‫بين الخوف .. والحب؛ المبادئ السبعة للطمأنينة في الحياة‬

by Brenda Shoshanna, برندا شوشانا

إذا نظر كل إنسان منا إلى حياته، سيجد أنه يعيشها بطريقة واحدة، فهل باستطاعتنا التغيير؟ في هذا الكتاب تحاول د. برندا شوشانا أن تزرع بذور الأمل في نفوسنا وسقيها بالماء، فتتحول بذلك شخصياتنا إلى حياة ملؤها الحب والحكمة. تقول في مقدمة كتابها: "لقد قيل في السابق أن لدى الإنسان إحساسين فقط، هما الحب والخوف والغريب أن أناساً كثيرين ينظرون إلى الحب على أنه شيء مخيف، بينما يطمئنون إلى المخاوف المعروفة لديهم. نحن نطمئن لمخاوفنا فهي تشعرنا بالحذر وتعلمنا أنه من الطبيعي والحكمة أيضاً أن نخاف ونكون حذرين وأن الخوف يحمينا. بينما تعلمنا أن في الحب يكمن الخطر لأنه إعطاء الثقة وتسليم النفس للآخرين، وربما يجعل منا أناساً ضعفاء. هذا هو الخوف حقاً وما يسببه من أكاذيب وإرباك لدينا".

Genres: Self Help, Psychology, Nonfiction, Spirituality

235 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2010

About the author

I am a psychologist, speaker, author and long term Zen practitoner who is dedicated to integrating the teachings and practices of East and West, and showing how to make them real in our everyday lives.

My weekly podcast is Zen Wisdom For Your Everyday Life.

Zen Wisdom For Your Everyday Life
(www.zenwisdomtoday.com)

Reviews

[دينـا · Rating 5 out of 5]

لقلما اجد كاتبا يخاطب قراءه بهذا الحب والحرص عليهم ..
يؤثر على الانسان احساسين..الحب والخوف والعجيب اننا نخاف من الحب ولا نخاف من الخوف الذي يسيطر على حياتنا فيحيلها جحيما
يطلب الكاتب منا هنا ان نضع الخوف جانبا عبر طرق عمليه وتمارين فعاله ..ان نبادر بالحب لنناله ، ان نقدم الاعذار للاخرين وندرك ان كلامهم وافعالهم تعبر عنهم لا عنا .. وان نفتح اذرعنا للحياه كي تتسرب الينا..

رائع وانصح به واسعى لاقتناءه

[سعود]

الخوف يعيش على اعتقادنا به

[Judy Croome · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have found a precious jewel in this book, but, if you have fundamental religious beliefs that you don't want challenged, this will not be the book for you. This would be a pity because, despite the heavy leaning to Buddhist philosophy, this is a book which invites a new way of being at peace even within your own beliefs.

Although some of the truisms and anecdotes are not particularly original to me (the two wolves stories, 'change is not loss, it's merely change'), they're the type of motivation which can bear repeating. In addition,this book is well structured, making the reading easy and the exercises (which are very practical) accessible.

Never judgemental, always infused with a gentle compassion for our human foibles (and an ability to laugh at the mistakes of her own journey) Shoshanna has a contemporary writing style that offers ancient wisdom in a way that helps one apply it to our modern lives.

I've been consciously practising some of the exercises since I finished the book and I've noticed how they do bring peace and an inner calm when my mind becomes restless with worry.

This book can be a life changing book if you're tired of feeling overwhelmed by negativity and fear, your own and others. I'm keeping my copy because I intend to dip into it time and time again, until the 7 principles of peace of mind become an every day part of my ordinary life. I've also ordered some difficult to get hold of copies for my family members!

[taghreed · Rating 5 out of 5]

بين الخوف ..والحب
المبادئ السبعة للطمأنبنة والحياة
للكاتبة د. برندا شوشانا
عدد صفحات الكتاب : ٢٣٨ صفحة
في هذا الكتاب تصف الكاتبه الخوف بشكل دقيق .ماهو ولماذا نتجنبه ، ثم تضع توصيات وتمارين للمواجهة الخوف
ثم تصف الحب ومبادئه السبعه لنحس بالطمأنينة وندع الخوف جانباً .
اسلوب الكاتبه سهل وجذاب للقراءة
اقتباس من الكتاب :-
-الحياة بدون خوف لا تعني أننا لن نشعر بالخوف مطلقاً .
-تعتمد المصادر السبعة للطمأنينة عَلَى قوانين الحب البسيطة . وقوانين الحب البسيطة تعتبر العقار الملائم لكل انواع الخوف . عندما نتعرف ونمارس قوانين الحب هذي فنحن لا ننمي الطمأنينة فحسب بل تذيب الخوف في الحال ، وكلما تعلمنا التخلص من الخوف استطعنا مع ذلك تنمية الحب .

[Nora · Rating 5 out of 5]

كتاب جميل جدا ؛ انصح بقراءته ؛ أسلوب واضح وبسيط.. كل مهتم بتطوير الذات يجب عليه أن يقنيه ويبدأ بقراءته وممارسة التمارين الموجوده فيه باستمرار .. هو من نوعية الكتب التي تعود لها كل مره تحتاج ذلك .. احببته جدا جدا .. كما أنه ملئ بالاقتباسات الرائعة لكثير من الفلاسفة والمتنورين ...

[YHC · Rating 3 out of 5]

Another easy reading book with many examples. The ideas are a bit scattering, but all fit to our daily life.
Basically, we should not fear to have, to lose, to mistaken, to feel, to fail...etc.
Allow what should happen to happen, allow your inner voices to converse.
Forgive, respect others means self-respect.
Love, one can not love others if one doesn't love oneself. To love unconditionally without asking feedback.
Don't fear to lose control. Control freak could ruin inner peace.
Bless others, even your enemies.

Understanding we are just the passengers of time and this space, stand firm like a mountain to let good or bad things happen without forcing yourself or others, just accept what life is giving you, enjoy that moment, pain or joy. It will eventually teach you something precious!

A very eastern meditation kind of zen book!!

[Lightwhisper · Rating 5 out of 5]

Já tinha lido o Zen e a arte de amar desta autora e não fiquei impressionada. Mas felizmente não me lembrei disso quando peguei neste livro, pois fiquei impressionada com o que ela escreveu o ressonou no meu coração e alma. Se procuram ajuda para lidar com algo e não conseguem, recomendo este livro. Se simplesmente gostam de ler sobre tudo, experimentem e deêm a vossa opinião, tenho a sensação de que vão gostar.

[Nikolina · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some people may consider this book the "recipe" that is not applicable to their own life, their own story. However, my opinion is that it's always the person's choice whether to accept the advices or not. This book offers a positive perspective that can change person's way of thinking, but it can only have the real effect if the person allows himself/herself to absorb the words, the thoughts, the advices and, in the end, the love that is given to him/her.

[Hanh Nguyen · Rating 5 out of 5]

One of my favorite books of all time about overcoming our fear and learning to live with more courage.

[Nosha Hassan · Rating 5 out of 5]

الكتاب رائع يناقش الخوف بكل صوره وأشكاله . الكتاب رحلة لاكتشاف نفسك ومخاوفك .وكنت أظن أني ليس لدي مخاوف لكن بعد قراءة الكتاب اختلف الأمر

[Bookventures Book Club · Rating 4 out of 5]

I know everyone of us experiences some related form of fear and it is for that reason that this book should be a must have for your personal library. It covers almost every issue related to fear and incorporates Zen and Buddhist teachings in each of the principles. My usual problem with self help books are that sometimes they appear to be a bit too preachy but with Fearless, I found the material to be very easy to absorb and relatable. Dr. Shoshanna is a practicing psychologist and therapist for more than twenty years and her experience can be found throughout this book. One thing worth mentioning though is that the book doesn’t not attempt to fool you by saying that you can completely get rid of your fear. On the contrary, the title is fear-less which suggests that the books seeks to help you firstly understand your fear and then manage it so that it will not take over your life.

Admittedly some of the information present in the book seems familiar and that's because we have probably read them in other self hep books. What appears to be different is the way in which the message is brought across. The lessons are well thought out and well presented and are as wise as the Buddhist and Zen teachings that are littered throughout the book.

I am by no means finished with this book. When I first read it, I did so from the frame of mind of a reviewer so my ability to completely absorb these principles was minim however I intend to read and re-read this book later on.

[Tami · Rating 4 out of 5]

When you really think about it, it is absolutely ridiculous how fear runs our lives. Stuck in the past, fearing for the future we never really live. We hold ourselves back afraid of what might happen or continually punish ourselves for things that happened. We never really allow our potential out. We can’t even see our true selves.

Books like Fearless remind us of ourselves. Somewhere deep inside we all know that trying to wear the mask and beating ourselves up just isn’t working. Still, fear keeps us locked away.

Fearless sets out seven principles that seek to help us break free of fear and allow our true selves to shine through. Inspirational. A friendly voice in the darkness of fear.

[دينـا · Rating 5 out of 5]

لقلما اجد كاتبا يخاطب قراءه بهذا الحب والحرص عليهم ..
يؤثر على الانسان احساسين..الحب والخوف والعجيب اننا نخاف من الحب ولا نخاف من الخوف الذي يسيطر على حياتنا فيحيلها جحيما
تطلب الكاتبه منا هنا ان نضع الخوف جانبا عبر طرق عمليه وتمارين فعاله ..ان نبادر بالحب لنناله ، ان نقدم الاعذار للاخرين وندرك ان كلامهم وافعالهم تعبر عنهم لا عنا .. وان نفتح اذرعنا للحياه كي تتسرب الينا..

رائع وانصح به واسعى لاقتناءه

[John Wright · Rating 3 out of 5]

For a longer term meditator not the greatest. Not because there is anything wrong with it - there is not - but just to obvious. For someone who is just coming to realize that fear might be the emotional basis for a failure to progress on a spiritual journey then an excellent introduction.

Like any self help book. It only works if you work it.

[Dario-vera Praštalo · Rating 5 out of 5]

We are all drowned in our daily obligations of an adult person that can take away our energy.To anyone who is struggling with fears and scary thoughts in life, I highly recommend this book.The way it shows our well kept soul searches is amazing.Thanks to Dr.Shoshanna Brenda,I can wake up relaxed,and enjoy a fearless life.

[Brenda Shoshanna]

A wonderful way to learn how to release fear, build fearless relationships and create authentic peace of mind. This book contains life changing exercises, guidelines, information and wonderful stories to help you reclaim your original strength and wisdom and live life to the brim.

[Jessica Ruth · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book changed my life for the better! I was in a very lost state and unsure of what my future held at the time . This book gave me some much peace. I am glad that it found its way into my heart and soul

[Charlotte Depuydt · Rating 4 out of 5]

If you're willing to look inside yourself, and be honoust with yourself, you'll recognize a lot and find helpfull exercises. Different ways to learn about yourself, one will suit you more than the other.

[Melissa]

I won this book on Goodreads Giveaways. I look forward to reading it!

[Chris Brown]

Fantastic book. I especially love the exercises. Excellent stories and very good insights on dealing with fear.

[David · Rating 5 out of 5]

....VERY GOOD BOOK..

[Mâbróukâ Sâlém · Rating 3 out of 5]

شكله مشوق .. وح نقرأه

[Mohmmaed Salahdeen · Rating 4 out of 5]

قادتني نحو التأمل وعلمتني الكثير عن ذلك الشخص الذي بداخلي ولم أعرفه لعصور