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Starting with Goodbye: A Daughter's Memoir of Love after Loss

4.65  ·  Rating details ·  46 Ratings  ·  25 Reviews
Starting with Goodbye begins with loss and ends with love, as a midlife daughter rediscovers her enigmatic father after his death. Lisa has little time for grief, but when her dead dad drops in for “conversations,” his absent presence invites Lisa to examine why the parent she had turned away from in life now holds her spellbound.

Lisa reconsiders the affluent upbringing h
Paperback, 240 pages
Published May 1st 2018 by University of Nevada Press
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Elaine Kehoe
Apr 09, 2018 rated it really liked it
Starting with Goodbye is a lovely, quiet, heartfelt memoir by a daughter about the father she didn’t understand or appreciate until after his death. Unlike many family memoirs, there is no sensationalism here; no horror stories of abuse or addiction or abandonment, only of growing awareness and understanding and even the kind of maturing most of us are still doing in our middle years. It’s often the case that we don’t feel truly like adults until one or both of our parents have died. Lisa has ha ...more
Kate Vocke
Apr 30, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: arc, edelweiss
An intimate portrayal of Lisa Romeos larger-than-life father, Starting With Goodbye is so raw and emotional it gave me all the feels. All of them. This narrative hits particularly close to home, realizing how hard it is to come to terms with aging parents, and our aging selves.

This is a hard book to rate. You watch Lisa go through these feelings, ups and downs, and roller-coasters of emotions, yet I see the privilege and the money and just can't connect, and in some instances - I can't feel for
Donna Baier-Stein
Oct 17, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Lisa Romeo's memoir about her father touched me very deeply. Her family members come vividly to life, in all their quirks and glories. Romeo writes beautifully, and I found myself picturing both her parents’ home in Las Vegas and her own home in NJ as intimately as if I had set foot in these two places myself. What most struck me was the heady combination of grief and candor. The author doesn’t shy away from the dark places. She doesn’t avoid pointing out the ways our most loved family members c ...more
Cynthia Granata
Feb 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I had the privilege of reading an advance copy of Lisa's first, full length book, and could not put it down. She is a gifted writer, whose sensitive, unsparing self examination and portrait of her relationship to her late father, was a welcome balm. Lisa addresses the dichotomy of coping with a loss that is both a source of pain and of inspiration, giving voice to an inner dialogue that respects the complexity of a relationship between parent and child as it evolves over a lifetime.
Story Circle Book Reviews
Apr 01, 2018 rated it it was amazing
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There's no going back. Not after death. The loss of a parent hurts and haunts the children, yet it is as inevitable as the joy of birth. A part of the circle of life. Lisa Romeo explores pain, unrequited guilt, obsession, and her continuing, improving relationship with her deceased father in Starting with Goodbye.

Author Lisa Romeo was a busy writer, wife, and mother living in New Jersey when her dad, living in Las Vegas, became ill. A strong, opinionated man who liked to smoke and read the Wall
Jill Smith
May 11, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I loved it. Who knew a loaf of Italian bread could mean so much?
Feb 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Starting with Goodbye: A Daughter's Memoir of Love After Loss, is a stand-out among the many memoirs of parental loss on the shelves. One, because there are so few about the complexity of emotions for daughter's losing their father's through death, and two, because it is crafted so uniquely and written so beautifully. Each sentence more exquisite than the last.
After her father's death, Lisa begins to "see" her father and have conversations with him in a way they didn't, or couldn't, when he was
Julie VanDeKreke
Feb 11, 2018 rated it it was amazing
In Starting with Goodbye: A Daughter's Memoir of Love after Loss by Lisa Romeo, the author explores how even in death, we never let go of the ones we love; Romeo's memoir is no exception to this heartfelt relationship, and one cannot help but feel the author's emotional journey throughout. From the first page, you are instantly drawn into the narrator's personal walk with her father's relationship, as well as the strength and turmoil which leads her character's journey. There are many memoirs wh ...more
Amy Morgan
Dec 28, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I was privileged to receive a proof copy of Starting with Goodbye: A Daughter's Memoir of Love after Loss, by Lisa Romeo. Although centered around her relationship with her father during her life and continuing after his death, their story is supported by the other relationships in her life. Her mom, brother and sister, husband, sons, friends and family on the fringes. It takes a brave writing soul to expose their life and relationships along with all the raw emotions and thoughts carried with i ...more
May 02, 2018 rated it really liked it
I don't often read memoir, but am very glad I read this one. The author's honesty, her ambivalence, and her struggles with the complexity of her emotions won me over. I feel like I know Lisa Romeo, like I've made a friend.
Heidi Fettig Parton
Mar 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing
When I come to the last word of the last page of a well-written memoir, I feel the same kind of satisfaction I experience upon crawling into my bed after a long trip: I've completed a journey with the author, I've delved into new emotional or physical territory (in the best memoirs, it's both) alongside the author. I come away from a good memoir, with newly gathered knowledge--the kind of deep-seated knowledge that typically comes through first-hand experience--incorporated into my being. I will ...more
Apr 12, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Last night I finished reading Starting With Good-Bye. This is one of those memoirs you want to keep reading, yet when you're done, you feel a little sad because you're not quite ready to leave the world of Lisa Romeo, her father her family. While reading the book, not only did I feel as if I was right there with the author as she gave us intimate details about her father and family and of what transpired after her father's passing, but I also found myself relating to my experiences of losing bot ...more
Mar 26, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Lisa Romeo’s “Starting with Goodbye” is written through the lens of a daughter grieving for her father in an unconventional way: through “talks” with him after he dies. Lisa weaves a vivid depiction of the father of her childhood and the insights she gains after his death into a compelling memoir that would make great company to anyone navigating their own loss. There were two insights that especially resonated with me. Lisa describes certain habits of her father’s that in the past she had taken ...more
Ann Evans
Jun 12, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Lisa Romeo’s new memoir, STARTING WITH GOOD-BYE, is an Everywoman’s tale.

My father was not like her father, but her story is mine, and will resonate with all women who realize too late that their father would have been, if they had ever been able to talk to each other without bickering, their best advisor, guardian, and friend. My own father died when I was twenty-four. It took fifty years for him to come back and say hello, and that was in my dreams.

Lisa’s father comes back as a ghost shortly a
Jul 17, 2018 rated it it was amazing
What makes Lisa Romeo's debut stand apart revolves around the intimacy of the voice. Each page dives without fear into another revelation. Although this memoir encircles the author's relationship with her father after his death, the backstory seamlessly finds its way onto the page. And although grief scatters itself throughout, nothing maudlin or sentimental shows up. "Starting with Goodbye" gives the reader such close-up images that I felt as if I were sitting on a couch with the author herself ...more
Christine Corrigan
Jun 08, 2018 rated it really liked it
I don't often write reviews. Lisa Romeo's Starting with Goodbye: A Daughter's Memoir of Love after Loss warranted one. It is a must-read for anyone who has suffered the loss of a parent.

After her dad died, Romeo began to see and have conversations with her father that she could not, and did not, have when he was alive. Through those encounters, Romeo comes to understand and love her dad in a way that she could not, and did not, when he was alive. Through her grief and mourning, which is not maud
Rita Ciresi
Aug 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Many parent-child memoirs are about caring for mom/dad in their old age. Starting With Goodbye has an interesting and unusual premise: caring about a parent after he has passed away. In this heartfelt story, Lisa Romeo forges a relationship with her Italian-American father after his death, moving back and forth between the flashy, affluent world of her childhood and the more modest life she now lives as a writer/teacher/editor. This memoir is not filled with high drama or trauma, but explores ho ...more
Emily Guziak
Mar 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Lisa Romeo's "Starting with Goodbye" will lift your heart and open you to a new way of looking at the loss of a loved family member or friend. In her self-deprecating style, Lisa shows us how nearly impossible it is for us to truly know the people who love us most, our parents, during our self-involved childhoods and young adulthood, Reading "Starting with Goodbye" gives one permission to "revisit" those we have lost, and continue to become intimate with them. It is truly liberating for anyone w ...more
Sep 28, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: memoirs, nonfiction, own
Lisa Romeo has written a fabulous book that is engaging, compelling, and beautiful. In this memoir about her relationship with her father (both before and after his death), she creates a page-turner from events that are at once commonplace and extraordinary. The writing is strong and lyrical, while always feeling down-to-earth and relatable. This book will resonate with anyone who has dealt with love or loss, which is all of us.
Lisa Kirchner
Sep 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Relationships change over the course of a lifetime, and in this gorgeously rendered look back at a complicated one, Lisa Romeo gives us all something to contemplate--what do we choose to do with our memories? Whether you've lost a parent or mourn a less than perfect relationship with one, you'll find gems within.
Susan Young-Schmidt
Oct 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Lisa's Romeo's reflective, honest memoir takes the reader along with her as she grapples with the complex emotions of grief and losing a parent before that bond is fully realized. It's a moving tribute to her father, his life, and their relationship. The beautiful language and compelling story, which involves regular visits from her late father, kept me glued from beginning to end. Must read!
May 02, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This is a loving memoir of a daughter learning to say goodbye to her dad, and learning all the ways in which he'll never leave her. I'm grateful to have read this beautiful and moving book, which says so many things that I have felt but never been able to put into words.
Deborah Reback
Oct 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This memoir feels like the author is in the room with us, baring her fears, regrets and telling us an awful lot about her personality.

I especially liked her use of tense.
Deborah Duane
Feb 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Wouldn’t we all like to write a moving and sensitive expression of love, the way Lisa Romeo has with Starting With Goodbye?

As I read this memoir, I often found myself in a just-one-more-page moment, unwilling to leave Tony Chipolone and the life he created for his family. The New Jersey traditions, the years in Las Vegas, the first-class vacations, Tony’s business acumen, his ease with people, the Chipolone relatives – all familiar, all foreign, all a most enjoyable read.

Lisa has elegantly and
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