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The Man God Has For You: 7 Traits To Help You Determine Your Life Partner
I pray you receive the man who wants to love you, not use you ❤️...
Do you want to meet your soulmate? Struggling to determine whether the man you’re with now is really “the one”? Tired of dating guy after guy who you don’t feel a spark with?
Well listen, I can tell you the right man IS out there for you. A guy who will respect you, love you with all his heart, and give you the life you’ve always wanted. He exists. And God wants you to find him…
However, there are some crucial steps that need to be taken in order for him to receive you, and you to receive him. This book
Debunk the “myth” that there aren’t enough high-quality men in the worldAddress the frustrating issue of feeling like you’re “settling”Help you determine if the man you seek is the one God intended for you (in 7 key traits)!Introduce the most popular prayer women prayShed light on how to heal from past trauma, move forward, and embrace a life of happiness and love!This isn’t another “how to get a man” guide. This is a DEEP dating and relationship book that will reveal the TRUTH about what it takes to find love, give you groundbreaking insight into a man’s mind and actions, and help you feel fully confident (and excited) about the magical romantic journey ahead of you! ✨
Order now and enjoy!
Do you want to meet your soulmate? Struggling to determine whether the man you’re with now is really “the one”? Tired of dating guy after guy who you don’t feel a spark with?
Well listen, I can tell you the right man IS out there for you. A guy who will respect you, love you with all his heart, and give you the life you’ve always wanted. He exists. And God wants you to find him…
However, there are some crucial steps that need to be taken in order for him to receive you, and you to receive him. This book
Debunk the “myth” that there aren’t enough high-quality men in the worldAddress the frustrating issue of feeling like you’re “settling”Help you determine if the man you seek is the one God intended for you (in 7 key traits)!Introduce the most popular prayer women prayShed light on how to heal from past trauma, move forward, and embrace a life of happiness and love!This isn’t another “how to get a man” guide. This is a DEEP dating and relationship book that will reveal the TRUTH about what it takes to find love, give you groundbreaking insight into a man’s mind and actions, and help you feel fully confident (and excited) about the magical romantic journey ahead of you! ✨
Order now and enjoy!
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Published July 27, 2017
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About the author
Stephan Labossiere
26 books437 followersStephan Labossiere is a man on a mission, and that mission is to make relationships happier and more fulfilling.
As a certified relationship coach, a speaker and author, Stephan seizes every opportunity to help both men and women overcome the challenges that hinder their relationships. From understanding the opposite sex, to navigating the paths and avoiding the pitfalls of relationships and self growth, Stephan’s relationship advice and insight helps countless individuals achieve an authentically amazing life. Stephan empowers millions to take charge of the difficult situations standing in the way of the life and love they seek and to make impactful changes on a daily basis.
Dedicated to helping, and devoted to keeping it real, Stephan’s straightforward, yet compassionate delivery style, attracts a versatile clientele including; notable celebrities, civic and social organizations, academic institutions, singles, and couples alike, who can and are ready to handle the truth!
Seen, heard and chronicled in national and international media outlets including; the Tom Joyner Morning Show, The Examiner, ABC, and Huffington Post Live, to name a few. Stephan is highly sought-after because he is able to dispel the myths of relationship breakdowns and obstacles–platonic, romantic, and otherwise—with fervor and finesse. To coin a phrase by an individual who attended one of his speaking engagements, “he’s definitely the relationship guy, all relationships all the time.”
With an international following of singles and couples alike, the name Stephan Labossiere is synonymous with breaking down relationship barriers, pushing past common facades, and exposing the truth. It is this understanding of REAL relationships that he brings to everyone he encounters
As a certified relationship coach, a speaker and author, Stephan seizes every opportunity to help both men and women overcome the challenges that hinder their relationships. From understanding the opposite sex, to navigating the paths and avoiding the pitfalls of relationships and self growth, Stephan’s relationship advice and insight helps countless individuals achieve an authentically amazing life. Stephan empowers millions to take charge of the difficult situations standing in the way of the life and love they seek and to make impactful changes on a daily basis.
Dedicated to helping, and devoted to keeping it real, Stephan’s straightforward, yet compassionate delivery style, attracts a versatile clientele including; notable celebrities, civic and social organizations, academic institutions, singles, and couples alike, who can and are ready to handle the truth!
Seen, heard and chronicled in national and international media outlets including; the Tom Joyner Morning Show, The Examiner, ABC, and Huffington Post Live, to name a few. Stephan is highly sought-after because he is able to dispel the myths of relationship breakdowns and obstacles–platonic, romantic, and otherwise—with fervor and finesse. To coin a phrase by an individual who attended one of his speaking engagements, “he’s definitely the relationship guy, all relationships all the time.”
With an international following of singles and couples alike, the name Stephan Labossiere is synonymous with breaking down relationship barriers, pushing past common facades, and exposing the truth. It is this understanding of REAL relationships that he brings to everyone he encounters
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January 6, 2020
I absolutely loved Stephan Labossiere’s book so much that I practically stole it from the library! I ain’t saying I’m a gold digger, but The Man God Has For You is a goldmine rife with gemstone quotes of TRUTH! I collected the ones that caught my eye and placed them in three treasure chests: MENtal Health, Just Men, and A-Men! I summarized my takeaways at the end. It is impossible NOT to fall head over heels with The Man God Has For You!
MENtal Health:
An inconsistent action is a consistent answer.
If you don’t know where you’re going, you won’t know who belongs with you on that path.
You have to fix what you’re doing before you can focus on anyone else.
The only reason to run is because God told you it’s time to go.
Not healing from your past prevents you from moving forward.
If you don’t break free, you’ll always find reasons to remain in a situation where
you don’t belong.
Just Men:
Date a man’s character, not his potential.
The man who doesn’t know what he wants, should not be entertained.
If he can’t come correct, he needs to go home.
God does not want you to be romantically tied up with a man who’s not committing to you.
Any man who continues to disrespect or mistreat you is not a man sent from God.
When you make the choice to settle, you rob yourself of the greatness God has for you.
The question is less what do you both bring to the table
and more do you enjoy dining there together?
It’s not about finding a man who completes you;
it’s about receiving the man who complements you.
You’re no longer ‘waiting’ for Boaz.
You’re in the process of receiving the man God has for you.
A man who is a hard worker and does his thing.
A man willing to pour into you just as much as they hope you pour into them.
A man who wants you happy just as you desire their happiness.
This is who you want to date.
The T-shirt synthesis: NO BOYS. NO GAMES. JUST MEN.
A-Men!
A-Men:
When you say, I’m praying and I’m not hearing anything from God
maybe it’s because you need to get up, move into His room, into His space, and listen.
Promise that you’re not going to pray that prayer again:
You will not ask God to remove that person if they’re not for you.
From now on ask, Lord, should I remove them?
Should I be dealing with them and how do you want me to proceed?
The first step is to understand the difference between
a man who loves God and struggles with his flesh, versus
a man who loves his flesh and struggles with embracing God.
Know that if a man has not reached a point where he loves God,
then it’s not time to be with him, or align yourself with him in that manner.
Relationship Take-Aways:
If you don’t have your ducks in a row, it’s difficult to discern your man from a quack.
You are a queen looking for a king, but don’t play chess with his heart.
Don’t dwell in your damage.
Sometimes God calls us to move mountains; sometimes He calls us to climb them.
MENtal Health:
An inconsistent action is a consistent answer.
If you don’t know where you’re going, you won’t know who belongs with you on that path.
You have to fix what you’re doing before you can focus on anyone else.
The only reason to run is because God told you it’s time to go.
Not healing from your past prevents you from moving forward.
If you don’t break free, you’ll always find reasons to remain in a situation where
you don’t belong.
Just Men:
Date a man’s character, not his potential.
The man who doesn’t know what he wants, should not be entertained.
If he can’t come correct, he needs to go home.
God does not want you to be romantically tied up with a man who’s not committing to you.
Any man who continues to disrespect or mistreat you is not a man sent from God.
When you make the choice to settle, you rob yourself of the greatness God has for you.
The question is less what do you both bring to the table
and more do you enjoy dining there together?
It’s not about finding a man who completes you;
it’s about receiving the man who complements you.
You’re no longer ‘waiting’ for Boaz.
You’re in the process of receiving the man God has for you.
A man who is a hard worker and does his thing.
A man willing to pour into you just as much as they hope you pour into them.
A man who wants you happy just as you desire their happiness.
This is who you want to date.
The T-shirt synthesis: NO BOYS. NO GAMES. JUST MEN.
A-Men!
A-Men:
When you say, I’m praying and I’m not hearing anything from God
maybe it’s because you need to get up, move into His room, into His space, and listen.
Promise that you’re not going to pray that prayer again:
You will not ask God to remove that person if they’re not for you.
From now on ask, Lord, should I remove them?
Should I be dealing with them and how do you want me to proceed?
The first step is to understand the difference between
a man who loves God and struggles with his flesh, versus
a man who loves his flesh and struggles with embracing God.
Know that if a man has not reached a point where he loves God,
then it’s not time to be with him, or align yourself with him in that manner.
Relationship Take-Aways:
If you don’t have your ducks in a row, it’s difficult to discern your man from a quack.
You are a queen looking for a king, but don’t play chess with his heart.
Don’t dwell in your damage.
Sometimes God calls us to move mountains; sometimes He calls us to climb them.
December 20, 2017
I read a small part of this book online that attracted me to buy it. The problem I have with this book is that it's prosperity gospel and not fully rooted in the bible. The blurb about this book specifically says this: "There is, in fact, a man God has for you; however, there are some steps that need to be taken in order for him to receive you and for you to receive him."
I don't worship an "If, Then" God. A lot of this book was "if you do this, then God will bring you a man, or if you don't do this, the God won't be ready to bring you a man" type of stuff. The problem with that is it can't be backed by scripture. This suggests to me that I don't have a man or I haven't received him because I haven't done what I need to do to receive him which I don't think is true. There may not even be a man that God has for me, but I don't think taking steps there are going to get me him. I get the overall idea Labossiere was trying to convey, but it just can't be backed by scripture. Also, there was a lot of grammatical errors which I did not like.
I don't worship an "If, Then" God. A lot of this book was "if you do this, then God will bring you a man, or if you don't do this, the God won't be ready to bring you a man" type of stuff. The problem with that is it can't be backed by scripture. This suggests to me that I don't have a man or I haven't received him because I haven't done what I need to do to receive him which I don't think is true. There may not even be a man that God has for me, but I don't think taking steps there are going to get me him. I get the overall idea Labossiere was trying to convey, but it just can't be backed by scripture. Also, there was a lot of grammatical errors which I did not like.
January 18, 2018
All I can say is OH MY!!!
When I tell you there is a God and he always confirms right on time….This book was right on time.
I LOVED this book! This book was like an onion…as I was reading and really going deep within myself I was able to peel away some of my own mess and thought processes. Intuition is real so thanks for the great insights on how some men think…but what engaged me about this book was that it wasn’t about….Do this or Do that…or you should!!!! It was more; take a look at self to make sure that you are on point. The best part of the book was not to settle and to face the consequences if you do. Why rob yourself and settle when God has greatness for his chosen children. I am my Father’s Daughter!
When I tell you there is a God and he always confirms right on time….This book was right on time.
I LOVED this book! This book was like an onion…as I was reading and really going deep within myself I was able to peel away some of my own mess and thought processes. Intuition is real so thanks for the great insights on how some men think…but what engaged me about this book was that it wasn’t about….Do this or Do that…or you should!!!! It was more; take a look at self to make sure that you are on point. The best part of the book was not to settle and to face the consequences if you do. Why rob yourself and settle when God has greatness for his chosen children. I am my Father’s Daughter!
October 31, 2019
I was not a fan of this. While there was some advice in here that was good, I'd heard it before. My main problem with this is I do not believe it was rooted in the gospel. First of all, he straight out says he hasn't read the whole Bible, that he's only read parts. So why are you writing a book about the man God has for you, as if you have authority on this subject? There were definitely some things he said that, if he was familiar with the whole Bible, he'd understand is not good advice. For example, the main point of this book is that women have to take steps to find the man God has for them, and God will not intervene. This is absolute crap. While we can't just sit around waiting for our future husband and not pursue God's plan for us, we also can't believe that God won't intervene in our lives.
A couple of other things that bothered me was that I think he implied that saving sex for marriage is only for some couples, not all. The Bible is very clear that it's not debatable. Sex was created for marriage to bond you to your spouse for life. It's not meant for relationships that can end. He also used some bad language, all minor stuff, but it still shocked me because I've never read a Christian book that used bad language. So overall I was very disappointed with this and would not recommend it to anyone who is looking for advice rooted in the gospel.
A couple of other things that bothered me was that I think he implied that saving sex for marriage is only for some couples, not all. The Bible is very clear that it's not debatable. Sex was created for marriage to bond you to your spouse for life. It's not meant for relationships that can end. He also used some bad language, all minor stuff, but it still shocked me because I've never read a Christian book that used bad language. So overall I was very disappointed with this and would not recommend it to anyone who is looking for advice rooted in the gospel.
March 18, 2021
Author Stephan Labossiere hit this one right out of the park!!!!
What I really enjoyed about this audiobook is that Stephan didn't try to use fillers in places that could have remained empty. Everything he spoke about was right on point, again no fluff and no muss. He broke it down about situations (not relationships) that women try to create when nothing is there, he also spoke about when a man wants to be with you he will, and not just using you to pass the time until the woman he really wants comes his way.
Just a real gem and I can say that will all of the books that are on this subject, and I am speaking for myself, this is the top of the line for me. No, I don't know this author nor was I given this book for a review, I used my own money. And I am saying for me this book is a game changer.
Well Until My Next Review...Ciao!
What I really enjoyed about this audiobook is that Stephan didn't try to use fillers in places that could have remained empty. Everything he spoke about was right on point, again no fluff and no muss. He broke it down about situations (not relationships) that women try to create when nothing is there, he also spoke about when a man wants to be with you he will, and not just using you to pass the time until the woman he really wants comes his way.
Just a real gem and I can say that will all of the books that are on this subject, and I am speaking for myself, this is the top of the line for me. No, I don't know this author nor was I given this book for a review, I used my own money. And I am saying for me this book is a game changer.
Well Until My Next Review...Ciao!
August 1, 2018
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I'm not sure where I got the inspiration to read this book. I have become much more religious lately, but I'm also in a weird transitory time in my life. All I know is that I felt the need to read anything that could guide me in any area of my life. It just so happens that this book guided me in my relationships. I'm always looking at comments in articles or blogs about new books to read and this one popped up along the way.
Labossiere's style is very readable. The way he writes is the way I'd imagine he speaks. It's with passion and it holds your attention. The writing isn't sterile or self-appraising. He doesn't claim HIS book is the BEST one on the market and has ALL the answers you're looking for. Reading this, I felt like I was getting lunch or coffee with one of my girlfriends and they were giving me dating advice. It's personal.
The book contains great advice. I have soooo many highlights in my kindle after reading this book. And while you may think it's common knowledge, it's hard to remind yourself of these facts when you're romantically involved with someone. He talks about having a relationship with God and trying to incorporate that into your relationship with your significant other, but he also talks about how you're treated and how you should demand respect. Much of what he says is easily applicable to every relationship you have, not just romantic ones. Here's one of my highlights:
"there is a difference between the person who makes a real effort but makes mistakes at times, and the person who has a recurring issue. When it is continuous, that is a problem. Does he show you effort? What are his words and do they line up with his actions? Even though actions speak louder than words, in this case you can get confused. Oftentimes, his actions may say he wants to be in your life, or wants you as his girl, but his words say no. The actions and words must be aligned. When the actions and words do not line up, there is a problem."(Labossiere, Stephan. The Man God Has For You: 7 Traits To Help You Determine Your Life Partner (p. 93). Highly Favored Publishing. Kindle Edition.)
What I really liked about this book is that he gave advice about relationships, but he also gave advice on how to be a better person, because by being a better person, you'll have healthier relationships. He doesn't just say "find a guy who does this, this, and this", ticking off all the checkboxes. He strongly encourages the reader to better themselves in order to accept the right kind of person in their lives.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book, and I think any person that this could apply to should read it as well. I certainly saw myself in some of the examples he gave, and the book left me feeling optimistic. Even if you're not actively in a relationship or trying to get into one, I think you should still read it. It really does apply to any person and all relationships.
I'm not sure where I got the inspiration to read this book. I have become much more religious lately, but I'm also in a weird transitory time in my life. All I know is that I felt the need to read anything that could guide me in any area of my life. It just so happens that this book guided me in my relationships. I'm always looking at comments in articles or blogs about new books to read and this one popped up along the way.
Labossiere's style is very readable. The way he writes is the way I'd imagine he speaks. It's with passion and it holds your attention. The writing isn't sterile or self-appraising. He doesn't claim HIS book is the BEST one on the market and has ALL the answers you're looking for. Reading this, I felt like I was getting lunch or coffee with one of my girlfriends and they were giving me dating advice. It's personal.
The book contains great advice. I have soooo many highlights in my kindle after reading this book. And while you may think it's common knowledge, it's hard to remind yourself of these facts when you're romantically involved with someone. He talks about having a relationship with God and trying to incorporate that into your relationship with your significant other, but he also talks about how you're treated and how you should demand respect. Much of what he says is easily applicable to every relationship you have, not just romantic ones. Here's one of my highlights:
"there is a difference between the person who makes a real effort but makes mistakes at times, and the person who has a recurring issue. When it is continuous, that is a problem. Does he show you effort? What are his words and do they line up with his actions? Even though actions speak louder than words, in this case you can get confused. Oftentimes, his actions may say he wants to be in your life, or wants you as his girl, but his words say no. The actions and words must be aligned. When the actions and words do not line up, there is a problem."(Labossiere, Stephan. The Man God Has For You: 7 Traits To Help You Determine Your Life Partner (p. 93). Highly Favored Publishing. Kindle Edition.)
What I really liked about this book is that he gave advice about relationships, but he also gave advice on how to be a better person, because by being a better person, you'll have healthier relationships. He doesn't just say "find a guy who does this, this, and this", ticking off all the checkboxes. He strongly encourages the reader to better themselves in order to accept the right kind of person in their lives.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book, and I think any person that this could apply to should read it as well. I certainly saw myself in some of the examples he gave, and the book left me feeling optimistic. Even if you're not actively in a relationship or trying to get into one, I think you should still read it. It really does apply to any person and all relationships.
December 23, 2018
I like this book more...
This is the second time I read this book!! This book really resonated with me on a deeper level compared to “God, Where is my Boaz?” I highlighted a lot and it helped me understand why my ex-boyfriend was NOT the one for me and gave me insight on why he behaved a particular way and myself included. I learned a lot about how to trust your intuition and that it’s rarely ever wrong. When it comes to dating, as women (some not all, don’t want to generalize), we often know as early as the first date or phone call that this man is not it...yet we ignore it. This book will tell you the harsh truths that you need to hear so that you can begin to heal and grow as a person. I love the Christian aspect of this book, I highly recommend this book.
This is the second time I read this book!! This book really resonated with me on a deeper level compared to “God, Where is my Boaz?” I highlighted a lot and it helped me understand why my ex-boyfriend was NOT the one for me and gave me insight on why he behaved a particular way and myself included. I learned a lot about how to trust your intuition and that it’s rarely ever wrong. When it comes to dating, as women (some not all, don’t want to generalize), we often know as early as the first date or phone call that this man is not it...yet we ignore it. This book will tell you the harsh truths that you need to hear so that you can begin to heal and grow as a person. I love the Christian aspect of this book, I highly recommend this book.
February 15, 2018
This is an excellent book ladies, especially for the SINGLE ladies! I highly recommend this book for the Christian ladies seeking a Godly man. I had never heard of this author before, but I'm glad I stumbled across one of his posts on Facebook! I will buy this book for future references, while I wait for my mate. :)
October 9, 2020
Nothing new but great delivery
I really enjoyed this book and it's straight forwardness. While it was nothing that I haven't heard 1000x times before it was still well written and put together. I do think he brought up some great questions and answers that single struggling christians may need the answer to.
I really enjoyed this book and it's straight forwardness. While it was nothing that I haven't heard 1000x times before it was still well written and put together. I do think he brought up some great questions and answers that single struggling christians may need the answer to.
September 8, 2024
“ A whole man will want a whole woman. “
This book gave me a real big insight on how to work on yourself as a woman.
To prepare yourself for the relationship God has in mind for you.
I will definitely order the other books from this series. 🙌🏻
This book gave me a real big insight on how to work on yourself as a woman.
To prepare yourself for the relationship God has in mind for you.
I will definitely order the other books from this series. 🙌🏻
December 16, 2020
Some good thoughts here and there, but overall wasn’t a fan.
April 22, 2019
4.5 🌟. I actually like this book, it’s a fairly short read with some gems packed inside. Not that there was anything groundbreaking or new that I learned but sometimes you need to hear some things from someone else. I really liked the fact that he reinforces prayer & seeking GOD in all of this— shouldn’t the creator know?!?! Also, I’ve never been so at peace with my “singledom” in my whole life & this book shows me where i went wrong, I accept it & am enjoying the present while looking forward to the future. 💚 man or no man... GOD will NEVER play me.
Here are some of my favorite thoughts from the book:
-The man who doesn’t know what he wants should not be entertained— TUH!!!
Job was perfect & Imma just leave that right here. (Me)
-Don’t be chosen by default cause you were there WAITING for him to come around.
-I don’t know what I want— or I’m not ready for a relationship (let’s just go with the flow) really means, you’re not what I want.
-An inconsistent action is a consistent answer.
-Actions and words must be aligned.
-The guy who is serious about you wants you to feel at peace; so when you ask him questions, he’ll provide the answers because he wants you to feel safe with him. He wants to show you that he isn’t like those other guys.
-Boys will bring confusion and chaos, but the man who is serious about you will bring clarity and peace.
-When there is a connection, you’re at peace when you’re around them.
-When you give the unnecessary a CHANCE, you waste TIME.
-A connection is when two spirits recognize their counterparts.... you have to like who they are which works only when you know who you are.
-secrecy breeds insecurity.
-A whole man wants a whole woman. 💚💚💚
Here are some of my favorite thoughts from the book:
-The man who doesn’t know what he wants should not be entertained— TUH!!!
Job was perfect & Imma just leave that right here. (Me)
-Don’t be chosen by default cause you were there WAITING for him to come around.
-I don’t know what I want— or I’m not ready for a relationship (let’s just go with the flow) really means, you’re not what I want.
-An inconsistent action is a consistent answer.
-Actions and words must be aligned.
-The guy who is serious about you wants you to feel at peace; so when you ask him questions, he’ll provide the answers because he wants you to feel safe with him. He wants to show you that he isn’t like those other guys.
-Boys will bring confusion and chaos, but the man who is serious about you will bring clarity and peace.
-When there is a connection, you’re at peace when you’re around them.
-When you give the unnecessary a CHANCE, you waste TIME.
-A connection is when two spirits recognize their counterparts.... you have to like who they are which works only when you know who you are.
-secrecy breeds insecurity.
-A whole man wants a whole woman. 💚💚💚
July 31, 2023
Absolutely amazing and eye opening!
March 5, 2021
I don’t think there is a specific man God has for you because you have the gift to make decisions. God gives us options but we have to choose. Besides that, what I like the most about the book is that is very practical and gives you insight and makes you to reflect on your actions that sometimes push away men. We need to heal from our past and try to build a relationship with God first and foremost.
August 26, 2017
Short read but packed with truth! Common sense material but there was one thing that really struck home to me and that was the reminder of the power that women have been graced by God with. We "are mothers, sisters, daughters," and how immense our energy is. This book has kickstarted my desire and dreams for working in my businesses and building a deeper relationship with God, and IF God has a man set aside for me, HE (the man) will show me that he is the one by his actions and his genuine love for me not just the "hang out" "hook up" when it suits him games.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
May 16, 2022
I was surprised to find this a good book. Very practical outlook from a man.
July 10, 2018
This book was a really quick read, and I enjoyed hearing things from a man’s perspective. To get the petty stuff out of the way first - there were A LOT of grammatical errors. I am easily distracted and the errors weren’t helping. I had to read some parts of this book a couple of times to register the meaning. There were also a couple of opinions in this book I didn’t agree with, but that’s probably because I’m very opinionated in general.
Okay, now to the good stuff! This book is a blessing, grammatical errors and all. Parts of it, as the author noted, were a “refresher,” whereas other parts were brand new concepts to me. Stephan doesn’t beat around the bush. He calls it like he sees it, and that is refreshing. There is no point in cushioning something as important as being the woman God is leading to the right man.
Some of the chapters were 100% relatable to things I’ve gone through in my life, whereas other chapters made me think, “I should tuck that away in case a situation like this arises.”
I love that Stephan talks about God and connecting to Him more than trying to connect to a man. He noted that sometimes we fall out of our relationship with God when we are too busy chasing a relationship with a man.
One thing I did not care for was the lack of scriptural reference. Sure, there is some, but it felt very minimal. If a person is trying to help lead others the way he believes God is telling him, why aren’t there scriptures to back things up? As a Christian I am aware that the word of God is steadfast and true. I’m currently reading through the Bible, and I believe the best relationship advice (pre or current) is contained in its pages.
Overall, I’m pleased with this book and have ordered, “God Where is My Boaz?” Hopefully I will find the same kind of comfort there as I did in this book.
Okay, now to the good stuff! This book is a blessing, grammatical errors and all. Parts of it, as the author noted, were a “refresher,” whereas other parts were brand new concepts to me. Stephan doesn’t beat around the bush. He calls it like he sees it, and that is refreshing. There is no point in cushioning something as important as being the woman God is leading to the right man.
Some of the chapters were 100% relatable to things I’ve gone through in my life, whereas other chapters made me think, “I should tuck that away in case a situation like this arises.”
I love that Stephan talks about God and connecting to Him more than trying to connect to a man. He noted that sometimes we fall out of our relationship with God when we are too busy chasing a relationship with a man.
One thing I did not care for was the lack of scriptural reference. Sure, there is some, but it felt very minimal. If a person is trying to help lead others the way he believes God is telling him, why aren’t there scriptures to back things up? As a Christian I am aware that the word of God is steadfast and true. I’m currently reading through the Bible, and I believe the best relationship advice (pre or current) is contained in its pages.
Overall, I’m pleased with this book and have ordered, “God Where is My Boaz?” Hopefully I will find the same kind of comfort there as I did in this book.
January 1, 2020
While I do think there are some good and practical truths found in this book, there are some very dangerous underlying issues. They're dangerous because it gives a false sense of control and promise over God's will. If God doesn't plan for you to have a spouse, nothing you do to get yourself right or ready is going to change that. Also, just because you do everything in this book doesn't mean you'll receive a man of God this book describes.
There's also language borrowed from the New Age movement like "positivity/negative energy", "your best self", etc. I think it would've been more helpful to use clearer language and wording. Defining happiness as the ultimate goal in life and as the way to attract a spouse is antithetical to the Bible. A Christian's purpose in life is to love God, love others, and share the gospel with everyone. When someone tells a Christian that they're supposed to find happiness anywhere other than in their relationship with God, those other things become idols that always lead to disappointment.
I also wish there was more information on how to address past issues/baggage/hurts.
Overall, I understand what the author is trying to convey and agree with some of the points, but I think the undergirding message is more dangerous than helpful.
There's also language borrowed from the New Age movement like "positivity/negative energy", "your best self", etc. I think it would've been more helpful to use clearer language and wording. Defining happiness as the ultimate goal in life and as the way to attract a spouse is antithetical to the Bible. A Christian's purpose in life is to love God, love others, and share the gospel with everyone. When someone tells a Christian that they're supposed to find happiness anywhere other than in their relationship with God, those other things become idols that always lead to disappointment.
I also wish there was more information on how to address past issues/baggage/hurts.
Overall, I understand what the author is trying to convey and agree with some of the points, but I think the undergirding message is more dangerous than helpful.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
April 25, 2022
***my mom made me read this lol***
ok so first of all, this reads like a really long twitter thread of just some guy ranting and giving his opinions. it’s written a little too casually for my tastes. he mainly just tells you stuff that’s common sense (“be yourself”, “don’t settle”) that most adult women should already know. it’s really nothing biblical. it’s just some dude’s opinions and saying people who have other differing opinions (ex: on the issue of there not being enough good, available men in the world) are WRONG (his words). books like this always stench of cash-grab to me and i never trust the integrity of the authors. it feels like they’re preying on vulnerable, desperate, single women. maybe that’s just me. anyway, this book tells you nothing that you couldn’t learn for free with a quick google search on relationship advice. save your money and just search quora or reddit 🤷🏼♀️
PS blaming women for men cheating because they didn’t show enough affection is not a good take. never blame someone for their partner cheating. their partner should have expressed their issues in the relationship then left if still unhappy—not be unfaithful. that really displeased me.
ok so first of all, this reads like a really long twitter thread of just some guy ranting and giving his opinions. it’s written a little too casually for my tastes. he mainly just tells you stuff that’s common sense (“be yourself”, “don’t settle”) that most adult women should already know. it’s really nothing biblical. it’s just some dude’s opinions and saying people who have other differing opinions (ex: on the issue of there not being enough good, available men in the world) are WRONG (his words). books like this always stench of cash-grab to me and i never trust the integrity of the authors. it feels like they’re preying on vulnerable, desperate, single women. maybe that’s just me. anyway, this book tells you nothing that you couldn’t learn for free with a quick google search on relationship advice. save your money and just search quora or reddit 🤷🏼♀️
PS blaming women for men cheating because they didn’t show enough affection is not a good take. never blame someone for their partner cheating. their partner should have expressed their issues in the relationship then left if still unhappy—not be unfaithful. that really displeased me.
July 27, 2020
Helpful & A GREAT Read!
My spirit had been heavy about my current relationships. Night after night I was up wrestling with some thoughts praying for direction and weighing out my options. One late night I was up, and as I was reviewing IG stories this book was shared and declared, "A Must Read For Ladies." I checked out the author, Googled the book and was able to read the first two chapters for free. Because I found it an easy read that addressed some of my struggles, I decided to buy it. I'll start with what I disliked because it's minor, and it's the editing, which is why I gave it 4/5 stars. What I like most; it's an easy read, and while it felt like I was talking to a trusted friend or that male relative who "schools" you on men, Stephan ALWAYS makes reference to God and our need to pray for direction because it supercedes ANYTHING in life. This book pointed out mistakes I've made in how I prayed as well as my approach and movement in my current relationship. I will be purchasing multiple copies and gifting them to friends.
My spirit had been heavy about my current relationships. Night after night I was up wrestling with some thoughts praying for direction and weighing out my options. One late night I was up, and as I was reviewing IG stories this book was shared and declared, "A Must Read For Ladies." I checked out the author, Googled the book and was able to read the first two chapters for free. Because I found it an easy read that addressed some of my struggles, I decided to buy it. I'll start with what I disliked because it's minor, and it's the editing, which is why I gave it 4/5 stars. What I like most; it's an easy read, and while it felt like I was talking to a trusted friend or that male relative who "schools" you on men, Stephan ALWAYS makes reference to God and our need to pray for direction because it supercedes ANYTHING in life. This book pointed out mistakes I've made in how I prayed as well as my approach and movement in my current relationship. I will be purchasing multiple copies and gifting them to friends.
June 30, 2018
I luckily found the audiobook on Amazon and was able to download it for free. Seriously, I just saw a post on IG of an excerpt from the book today and I just had to read it. The timing of how I came about the book and how quickly I accessed it was insane. I searched all over trying to figure out the soonest possible way I could get a hold of the book, even to possibly borrow it from a library, and low and behold, I found it. Saw the post, accessed the audiobook, listened, and finished all within 24hrs. It was THAT GOOD. It came at the perfect time, almost as if it was planned and I honestly believe it was. I needed to hear everything the book had to say and let me tell you, every single woman out there who’s in search of the man meant for her needs to read (or in my case, hear) the message this book rings out. God truly does know His plans for all of us, we just have to believe, be patient and have faith.
May 1, 2021
This one got me from a FB ad...lol...and after taking a break from filling my mind with these kinds of books...godly truth on romance...I can say that I will (and have already) recommended this book 🙌 It's a good read if you (as a woman) are looking for a reminder on how to be healthy in the many seasons of singleness. **spoiler alert on the 7 traits** 1) You will be attracted to him. 2) His love will uplift you, not break you. 3) You will not have to make him into a man. 4) He wants a helpmate, not a playmate. 5) You'll experience a genuine connection, not just chemistry. 6) He will love God. 7) He'll want all your love, not just a piece. Time is a gift from God. The timing of you reading this review, reading this book, and meeting your person...keep loving God and take in every sweet moment leading up to eternity with Him.
August 4, 2022
In this world full of liars, pretentious, disloyal and hypocrite men — this book could be really a guide on how to avoid them and determine the man God has intended for you.
I love how straightforward and stick to Godly advice that the author has written on this book.
I wish I had read it before. It really helps you understand, reflect, and address issues you also have with yourself in a relationship.
I definitely agree that to find your boaz— you must know first how to listen to what God has been telling you to do.
You should be the kind of woman who deserves to be loved by a man who value, respect, and most of all — would help you to connect and grow further with God.
I enjoyed this book.
It is a must-read for all women who want to guide their heart from men who would might possibly waste their time and take advantage of them.
I love how straightforward and stick to Godly advice that the author has written on this book.
I wish I had read it before. It really helps you understand, reflect, and address issues you also have with yourself in a relationship.
I definitely agree that to find your boaz— you must know first how to listen to what God has been telling you to do.
You should be the kind of woman who deserves to be loved by a man who value, respect, and most of all — would help you to connect and grow further with God.
I enjoyed this book.
It is a must-read for all women who want to guide their heart from men who would might possibly waste their time and take advantage of them.
April 7, 2020
The first 3-4 traits, for me, the author did explain well and concisely, but for the next last few traits, its kind of confusing and blurry only explaining how he percepts things with reasoning, but NOT based on Bible verses or God's word or truth. I would give a 5 star if the author research and know more what God says, why he thinks or believed the last few traits were justified so that the writings will have a stronger conviction that every women can really rely on. But good book indeed! I would recommend "Pure Love" by Evert, if you're looking for a justified and truth about determining who you should entertain and what kind of man or his qualities he must have.:)) Godbless!
March 5, 2020
I actually gave up on this book and didn’t finish it. I was pretty frustrated with the way the author just pulls his information out of thin air. Most of his assertions were not based on any scripture that I saw. I tried to give it a chance, because it was a gift, but I just couldn’t get through it. If you are writing a book about God, I expect there to be some scriptural foundations that you are building upon. Otherwise, it’s just a regular self help book with God’s name thrown in just to sell books to a certain group of people. No thanks!
June 22, 2019
I have read a couple of this author's books and this was the best one that I have read so far. It touched on so many things and issues that I have struggled with in my life when trying to find a partner. Dating is hard and extra hard for an African American women. We have so many expectations put on us when it comes to finding a mate. This book was loaned to me by a friend and I am going to buy my own version to keep in my selection.
September 4, 2020
It is simple to understand, fairly short and straight forward content. I'm not really religious nor really into speaking and listening to God but there are a few pointers that were really helpful and relatable to my current situation. A day before I read this book, I walked away from a man who isn't ready for what I have to offer, and this book really serves as a reminder and gave me even more clarity to the decision I had made.
April 8, 2021
Eye opener!
I've been in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic man. I've realized a long time ago he was bad for me. I moved out of state. I reconnected by texting and its the same thing. I'm tired. I'm working extra hours. Etc. He doesn't care about me, only sex, which he couldn't even look at me when we did it. This book made me realize its time to move on. I blocked and deleted his number. I feel good and letting God help open me up and heal. Thank you Stephan.
I've been in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic man. I've realized a long time ago he was bad for me. I moved out of state. I reconnected by texting and its the same thing. I'm tired. I'm working extra hours. Etc. He doesn't care about me, only sex, which he couldn't even look at me when we did it. This book made me realize its time to move on. I blocked and deleted his number. I feel good and letting God help open me up and heal. Thank you Stephan.
December 22, 2022
if only the younger me had read this…
This book gave practical life applications for finding the man God has in store for you. Stephan offered ways to prepare, ways to acknowledge, ways to receive and ways to proceed.
For those of us who have been on this journey before it’s nice to be reminded, or either given the information, in order to realize the love of a lifetime.
I wish the younger me had read this…Thank you, sir!
This book gave practical life applications for finding the man God has in store for you. Stephan offered ways to prepare, ways to acknowledge, ways to receive and ways to proceed.
For those of us who have been on this journey before it’s nice to be reminded, or either given the information, in order to realize the love of a lifetime.
I wish the younger me had read this…Thank you, sir!
May 11, 2018
Excellent read
This book was amazing and very insightful! It provided some sound advice and doctrine. I look forward to my next relationship as I learn to navigate through my current process !
This book was amazing and very insightful! It provided some sound advice and doctrine. I look forward to my next relationship as I learn to navigate through my current process !
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