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Dear Heartbreak

3.63  ·  Rating details ·  602 ratings  ·  156 reviews
This is a book about the dark side of love: the way it kicks your ass, tears out your heart, and then forces you to eat it, bite by bloody bite. If you’ve felt this way, you’re not alone…

In this powerful collection, YA authors answer real letters from teens all over the world about the dark side of love: dating violence, break-ups, cheating, betrayals, and loneliness. This
Hardcover, 304 pages
Published December 18th 2018 by Henry Holt and Co. (BYR)
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Lola I’m not exactly sure, so don’t take my word for it, but it seems like the editor asked for letters about heartbreak from teenagers in the United State…moreI’m not exactly sure, so don’t take my word for it, but it seems like the editor asked for letters about heartbreak from teenagers in the United States, Mexico, and a few countries in Europe. Different YA authors chose letters they wanted to answer, and those letters and answers/ advice were compiled into this book. (less)

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This idea would make a great, like, project. You know. A pay it forward/start a movement/promote kindness type of deal. As a book? Eh. Not so much.

The conceit of this thing is that Heather Demetrios had a bunch of teens write a letter to “heartbreak” - like, as a concept - and then famous YA authors wrote them letters back. Except not really letters back. They just wrote some response paragraphs and then gave them to ol’ Heather and then Heather compiled them alongside the teens’ very upsetting
destiny ♡⚔♡ [howling libraries]
DNF @ pg 87

This is probably the most disappointing, upsetting DNF review I've written in all of 2018 (with the year almost over, at that), but I can't continue this.

When I requested this ARC, it was pitched to me as YA authors writing fictional stories in response to teens' letters about heartbreak—not nonfiction self-help columns, which is what I got. And there's nothing inherently wrong with that, if that's what you're looking for, but I can't stand self-help columns, so that was very jarr
Julie Zantopoulos
Sep 22, 2018 rated it really liked it
"Loving yourself is damn hard because it means accepting all the parts of you that you can't stand. it means knowing you're actually okay even though society wants you to believe that you aren't. It's downright revolutionary."

At the very core of this collection of letters from teens to Heartbreak answered by YA authors is a common thread that the power to overcome, to love, is within us already. There is a uniting message that we are more powerful and resilient than we believe we are. Each autho
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:/ <- my entire emotions towards this book

honestly i think the idea is really cool and uplifting: a bunch of teenagers send their heartbroken letters in and get these deep and emotional responses from some amazing authors

but in reality it felt like a motivation speech but on replay x17

idk if this was just me, but the letters from the authors started feeling really repetitive. they pretty much followed the exact same format, and 300 pages of that was just a lot

most of the letters were sweet and
Jay G
Jun 29, 2018 rated it liked it
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3.5/5 Stars

This is an anthology of letters real teens wrote to YA authors about heartbreak. The authors chose which letters spoke to them and wrote back to the teen with advice.

I really enjoyed this for the raw vulnerability it brought to the table. Having some of my favourite authors share their experiences with the wo
Shannon (It Starts At Midnight)
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Ironically, this book is so completely full of love. But not the kind you're thinking of. The love in this book is apparent in every single letter- it's the love the authors have for the young people they write for. It's the love they've found for themselves. And the love they hope to make their readers feel.

It's nice to find people who can understand what you're going through. It's cath
Brooke — brooklynnnnereads
3.5 stars

As someone who does not typically pick up anthologies, I was happily surprised with the stories and content that this one held. I also really liked the formatting and how it was written in the style of letters.

This anthology is directed and promoted towards young adults and teens but to me, the contents of this anthology and the advice it contains seems beneficial to many. Heck, at twenty-seven, some of the advice I appreciated reading (even if it has been told to me, time and time aga
The Candid Cover (Olivia & Lori)
Dear Heartbreak is a unique concept for a YA book. The format is an interesting compilation of letters from teens that have important questions about terms of the heart. Many of the responses written by the YA authors are surprising and provide teens with a sense that they are not alone in their feelings.

Full Review on The Candid Cover
Nov 03, 2018 rated it it was ok
Shelves: read-in-2018
First of all - don't be fooled, it's NOT a short story collection! It's more of an essays anthology, with letters from teens struggling with different shades of love, heartbreaks, loneliness and feeling of being 'not worthy' and responses from YA authors, sharing their personal stories.

Concept is really interesting, but execution is weak... Or maybe it's just not a book material? I don't know, but as much as I liked some replies (mostly for style of writing! And comparision to truffles!), I thi
Nov 12, 2018 rated it it was ok
Truly disappointed in something that I thought was going to be different in light of the fact that I adored the darkness and beauty of Demetrios' own book.

But this one was really all about the YA authors even though it was set up to be teens writing in and then YA authors responding-- really there was no teen voice if that was the attempt and really ALL about the YA authors themselves with an interspersed bit of positivity and encouragement. And taken all at once, even though it was super short
Jane (It'sJaneLindsey)
2.5 stars. I’m 100% too old and cynical for this book, but I’m not the target demographic! But still, I felt like this collection was very jumbled, and the “advice” was often so heavy handed in the “love yourself before you can expect anyone to love you ALSO you don’t need a partner to find happiness ALSO you’ll find love when it’s meant to be ALSO ALSO ALSO” variety as to be patronizing. As a former perpetually heartbroken teen, reading some of the author responses would have caused Teen Jane t ...more
Feb 16, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2018-release
The biggest problem with this book is how long it is. A lot of the letters started to feel repetitive, and I hate that. Because I understand that these letters are individuals who feel alone but putting them together, back to back, just kind of makes the reader...bored. I loved all the advice the authors gave, but there’s only so many times you can read “you need to love yourself the most” / “self-love is most important” / “you have walls up” etc etc. So while I appreciate the effort and the car ...more
Oct 08, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I thought the concept of this book was very intriguing and one that really stood out from all of the other anthologies that I’ve read in the past. However, I was less than satisfied by the execution of this book. I think some of it comes from the fact that I just didn’t really find myself able to connect with a lot of these as much as I thought I would. However, I also thought that this anthology provided an interesting opportunity into the exploration of platonic love and familial love and, rea ...more
Dec 22, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I wish I'd had this book when I was a teen. I would have loved to have known that someone else empathized; that there was life on the other side of heartbreak. That's what's great about this book. Each author takes time to address the issues in the letters not just in one paragraph but several pages in many cases. They don't just give pithy advice--they share their own stories of heartbreak in a way that the letter writers can't help but feel heard. ...more
Oct 09, 2018 rated it really liked it
I adore the concept and introduction in Dear Heartbreak. Talk about an ingenious idea. How I'd like to write multiple letters to Heartbreak. And the teens in here do just that. And the authors answer. They answer with brutal honesty, with love, and with care. Both the letters and the responses are genuine, raw, and emotional. They bleed, they cry, they rage.

full review:
Dec 26, 2018 rated it it was ok
Shelves: young-adult
Not too sure why someone thought this was a good idea
Dec 21, 2018 rated it liked it
This novel really caught my eye, the cover is gorgeous and I was intrigued by the concept however, after reading the book I was disappointed. This novel just didn't go where I was wanting it to, the advice wasn't great and I agree with some of the other reviews. Some of the authors seemed, at times, condescending and didnt give any real advice or any connection to the letter at all, just a lot of generic love yourself before others can love you answers. This book had potential and was a great id ...more
Forever Young Adult
Graded By: Mandy W.
Cover Story: Heartfelt
The Wallflower: "We Have to Be Who We Are" by Libba Bray
The Guarded: "Knock Down These Walls" by Ibi Zoboi
The Mythbusters: "Own Your Heart" by Jasmine Warga; "Life in the Friend Zone" by Varian Johnson
The Survivors: "We're Not Alone" by Kim Liggett; "Down the Rabbit Hole and Out the Other Side" by Cristina Moracho; "Love Is All, Love Is You" by Heather Demetrios and Zach Fehst
Bonus Factors: Love Yourself, Introspection
Break Glass In Case Of: A Heart That
Oct 04, 2018 rated it really liked it
Huge thank you to Raincoast for this ARC!

I always find anthologies difficult to rate, mainly because the stories in them often tend to be a mixed bag. What I loved about Dear Heartbreak, is that it isn't typical of what an anthology would be. Real teens submitted letters to "Heartbreak" and popular YA authors took the time to respond to plights. It's an interesting take on Dear Abby, that's for sure.

What I loved about this book was more the letters themselves rather than the responses. I found m
Nov 26, 2018 rated it really liked it
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Oct 11, 2018 rated it really liked it
Letters from teens about love and heartbreak, answered by YA authors. I love this book. It’s gentle and fierce and generous and raw. I love how casually these authors write; this is truly their thoughts, not as a voices of authority, but of caring, feeling people whose hearts have been through it. Lovely. (and representation! hurray!)
Taasia ✨
Jan 26, 2018 rated it really liked it
Well this was a pleasant surprise.
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2.75 stars

First off, this cover is so pretty - seriously drop-dead gorgeous kind of pretty. I'm jealous of how beautiful this over is.
This was decent, but not really what I was expecting. I thought that this would be different YA authors telling stories of their own heartbreak, but although we had small stories sprinkled in, this was more like advice, inspiration, and motivation for those dealing with heartbreak in a very
Jun 04, 2021 rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-2021
In 2017, teenagers from the United States, Mexico, and several countries in Europe (I’m assuming Lithuania was one of them, since this book was translated into the Lithuanian language) were invited to write letters to Heartbreak personified. These heartbreaking, real letters were then answered with care by nineteen YA authors, and compiled into this book.

Let me start off by saying that this was a very unique idea for a book! It’s not your typical self-help book (not that I’ve ever read one, but
DNF at 54%. Halfway through, I felt like I had been reading this forever (page/story-wise, not time-wise).

I really appreciate the intent behind this essay/letter collection, but also agree with other reviews that I read on a few points:

1) A number of authors very problematically presume/assign a teen writer gender pronouns based on their letter's description of who broke their heart. I honestly expected better from these authors - that who you love and THEIR preferred gender pronouns doesn't det
Kalyn Delillo
Dec 31, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: e-arc
Dear Heartbreak is a collection of letters from anonymous teens to Heartbreak and responses from some of today’s most popular YA authors.

When I first started reading this novel, I was really enjoying it, but by the 6th response it seemed redundant and almost like the authors were repeating the same thing time after time. The 6th response especially made me uncomfortable due to the graphic account of rape that just doesn’t seem like something you would want to reveal to a teen that is trying to
Cameron Foster
Mar 29, 2019 rated it really liked it
For the most part, this book is very eye-opening and insightful. It’s honest and opens up the stage for discussion on the darker side of love, relationships, and loneliness.
There were moments where the advice or letters felt repetitive (which is bound to occur anyway because of the subject matter), but some pieces could have been combined.
Additionally, some of the author’s responses to the letters appeared to have lost their original purpose along the way. Don’t get me wrong, it’s difficult to t
Sarah  :)
Jan 14, 2019 rated it it was ok
Teen: Dear heartbreak: you suck. I feel lonely.
Author: yeah, heartbreak does suck. At the ripe old age of 36, I have amassed all of the secrets of the universe. Before I met my husband, I dated a boy named Brad. He and i had no spark. We broke up and i cried. Not long after that, I met my husband. You will not be a loser forever, sweetie!! Get a hobby. Love yourself. Kisses - [name in cursive]
Two extra stars for Libba Bray.
Jul 25, 2019 rated it liked it
this was kind of cute kind of dark. i like the theory of the book - it’s about having teens heard and respected and responded too, it gave a point of reference to so many teens and goes to show that while we all feel so alone, there are so many people going through the same thing. i am not the target demographic, so maybe that’s why i’m not fully invested in it.
would recommend for teens everywhere though!
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Heather Demetrios is a critically acclaimed author, writing coach, and certified meditation teacher. She has an MFA in Writing from Vermont College of Fine Arts and is a recipient of the PEN America Susan P. Bloom Discovery Award for her debut novel, Something Real. Her novels include Little Universes, I’ll Meet You There, Bad Romance, as well as the Dark Caravan fantasy series: Exquisite Captive, ...more

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