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Akılcı Yaşam Kılavuzu diğer kişisel gelişim kitaplarından birçok yönden farklıdır. Bir kere, sizi daha zengin, daha mutlu, daha zeki yapacağını iddia etmez veya tüm sorunlarınızı sayesinde çözeceğinizi de. Sadece sizi dibe çeken sorunlarınız, düşünceleriniz ve yaşadığınız olumsuz deneyimlerle ilgili bir rehberlik yapma amacı taşır. Bu da, elbette, ancak sizin eyleme geçmen ...more
Paperback, 2. Baskı, 389 pages
Published September 14th 2017 by Eksi Kitaplar (first published 1961)
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Jude Li-Berry
Jan 16, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Hogwash. That's one word you are going to hear most often from the authors of this wonderful little blue book. Doesn't tell you the meaning of life, but shows you how to get rid of the meaningless/nonsense part of it. A must for anyone on the dark journey of the soul. Some may find the argumentation reminiscent of the school of Zeno of Elea and hence the book nothing but a collection of mind tricks; yet sometimes all it takes is a simple mind trick for you to start accepting this iota of eternit ...more
Steve
Sep 09, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: psychology
This review is for the 3rd and last edition of this book. The 3rd edition was published in 1975 under the title "A Guide To Rational Living" rather than the title for an earlier edition titled "A New Guide To Rational Living". The 3rd edition has the edition of important content. The 3rd addition has 23 chapters.

This book is the first book the great psychologist Albert Ellis wrote on Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy ( REBT - later known as "cognitive therapy"). I also think it is one of the b
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Caroline
Jun 21, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book is confrontational, difficult to listen to and for people who are willing to take it. Personally, I disagreed with some of it, but it's revolutionary in the field of self-help. Seriously, how many therapists out there could benefit from this upfront and directive, no - bull approach to life? There are way to many therapists out there with a blank stare and a need to be "perfect" and detached. This is the most effective book for someone who wants to be honest with themselves, and is mot ...more
Kirtida Gautam
A person who has delusional, self destructive thoughts should think rationally to resolve his emotional issues.
Is this not a chicken and egg problem? The person was having trouble thinking rationally and I believe therefore he visited the therapist, now the therapist says, in order to resolve your problem think rationally.
It's like a person with weight issue going to the gym and instructor says, "You know what, in order to be thin, you will have to lose fat."
Yes, yes, but how.
This how is nev
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Levente-károly Görög
The best self-help book on psychotherapy I've ever read and also the one which I consider the most useful in my process. It is written in the hallmarks of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), providing many hands-on examples from therapy sessions. The central idea of REBT - as I've understood it - is to discover one's self-defeating Irrational Beliefs (IBs), actively and forcefully challenge them and ultimately replace them with healthy Rational Philosophies. The book outlines the most comm ...more
Meike
Feb 07, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2018-read, usa
Ellis' and Harper's classic book about the connection between thoughts and emotions - you got to credit those two professors of psychology for not serving their readers any "love yourself" or "attain enduring happiness" BS, because they chose to kick people's butts instead. I wouldn't claim that it's particularly well written, but it makes compelling arguments (which is clearly the main point here) that still prove to be highly influential in the scientific field. ...more
Aaron
Aug 08, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Especially if you are not familiar with cognitive-behavioral therapy approaches, this can be a very useful book for individuals wishing to experience more joy and happiness by experiencing less (unnecessary) upset feelings. Dr. Ellis' groundbreaking CBT psychology paved the way for most of the evidence-based techniques out there today. A former president of the American Psychological Association, Albert Ellis created these techniques to help him with his own inadequacies. Interestingly enough, a ...more
Hepe
Apr 03, 2008 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is an important book on cognitive behavioral psychology. The tone and attitude of the author can be quite off putting which I'm guessing is a reason that, although he was one of the pioneers in the field, Albert Ellis never achieved the mainstream popularity of other cognitive behavioralists. Still, if you want to learn about the subject from a book that doesn't sugar coat anything it might be a good option.

Cons:
1) The author is arrogant, condescending and judgmental. You would not want th
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Derick
Jan 26, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book will teach you how to be nicer to yourself.

Books like these are designed to help people overcome difficult emotions like sadness, depression, anger, and anxiety.

Personally, this book helped me reconcile my anger with my family. Before this book, I had a strained relationship with my mother, but after reading the essay titled, "Overcoming the Influences of the Past," I realized that I was holding my mother to standards that were impractical, and living with pain that would have only eve
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Gregg Bell
Nov 23, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is the real deal, as is Ellis. There's nothing earth shatteringly new in the book. But what Ellis does is give you practical, pragmatic, no-nonsense advice on how to effectively live a life. There are so many self-defeating things we do that we rarely stop to think about. Well, Ellis has thought about them. And there are so many excuses or rationalizations (we, of course, would call them reasons) for the unhealthy self-defeating things we do, but Ellis isn't buying them. Was your boss ...more
Corey
Oct 20, 2009 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: psychology
A Guide to Rational Living is a classic self-help manual and introduction to rational emotive therapy. The style of the book is somewhat rambling and "story telling," and some of the information is now a bit out of date, but the list of irrational ideas and the Disputing Irrational Beliefs activity are still very valuable. ...more
Leah✨
Oct 16, 2020 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This book definitely provided me with some food for thought.
And although it did help me in some respects, I can’t say that this information has never crossed my path in the past.
Very insightful, and constructive.

“When you identify and rate your self according to how you perform some particular activity, you create the illusion that you, a person, have only as much worth as that activity. How much sense does that make?”
The author argues that one cannot be defined by one’s actions, just becaus
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Kaustubh
Dec 19, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
On the similar lines when I was greatly influenced by Dale Carnegie self-help books, this is a book which provides a much deeper, realistic, case based psychological perspective of self-help and how many things we do as an average human, could be done in a better manner - in pursuit of happiness. "Recognizing and attacking neurotic behavior", "Tackling dire needs for approval", "How to stop blaming and start living", "Acquiring self-discipline" are some of the great chapters this book has and li ...more
Jalen Lyle-Holmes
Amazing. I read another of Ellis' books previous to this, which covered a lot of the same ideas, but this one was a lot better for me. Fuller and clearer. The 'Overcoming Inertia And Getting Creatively Absorbed' chapter particularly struck home with me. I just read one of Edward de Bono's books which made me feel like I had a real effective box of tools to approach creative thinking with, and this book has done the same thing for approaching dysfunctional emotions and neuroses. I'm always skepti ...more
Sebastião
Nov 20, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: psychology
This is the most readable Albert Ellis book. It reads fluidly, has awesome stories and does not have the repetitive and unnecessary propaganda that he makes of himself, the other books he wrote and his psychotherapy. If you want to use the advices of this book as a self-therapy its important to re-read it periodically because the advices are so easy to forget and we tend to come back to our old thinking habits. Another good option is search the internet for the list of "REBT's Irrational Beliefs ...more
Michelle
Aug 26, 2007 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone who wants to learn how to think and act rationally
There should be classes taught, starting elementary school, on how to think, problem solve, and act rationally. So much of what passes as thought and action in this world is simply over-emotionalized reactions. I have read this book twice now. It has a dry, to the point tone. It also makes a lot of sense. The problem with sense is that people are emotional and hesitant to change, and sense can be hard to practice. This is a good primer on rational thought, and one I will continue to read until m ...more
Bill
Sep 01, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: mind-body, nonfiction
A book that is at times annoying and at other times profound. Ellis and Harper make a pretty convincing case for the benefits of adopting a more rational approach to life. My main gripe with the book is the depiction of the authors' clients; they just didn't sound like real people to me. Perhaps the authors were creating characters who were combinations of various clients throughout the years. That is a weakness, but it really only amounts to a minor distraction. The message they deliver is an i ...more
Ben Sutter
Aug 12, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
One of the most powerful books I have ever read. Yes, it's a 'self-help' book, but it is far from your typical lightweight 'how-I-fixed-everything-with-positive-thinking' fare. This is a confronting and at time savage intellectual treatise driven by Ellis' powerful mind. With a unique writing style the arguments are superbly structured; methodically dismantling and identifying the origins of anger, depression, anxiety etc... and empowering the reader to reassemble his belief system to create a m ...more
Katrina Schurter
Nov 11, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I read this book for an undergrad paper on the REBT (rational emotive behavioral therapy)but loved it so much and was able to incorporate so much of it into my own life. Even though I am a therapist, I must admit that this is a must read for people who are extremely self-aware and could save them the money of therapy.
Steve
Mar 19, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I've wanted to read this "classic" of self help for a while, and its as good an intro to cognitive behavioral therapy as anything out there. Lucid and helpful, but too many tales of "patients" (you can easily skim the ones you don't relate to). It's certainly easier said than done, but disputing your irrational beliefs, substituting rational ones, never did anyone any harm.... ...more
Andrey Sennik
Jan 18, 2021 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Self-help, how-to-live-a-better-life books are a challenging genre. Their numbers are umpteen, and while each claims to have figured it out, the preponderance does an incredibly mediocre job. Does this one cut it? Well, I think it gets pretty close. 

One honest and important thing you'll learn in this book is that it's not possible to attain perpetual serenity and jubilation. Even though this may seem obvious, in reality, we're apt to think that we can actually get there only if we try hard enoug
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Vance
Beliefs about yourself can influence you to do things that others think is irrational. But rational emotive behavioral therapy (REBT) by Albert Ellis provides insight into how we form ideas/beliefs about ourself and others, and proposes changing those beliefs to overcome personal conflicts.

REBT assumes that people act rationally, though we may have irrational thoughts along the way. This is one of the laws of economics: people act rationally. If we were satisfied in our current state of being, t
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Carrie
Oct 16, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I think there is some great information in this book, but quite frankly I just can't stand the writing style. Most of the chapters are full of therapy session conversations one of the authors, with other tidbits of information interspersed. There are very few subheadings. A lot of people seem to like Ellis' writing-style though so perhaps it's just me. ...more
Luc Reid
Apr 28, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A matter-of-fact, clear explanation of how thoughts influence moods, emotions, and decisions. Terrific resource for people with an analytical bent who want to have more influence over their choices and mental states.
Tonya
Sep 13, 2009 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is one I read and re-read a lot ... the things this book teaches will change your perspective on life and help you in many ways. Whenever I finish this book I start over again ... but I always read three to five books at a time anyway ...
Aaron Wood
Dec 05, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
You can change the way your brain thinks. Takes some work and serious introspection, but if you do, this book will make your life better.
Flyingbroom
May 23, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A bit too optimistic/unrealistic at times, but still relevant.
Dennis Nehrenheim
Context / Why I read this book?
I just finished reading this as 1st book of my 52-books reading challenge that complements my slogan for 2021: "A Year of Ratio & Will".
So my motivation to read "the Guide" was to think, become, and act more "rational" while starting with not even knowing what that term means.

What it is about / is it any good?
To my surprise, the book doesn't focus on logic, mental pitfalls, or cognitive biases. Instead, it addresses so-called irrational believes (IBs) of which we
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Greg
Dec 14, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A fascinating look at the almost inevitable irrationalities that we carry with us each day... and a profound solution to this problem that has the capability to reduce almost all forms of stress and depression in our lives. It's unfortunately still possible to feel sad, but as Ellis argues, also possible to not have that sadness dictate your life in a negative way. We are fallible humans who often needlessly sabotage ourselves in the most ludicrous ways. Highly recommended for everyone, it's alm ...more
JP
Apr 19, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Some good people will come late in our life and this book is one such.
It was written 40 years back about the disturbance of irrational belief.
The structure of the society can bring endless problem to human...Why?
Every change in the behavior of the society will bring new problem to human,
The book emphasis on Rational behavior and evil of irrational behavior but of late I read so many books about the advantage of irrational behavior.
The journey though interesting but already covered by en-number o
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Albert Ellis was an American psychologist who in 1955 developed Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). He held M.A. and Ph.D. degrees in clinical psychology from Columbia University and American Board of Professional Psychology (ABPP). He also founded and was the President of the New York City-based Albert Ellis Institute for decades.
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