Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture
What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence?
This is book about rape and rape culture. Some of the stories are empowering, some are depressing, but all talk about important aspects of the world we live in. Many of the writers explore how rape culture is not just about the act o ...more
It comes as no surprise that Roxane Gay is my hero. When this anthology arrived on my doorstep (I had preordered it months ago), I could not wait to start reading it. And I r ...more
Trigger warning: violence, rape, and sexual assault.
I can't even begin to express the whirlwind of emotions that I felt while reading this book. They ran through my veins like poison, twisted my guts, brought tears to my eyes, and made me ...more
Really tough to get into at first, obviously due to the emotionally difficult subject matter. I appreciated the diversity of stories, both in terms of the authors' backgrounds and their experiences with rape culture. I expected all of the essays to be from people directly affected by rape, but liked that the authors had different experiences within the culture as a whole, and I think that ...more
This also will probably be valuable to people who haven't been able to share their own stories but can find comfort in not being alone. These personal essays are not all by straight women, so that adds a necessary diversity to the picture.
Roxane Gay says in the introduction th ...more
a man after he murdered his girlfriend.
The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn’t that bad? No. It was that bad but we still live in a world that, on the whole, doesn’t want to know about sexual assault.
It doesn’t quite feel right to say I have a favourite anything where rape culture is concerned so instead ...more
Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attitudes have the effect of normalizing or trivializing sexual assault and abuse. Multiple points of view are explored here (though only from the victim perspective). There are testimonies about how the rape culture somewh ...more
I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't like it but because it is not an easy read. Each story in Not That Bad is written by someone who experienced rape or sexual abuse in some form. There is suffering, pain, depression, hate, self-blame... All of these emot ...more
I felt so deeply for everyone who contributed. We are all fighting this battle and now more than ever we need to speak out.
This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking but powerful and necessary read.
Roxane Gay introduced this collection by relaying her own experiences with rape culture. What she encountered afterwards became a common theme throughout. Many individuals suffered from ...more
It’s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis.
Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave, strong women who lent their voices to it.
I didn't expect this reaction, even though rape is a tough subject to read about under the best circumst ...more
I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk of the collection are personal essays, most of those are about writers who have survived rape. Which is fine, but those personal essays, by and large, are also about coming to the realizations about lack of victim blami ...more
I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to get through, but it's excellent so far!
I got through maybe a third of these before I had to return it to the library for someone else's hold. All of the essays that I read were excellent, and it was really hard to rea ...more
Not That Bad is a prolific essay collection that explores rape culture in society through the eyes of those who have been raped or have been impacted by the rape of someone important in their life. We see stories from women, men, trans women, and trans men. We see a spectrum of inclusivity in a story that has one dominating theme: many believe what happened to them was not that bad, but the trauma that they struggle through shows how the “not that bad” inc...more
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