی که گریه نمیکنن مبادا "ضعیف" خطاب بشن.
🤍خوندنش چه کمکی بهم میکنه؟
کمک میکنه بدونیم آسیب‌پذیر بودن همیشه هم بد نیست و قوی نشون دادن خودمون، همیشه به نفعمون نیست!

☑فصل چهارم: آن‌ها اجازه نمی‌دهند نداشتنِ اعتمادبه‌نفس مانع رسیدن‌شان به اهدافشان شود
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اعتماد به نفس، رابطه، اعتماد کردن توی رابطه و احساس امنیت.
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کسایی که اعتماد به نفس ندارن، کسایی که فکر میکنن باید همه چی تحت کنترلشون باشه و اونایی که مدام در حال چک کردن همسر و بچه‌هاشونن
🤍خوندنش چه کمکی بهم میکنه؟
بهمون کمک میکنه بدونیم منبع ترسمون برای کنترل اوضاع و افراد ممکنه از اعتماد به نفسمون بیاد، اگه روی اون کار کنیم، کیفیت روابط و زندگیمون بالاتر میره. علاوه بر اینا اعتماد به نفس باعث میشه بعضیا خودشون رو دست پایین بگیرن، برای همین توی شغلشون درخواست افزایش حقوق نکنن یا اصلا برای شغلی که براشون موفقیت میاره، درخواست کار نفرستن.

☑فصل پنجم: آن‌ها به همه چیز بیش از حد فکر نمی‌کنند
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انگلیسیش میشه overthinking، یعنی هی به یه مسئله‌ای فکر کنی تا جایی که توی سرت پر شه، این فکر کردن برای حل مسئله هم نیست، فقط باعث نگرانی و استرس میشه
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برای کسایی که زیادی به همه چی فکر میکنن تا کاه بشه کوه! راستی یه بخشیش درباره اینه که چرا نمیتونیم شبا بخوابیم:))) مثلا من متوجه شدم صدای فیلم یا موزیک باعث میشه صداهای مغزم قطع شن(یا کم شن) و راحت‌تر بخوابم! واسه همینه وسط کتاب خوابم نمیگیره ولی وسط فیلم میخوابم😂(البته وسط کتاب به "خواب" نمیرم وگرنه ممکنه ۵ صفحه بخونم و توی فکر باشم:))) یه اصطلاح قشنگی هم داره بهش میگن daydreaming)
🤍خوندنش چه کمکی بهم میکنه؟
عواقب overthinking رو بشناسیم. این عواقب از اونایی هم که فکرش رو میکنیم، بدتره! مثلا:
-سلامت روان رو به خطر میندازه
-مشکلات فعلی روان رو تشدید میکنه
-استقامت رو کم و دوباره‌بلندشدن برای کارها رو سخت میکنه
-باعث فلج تحلیلی میشه(یعنی نمیذاره تمرکز کنیم و مشکلات رو تحلیل و حل کنیم)
-میتونه باعث اختلالات خوردن بشه یا باعث شه بیشتر سیگار بکشید یا بیشتر الکل بخورید
-خوابتون رو جر میده:) با عرض پوزش از "فارسی سخت"ای که مجبور شدم استفاده کنم تا کلام منعقد شه:))))

☑فصل ششم: آن‌ها از چالش‌های سخت دوری نمی‌کنند
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اضطراب، ترس از خطرکردن و ریسک کردن.
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کسایی که میترسن کار جدیدی رو شروع کنن، میترسن روش زندگی دیگه‌ای رو امتحان کنن یا نمیتونن به اعتقادات و افکارشون شک کنن
🤍خوندنش چه کمکی بهم میکنه؟
تا حالا شده یه کسب و کاری رو بخواید شروع کنید و بترسید "اگه شکست بخورم، بقیه چی فکر میکنن؟" یا "ممکنه استرس بکشم پس ولش کن"؟ خوندن این بخش کتاب بهمون کمک میکنه با ترسمون برای بیرون اومدن از "منطقه امن"مون مواجه بشیم. یه قدم بیرونتر، ممکنه باعث شه موفقیت بزرگی کسب کنیم. اگه نشد چی؟ حداقل حسرتش به دلمون نمی‌مونه:)

☑فصل هفت: آن‌ها از شکستن قواعد نمی‌هراسند
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کلیشه‌های جنسیتی، سنت و رسم و رسومی که الان هم وجود داره ولی با انجام ندادنش به کسی ضربه نمیزنیم، حتی ممکنه انجامش باعث آسیبمون شه
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کسایی که میترسن خلاف جهت آب شنا کنن، میترسن با عرف جامعه مقابله کنن یا حتی برخلافش کاری انجام بدن، کسایی که با تبعیض جنسیتی سر و کله زدن و همه زن‌ها:)
🤍خوندنش چه کمکی بهم میکنه؟
کمک میکنه با دید بازتری به مسائل نگاه کنیم، قوانین بی‌فایده یا مضر رو بشناسیم و باهاش مقابله کنیم(کتاب نمیگه فلان قانون، ناحقه. فقط کمک میکنه با عقلمون تصمیم بگیریم چه قواعدی به دردمون نمیخورن)، جسارت داشته باشیم خلاف جریان شنا کنیم و چیزی که دوست داشتم راجع بهش این بود که میگفت برای شکستن قواعد، پیرو جمع نباشیم. بلکه ببینیم آیا شکستن این قانون مفیده یا فقط دارم با موج حرکت میکنم؟

☑فصل هشت: آن‌ها برای ارتقاء جایگاه خود دیگرا را پله نمی‌کنند
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شایعه پراکنی، غیبت و بدگویی، طعنه‌زدن، آزار اینترنتی، حمایت زنان از زنان، تحقیر دیگران.
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همه! همه‌ی ما تجربه این رو داشتیم کامنت بد برای کسی بذاریم. منظورم فحش دادن نیست. "چقدر زشتی"، "یکم به خودت برس"، "چقدر چاقی/لاغری" و... میتونن چندتا نمونه باشن. حتی شده پشت سر بقیه حرف بزنیم یا درمورد ظاهر و شخصیت کسی با دوستمون غیبت کنیم.
🤍خوندنش چه کمکی بهم میکنه؟
قبل خوندن کتاب میدونستم که غیبت کار بدیه، میدونستم آدمایی که دیگران رو مسخره میکنن آسیب‌دیده یا مشکلدارن، ولی با خوندن این فصل، متوجه شدم که علاوه بر اینها خود من برای آروم شدن و کاهش اضطرابم چقدر بدگویی کردم. "شاگردم خیلی خنگه" با "چقدر ایرانیا احمقن" شاید برای یه لحظه آروممون کنه ولی نتیجه عکس میده. مدام بدگفتن از رفتار دیگران فقط باعث میشه توی درازمدت این توی سرمون جابیوفته که آدمای احمق دور و برمونن و ما گیرافتادیم و بهمون حس "نارضایتی" بده‌. اونم حسی که فایده‌ای نداره.

☑فصل نهم: آن‌ها اجازه نمی‌دهند دیگران ظرفیتشان را محدود کنند
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برچسب‌ها، حس حقارت، انتقاد، ظرفیت افراد و نصیحت.
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اگه با هر انتقاد یا برچسبی دست و دلتون میلرزه، این فصل برای شماست.
🤍خوندنش چه کمکی بهم میکنه؟
کمک میکنه با دید بازتری به انتقاد و منتقد نگاه کنیم و در آخر اینکه فرای انتظارات بقیه، بر اساس ظرفیت و تواناییمون، بریم سراغ هرچی دوست داریم.

☑فصل دهم: آن‌ها خود را بخاطر اشتباهات سرزنش نمی‌کنند
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حس گناه و عذاب وجدان.
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اگه حس میکنید مسئول همه چی هستید، یا خودتون رو به خاطر هرچیزی سرزنش میکنید، برای شماست:)
🤍خوندنش چه کمکی بهم میکنه؟
کمک میکنه از حس "من آدم بدی‌ام" رها بشیم، یاد بگیریم چجوری عذرخواهی و جبران کنیم و اینکه همیشه تقصیر ما نیست. از همه مهمتر درباره تجاوز و قربانی‌نکوهی گفته که خودش فرهنگسازیه.

☑فصل یازدهم: آن‌ها سکوت نمی‌کنند
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🤍درباره‌ی چیه؟
اهمیت صدای زنان، حرف زدن و تجاوز و آزار جنسی.
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همه! مرد و زن؛ هر کی توی این دنیا زندگی میکنه!
🤍خوندنش چه کمکی بهم میکنه؟
کمک میکنه بدونیم چقدر صدامون مهمه، چقدر سکوت نکردن اهمیت داره، اینکه صدای قربانی رو نبریم! بهمون کمک میکنه که بفهمیم لازم نیست سکوت کنیم و باعث سکوت دیگران بشیم.

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تغییر، سن و سال، زندگی.
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همه! هر کسی زندگیش ممکنه دچار تغییر بشه یا باید/میخواد تغییرش بده ولی میترسه.
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کمک میکنه از تغییر نترسیم، بدونیم زندگی بالا و پایین زیاد داره و گاهی با عوض کردن شرایط یا دیدمون به زندگی، میتونیم خیلی باکیفیت‌تر زندگی کنیم.

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اعتماد به نفس، احساس رضایت و توانایی و قدرت.
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هر کسی که فکر میکنه باید خودش رو بدبخت‌تر از دیگران نشون بده و فکر میکنه این کارش به نفعشه.
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نه تنها کمک میکنه خودمون رو دست کم نگیریم، بلکه بهمون یاد میده که چقدر توی دنیای الان، برای پیشرفت و پیداکردن جایگاهمون به اعتماد به نفس نیاز داریم!
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Profile Image for Nicole.
304 reviews30 followers
December 22, 2019
13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don't Do felt so good to take in. The book encourages women to build their mental muscles so they can become the strongest and best versions of themselves, as well as create a ripple effect that will inspire others to become mentally stronger. I want to think that I'm mentally strong, but I am self-aware and know that I will always have to continue to work on myself. I felt free and a sense of relief while reading this book, as it provided great reminders of what we logically know but don't always feel. Women deal with a lot of things that men don't often realize, and we tend to have stronger senses or go through situations differently or more painfully. The book gives advice and guidance that is simple and practical in each chapter to help get passed those mental barriers.

13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don't Do:
1. They don't compare themselves to other people
2. They don't insist on perfection
3. They don't see vulnerability as a weakness
4. They don't let self-doubt stop them from reaching their goals
5. They don't overthink everything
6. They don't avoid tough challenges
7. They don't fear breaking the rules
8. They don't put others down to lift themselves up.
9. They don't let others limit their potential
10. They don't blame themselves when something goes wrong
11. They don't stay silent
12. They don't feel bad about reinventing themselves
13. They don't downplay their success
Profile Image for Lauren Hillman.
Author 1 book59 followers
May 4, 2019
It's very rare for me to find a self help book I enjoy. It's extra rare when I finish it. But I enjoyed this book a lot. But my rating is only for books in the self improvement category.

What I liked:

- Chapters each had enough anecdotes woven in to feel like a story so I could enjoy it
- Advice was simple and practical
- Statistics and factoids worked into each chapter were what really interested me - in particular because in every case there was evidence about how women are set up to fail in all these categories... it just made me think, and it made me mad, and it made me want to change, which was the whole point of this book

I'd reread this book
Profile Image for Lisa Gremillion.
56 reviews4 followers
January 15, 2020
This isn't the book I expected, but I was very much surprised and pleased with it! I never really thought I wasn't "mentally strong", but this definitely offers great tips for improving. As a mom of daughters, it made me more aware of the challenges they will encounter in their lives, challenges that I've encountered and didn't even realize they were a source of anxiety and frustration. I am so glad I listened to this book! There were times when the author was a little long-winded about a topic (that's why I only gave it 4 instead of 5)
January 28, 2019
A great book to help you navigate through life using you own gifts and powers. It also helps you to become an authentic person who has authentic relationships. I love that it is well laid out, with some great tips, in an easy to reference way. You can read this book cover to cover or reference tips along the way. I think this book is fantastic for those woman wanting to instill more confidence into daily interactions and to face challenges with some fierce and helpful techniques.
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602 reviews26 followers
February 11, 2019
I love Morin's books. I think this one is something women everywhere must read because it tackles a lot of ways women are brought up and the downsides of leaning into those tendencies. But she does so with illustrative examples and positive action items everyone can learn from. I know there are plenty of stories in this book that felt relatable and many questions I seriously want to sit down and ask myself. A great book for reflection and action.
Profile Image for Aubrey Kelley.
74 reviews5 followers
July 1, 2019
May not be a 5 star reading for everyone, but I felt like this was helpful and gave me practical tips to start big and small changes. It also helped me see and learn my own incorrect patterns or thinking, reasons why I respond the way I do and how to improve the way I think and feel. I loved the case studies and felt like I could relate to a majority of her clients and scenarios. I appreciate the authentic sharing and perspectives given in this book. 👍🏻👍🏻
Profile Image for Erin.
2,098 reviews26 followers
October 18, 2019
Really important reminders. Morin’s style is incredibly gentle and kind.
Profile Image for Pablo Reyes.
47 reviews2 followers
March 23, 2020
Leí este libro teniendo en mente a mi hija Lucía, quien tiene apenas 7 años de edad, y a mi esposa. Además, quería involucrarme de algún modo con el movimiento feminista y, particularmente, con las protestas pacíficas que miles de mujeres realizaron en México y en el mundo el 8 y 9 de marzo de 2020: primero con una marcha en las calles de Ciudad de México y, luego, con un paro de labores masivo que reclamaba una vida sin violencia en contra de las mujeres. Especialmente en mi país vemos cómo la ineptitud gubernamental, la corrupción policial y el desinterés social han normalizado el número aterrador de feminicidios.
Este libro deberían leerlo todas las mujeres. Hay tantas prácticas sociales nocivas tan arraigadas que resulta difícil despejar el cúmulo de discriminación que afecta a las mujeres. También hay dinámicas de respuesta automática que si no aprenden a estar concientes de su realidad y de su potencial simplemente las arrolla en experiencias negativas que las limitan toda su vida.
Pero también este libro lo deben leer todos los jóvenes y adultos hombres para que puedan generar mejores condiciones de vida para las mujeres y, en general, para la sociedad.
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614 reviews1 follower
July 9, 2022
3.5 stars rounded up.

"They found that the apologies that were the most effective in repairing the relationship contained the following components:

1. expression of regret
2. explanation of what went wrong
3. acknowledgment of responsibility
4. declaration of repentance
5. offer of repair
6. request for forgiveness

...If your choices have hurt someone, apologize. That won't make what you did ok, but saying you're sorry may help you and the person you hurt move forward in a more productive manner."

"Make sure that your efforts for reparations stem from remorse, not self-hatred. While some women blame themselves too much, it's also possible to be too forgiving of yourself. Denying the pain you've caused others, or minimizing the impact your mistakes have made won't help you to do better in the future. It's important to balance self-forgiveness with responsibility-taking. And keep in mind that a little bit of guilt is a good thing; it means you have a conscious and you feel bad about something you've done."

"I'm happy that it's over, but I'm sad that I didn't do it sooner. I'm angry that it happened in the first place and I'm disgusted that I live in a world where this stuff occurs."
Profile Image for Ananda Nadya.
39 reviews2 followers
August 7, 2020
Love this book beyond words. It’s probably the book where I put so much highlight on. While I don’t agree much of what the writer has said regarding gender differences (I grew up in a family where there are no strict differences in roles, for example, I was a tomboy that played video games and play with swords and robot toys all the time), this book is an eye opener for me who often doubt myself. I enjoyed reading the explanations, past research, and the case studies that the writer put to prove her point. Indeed, this book may not be for everyone (some may think that this one is a super feminist book), however, i would wholeheartedly recommend this book to all women who seek to excercise their mental strength for the better :)
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262 reviews
May 6, 2021
I listened to this on audiobook, narrated by the author Amy Morin and it was absolutely wonderful! Inspiring stories of strong women used as examples for each of her "don'ts" on the list. I recommend this for every woman. It's a hard look in the mirror and offers an opportunity for self-reflection and growth. Highly motivating!
Profile Image for Katie.
1,107 reviews7 followers
January 3, 2023
Libby audio. Vet mom rec. meh.
1) They don’t compare themselves to other people
2) They don’t insist on perfection
3) They don’t see vulnerability as weakness
4) They don’t let self-doubt stop them from reaching their goals
5) They don’t overthink everything
6) They don’t avoid tough challenges
7) They don’t fear breaking the rules
8) They don’t put others down to lift themselves up
9) They don’t let others limit their potential
10) They don’t blame themselves when something goes wrong
11) They don’t stay silent
12) They don’t feel bad about reinventing themselves
13) They don’t downplay their success
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