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Дари недосконалості. Як полюбити себе таким, який ти є

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Брене Браун — американська письменниця та психолог, професор Г’юстонського університету, вивчає проблеми сорому та вразливості.

Ця книжка — результат приголомшливого дослідження: як люди сприймають свою недосконалість. Аналізуючи тисячі історій чоловіків та жінок у віці від 18 до 87 років, Брене Браун дійшла вражаючого висновку: щасливими людей робить не досягне
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Hardcover, 208 pages
Published January 10th 2017 (first published August 27th 2010)
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Ed McKeogh
Aug 29, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-help
I've read more than my fair share of "self-help" literature, so I can assert with conviction that this is not a self-help book. Instead, it's a revelation book. Each chapter triggered numerous "ah-Ha!" moments for me, because Dr. Brown goes a step (or two, or five) beyond the common way of looking at or framing an issue to reveal the interconnectedness of elements that stall or sabotage our efforts to live a more satisfying life. Instead of the "that doesn't quite resonate" vibe I often get from self-help ...more
Bdalton
Jan 05, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I read this book after watching Brown's TED talk on vulnerability. The TED talk was shown as the last exercise for a leadership class at work. The talk was intriguing and I wanted to know more. Also, I noted that many of the comments regarding this fairly brief talk were often negative. I found the talk inspiring so I wanted to see if there was any validity to the negative comments.

The question that I had in my mind was why was this shown at work? Does Brown suggest that people shoul
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Lara
May 14, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
You may have noticed a theme in my last couple posts. I'm rundown, overwhelmed and I realize that, while my priorities are right in my head, they aren't in reality. So the book I'm reviewing today really came at a perfect time in my own personal crisis. In fact, as I was reading along yesterday (yes, I totally procrastinated reading it due to other books taking up my precious little reading time) I thought to myself, "This book could be companion material for President Uchtdorf's talk at confere ...more
Ann Lewis
Feb 26, 2013 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I had to mark this as read to get if off my list. Actually I had to abort the read. Just could not relate to a word of it at all. I feel like this author is speaking a different language. I have a hard time believing anybody really CARES that much about what others think about them. It's amazing to me. A Whole book telling you it's OK if you're not who someone wants you to be?? I feel like saying "GET A LIFE!"
I also Really had trouble with the writing. This author reminds us on almost ever
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Dani (The Pluviophile Writer)
Update:

This book changed my life. Dramatic as it sounds, it's true.

I wrote this on Brené's Facebook page:

"Brené,

I've just about finished your book "The Gifts of Imperfection" which I discovered after watching you speak on TED talks and I can honestly say that this book is helping me completely change my life.

I suffer(ed) from a condition called Dermatillomania (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dermatil...) and I've tried everything from therap
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Anna
May 20, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I really like Brene Brown--she gave a terrific and funny TED talk about her research concerning the importance of vulnerability, of imperfection, of failure, and so I read her book. I think her thesis is superb, her research about shame and wholeheartedness really interesting, and the message of the book necessary to modern life. But! I can't help it. I hoped for a little more "perfectionism" in the writing (and structuring! of the book as a whole) which could have used another round or two of e ...more
Clumsy Storyteller
Oct 07, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: People going through difficult times.
She makes it feel and seem so easy!

the main message here is: Let go of your insecurities,expectations, shame, guilt, discomfort. Happy people are happy because they make themselves happy, they are the ones who think of themselves as worthy of love. you're IMPERFECT Embrace it.

“Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.”

“When I let go of trying to be everything to everyone, I had m
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Christy
4 stars
"Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen."

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Matt Evans
Listening to this book, I felt like I was being lectured to by the kind of person who concludes her cell-phone's voicemail with the word, 'namaste' -- a Hindi word that means 'I acknowledge the divine in you.' Actually, 'namaste" also signifies that its user knows an exotic Asian concept-word. (Total aside, but in my experience, chronic 'namaste' sayers tend to be impatient and prone to pedantic rages, when life hits them between the eyes with two-by-fours of difficulty and stress; I don't know ...more
Carmen
Oct 24, 2017 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Self-Help Enthusiasts
This book is basically meaningless and worthless to me.

Not due to any fault on Brown's part, but simply because I do not need or want self-help books. She seems to be focusing on a reader that is obsessed with her own flaws or who is a perfectionist and self-hater. I am none of these things.

I just found the book extremely boring.

That being said, I did find two passages I liked:

Shame loses power when it is spoken.

True. Talking about what makes you a 'shameful perso/>Shame
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Megankellie
I read this after geeking out hard because of her TED talk. I think there is a certain point in some these books where you have to have a big fold out section that says in type as big as your face: DO YOU HAVE MONEY? and also DO YOU HAVE A FAMILY? and if you say no, the last 25% of the book will disintegrate or turn into dust. The first 75% was great, relevant, filled with good thoughts and information and quotable stuff. Then she gets to the "my husband's on call a lot" and "my kids dance in th ...more
Elyse (retired from reviewing/semi hiatus) Walters
Update: I thought this book was 'fair'. The structure of the chapters was too repetitive. Plus, more personal stories needed to be added to make the book feel more human.

Yesterday I started listening to "Rising Strong" by this same author. I had no idea she was the same author as this book, nor did I know that this book, and "Rising Strong", is part of a trilogy. I highly doubt that it matters.
I'm getting much more enjoyment - with Brene Brown's gentle kick in the ass messages from "RISING STR
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Hanne
Jun 23, 2014 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
It’s true, I’m a sucker for social science research: the human mind just intrigues me like there is not tomorrow; and the emotional side even more so than the rational one. After accidentally seeing Brené Brown’s TED speech for a second time this week, I was intrigued enough to pick up her books.

Unfortunately her book is nowhere near as exciting. First of all, for someone who claims to be an obsessive organizer, there is a remarkable lack of structure in her book. It seems more like a collectio
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Diane
I had to read this for work, but even without the burden of assigned reading, I would not have liked this book. It feels slight, filled with padded stories about shame and vulnerability and the author's reaction to said shame and vulnerability. (And sometimes the author's reaction to her reaction to the shame. Sigh.)

I shall now summarize the book's precepts: Feel Good About Yourself. Be Compassionate and Grateful. Blah blah Laugh Dance Love blah blah.

The book is only about 130 pa
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Patty
I am having a hard time writing this review, probably for two reasons. First of all, there is so much that I liked in this book that I know I will be reading it again. If the copy I read had been mine, I might have underlined most of the book.

The second reason that I am struggling here is that I haven't done anything with what I have learned. I have now read two books by Brown; she has pointed out some things I need to be doing for myself and I am resisting following her lead. I know
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Kelly
In addition to reading West, I've also been into a lot of mindfulness books/stuff that's related to mindfulness lately, like this one. I found and really liked her TED talk by chasing down some references from Buddha's Brain, so I decided to read her book after that. Overall, I think a lot of her points are well-taken. I also liked that she reiterates constantly that all of her ideas are research and statistics based, not something she just, like, felt one day. I also give her props for being open with some o ...more
Monica Kim: Reader in Emerald City
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed To Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown -- Your Guide To A Wholehearted Life


**Because the nature of the book, this review turned out be more like a summary than a review, and it ended up being much longer than I expected. Thank you for reading!


I am forever grateful for Dr. Brene Brown -- her message, research, and work really makes sense to me and resonate with me. I have read all of her books and each one of them has had a profound impact in my
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Bill
Oct 19, 2016 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I think I stumbled across this on Goodreads, thought it looked good and gave it a try. I stopped being a sucker for drugstore psychology, Oprah Winfrey, self help books many years ago but I fell off the wagon on this one. Don't get me wrong, there are many wonderful points in this read but looking for solutions to life's most challenging issues in an Oprah empire endorsed and marketed self help tome is a recipe for disappointment.

That being said, the idea of true authenticity buried
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Mike
Brene Brown tries to distill her research and reporting what she found are the differences between "wholehearted" people and the rest of us running-scared-dogs.

What she doesn't do is make it any easier for us to bridge the gap between where we are and where we'd like to be. She claims she made some serious attitude shifts through a year of intensive therapy, then wraps up each chapter with some easy (and unfounded in her research) platitudes and daily affirmations about "digging deep". Which ar
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Froztwolf
It is quite unfortunate how much the author seems to be stuck in the write style appropriate to blogs, because this book is horribly structured. Each of the chapters tackles a huge subject in a few pages. They have only a marginal connection to one another and there is no flow throughout the book, often leaving the reader confused.

I say this is unfortunate not just because I spent my time reading the book, but because it contains a lot of good information based on the authors research. It conta
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Kathryn
Jan 16, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: spirituality, 2016, 2017
First sentence: Once you see a pattern, you can't un-see it.

Favorite quote: Twinkle lights are the perfect metaphor for joy. Joy is not a constant. It comes to us in moments - often ordinary moments.

This is my first Brené Brown book. She writes as though she is across the table from me and we are enjoying a cup of tea in the sunshine. She is warm and understanding knowing we are so alike and are all going through this life wanting to make it the best we can. She wants to help
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EJ
A little disclaimer: The title isn’t fair to this book. It gives the Illusion this is a self help book. In my opinion its more about human behavior and embracing the life you have.

After watching a Brene Brown TEDtalk I purchased her most recent book, Daring Greatly. Her authenticity or pursuit of it, is what kept my attention.

A lot of authors who write self-help oriented books frustrate me with the façade of perfection. You can just see the word “Namaste” ooze out of thei
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Raven
Jul 26, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I came to this book after watching Brown's TED talk on vulnerability and seeing this book mentioned elsewhere online. The messages of this book are so very important and they really spoke to me. The idea that we are worthy: "The greatest challenge for most of us is believing that we are worthy now, right this minute. Worthiness doesn't have prerequisites." Some of the prerequisites she mentions are "I'll be worthy when I lose twenty pounds," "I'll be worthy if everyone thinks I'm a good parent," ...more
Bryce
Dec 07, 2014 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I felt that the author's writing and insights were somewhat disjointed and scattered. The book didn't flow well from beginning to end and has a serious drop off in relevance in the final chapters. I did think a lot of the advice was truly useful and important, but this information was given in small snippets amongst a large amount of other information which was less useful and not very helpful.

It bothered me that throughout the book that the author kept talking about the years and ye
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Amalia
Oct 17, 2010 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
You know books that come along at just the right time and really hit you where you are?
Yep, this was one of those for me.
The fact that this book helps provide a guide that is based upon research (well-designed qualitative research) is terrific; the science gives you the bigger picture of how this all works.
My one challenge while reading it is that I wanted to simply devour it, read it all in one or two settings- something that doesn't work for a book like this that demands introspec
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Pulsing
Jun 15, 2013 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
It's really quite perplexing how this book gets good ratings, huge sales and has started sort of a personality fad for it's author.

It's probably one of the most self aggrandizing and vapid pop psychology books I 've ever read. There's really nothing here that you won't find in other books of the genre much better expressed and explained, a lot of times from the actual originators of these ideas that she takes credit for here with her phantom research. She does a mess with them btw, mixing conce
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Jeannine
Oct 22, 2010 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
Some good points, but most of the suggested solutions are pretty obvious. (Relax, play, center yourself spiritually whatever that means to you, stop striving, do something creative, blah blah blah).

It really annoyed me that she capitalized Wholehearted throughout the whole book. I would not be surprised to see a whole Wholehearted(tm) product line in stores soon. Journals! Notecards! Classes!

Ah well. Whatever works for you.

Cute slogans and catchphrases don't w
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Mlpmom (Book Reviewer)
This is definitely something that I want to re-read, most likely time and time again. So insightful and so thought provoking. Truly words and messages for thought.
Betty
Dec 17, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
A couple of general points that were interesting to consider--such as setting boundaries for yourself and holding people accountable for their behaviors. This means we should address specific actions by the people in our lives, not attack who they are. We often convince ourselves that someone is hateful or deserving of our dislike when what we really have issue with is a something they've done or some way they've behaved. However by failing to establish our own boundaries (or standards) we feel ...more
Gloria
Jun 22, 2011 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
They say timing is everything.

I think I picked up the WRONG book after just finishing a harrowing novel on Vietnam.
It seemed vapid and navel-gazing, at best, after reading about these young kids being blown to bits.

Okay, but timing aside, what I did skim over in here seemed so common sense already.
And could have been summed up in one sentence.
Be who you are.
If you don't know who you are, you might have a problem which even this book won't help you
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Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation – Brené Brown Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work.

She has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy and is the author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers: The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, Rising Strong, Braving the Wildern
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“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.”
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