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The Girl He Used to Know

3.95  ·  Rating details ·  42,137 ratings  ·  6,348 reviews
What if you had a second chance at first love?

Annika Rose likes being alone.

She feels lost in social situations, saying the wrong thing or acting the wrong way. She just can't read people. She prefers the quiet solitude of books or playing chess to being around others. Apart from Jonathan. She liked being around him, but she hasn't seen him for ten years. Until now that i
Hardcover, 291 pages
Published April 2nd 2019 by St. Martin's Press
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Emily May
May 02, 2019 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2019, romance
Clearly this is a testament to how shallow I am because I've never been tempted by this author's books before when the covers featured photographs of women staring at the horizon, but give me an arty hipster cover and I'm all for it. It was a mistake, obviously.

I could tell you that this book bored me, that the characters had no chemistry, that it was all telling and no showing, that the writing was robotic (even in Jonathan's chapters so, no, this can't be attributed to Annika being autistic),
Alex ✰ Comets and Comments ✰
“Are you going to kiss me?”
He laughed. “I was planning on it, yes.”
“Okay. I’m ready.”


While I enjoyed witnessing this story unfold and truly appreciate how Graves approached certain themes within this book, my true determination to reach the last page was because of the beautiful flower we meet called Annika Rose.


While yes, this is a romance novel filled with all the kisses and warm moments you'd want in one... I'd like to think this was more-so a story of hope. H
Apr 30, 2019 rated it liked it
The Girl He Used to Know was a middle-of-the-road read for me. I had hoped I would love it, but I ended up just liking it.

Jonathan meets Annika at their college's chess club, and through many games, falls in love with her. Annika is lovely and kind, though she has trouble navigating social situations and reading social cues. Their young love is tender and sweet, but tragedy strikes and they lose touch. Ten years later, they stumble upon each other and have a second chance at love.

My favorite par
Meredith (Slowly Catching Up)
Oct 23, 2018 rated it really liked it
Sweet read about first love, heartbreak, and second chances.

Annika and Jonathan first met while in college in 1991. Annika, awkward, shy, and socially inept, has trouble connecting people. She is on the spectrum, but it is 1991 and Autism was not a common diagnosis. Annika struggles during her time as an undergraduate. She has one close friend and spends a lot of her time in solitude. When she is partnered up with Jonathan during a chess game, Jonathan sees her in a different light than oth
Katie B
It is such a wonderful feeling when you read a book and you fall in love with the characters. Sure, many books have enjoyable characters but it's not often you get to meet someone special. I absolutely adored Annika. She shares some similarities with another character in a book I read recently, but while that book was an okay read, this one truly captured my heart.

Back in the early 1990s, Annika and Johnathan were seniors at the University of Illinois. Annika gets anxious in social situations w
4.5 Stars!!

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I REALLY enjoyed this novel.

Chicago 2001 - Annika is picking up groceries when she hears a familiar voice call her name. Though she only sees the person out of the corner of her eye, she knows it’s him…Jonathan. It’s been ten years since she’s seen that face or heard that voice. She wants to run but a voice inside her head tells her to stay put.

“Don’t run, take responsibility, be yourself”

Annika takes a d
May 06, 2018 rated it really liked it
4 Undeniably Unique!! Stars

I was beyond thrilled to have received an ARC for this book having loved every single, solitary word of “On The Island.”

Once again, Ms. Graves writing skills transports you to an alternate universe of uniqueness. Honest to goodness, if you are looking for a romance which is a far cry from the usual, this author fills the bill. I couldn’t have been more engrossed if I tried.

We meet two individuals whom I immediately fell in love and connected with. The beautiful Annika,
Oct 28, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: arc-books
When past mistakes make you into a stronger individual, for the sake of wanting the one true person that makes you better, that's what this compelling romance does to the wonderful characters...

Never have read this author before, so you should all know that I am very sensitive when it comes down to new authors, especially authors in which come from a line of very little known romance that I have heard or read from. But to my surprise, this novel did not upset me in any sort of way. On the co
Larry H
Apr 07, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Wow, wow, WOW. This book was amazing.

"It's like everyone around you has a copy of the script of life, but no one gave it to you so you have to go in blind and hope you can muddle your way through. And you'll be wrong most of the time."

Annika Rose is different from other people. She's much more comfortable with solitude, and would much rather be in the company of animals, hiding under her comforter and reading a book, or getting lost in a competitive game of chess than spending time with her fell
Apr 06, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: adult-reads, 2019
At its core The Girl He Used to Know is a story of love, acceptance and second chances.

Annika and Jonathan come face to face in a grocery store...after 10 years. The two were college sweethearts and it is instantly apparent that the connection they shared is alive and well even after years of absence. Annika and Jonathan's love story was heartwarming, endearing and unique. I enjoyed watching their relationship unfold through the dual timelines both for the first time in 1991 and the second time
Jan 03, 2019 rated it really liked it
my first ARC for 2019 and i honestly couldnt have hoped for a better book! maybe its just because my past week or so has been very fantasy heavy, but i really needed this sweet contemporary romance.

i have never read a ‘second chance at first love’ story that i didnt enjoy, and this is no exception. this story is rather simple. the writing is fairly basic and when it comes to annika and jonathan, there isnt really much that happens in regards to a plot. this is just a story about two people who c
Nov 23, 2018 rated it really liked it
4 Stars.

If you Believe in Anything, Believe in the Power of Love.

Annika and Jonathan meet at the University’s Chess Club. For Jonathan, there is just something about Annika that stands out. She challenges him in a way that no one else ever has.

Annika has never been comfortable around people. Every situation makes her anxious and being in college pretty much freaks her out. Working at the animal clinic, being at the library and playing chess are the only times she feels normal. When Jonatha
May 28, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2019
The Girl He Used to Know by Tracey Garvis Graves is a 2019 St. Martin’s Press publication.

A tender, second chance at love story-

Annika and Jonathan met in college via the chess club back in 1991. They gradually fall deeply in love, despite Annika’s social anxiety, which is coupled with a plethora of other little quirks.

Jonathan is just absolutely the most patient and sweet guy, most of the time, but without fully understanding Annika’s social miscues there are a few misunderstandings along the
Charlotte May
3.5 ⭐️

I liked this. It wasn't amazing, but neither was it rubbish. I don't really do romance, but when I do, second chance love stories are definitely my faves.

Annika and Jonathan met in University, on the Chess Team. Annika has always struggled with social interaction, she cannot read people's faces or understand their intentions without being told. Once Jonthan manages to get her out of her shell, they become smitten with one another.

The book has dual timelines between both Jonathan and Annik
Apr 06, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favorites
**4.5 stars**Big Scowl**

That ending was jarring which detracted from what had been an exceptional love story; nonetheless, a solid read.
Nilufer Ozmekik
Apr 06, 2019 rated it really liked it
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JanB(on vacation till October)
5 stars! If you are looking for the perfect summer read, look no further. This is it.

Right from the start I fell in love with Annika. How could I not love a woman who says “I want to work at a library someday….I want to spend every waking day of my adult life surrounded by books.” A girl who carries around a book of Eleanor Roosevelt quotes? Her favorite: ‘A woman is like a tea bag - you can't tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.” And Jonathan...well, he is the perfect boyfrie
Elyse  Walters
I loved it....
I admit to the sloppy mushy feelings...
I finished it seconds ago… in one sitting.

Eleanor Roosevelt was a wise woman!!!
The presence of her in this story gave me pause.

The charm, sincerity, and the love that this little gem was written from... was deeply felt by this reader.

I could pick ‘many’ excerpts to share...
But here’s one I adored:
“I love you Annika Rose. He wiped away my tears and kissed my forehead, my cheek, my lips”.
“I Love you Jonathan Hoffman”.
“He started laughing.
May 11, 2019 rated it really liked it
4.5 stars (rounded to 4 stars)

This was a sweet find. I would not have picked this book to read if not for several of my trusted Goodreads friends who gave it high marks. When my number came up in the library queue, I briefly thought about canceling and moving ahead to my next book, but what the heck, I felt like something different, and this book was perfect for that.

Our protagonist is Annika (rhymes with Monica). Annika is different. In fact, some call her weird. Annika feels she must rely on o
Debbie Oliphant
Apr 07, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition

This story blindsided me. I was all in with the storyline and the history and the challenges and saw a different ending in my head but I couldn't make sense of the timeline until the big twist reveals itself and OMG, it is huge and unexpected.

I read this in one sitting and could not put this book down. No spoilers here, read and feel this story.
Apr 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I cannot remember the last time I became so immersed in a story so quickly!

Sure, I have read some clever books lately. And, some with surprising endings. But, this one pulled me in and didn’t let go till I reached the final sentence with tears streaming down my face!

And, to think that I wasn’t even interested in reading this one, till several wonderful reviews convinced me that I really should.

Annika (rhymes with Monica) and Jonathan meet in a chance encounter at a grocery store, ten years af
Jan 28, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The Girl He Used to Know was such a unique, sweet, and uplifting romance story.

I loved Annika and Jonathan!! I wasn't sure what to expect when picking up this book... and it turned out totally different then I envisioned in my mind.

Annika and Jonathan meet in 1991 at a Chess club in college. Annika is stunningly beautiful but due to her autism she has challenges with her confidence in relationships. Annika and Jonathan fall in love but a tragic event occurs between them that causes the relation
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Such is my desire to replace the memories of the girl he used to know with the woman I’ve become.

Annika and Jonathan's story starts in 1991 where they meet at a chess club in college. At first Annika is determined to stay closed off as she has social anxiety, but slowly she and Jonathan become friends and then more...

The two become inseparable and they plan a future together. But sometimes plans don't always work out.

Ten years later they bump into eachother and Annika hopes this is her cha
Dec 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
The Girl He Used to Know is one of the (if not ”the”) best books I read this year. It’s an instant add to my Favorites shelf and as a story, I savored every second of reading it!

In 2001, Annika is grocery shopping in Chicago when she runs into Jonathan, her ex-boyfriend from college who she hasn’t seen in 10 years. The story shifts between the present in 2001, and their college days in 1991 at the University of Illinois.

In college, Annika is kind of shy though she can be a bit direct in social
Diane S ☔
Mar 02, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: lor-2019
3.5 My I really needed this one book of the month, desperately needed after reading about the Irish starving in Ireland and climbers dying on K2. Just fell hard for Annika and Ben, surprising myself since I'm not a big romance reader. Though this was a little different as Annika is on the spectrum, and Jonathan loves her for who she is. A little naive as to people's motives, says what she thinks, hates crowds and loud noises, totally without artifice. Jonathan though, gets her and loves what he ...more
*TUDOR^QUEEN* (on hiatus)
Mar 17, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Thank you to St. Martin's Press for providing an advance reader copy via NetGalley.

This was a totally engaging book about a college student named Annika who struggled lifelong with social cues. She was naturally very beautiful and smelled good without ever having to wear perfume. While being born with these physically attractive gifts, life could still become dangerous to someone so vulnerable and easily taken advantage of. Annika had been home-schooled since the seventh grade following a horrib
Marialyce (absltmom, yaya)
How could you not love a book that allows you to crawl into the mind and heart of its main character? You feel the pain, the sorrow, the hope, and the need to fit in so much that you yourself become that character. That’s exactly what you find reading about Annika, a most delightful character and her struggles with what we now know is autism.

If you know someone, and who doesn’t, who is autistic, you probably are aware of the difficulties that person has trying to find their place in a world tha
Berit Talks Books
Apr 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
An extraordinary love story brimming with heart, hope , and second chances!

Tracey Garvis Graves has stolen my heart with this evocative and emotional story. I read “On the Island” A few years ago and thoroughly enjoyed it. Going into this book I knew I was going to be treated to brilliantly developd characters and an intriguing storyline. What I was not prepared for was The emotional toll this book would have on my heart! This book both destroyed me and pieced me back together again. I seri
Feb 17, 2019 rated it really liked it

Told in alternating timelines, the earlier being set in 1991, and the latter in 2001. At its heart it is a story of love and being accepted as we are.

Annika is a student at the University of Illinois when she meets Jonathan, also a student. It is the first time that Annika has attended school since she was a young girl. Her mother removed her from that environment due to a school-bullying incident, followed by home schooling. Social interaction is difficult for her, it’s easy
Nov 11, 2018 rated it really liked it
4.5 stars


The story was thoughtful, and beautiful. Moreover I immediately fell in love with the heroine, Annika. She was the one that made reading this book an amazing experience.

Unique characters have always been my weakness, and Annika was as original as it gets. She struggled with life in a way most of us will never understand. Socially awkward, her experiences with college and daily life was so very different and only underscored how
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Tracey Garvis Graves is the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and USA Today bestselling author of contemporary fiction. Her debut novel, On the Island, spent 9 weeks on the New York Times bestseller list, has been translated into thirty-one languages, and is in development with MGM and Temple Hill Productions for a feature film. She is also the author of Uncharted, Covet, Every Time I Think of ...more

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