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Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

really liked it 4.00  ·  Rating details ·  29 ratings  ·  18 reviews
Strengthen and deepen your love with a fun, ingenious program of eight life-changing conversations—on essential topics such as money, sex, and trust—from two of the world’s leading marriage researchers and clinicians.
 
Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort—and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the
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Hardcover, 224 pages
Published February 5th 2019 by Workman Publishing Company
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Lorilin
Dec 26, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: arc, wellness
John Gottman is basically a love guru. He has studied thousands of relationships, and after several decades of clinical observation and study, he can predict with 97% accuracy if a couple will stay together or divorce.

I read one of Gottman’s earlier books called The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work when my husband and I were having a rough time just after we were married. It absolutely changed the way I approached our relationship, and it helped us both better communicate so we could co
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Ramona Mead
Jun 18, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: advanced-copies
I find the title and subtitle a bit cheesy and a little misleading, although the content of this book is absolutely solid. I can't wait for it to be released in physical form so I can go through it again with my husband.

I am married for the second time, as is my husband. We put a great deal of effort into our relationship and have discussed many of the topics in this book, although we certainly have not discussed all of them, or to the extent this book suggests. I wouldn't have thought to, beca
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Ann T
Feb 11, 2019 added it
Thank you Workman Publishing and. Netgalley for an ARC of this book in return of my honest review.

This relationship to anyone, those in long term relationships, Jewish relationships and even those who hope to be in a loving relationship someday soon. The book is divided in eight chapters, each one called a date. The date is relevant to a particular theme within relationships, eg trust, conflict, sex, money, spirituality. Each date includes questions and exercises to ask one another.

The book is e
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Jenny Beason Morrell
Sep 04, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I received an arc from the publisher in exchange for my review. The book consists of 8 dates ideas that couples can go on, and open ended questions they should ask to get to know each other better. The chapters also give background information on why the date topic is important. The author's suggest that couples who talk and date regularly have better relationships than those who don't. My husband and I did one of the dates and one of the questions/exercises brought out some of his preferences a ...more
Joyce Wheeler
Aug 01, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book has the potential to change your relationship for the better IF both parties can set down their pride and take advantage of it. I can see a lot of pain, reflection and understanding being processed through each of these dates but they could make all the difference. It scary to be vulnerable enough to go through these dates and it may take some prodding but the questions and topics are on point. I haven't tried these yet but I am hopeful my other half with be receptive. I suggest a pape ...more
Tara Weiss
Nov 10, 2018 rated it liked it
Nothing novel or new, but sound advice from a lot of case studies.
TrillianAstra
Jul 12, 2018 rated it really liked it
This is a great book for couples - there is a lot of really good information here! I think this book is applicable to new relationships as well as established long-term relationships. It contains helpful information about relationships as well as advice on big conversations to have with your partner.

The introduction was a bit lengthy and potentially overwhelming. It reviewed lots of data, numbers, and statistics. While helpful, this may be off-putting to a more causal reader.

Following the introd
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Siobhan F.
Nov 03, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: netgalley
3.5 stars

Review copy provided courtesy of NetGalley. Review is unbiased and reflects my personal opinion.

The premise of this relationship self-help book is that the eight conversations held within are necessary ones you and your partner should have in order to have a happy lifelong relationship. The first part of the book introduces you to the authors, the research that went into creating the exercises outlined in each chapter and different strategies for having what can be difficult conversat
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TrillianAstra
This is a great book for couples - there is a lot of really good information here! I think this book is applicable to new relationships as well as established long-term relationships. It contains helpful information about relationships as well as advice on big conversations to have with your partner.

The introduction was a bit lengthy and potentially overwhelming. It reviewed lots of data, numbers, and statistics. While helpful, this may be off-putting to a more causal reader.

Following the introd
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Lorena
Feb 05, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book shows couples how to get curious about each other and have intimate conversations that strengthen their relationship. It is appropriate for couples at any stage of relationship.

The book was easy to read with a nice mix of research-backed discussion (citations provided in the endnotes), personal stories and case studies, exercises, and suggestions for how to conduct each of the eight dates. I especially appreciated all of the examples from the authors’ own relationships. I also liked th
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Jess Macallan
Nov 04, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fiction
EIGHT DATES is another fantastic book on relationships from John & Julie Gottman. In it, they outline eight important dates every couple should explore to strengthen their relationship, learn more about each other, and spend time together. It's so easy to get stuck in a rut with your relationship when you're busy dealing with everything else in your life. This book asks you to tune back into your relationship and partner. The dates cover topics such as trust and commitment, addressing confli ...more
Meghan
Oct 30, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: library
This is the ultimate book for every couple married or not. A lot of us underestimate the significance and effectiveness of going on dates. Whether its to the movies, walks in the park or beach, or even a fancy dinner, the time you share with your significant other is very special and in one way shape or form we all take it for granted. Eight Dates provided great ideas and examples for dates to have for a better connection physically and mentally. This book is essential for all couples.

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Linda
Oct 25, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
John and Julie Gottman, therapists and founders of the Gottman Institute, have a new book to help enhance relationships and understand your partner or spouse. The Gottmans suggest eight basic conversations (dates)with your partner, addressing trust & commitment, conflict, sex & intimacy, work & money, family, fun & adventure, growth & spirituality, and dreams. Unlike some books on this topic, this one is not full of dry theories; the authors offer extremely practical advice. ...more
Reese Epston
Jan 31, 2019 rated it did not like it
I was looking forward to reading this but I lost all respect for this author upon meeting them. It's difficult to take relationship advice from a woman who goes about her day with such little emotional regulation of her own. Someone who snaps their fingers at a server, may not be the person to preach conversations for a lifetime of love.
Susan
Having been happily married for nearly 30 years, I wondered how this book would do for what I've experienced working - for the most part it's RIGHT ON! Unlike everyone else, I had a harder time with the actual eight date application suggestions, while the lengthy introduction to the effective principles was an accurate intro to the subject! Well done.
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Amanda
Jul 11, 2018 rated it liked it
The concept behind Eight Dates is solid. The book suggests 8 different conversational topics for couples to explore together.

While I enjoyed the concept and have even been working through the suggested topics with my SO, I believe these are very densely packed conversation. The book would benefit from smaller sessions, I think. There's a lot to unpack here.

That said, I think it's an excellent book for couples and would consider giving it as a bridal shower gift.

Many thanks to NetGalley, the pub
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Jennifer
Feb 04, 2019 rated it really liked it
Disclaimer: I received a free electronic ARC from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.

Drawing on his own experience of 40+ years of marriage and decades of research, including other couples married or just cohabiting, gay or straight, together long term or short term, Gottman's newest book focuses on eight crucial areas that can make or break a relationship. How couples communicate about these areas and resolve issues both before and after they arise is the main m
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Wendy
Aug 06, 2018 rated it liked it
This book is a roadmap for getting to know your partner better, no matter what stage of your relationship you are in. While many of the dates and a lot of the information presented in the text seem common sense, it doesn't mean that every couple has these important conversations. The book at time can be slightly dry but is still valuable.
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John Mordecai Gottman is an American psychological researcher and clinician who did extensive work over four decades on divorce prediction and marital stability. He is also an award-winning speaker, author, and a professor emeritus in psychology.
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