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Someone I Used to Know

4.30  ·  Rating details ·  1,034 ratings  ·  221 reviews
TRIGGER WARNING: Boys will be boys is never an excuse.

It’s been two years since the night that changed Ashley’s life. Two years since she was raped by her brother’s teammate. And a year since she sat in a court and watched as he was given a slap-on-the-wrist sentence. But the years have done nothing to stop the pain or lessen the crippling panic attacks that make her feel
Paperback, 384 pages
Published August 7th 2018 by Sourcebooks Fire
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Jul 14, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: ya-books, netgalley, 2018
Someone I Used to Know offers an honest & difficult look at the traumatic effects on life & family after sexual assault

It's really difficult to review a book like this. Rape is NOT an easy topic to think about, discuss or read about. It's also not an easy topic to write about Patty Blount has my respect and due credit for this book. Sexual violence permeates our culture at alarming rates so it is a topic we need to be aware of. Did you know that every 98 seconds an American is sexually assault
what an amazing fucking book, i'm so shook right now.

this book made me so angry (in a very good way) to the point where i was actually fucking shaking and trying to control myself like akcnjdjcn what a fucking moving and impactful book

Ashley's story is brutal, real and honest. patty blount doesn't sugar coat shit and that is so fucking important.

Its currently 2 am and i really need sleep so I'll make a quick list about why this book is fucking awesome.
-rape is never the victims fault. Stop bl
may ❀
book #5 done for the contemporary-a-thon under the challenge of: a dark/emotional/hard-hitting contemporary ✔

just like patty blount's previous book, Some Boys, this book is phenomenal

reading books on the topic of rape culture is always so painful but my goodness, is it so bloody important.

- patty blount's writing is raw and gripping. you feel the characters pain, you feel their inner dialogue, you feel their self loathing. for the most part, she intertwines her main message with the overall pl
An innocent young girl is raped as part of a demented game, her life twisted into a mangled parody of normal and society is guilty of continuing the emotional and psychological deed in ignorant or self-righteous bliss. One family devolves into a quagmire of devastation, rage and unconsciously mimics society’s callous opinion that boys will be boys, while passing judgment on a fourteen year old girl’s “guilt.” It will take two long and painful years for the complete implosion and now the question ...more
Sometimes when I read a really great book in a certain genre or about a particular subject matter, I just want to keep reading more books like it.

That's how I felt right after finishing The Female of the Species. It was a look at contemporary rape culture in a pretty jacked up way, and it sorta led me to this book.

This one was. . . okay. We get a really good look at the aftermath through the eyes of the MC Ashley, and her character was fantastic.

I liked the idea of throwing in the fallout of
Aug 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Two years ago, Ashley Lawrence, a freshman in high school, was raped by a senior football player during Homecoming week. Since then, it has driven a wedge between her and her brother, Derek. They were once very close, but now Ashley hates him and can’t even stand to look at him. Derek is carrying around his own guilt about the night of the rape and feels partly responsible for what happened to Ashley. With both Ashley and Derek at odds, the rest of their family is feeling the strain. Can Ashley ...more
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***Thanks to NetGalley for providing me a complimentary copy of SOMEONE I USED TO KNOW by Patty Blount in exchange for my honest review.***

I wish I didn’t have to write this review. I’m a Patty Blount fan and preordered SOMEONE I USED TO KNOW as I do all her YA novels. When I received notification that I was approved for an ARC, I was so excited.

Blount’s writing is as appealing as ever. I love how she strings words together with beauty and ease. Initially, I was drawn into Ashley’s fears and pai
Aug 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I voluntarily read and reviewed an copy of this book. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
Thanks to the author for providing a copy of this book via Netgalley

NO means NO

Harassment and mysoginistic jokes are not funny

This is powerful read. I wish this kind of books they studied at school. We need this books to change our rape culture.

I'm a new fan of this author. It's my second book but I'm looking for read more.

I loved everything about this book: the plot, the family dinamics, MCs and SCs, auth
Kate (beautifulbookland)
Jul 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: net-galley, 5-stars
This is not an easy book to read; there were times where I felt so angry, so sad and horrified because while the characters in this book are fictional, the subject matter is not. Rape is something that so many people experience, and it doesn’t only affect the people who were attacked, it can tear apart families, ruin friendships and relationships.

Someone I Used to Know touches upon all of this, and more - rape culture is dissected, toxic masculinity is explored, and all of it is so powerful tha
Adele Shea
Jul 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I'll be honest when I say this, I don't think any review I give Someone I Used To Know would be able to do it justice.

No one wants to read or talk about rape but it must be done to bring awareness wherever and as much as possible.

Rape does not just affect the victim it affects the people around the victim, their family and friends. This book hits on this and really brings it home.
I can sum up my review of this book with two simple words of advice to you, "Read it!" You really don't need to read more of my review than that, but I'll still write more to let you know why those two words....

This is an emotive story, dealing with the past and present relationships particularly between a brother and sister, Derek and Ashley, and most especially after she was raped by her brother's friend and teammate. It is a heart wrenching story portraying the feelings of guilt, betrayal and
Sep 08, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A powerful and moving book that puts misogyny and rape culture under a microscope, and observes the devastating effects of rape and sexual assault on not just a survivor, but their loved ones as well.
Noah Crocker
Apr 11, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I have many feelings after reading this book, ranging from anger/outrage to despair. "Someone I Used to Know" is a book about sexual assault, and the lasting effects upon the victim and their family. What horrifies me, is that while reading this book, I felt like I was reading a dystopian novel, one about a twisted and cruel future. But that's just the thing; what's going on in this book is happening all the time, all over the world. Right now.

While reading this book, I felt like it was talking
Blodeuedd Finland
Aug 10, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audiobook, fiction, ya
This one was hard listening at. I just wanted to rage against the world! But it is a book that you have to listen to/read. Even better, a book to read at school and discuss.

The book takes place in the present, but also in the past, 1 year ago, 2 years ago, and sometimes we go further back to look at the relationship between brother and sister, best friends, and where it went wrong.

2 years ago Ashley was raped. It was her brother's teammate, and someone she liked. That is also when she started to
Aug 08, 2018 rated it liked it
**You can see this full review and more at Book Briefs:**
Someone I used to Know by Patty Blount is a young adult contemporary novel that deals with a serious issue. Someone I used to Know looks at the aftermath of dealing with your life after a sexual assault. One of the things I admire most about author Patty Blount is that she is not afraid to deal with tough issues. Someone I used to Know is not a fun read by any stretch of the imagination, nor is it a light, breezy sto
Aug 16, 2018 rated it really liked it
Copy courtesy of NetGalley

Book hangover of note

**Warning: this novel is a tear jerker of the not-pretty-crying kind.**

Rape is not a socially acceptable topic, but it's been highlighted in many books, as it should be! The way this author presented the subject was brilliant - victims, their families and their communities are vastly impacted when sexual assault occurs and this book provides amazing insight into every aspect affected.

The writing style ensured that you are captivated from the outset
Becca Akins
Sep 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing
TRIGGER WARNING: Rape & Anxiety Attacks

Wow, this was a powerful book. To be honest, I wasn’t sure about this book at the beginning it has a lot of back-and-forth with the timeline, and I kept getting pulled out of the story at the beginning, but I’m so glad that I continued with it. In this book, we follow two different perspectives the first one is of a girl, Ashley, who was raped two years ago and is still dealing with the trauma of the event. The other point of you we get is her brother Derek
Erica Chilson
I received a copy of this title to read and review for Wicked Reads

5 Riveting Stars

Young Adult age-range: 14+ plus due to content.

To be honest, I'm not entirely sure how to review Someone I Used to Know. The novel is a journey showcasing rape culture, done so with intelligence and maturity, yet written in an age-appropriate manner befitting the narrators. The author left no stone unturned, revealing every facet from just about every angle.

Multilayered, told far in the past, two years ago, on
Suzy Seerden
Mar 13, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: sobbing, favorites
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Diane Merritt
Sep 04, 2020 rated it really liked it
Such an important book to be written. On such a hard subject. Was more YA than I thought it was going to be. But I tackled it perfectly
Jul 19, 2018 rated it liked it
I found this book to be very interesting and very different than what I was expecting and what I'm used to. This book is all about our main character Ashley. She was raped before this book even takes place by her brothers friend. This book is all about the aftermath of the assault and how it affects everyone involved. I really enjoyed it because I liked how sad it was, everyone telling Ashley that she should get over it because it happened years ago and they need to stop punishing the other boys ...more
Helen (Eleni)
May 25, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: intriguing
I am sure that this is the best young adult novel I have read on the subject! I appreciated that it faced rape head on from the start and how it showed that not only the victim is affected by it but her family as well!
Jannin (The Booknerd Dragon)
Jul 18, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: reviewed, arc
***I received an ARC of this bookvia Netgalley in exchange of an honest review. This does not influence my review in any way.***

Disclaimer: I was triggered when I read this book. And because of that, I cannot guarantee that this book will be “curse-free”. If you are uncomfortable reading curses, I apologize in advance. This book has a sensitive topic, which is rape. If you are uncomfortable talking about that too, you are free to not proceed and read the review. Please read at your own risk.
Kali Cole
Aug 22, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I love Patty Blount’s novels so much. They are so real and don’t sugarcoat anything. This was a sort of sequel spinoff of Some Boys which both involve rape culture and overcoming hate and rediscovering their self. I thought this book was so touching and I felt exact emotions that were described in the novel. One chapter had me wanting to get out of my bed, grab a blow horn and just shout how wrong certain things in this world are. This is also a very good gender neutral novel because it has both ...more
Jul 04, 2018 rated it it was ok
Shelves: ya, fiction
A girl is returning to school after being raped. But to her, it seems, one of the worst parts is that her brother betrayed her and took the side of the rapist. A book about familial destruction, self-esteem destruction, victimization, identity. Some parts of it I didn't find truly believable (some dialog, the brother's sections) but could be an engaging read for teens interested in the #metoo movement. ...more
Julie Parks
Aug 06, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: ya
Thank you NetGalley for introducing me to Patty Blount. She's a wonderful writer and most of her books will now end up on my TBR list.

SOMEONE I USED TO KNOW was a heavy read. I think the message is strong and it's good to fight this cause. But you need insides to get through a whole length of a book on the subject of rape.
Bookworm LLC
Mar 05, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: cindy-bookshelf
Someone I Used to Know is a story about a gal who was raped by her brother's football teammate and how it has affected not only her life but the life of her entire family. It shows you how the family dynamics are affected and how this family really struggles on how to help their daughter and sister. Very compelling and thought provoking. ...more
Apr 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing
A blistering deconstruction of rape culture shown through the dissolving connection of two siblings post sexual assault. Timely, visceral and devastating, while ultimately hopeful.

Thank you to Edelweiss and Sourcebooks Fire for the ARC.
Mar 25, 2018 rated it really liked it
A must read for everyone about rape culture and toxic masculinity.
Aug 27, 2019 marked it as to-read
i want to read this but i am sure i will cry my face off
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Patty Blount grew up quiet and a bit invisible in Queens, NY, but found her voice in books. Today, she writes smart and strong characters willing to fight for what’s right. She’s the award-winning author of edgy, realistic, gut-wrenching contemporary and young adult romance. Still a bit introverted, she gets lost often, eats way too much chocolate, and tends to develop mad, passionate crushes on f ...more

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