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Polyamorous: Living and Loving More

3.60  ·  Rating details ·  65 ratings  ·  21 reviews
A look at how people are giving themselves a choice to love another way.

“The heart is not like a box that gets filled up, but expands in size the more you love.”

Enlightened words you wouldn’t expect to hear from the computer in the movie Her, but it also rings true for humans. More people than ever are exploring the possibility of opening up their relationships — and not o
Paperback, 300 pages
Published November 17th 2018 by Dundurn Press
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Evelina | AvalinahsBooks
From the point of view of my incredibly limited (read: inexistent) knowledge about polyamory, this was a very interesting and informative read. It explains some of the histories and sociological mechanisms behind polyamory, and that the reason of it not being practiced up to basically, well, NOW, lies in the fact that throughout history, men were often allowed to have multiple partners (whether legally or not), and women almost never were. As that is now changing, as well as the understanding of ...more
Sep 20, 2018 rated it really liked it
4 stars. An interesting and informative look at polyamory's history as well as the circumstances surrounding modern polyamorous people (mainly those in Canada). Full review to come.
I received a copy through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.


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This was the first nonfiction book I read on polyamory and I felt like it touched on all the important issues that I could think of. It was a mix of personal anecdotes and statistics/legality, it addressed racism and privilege in polya communities as well as the overlap with kinky communities, and featured plenty of queer people. Bonus points for referencing Professor Marston and the Wonder Wome
Emi Bevacqua
Oct 15, 2018 rated it it was ok
Everything anyone could possibly want to know about non-monogamous relationships. I didn't realize that for some people watching pornography or having a celebrity crush constitutes poly activity or infidelity! None of this appeals to me personally at this juncture of my traditionally monogamous life, but when at times I felt at all uncomfortable with a perceived proselytizing vibe I had to stop and realize how unimaginably enraged I would feel if I were poly, or bi, or LGBT, or any other minorit ...more
Eriol Fox
Feb 03, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
A really great, accessible read. I found this book to be the perfect balance between the author's honest experience, other people's experiences via interviews and fact/news/research based information.

My only critique is as a person based in the UK I found the focus on Canada fascinating but a little difficult to apply to my country. I would urge this author and the publisher to fund the authors exploration into other countries as I'd love to see their writing on that.
Nov 27, 2018 rated it really liked it
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I got an ARC of this book.

I have read a few poly books, been openly poly for a decade now, and sexuality has always been a focus of my research. So I would say I am at least mildly versed in poly knowledge. That being said, I still learned from this book and I am incredibly thankful for the author for writing it. 

The book alternates between interviews with people who are actually poly and living in different relationship formations and engaging in di
Dec 14, 2018 rated it really liked it
Yuen's book is woven by her own personal polyamorous family life, and thankfully focuses solely on a Canadian perspective. Knowing a small number of polyfolk, and knowing anecdotally of a few more, this cross-Canada exposé on the different ways in which polyamory exists in a present day, Canadian context has been illuminating. Yuen hits all the right marks in terms of interviewing polyamorous individuals and groups and families across the country (including a sordid tale from the territories, to ...more
Sheri Courts
The book Polyamorous by Jenny Yuen is a book written by a journalist who lives with her two male partners. She explores the many faces of the lifestyle along with how it can work for some and how it does not work with people who thought it would work. She goes over topics to give the relationship the best chance of succeeding .
The topic of Polyamory is not a topic that I have a lot of knowledge about and I picked the book because I was curious . The book is very informative and gives many examp
Angel Hatfield
Dec 18, 2018 rated it did not like it
Polyamory is multiple romantic relationships with everyone’s knowledge and consent. It’s not an excuse to cheat. The author states she is not an expert on polyamory not the face of polyamory. Jenny- the author goes on to talk about her two relationships in her life> Adam who was thirty years older than she was, and Charlie who she wants to start a family with. Than there is the story of Cornelia Foss, Polyamory earliest roots were from the late 1840s to 1870s. It can be traced back to upstate
Nov 17, 2018 rated it really liked it
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Polyamorous: Living and Loving More is an in depth exploration of polyamory and all the issues that can surround these relationships. Jenny Yuen makes this topic real through her honest discussion of real relationships and real people.

Polyamorous provides a very localised look at polyamory within Canada and often times provides very detailed social and historical context about the country. Despite being Australian
Kyla Belvedere
Aug 09, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This was probably the most interesting book I have read this summer. The writing is sharp and interesting. My only critique is that I think the book in its entirety could have been better organized, either sticking with case study style by province or with subjects. As a society, we've opened our eyes to the possibilities of sexual and gender identities, and it seems to me that the next big topic for discussion is relationship structures. It has boggled my mind how many of my contemporaries have ...more
101119: this is an enlightening introduction to the concepts of 'polyamory', that is, love relationships with multiple partners. this is not 'swinging' per se, though that is one form, in fact the emphasis seems to be on close emotional bonds with several others rather than sexual openness, as consciously chosen strategy to maximize love etc in 'non-monogamous' relationships, which of course allows multiple partners in various configurations. this is not cheating. this book is basically the stor ...more
Sep 04, 2019 rated it it was amazing
An amazing reflection on our capacity to love. Yuen's writing is the perfect mix of personal and journalistic. I'd highly recommend this book if you are curious about what polyamory is.

I especially loved how it explored the realities of polyam people in Canada, something I imagine hadn't been done before or not as well as she did. Also, the author really took the time to explore the realities of polyam POC, which, from the sound of it, hadn't been done or not properly in previous, often more kn
C.R. Elliott
Sep 05, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'm always interested in memoirs and books where people talk about experiences I have heard about from a distance. Polyamorous was a mix of memoir and nonfiction in that Jenny Yuen was offering her perspective as someone who is Poly and she was also providing a broader view of the experience from an informational point of view. My preference was for her perspective, I liked the humanity of her experiences and appreciated the vulnerability of sharing that perspective rather than taking a distant ...more
Kat Drennan-Scace
Feb 01, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2019, non-fiction
This was a fairly good look at polyamory in Canada and a lot of people from many provinces were interviewed. It was interesting reading about different relationship configurations and how polyamory is portrayed in the media, etc. But it did drag in parts too and was a little academic. Overall, interesting!
Jessi Joan
Jun 05, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A good overview of polyamory for those who are new to it. Good coverage of the basics and lots of personal stories and examples. There is something for every area regarding polyamory (kids, politics, history etc).
Mar 12, 2019 rated it really liked it
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Explores peoples relationships (over time & with different variations) and brings in history and legal things (Canadian)
Feb 11, 2019 rated it liked it
I feel a need to preface this with: I am NOT interested in this lifestyle AT ALL! Haha. I just enjoy reading books about people with different lifestyles, on the fringes of society, etc. Perhaps this is why I also read a ton of true crime and psychological books.

Anyway, onto the book. I thought it was pretty interesting. It seemed to be well researched and contained a lot of statistics and stories from quite a number of people. I didn't know much about this lifestyle except for what I've seen o
Feb 09, 2020 rated it it was amazing
For some reason I thought I had already reviewed this book, but I guess I've just mentioned it a lot on the blog recently. So here is my actual review of Jenny Yuen's book.

Polyamours is a look into polyamory from the perspective of Canadian reporter Jenny Yuen.  She explores not only her own journey into non-monogamy, but also the lives of various Canadians who consider themselves under the polyamory umbrella.  What I think I enjoyed the most about this book was hearing the perspective of a woma
Jun 21, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I loved Yuen's take on polyamory and her book is wonderfully presented with real world accounts of couples who live and love their way without any reservations. A must read for those interested in an alternative to monogamy.
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Jenny Yuen is an award-winning news reporter, who covers a wide variety of local, provincial and national stories, and has written for the Toronto Sun, Now Magazine, and CBC Radio. She is a proud poly partner and has a dog named Wampa. She lives in Toronto.

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