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Sex and the City and Us: How Four Single Women Changed the Way We Think, Live, and Love

3.78  ·  Rating details ·  1,111 ratings  ·  190 reviews
By the bestselling author of Seinfeldia, a fascinating retrospective of the iconic and award-winning television series, Sex and the City, to coincide with the show’s twentieth anniversary.

When Candace Bushnell started writing her “Sex and the City” column for the New York Observer, she didn’t think anyone beyond the Upper East Side would care about her adventures among the
Hardcover, 256 pages
Published June 5th 2018 by Simon Schuster
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Jul 01, 2018 rated it really liked it
I was college student thousands of miles away from NYC when Sex and The City first debuted. But that didn’t matter. We were hooked. Watch parties, identifying ourselves with certain characters, falling deeply in love with NYC....it all happened because of this one little show on HBO. We would all pile in one of our apartments on those hot summer Sunday nights and watch with our eyes glued to the TV.....what fun, flirty, (hysterical!) situations Carrie, Miranda, Samantha & Charlotte would get the ...more
Jess | thegreeneyedreader
5/5 stars: I LOVED every single page in this book. If you are SATC fan, interested in how iconic shows like this one get made, or even if you enjoyed the show half as much as I did—this is the book for you!

Which SATC character do you most relate to? 🍸I think I am a mixture of Carrie and Miranda, but I always adored Charlotte!

Jennifer Keishin Armstrong (author of Seinfeldia and writer of several pop culture publications) brings us a well-written in dept look behind the scenes of a popular tv cul
I am such a big fan of Sex and the City that I still watch the reruns every chance I get. I practically know the dialogue by heart! My husband and I watched every season when the series was on HBO. So I was excited to hear that Jennifer Armstrong was writing a book about the show, especially since I loved her books on "Seinfeld"(Seinfeldia) and "The Mary Tyler Moore Show." (Mary and Lou and Rhoda and Ted).

I really enjoyed this book. It's well written and full of interesting tidbits, interviews
Jul 13, 2018 rated it it was ok
I picked this book up as I needed a lighter read after a string of heavy-hitters and something pithy enough to be able to read through the mania of a move. While overall, I guess this book is light and interesting, I was pretty disappointed as I had expected something different.

With a subtitle like "How Four Single Women Changed the way we Think, Live, and Love", I thought there would be more sociological analysis, more unpacking of the broader context of storylines through the show and how the
Jun 27, 2022 rated it really liked it
Shelves: ebook, television
i do not exaggerate when i say that i am who i am today because of sex and the city. to see four women, our carrie, our miranda, our samantha, and our charlotte, so different and yet so alike, who broke moulds and boundaries singularly and together, who taught us how to be, who introduced the concept of platonic soulmates and your girlfriends being your family, who normalised single life and everything else in between, allowed me to comfortably and unapologetically become, as carrie, miranda, c ...more
Bree Hill
Mar 19, 2021 rated it liked it
I’ve been binging an old podcast by Dolly Alderton called Love Stories and I’ve become obsessed with it! Anyway, another podcast was recommended to me called Sentimental Garbage based off my listening to Dolly Alderton, and I learned they are currently recapping the seasons of Sex and the City so I began listening to the season 1 episode and this book was recommended. I listened to it within a few hours. It’s an interesting behind the scenes look into how the iconic show came to be and what made ...more
Heather Fineisen
Jun 14, 2018 rated it really liked it
Sex and the City was one of my all-time favorite shows so I would guess I am the perfect reader for this book. Armstrong provides an interesting story from the beginning of the series through the two somewhat sad movies. I haven't seen the second movie but I will take her well informed word for it. I wish Armstrong would have included more personal anecdotes as the introduction was written. That said, the writers and their stories of coming up with plots made up for it and I enjoyed reliving som ...more
Claire - The Coffeeholic Bookworm
I was a big fan of Sex and the City. Carrie Bradshaw was my ultimate fashion muse and her friends were definitely #squadgoals (my favorite character was Charlotte, though). It was interesting to read this new book by Jennifer K Armstrong. Learning about the back story of Candace Bushnell and the author herself, plus the back stories of the fabulous characters and men and women behind the hit TV show was such an honorific opportunity.

It was great to reminisce about TV's prime and staple show, tha
I loved Sex and the City (still do!) so was excited to listen to this. Although it revealed very little that I didn't already know, it was a delicious romp down memory lane and I loved reliving the various scenes, characters, and, of course, outfits! One aspect that was super interesting was how hard it ended up being for the female writers to get dates. Because of course most normal guys would be a tad wary about dating someone who wrote for that show. All in, a super fun read/listen. ...more
Aug 25, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, 2018
Like many who were too young to watch Sex and the City when it premiered, I was introduced to it in college. My friends and I would sit and watch DVDs from a box set as we were still figuring out our adult identities of ourselves. Sometimes we would watch it too when we had big life change, such as life changing break-ups, because Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte seemed like women in our group of friends. As talked about in this book, and for anyone who's a fan of the show, you always see ...more
Jul 15, 2018 rated it liked it
This felt more like a book I would have been assigned in one of my media courses in college than something for a fan of the series to read for fun. Even though the author had access to much of the cast and crew, it just didn’t feel intimate in any way. “Clinical” is the word that keeps springing to mind. It did make me want to watch the series again though!
Aug 04, 2018 rated it really liked it
I watched Sex and the City on DVD long after the series was over so I wasn’t really invested in the series but found it fun to watch. I found this book quite interesting and a quick read but it also has quite a bit of heart.
Nov 07, 2019 rated it it was ok
You'd have to be a pretty big fan to enjoy this book. I am, so I did read it through, but I definitely skimmed parts. The book details how the show got off the ground, how the creative minds came together to write and produce the show, where the writers got all of the ideas, how the costumer played in, that sort of thing. There is really no point to the book... ...more
Jamie Jones Hullinger
Obviously a love for SATC is a must. Is it the best book ever written no. It is a must read for fans? Abso-fucking-lutley. See you have to be a die hard fan for that one. It was fantastic to rekindle my love for the show and all it generated.
Sep 04, 2019 rated it really liked it
I loved SATC! As a poor college student I didn't have HBO and didn't see an episode until a friend invited me over for a SATC watch party. I'll never forget my first episode! La Douleur Exquise. They had me at Rick9Plus and BigTool4U. Right after Season 6, I had the great pleasure of going on a SATC tour bus, enjoying The Pleasure Chest, cupcakes in front of Magnolia (where we were had Buttercup cupcakes (read p. 135), and a cosmo at the bar that stood in for Steve's bar.

Reading the origins of C
Mandy Bouchard
Nov 04, 2018 rated it liked it
As a lover of SATC was super excited to find this at the library. While I enjoyed a good majority of it, there was also quite a bit of it I found dry, or more of a litany of names rather than interesting insight into how this show shaped a generation of women. The author tried to go chronologically but it seemed more like the timeline of the show interspersed with the author trying to make various social connections to the show. I still enjoyed and would recommend, maybe just had too high expect ...more
Melissa Orlando
Jun 27, 2018 rated it really liked it
I DEVOURED this book. I’m curious as to what was edited out, as I just wanted more. It opened up so many interesting topics of discussion, particularly to do with race and bisexuality in pop culture, to what it means to be a modern feminist. I wish the author was given free reign to delve even deeper into these discussions. And I could be in the minority, but I’d read an encyclopedia of SATC episode breakdowns, outfit choices, and discussions by cast and crew. (Also reluctantly admit: my friends ...more
Sep 02, 2018 marked it as did-not-finish
Shelves: non-fiction
I was expecting this to be different. It was more about the writer than the show, and didn't hold my interest. I didn't read enough to feel comfortable rating this.

received ARC from Netgalley
Maria Anneliese
Sep 26, 2021 rated it really liked it
Shelves: arc, nonfiction, 2021
I got an advance copy of this back in 2018 and sat on it for no particular reason--just getting distracted by newer, shinier books probably. Plus I don't read a lot of nonfiction so it just wasn't the first thing I thought of when looking for my next read. I started this maybe a week ago, just days before the news that Willie Garson passed away, so my reading has eerily coincided with his public mourning and sudden wave of nostalgia for the series.

But reading this book will trigger nostalgia for
Melissa Hartfiel
If you're a fan of Sex and the City (and I am) then this is a very enjoyable behind the scenes look at this iconic show that you can whip through in an afternoon or two at the beach. Armstrong starts right from the very beginning covering off how the show came to be and follows it through it's six seasons, two movies and how it has influenced television and film that's come after it.

Having just re-watched the entire series from start to finish and seeing it through very different eyes than I di
Janelle Janson
Thank you so much Simon and Schuster for providing my free copy of SEX AND THE CITY AND US by Jennifer Keishin Armstrong - all opinions are my own.

I am a forever fan of Sex and the City so this book was a definite must read for me! With the fabulous backdrop of New York City, Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha have provided hours of entertainment, humor, insight, and valuable girl talk that I stayed up late into the wee hours of the night binge-watching. This is a retrospective, detailed b
Diane Hernandez
Jun 03, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: netgalley
Detailed look at the making of Sex and the City.

What adult or teen American woman has not seen themselves as a Carrie, a Miranda, a Charlotte or a Samantha? Sometimes all four in the course of a week. Sex and the City’s characters became the new archetypes of a generation as The Breakfast Club had for the prior era. Watching Sex and the City now, it seems almost old-fashioned in our gender-fluid racial-diverse millennial culture where tiny houses and recycling are fashionable and conspicuous con
Mar 08, 2018 rated it really liked it
I received this book from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. From the title of this book, I was expecting it to be the authors journey through Sex and the City and how it influenced her life. It does start out this way but quickly becomes a biography of the show with some cultural references thrown in. Saying all that, I really enjoyed this book; I enjoyed reminiscing about a show I was addicted to 15 years ago and getting to see how this show influenced a generation of women. I also li ...more
Maureen Forys
Jun 10, 2019 rated it really liked it
This was a fun book!

I’m not a super fan but have ended up watching this show a lot over the years and seen the profound influence it had over what was stylish and popular in my middle and high school years. Name plate necklaces, cupcakes, fendi, etc. Not to mention “he’s just not that into you.” The sage dating advice book that served me well.

This book had a great blend of tell-all, behind the scenes insight and sociological perspective. A low intensity read for anyone who watched the show in i
Michelle Ruiz Andrews
May 14, 2018 rated it really liked it
This book doesn’t break a ton of new news about SATC, but I still think it’s a must read for fans (and fanatics) like me for the way it tells the comprehensive, beginning to end story of the show and its pop cultural impact. I was especially into the beginning of the book, which dove in to Candace Bushnell’s column, how it morphed into the show and the initial stodgy and super sexist critical reception (by mostly male critics!) Abso-fucking-lutely a treat!
Rachael | booksforbrunch
Oct 03, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: nonfiction
It's obvious that this is a book for any and all Sex and the City fans. I learned a lot more than I thought I would! The most exciting chapters for me were learning the process of developing the column/book into a show, how far mediums will bring a story, and what is the best way to tell it. It was especially interesting hearing about the sets and writing of each episode. As a writer, I benefited from hearing about the joint effort a show like SATC requires and how these talented people helped s ...more
Katie T
Jan 01, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I had to fight the urge to shelve this on my "fluff" shelf, reminding myself that just because it's about women and has a hot pink martini glass cover doesn't mean it can't be a serious book. It is fun, but what drove me to give it 5 stars was that the author talks about the context of the show - how it reacted to events (e.g. 9/11); how the show was perceived at the time; and some failings of SATC.

Jul 29, 2019 rated it liked it
This was enjoyable and a nice nostalgic walk through the show. I liked reading about the creative process but most of the book is just fan service, nothing too deep. I did find it interesting to see how many critics panned it, I understand some of the gripes about the lifestyle and the lack of diversity but some of it feels vaguely mysogynistic when I don't remember male-centered shows getting panned for violence and sex. ...more
Dec 15, 2021 rated it really liked it
Having binged the series a third time in prep for its reboot, I felt now was the time to pick up this journalistic review of the series’ impact on American culture. This is a fizzy walkthrough of how the show was conceived and written, and how its meteoric rise in the zeitgeist affected how society views relationships and sex today. Fun anecdotes add to the fun. A must for any SATC fan.
Feb 23, 2018 rated it it was ok
I'm a huge fan of Sex and the City. I just recently watched all the seasons over a few months.
As for this book, not a fan.

Thank you to author, publisher, and Netgalley for the chance to read this book.
While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it.
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Jennifer Keishin Armstrong is the New York Times bestselling author of Seinfeldia; Mary and Lou and Rhoda and Ted; Pop Star Goddesses; When Women Invented Television; and Sex and the City and Us. She spent a decade on staff at Entertainment Weekly and has since written for many publications, including BBC Culture, The New York Times Book Review, Vice, New York magazine, and Billboard.

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