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Someone I Used to Know

4.31  ·  Rating details ·  477 ratings  ·  156 reviews
TRIGGER WARNING: Boys will be boys is never an excuse.

It’s been two years since the night that changed Ashley’s life. Two years since she was raped by her brother’s teammate. And a year since she sat in a court and watched as he was given a slap-on-the-wrist sentence. But the years have done nothing to stop the pain or lessen the crippling panic attacks that make her feel
Paperback, 384 pages
Published August 7th 2018 by Sourcebooks Fire
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(Bern) Mom to 2 Posh Lil Divas
Jul 14, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: ya-books, netgalley, 2018
Someone I Used to Know offers an honest & difficult look at the traumatic effects on life & family after sexual assault

It's really difficult to review a book like this. Rape is NOT an easy topic to think about, discuss or read about. It's also not an easy topic to write about Patty Blount has my respect and due credit for this book. Sexual violence permeates our culture at alarming rates so it is a topic we need to be aware of. Did you know that every 98 seconds an American is sexually
what an amazing fucking book, i'm so shook right now.

this book made me so angry (in a very good way) to the point where i was actually fucking shaking and trying to control myself like akcnjdjcn what a fucking moving and impactful book

Ashley's story is brutal, real and honest. patty blount doesn't sugar coat shit and that is so fucking important.

Its currently 2 am and i really need sleep so I'll make a quick list about why this book is fucking awesome.
-rape is never the victims fault. Stop bl
may ❀
book #5 done for the contemporary-a-thon under the challenge of: a dark/emotional/hard-hitting contemporary ✔

just like patty blount's previous book, Some Boys, this book is phenomenal

reading books on the topic of rape culture is always so painful but my goodness, is it so bloody important.

- patty blount's writing is raw and gripping. you feel the characters pain, you feel their inner dialogue, you feel their self loathing. for the most part, she intertwines her main message with the overall pl
An innocent young girl is raped as part of a demented game, her life twisted into a mangled parody of normal and society is guilty of continuing the emotional and psychological deed in ignorant or self-righteous bliss. One family devolves into a quagmire of devastation, rage and unconsciously mimics society’s callous opinion that boys will be boys, while passing judgment on a fourteen year old girl’s “guilt.” It will take two long and painful years for the complete implosion and now the question ...more
Sometimes when I read a really great book in a certain genre or about a particular subject matter, I just want to keep reading more books like it.

That's how I felt right after finishing The Female of the Species. It was a look at contemporary rape culture in a pretty jacked up way, and it sorta led me to this book.

This one was. . . okay. We get a really good look at the aftermath through the eyes of the MC Ashley, and her character was fantastic.

I liked the idea of throwing in the fallout of
Aug 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Two years ago, Ashley Lawrence, a freshman in high school, was raped by a senior football player during Homecoming week. Since then, it has driven a wedge between her and her brother, Derek. They were once very close, but now Ashley hates him and can’t even stand to look at him. Derek is carrying around his own guilt about the night of the rape and feels partly responsible for what happened to Ashley. With both Ashley and Derek at odds, the rest of their family is feeling the strain. Can Ashley ...more
Aug 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I voluntarily read and reviewed an copy of this book. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
Thanks to the author for providing a copy of this book via Netgalley

NO means NO

Harassment and mysoginistic jokes are not funny

This is powerful read. I wish this kind of books they studied at school. We need this books to change our rape culture.

I'm a new fan of this author. It's my second book but I'm looking for read more.

I loved everything about this book: the plot, the family dinamics, MCs and SCs, auth
PinkAmy loves books, cats and naps
***Thanks to NetGalley for providing me a complimentary copy of SOMEONE I USED TO KNOW by Patty Blount in exchange for my honest review.***

I wish I didn’t have to write this review. I’m a Patty Blount fan and preordered SOMEONE I USED TO KNOW as I do all her YA novels. When I received notification that I was approved for an ARC, I was so excited.

Blount’s writing is as appealing as ever. I love how she strings words together with beauty and ease. Initially, I was drawn into Ashley’s fears and pai
I can sum up my review of this book with two simple words of advice to you, "Read it!" You really don't need to read more of my review than that, but I'll still write more to let you know why those two words....

This is an emotive story, dealing with the past and present relationships particularly between a brother and sister, Derek and Ashley, and most especially after she was raped by her brother's friend and teammate. It is a heart wrenching story portraying the feelings of guilt, betrayal and
Adele Shea
Jul 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I'll be honest when I say this, I don't think any review I give Someone I Used To Know would be able to do it justice.

No one wants to read or talk about rape but it must be done to bring awareness wherever and as much as possible.

Rape does not just affect the victim it affects the people around the victim, their family and friends. This book hits on this and really brings it home.
Sep 08, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A powerful and moving book that puts misogyny and rape culture under a microscope, and observes the devastating effects of rape and sexual assault on not just a survivor, but their loved ones as well.
Blodeuedd Finland
Aug 10, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audiobook, fiction, ya
This one was hard listening at. I just wanted to rage against the world! But it is a book that you have to listen to/read. Even better, a book to read at school and discuss.

The book takes place in the present, but also in the past, 1 year ago, 2 years ago, and sometimes we go further back to look at the relationship between brother and sister, best friends, and where it went wrong.

2 years ago Ashley was raped. It was her brother's teammate, and someone she liked. That is also when she started to
Aug 08, 2018 rated it liked it
**You can see this full review and more at Book Briefs:**
Someone I used to Know by Patty Blount is a young adult contemporary novel that deals with a serious issue. Someone I used to Know looks at the aftermath of dealing with your life after a sexual assault. One of the things I admire most about author Patty Blount is that she is not afraid to deal with tough issues. Someone I used to Know is not a fun read by any stretch of the imagination, nor is it a light, breezy sto
Kate (beautifulbookland)
Jul 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: net-galley, 5-stars
This is not an easy book to read; there were times where I felt so angry, so sad and horrified because while the characters in this book are fictional, the subject matter is not. Rape is something that so many people experience, and it doesn’t only affect the people who were attacked, it can tear apart families, ruin friendships and relationships.

Someone I Used to Know touches upon all of this, and more - rape culture is dissected, toxic masculinity is explored, and all of it is so powerful tha
Kiki Cole
Aug 22, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I love Patty Blount’s novels so much. They are so real and don’t sugarcoat anything. This was a sort of sequel spinoff of Some Boys which both involve rape culture and overcoming hate and rediscovering their self. I thought this book was so touching and I felt exact emotions that were described in the novel. One chapter had me wanting to get out of my bed, grab a blow horn and just shout how wrong certain things in this world are. This is also a very good gender neutral novel because it has both ...more
Aug 16, 2018 rated it really liked it
Copy courtesy of NetGalley

Book hangover of note

**Warning: this novel is a tear jerker of the not-pretty-crying kind.**

Rape is not a socially acceptable topic, but it's been highlighted in many books, as it should be! The way this author presented the subject was brilliant - victims, their families and their communities are vastly impacted when sexual assault occurs and this book provides amazing insight into every aspect affected.

The writing style ensured that you are captivated from the outset
Rebecca Akins
Sep 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: best-of-the-best
TRIGGER WARNING: Rape & Anxiety Attacks

Wow, this was a powerful book. To be honest, I wasn’t sure about this book at the beginning it has a lot of back-and-forth with the timeline, and I kept getting pulled out of the story at the beginning, but I’m so glad that I continued with it. In this book, we follow two different perspectives the first one is of a girl, Ashley, who was raped two years ago and is still dealing with the trauma of the event. The other point of you we get is her brother D
Erica Chilson
I received a copy of this title to read and review for Wicked Reads

5 Riveting Stars

Young Adult age-range: 14+ plus due to content.

To be honest, I'm not entirely sure how to review Someone I Used to Know. The novel is a journey showcasing rape culture, done so with intelligence and maturity, yet written in an age-appropriate manner befitting the narrators. The author left no stone unturned, revealing every facet from just about every angle.

Multilayered, told far in the past, two years ago, on
Jul 19, 2018 rated it liked it
I found this book to be very interesting and very different than what I was expecting and what I'm used to. This book is all about our main character Ashley. She was raped before this book even takes place by her brothers friend. This book is all about the aftermath of the assault and how it affects everyone involved. I really enjoyed it because I liked how sad it was, everyone telling Ashley that she should get over it because it happened years ago and they need to stop punishing the other boys ...more
Jannin (The Booknerd Dragon)
Jul 18, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: arc, reviewed
***I received an ARC of this bookvia Netgalley in exchange of an honest review. This does not influence my review in any way.***

Disclaimer: I was triggered when I read this book. And because of that, I cannot guarantee that this book will be “curse-free”. If you are uncomfortable reading curses, I apologize in advance. This book has a sensitive topic, which is rape. If you are uncomfortable talking about that too, you are free to not proceed and read the review. Please read at your own risk.

Julie Parks
Aug 06, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: ya
Thank you NetGalley for introducing me to Patty Blount. She's a wonderful writer and most of her books will now end up on my TBR list.

SOMEONE I USED TO KNOW was a heavy read. I think the message is strong and it's good to fight this cause. But you need insides to get through a whole length of a book on the subject of rape.
Bookworm LLC
Mar 05, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: cindy-bookshelf
Someone I Used to Know is a story about a gal who was raped by her brother's football teammate and how it has affected not only her life but the life of her entire family. It shows you how the family dynamics are affected and how this family really struggles on how to help their daughter and sister. Very compelling and thought provoking.
Apr 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing
A blistering deconstruction of rape culture shown through the dissolving connection of two siblings post sexual assault. Timely, visceral and devastating, while ultimately hopeful.

Thank you to Edelweiss and Sourcebooks Fire for the ARC.
Mar 25, 2018 rated it really liked it
A must read for everyone about rape culture and toxic masculinity.
Aug 29, 2018 rated it really liked it
Smashing the patriarchy, one Pinterest board at a time!

(Full disclosure: I received a free e-ARC for review through NetGalley. Trigger warning for rape, obviously.)

“Ms. Lawrence,” he says, taking off his glasses. “I understand how you feel—”
“Really?” I snap back. “How did you get over your rape?”

"The reason men like Ariel Castro and Elliot Rodger and Aaron Persky exist is because men like us never called them out on their bullshit the first time they showed it.”

THEN: Ashley Lawrence and her old
Brandee (un)Conventional Bookworms
This book. This book is profound, touching, thought-provoking, heartbreaking, heartwarming, and should be required reading...for everyone.

Every once in awhile a young adult book comes along that is so profound I want to shout from the rooftop about its greatness. Someone I Used to Know is such a book. Revolving around rape culture in America, it depicts the impact of rape on the victim, the victim's family, and the community. Blount did this in a way that was relevant, meaningful, and packed
Leslie aka StoreyBook Reviews
This is a powerful book that takes a look into the life of a victim and her family after a rape. We all may know someone that has been a victim (or perhaps it is you?) and that we could never fully understand what that person went through before, during, or after the incident. And it doesn't just affect the victim, it affects the family as they help the victim work out their fears regarding the incident.

There are so many good things to write about this book it is hard to know where to start. I t
Sydney (sydneysshelves) West
I’m here today with another book review. Today’s book review is for Someone That I Used to Know by Patty Blount which came out August 7th. I got my copy for free from netgalley for an honest review. So Thanks Sourcebooks! Let’s dive into what I thought.
The plot follows two main characters. The first being Ashley , who was raped two years ago. The second pov is her brother Derek. The plot delves into rape culture and just the way we as a society stand by and do nothing in the face of rape charge
Cristina Marie
Jan 11, 2019 rated it it was ok
This story is mostly about the conflict between two siblings, Ashley and Derek. Though it takes place two years after Ashley was raped by Derek's football teammate Victor Patton, the effects of the trauma have affected their family. Now why is there conflict between Ashley and Derek? Well, Derek had tried to get Ashley to hate him, and succeeded because of his disgusting reactions to what happened to her. His horrible mistakes completely seperated them.

Okay, I don't want to spoil too much about
Jul 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2018, arcs
[Arc provided by NetGalley in exchange for an honest review!]

To be honest, I don’t know how to feel about this book. Even now after I finished it. It’s a good book, but there are some small personal issues I had with it that don’t affect the overall message of the novel, and they didn’t affect my overall opinion/rating either. And honestly, if I was talking about my favorite things about this book, then this is going to be a LONG review. (And I don’t really know how to talk about the things I l
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Patty Blount grew up quiet and a bit invisible in Queens, NY, but found her voice in books. Today, she writes smart and strong characters willing to fight for what’s right. She’s the award-winning author of edgy, realistic, gut-wrenching contemporary and young adult romance. Still a bit introverted, she gets lost often, eats way too much chocolate, and tends to develop mad, passionate crushes on f ...more
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