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Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space

4.16  ·  Rating details ·  591 ratings  ·  87 reviews
A funny, fact-driven, and comprehensive illustrated field guide to feminist living from the inside out by the former hosts of the hugely popular podcast Stuff Mom Never Told You and the forthcoming podcast Unladylike.

Combining the feminist issues slant of Lean In and Bad Feminist with the humor and relatability of Why Not Me? and Adulting, Unladylike is a "social justice s
Hardcover, 288 pages
Published October 2nd 2018 by Ten Speed Press
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Oct 16, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This is a fabulous guidebook that gives an overview of how patriarchy affects/infects the Western world, the history behind various movements to combat it, and how to move forward in the work of dismantling oppressive systems. It also does a great job of being intersectional, and doesn't shy away from celebrating the achievements of women of color, disabled women, and LGBT people (who are very often erased when discussing the history of feminism and activism in the US). It obviously isn't entire ...more
Jul 29, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nf-gender
I appreciate this for what it was and I did learn some things in terms of historical figures that I hadn't heard of. The rest of it was concepts that I already knew or been exposed to, but as I said, I feel like it's good to have it all in one place and I would definitely recommend it to people looking for a good essentials kit for feminism.
May 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: feminist
I taught Women's Studies for 30 years, owned a feminist bookstore for 20 years and am an avid reader, so I know little something about feminist books. This one is a must-have. People used to ask me for a recommendation of a book that captures feminism in a nutshell. As a nearly impossible request, this book comes close. It is radical in that it looks to collective action, rather than individualism; it is intersectional; it has humor and spice; and it speaks to young and old. As much feminist lit ...more
Amanda Lagerfeld
Nov 19, 2018 rated it really liked it
If you enjoy the "Unladylike" podcast; or enjoyed "Stuff Your Mom Never Told You hosted by Cristen and Caroline then you will enjoy this book completely!

Not only is it jam packed with facts and useful information but it is also aesthetically pleasing. The illustrations really set this apart from a lot of very similar books.

I have read a ton of "feminist" focused books so a lot of these was repetitive to me; but I would highly recommend this to someone looking for information on how to space the
Nov 25, 2019 rated it it was ok
Exclusively boring read! The book is comprised of statistics and history of women’s oppression throughout the last couple of centuries and dates in the most formal, dry language. It’s impersonal, which of course makes you disconnected from the narrative.
I was expecting this book to be a manual on how to survive, being a person with a vagina, but in the end it’s just the list of how they do us wrong every day. I don’t need a reminder, I fucking know all of it already. What to do with it is the q
Shelly L
Mar 20, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Patriarchy drives me crazy. When the world disregards our accomplishments, gaslights our lived experiences, brainwashes us into self-sabotaging beliefs, and drowns out our voices with insidious narratives designed to prop up the power structure, it's critical to clap back and claim space. Though the rhythm and rhyme of this book took me a while to appreciate, I'm certainly glad it exists. I recall having to read a bewildering array of source material to bushwhack and debate my way to consciousne ...more
It reads just like their podcast. And though I love their podcast it was a little off putting to have that same casual banter style in book form.
I still recommend this book though. Cristen and Caroline really covered a lot of current issues affecting women in America and their artist did a great job in depicting a very wide range of bodies and ethnicities.
Feb 07, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Content that breaks down all aspects of the female identity and gender politics, charming illustrations, and well-researched history and descriptions of current studies and past women. I've been following the authors for years now, from listening to their original podcast Stuff Mom Never Told You, and I'm a fan. I would actually give this more of a 4.5 as there were a few statements that I questioned in the book (mainly around mental health statistics between men and women and how often people r ...more
If you enjoyed the podcast "Stuff Mom Never Told You", you'll enjoy Christin and Caroline's book. In many ways it is a collection of all topics from their hit podcast, but without their personal stories or opinions. They attempt to be objective and educate their readers as they did in "Stuff Mom Never Told You." With references to themselves completely lacking until the acknowledgements, I didn't realize it was them who authored it. Now I know why I enjoyed it so much. Highly recommend the audio ...more
Julia Bever
Aug 11, 2020 rated it really liked it
This book is a good introduction to feminism. It touches on a wide range of areas that are impacted by sexism, but as an avid fan of their podcast, I was underwhelmed by the level of depth in this book. There were a lot of times in the book that I recognized an idea they were referencing because they had done a whole podcast on it (eg. Women's empowerment through bike riding) and I was craving the level of detail they give in the podcast as opposed to the quick overview in this book. I definitel ...more
Julia V
Jul 14, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2019-to-be-read
(3.75/5 Stars)If you've listened to the podcast, this book is covers a lot of similar topics. It definitely staid true to their voice. I love all the illustrations, I think they make this a really special book to own. I think this is a great gift to give any young woman who might need a little inspiration or to develop their outlook on the world. It's also good for anyone else just looking to expend their knowledge on gender politics and the history behind them.

Overall it was a bit slow, very de
Emily Mc
Apr 24, 2020 rated it it was amazing
An excellent book for ANYONE! I appreciated the well research and inspired text that felt like it broke down the giant and overwhelming realm of advocacy and intersectional oppression.
Nov 16, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: feminist, non-fiction
An excellent starting point for young women looking to know more about feminism.
Dec 03, 2018 rated it it was amazing
So great and educational.
anna hollamby
Nov 25, 2019 rated it really liked it
such a fun book! not particularly groundbreaking or new in terms of what it says but i love it nonetheless! it's staying on display on my bookshelf forever!
Melissa Smith
Nov 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This was a great book . I leaned about feminism and the patriarchy . It is a timely book .
Nov 18, 2018 rated it really liked it
The book has some great content and I think achieves its goal of serving as a feminism field guide. However, things felt a bit scattered at times and some of the infographics were logically inconsistent. I love Cristen and Caroline, but I prefer them more as podcasters than as authors.
Nov 19, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: library
This would be particularly good for people new to the intersectional feminist movement - but enthusiastic about changing the world. I knew 99% of this stuff, but it was still affirming to hear it.
Oct 29, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book is awesome. As a seasoned feminist, most of the information was familiar to me, though I did learn a lot of new fun factoids. It would make a great gift for a young feminist, or could even be used as a supplementary textbook in an intro to feminist studies class.
Dec 29, 2018 rated it did not like it
If you're going to write a book on how to be a feminist and how to be inclusive of everyone, consider what groups you have left out. There wasn't a single mention of Jewish women in this book. At. All. That's completely and totally ridiculous! Considering how much Jewish Women have done to advance all women and LGBTQ in America, the fact they haven't been included means that the probability of the authors choosing to ignore Jewish women on purpose is highly likely. Also, while Alice Walker is a ...more
Katharine Rudzitis
Oct 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Fabulous and reminds me of The Care and Keeping of You, but for incredibly important topics. I was impressed at how wide-ranging and diverse the content was. Great job and I can’t wait to see what you do next.
Ellie M
May 05, 2019 rated it really liked it
My first nonfiction book of 2019. Did not disappoint! I loved the intersectionality (this was a great improvement from all of those "Influential Women" books where 99% of them are white and/or racist). This book features information on many women of many different ethnicities, nationalities, and time periods, with descriptions on their influence in feminism.
This book reminded me of Earth Hates Me: True Confessions from a Teenage Girl in the sense that it covers pretty much everything involved. T
Apr 22, 2019 rated it liked it
I enjoyed reading about various feminists throughout history and loved the conversational tone of this. However. This was written by two white, straight cis women. Surely you can find a woman of color or lgbtq and use your platform to amplify her voice? I don’t know how you could write a book about inclusion and not include anyone who doesn’t look like you in the writing of it. It’s frustrating and feels wrong.
Dawn Cartwright
Aug 26, 2019 rated it really liked it
Essentially a feminist primer, this book is a reasonably entertaining (and sassy!) overview of current feminist Best Practices, history (perks AND pitfalls), and Next Challenges. While reading, I was considering who to recommend it to - which is... tough. Some of the history was new to me, but very little of the rest was particularly elucidating; on the other hand, some people I think could very seriously benefit from reading it likely wouldn't get over the tone, as, understandably, the authors ...more
Casey Browne
Sep 08, 2020 rated it it was ok
I appreciate this for what it was and I did learn some things in terms of historical figures that I hadn't heard of, which is a good thing! Otherwise, I'd say its a good 101 book for folks who want to get into feminism.
Here's what I liked:
- A good start if there's an area where you want to learn about, particularly if there's a marginalised group that you're not a part of (e.g. I'm not BAME so I found that part of the book useful). So it's useful to
- Like I mentioned earlier, I did learn some
Jul 23, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, feminism
There's so much info here, written in discrete sections, that you could easily imagine this sitting on the coffee table - or in the bathroom! - for constant reference. It's inclusivity is impressive - not just focusing on middle class women but women of colour, of different religions, ablebodiness, socioeconomic backgrounds, and across the LGBTQI spectrum.

It's not until you see things written down that the aha! moment happens. See "Counterproductive compliments" and "whataboutism". And I lovelo
Very much a basics to feminism 101. While loaded with all sorts of patriarchal and misogynistic factoids and slights across time to get your female (gay, or trans, or black, or Hispanic, or Asian) blood boiling, the material is all over the place. I could not discern a logical flow with the material. It was a random jumble of good to moderately interesting information. Basically, I just trudged on and gleaned what I could when I could. At the end of each section, they offered up clap-backs or wa ...more
Archita Birla
Jun 18, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
unlike many of the readers of this book, i didn't know of it via podcasts and such, i actually wanted to read it because i am a big fan of the illustrator (tyler feder!)

i really liked this book as it discusses feminism in the western (largely american) world, and how feminism has evolved. my favorite parts were the last few chapters, discussing friendship and insecurity, but i also really liked the chapter about insecurity!

i like that this book is very accurate (idk what the right word is, but i
Mar 30, 2019 rated it really liked it
This book is filled with anger-inducing facts and delightful illustrations and infographics. I knew quite a bit of this information, but there was some that astounded me. I also enjoyed learning about some awe-inspiring women. Lastly, this book is a perfect intersectional guide to modern feminism.

My only issue was that some of the conversational and slang writing was a little jarring to read. This is more of a personal irritation, but I found the use of 'wimin' kind of annoying. There are other
Jul 14, 2019 rated it liked it
AUDIOBOOK USERS - This book utilizes a pdf fairly frequently to illustrate certain points, and while this is fun for sighted people and purchasers of the book, your library copy of the audiobook might not have access to the pdf, and pdfs are not read-able by many text-to-speech screen readers, so blind readers might get annoyed as well. Generally, the book is very informative, though. The only thing I didn't like is that it didn't cover as much about trans individuals as I was hoping. I still li ...more
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