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The Impossibility of Us

4.15  ·  Rating details ·  765 ratings  ·  188 reviews
The last thing Elise wants is to start her senior year in a new town. But after her brother’s death in Afghanistan, she and her mother move from San Francisco to a sleepy coastal village.

When Elise meets Mati, they quickly discover how much they have in common. Mati is new to town too, visiting the U.S. with his family. Over the course of the summer, their relationship beg
Hardcover, 305 pages
Published July 31st 2018 by Swoon Reads
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Jul 27, 2018 rated it really liked it
Well, I went into this expecting a ball of fluff, but it’s not quite that.

I loved Elise and Mati. They’re both such good people and I truly enjoyed reading them figure everything out. She’s such a smart ass and he’s such a marshmallow and together they have this quiet intensity that I couldn’t get enough of.

Plot wise it was heartbreaking, but hopeful. There’s so much racism and it’s sad to know that this is actually happening in our world right now. It was impossible not to root for Elise and
Samantha (WLABB)
Jul 09, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: arcs, ya, romance
Buckets, people, I cried buckets of tears reading this one. It was emotional on so many levels. Upperman incorporated ideas of forgiveness, friendship, grief, loss, tolerance, and prejudice into a touching story of first love.

• Pro: What a beautiful and emotional story. My heart was wrecked in a bunch different ways, but also filled with so much joy.

• Pro: I must say, I was a fan of the book format. It was alternating POVs between Elise and Mati, but Mati's chapters were in verse, and they were
”’What is your wish?’
‘You,’ I say. ‘You, always.’”

Me: Oh, look at this cover. And synopsis! This sounds like such a cute story full of sunshine, soft boys, and happiness.
Mati: Should we tell her?
Elise: Nah, let her figure it out for herself.
Author: Get ready, my book children. We’re about to break some hearts.
In all the instances where covers have deceived me, I don’t think one had deceived me quite as much as this one. I mean, look at it. It practically screams suns
Tanya (Girl Plus Books)

Katy Upperman has done it again. As much as I loved her debut novel, Kissing Max Holden, The Impossibility of Us has more depth, packs more of an emotional punch, and made a visceral impact that had me wiping away tears.

Newly arrived in a small coastal California town in order to be closer to her niece and her brother’s widow, Elise meets Mati at the beach. Their tenuous friendship is threatened when Elise learns Mati is from Afghanistan but her hesitancy turns to acceptance when she re
Kris (frantic4romantic)
Mar 02, 2020 rated it really liked it
I wasn’t sure how I felt about this once I started it. The way Mati’s chapters were formatted took some getting used to. After a while, though, I came to appreciate them. It really helped you relate to his character.

I loved the poetic aspect to this story. How their feelings were described with powerful and vivid words. Elise and Mati’s feelings were so strong and new for both of them. It was uncharted territory in so many ways, not only their draw to one another.

This book sheds a light on preju
Jaime Arkin
This was such an emotional story… I don’t think I was expecting that when I opened it up to read the first chapter. Once I started though, I couldn’t stop and I found myself tearing through this in one sitting.

Upperman has created some really interesting characters with this story, and how fitting that we’re reading something like this now when we are seeing so much racial tension and negativity in the world.

Elise is forced to leave San Francisco for a sleepy California coastal town to support
Natalia  R
Aug 10, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This is one of the best young adult contemporary book I have read.I was expecting a light,fluffy romance but what I got was a beautiful,emotional story .I cried buckets of tears while reading this.I loved Elise and Mati as characters.I connected so much with both of them and really rooted for them to be together and was really pleased with the ending.
Mar 05, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Read this as a sensitivity read and really, really enjoyed it--I'll probably post a review when the publication date is closer. :) ...more
Jessica Pennington
Dec 13, 2017 rated it it was amazing
ADORED this book. Full review to come!
Kate (Beyond Bookish)
Really beautiful! Katy is quickly becoming my new favorite author. While your waiting for this beauty to publish (July 31) consider picking up her debut Kissing Max Holden, another one of my favorites!

Full Review of TIOS closer to the release date :D
After Elise’s brother’s death in Afghanistan, she and her mother moved to a coastal village. Elise was not pleased by the idea for she will now spend her Senior year there instead of San Francisco. Adjusting to a new comfort of living. When she met Mati, everything in her new world seems to be easier. Their connection was instant. They both found comfort in each other. But it will be not that easy…

It is told in two point-of-views, Elise’s and Mati. What I love about it more is that Mati’s though
Lynda Dickson
Aug 04, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Ages 13+
Shelves: young-adult
Just before her senior year of high school, seventeen-year-old Elise is forced to move to the tiny town of Cypress Beach. An encounter with a strange boy on the beach will lead to something she never expected to find this far from her beloved San Francisco. Will she be strong enough to overcome the prejudices of her family in order to seek her own happiness? And is it true that, in the words of Alfred Lord Tennyson, “’Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”?

The story i
Naomi Bates
Aug 14, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book is more than just a summer romance. It’s a snapshot of real life, real prejudices, and being able to see the world through two perspectives. Upperman stitches together a girl who has lost her brother t the war in Afghanistan with a young man living in the US from Afghanistan. Elise’s voice is written in prose and shows the gutsy person she is. Mati’s voice is written in narrative poetry and reflects the person he is. LOVED this book about love, prejudice, and racism of two families and ...more
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(I received a free eARC from Xpresso Book tours in exchange for an honest review)

“If you think walking away now is right, go, but know you’re taking a piece of me with you.”

The impossibility of us by Katy Upperman

Genre: YA, Contemporary, Romance

Format: eARC

Rating: 4/5 stars


(DISCLAIMER: This review is based on my opinion only.)

After her brother’s death in Afghanistan, Elise is forced to start her senior year in a coastal village. She meets Mati, who’s family is visiting from Afghanistan a
Beth Summer
Dec 24, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I was lucky enough to read an ARC and all I can say is: wow. I am a huge fan of KISSING MAX HOLDEN and already knew Katy Upperman's writing is on another level, but I'm still blown away at just how unique and stunning TIOU is.
First we've got the fierce romance between Elise and Mati. Their inescapable pull makes the reader feel as if we're gasping for air when they're apart. That's how good this is. Then there are the complex family dynamics, and the so very real characters Upperman is a master
Marci Curtis
Apr 28, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I wasn't prepared for this story. I had no idea it would be so emotional. It ran the gamut, from laughs to swoons, from goosebumps to tears. God, THE TEARS. I spent the last quarter of the book sobbing (no exaggeration). Because HOLY CRAP, I felt for those two kids.

There's this soaring, beautiful romance, for sure, but there are also so many powerful messages about loss, desertion, racism, tolerance, love, equality, selflessness, friendship, family, and kindness.

Rachel 007
Jun 20, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: beta-read
Agh this book is beautiful. Perfect for fans of Trish Doller and Sarah Ockler. I read an early draft and can't wait to read the final! :) ...more
Sarah {The Clever Reader}
Jan 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing
“This time I kiss him, and it's the best kiss, because I'm certain now. A million more will follow.”

In this YA Contemporary about hopes and wishes you'll fall in love with two people who feel like the odds are against them. It's such a beautiful story and one that I feel fell below the radar.

Elise has been forced to move to a small beach town the summer before her senior year. The only positive about the move is that she gets to see her niece and sister-in-law whenever she wants. Ever since her
Feb 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2019, kindle-ebooks
I LOVED this book! It was the kind of read where I wanted to stay up all night to finish and couldn't get enough. I smiled and cried and felt so much while I read. I loved Elise and Mati together, they were just opposite enough but still had similarities, like their creativity and all they've been through. Elise lost her brother in Afghanistan and her mother has been distant since. Elise climbed into herself and doesn't have many connections to others. Mati has come from Afghanistan to America f ...more
Sarah  Bittel
Jun 29, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: netgalley
What a beautiful story... I cried and laughed and smiled and felt the heartbreak of these two teenagers as they fought to be together against all the reasons that they should be. Told in alternating voices and writing styles, Elise and Mati have a beautiful story to tell. Elise has recently moved with her mother to be closer to her sister-in-law and niece. After the death of her older brother in Afghanistan, Elise has been trying to survive and find her way. When she meets Mati on the beach, she ...more
Kim Owens
Jul 17, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book was amazing! I found it to be realistic, eye-opening in so many ways and full of that teen angst we all remember.
The characters were beautifully developed, their dialogue so genuine that I found myself drawn into their world fairly quickly.
Elise is no stranger to loss, with a father that took off when she was very young, a mother completely absorbed in the writing of her romance novels, and an older brother killed in action while deployed in Afghanistan. In the summer before her seni
Kath (Read Forevermore)
May 31, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2018-arcs, reviews
An arc of this book was sent to me by Swoon Reads/ Fierce Reads in exchange for an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

OH MY GOSH! This book! I am an emotional mess right now! This book had all the "feels," which makes me so happy. The romance between Elise and Mati was just so strong, and their bond is so beautiful. Among the romance, there are lessons of family, friendship, selflessness, kindness, love, loss, and racism. This book was hard and serious, but at the same time was
YES! Loved this book about a lonely American girl falling for a sweet (and hot) Afghan boy who's in California temporarily while his father gets experimental cancer treatments. (Where is there in California that people can get experimental cancer treatments? I thought MD Anderson Cancer Center in Houston was where the foreigners flocked?)

Mati has the soul of a poet (as we learn, his POV is written in verse). Elise is drawn to him in that bittersweet, undeniable way that anyone who has ever felt
Aug 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing
He steps closer, crowding me in the most wonderful way. He leans in to whisper, “What is your wish, shaahazadi?”
“You,” I say, without hesitation. “You, always.”

Beautiful. Amazing. Important. Heart-wrenching. Impactful. I can't say enough good things about this book. It broke my heart so many times but also made me so so happy!

This book tackles very important issues surrounding racism and prejudice. It challenges the narrow-minded opinions of those who judge a whole group based on the
Alexis Neuville
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A new absolute favorite. This book had me crying and all the feels were laid out on the table. Read the full review on Literary Lexi.
Kylie Corley
Jul 11, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I won an ARC through a Goodreads giveaway. I think it was fast that I won this, too. Life has just been so depressing lately, and reading this was like a breath of fresh air.
It was beautifully written, and the words so captivating. The author did a great job in all the descriptions, I felt every high and low emotion of the characters.
Highly recommend this book. Definitely going to pick up the author's other book and any further novels she writes.
Jun 12, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: arcs, 2018-releases
I really, reaaally enjoyed this book. It has everything I love: great, endearing characters, a swoon-worthy relationship with the complications, emotions and everything else. I really had such a great time reading it <3

Read my full review of The Impossibility of Us on my blog.

Thank you to MacMillan International / Swoon Read for the ARC of this book. This did not, in any way, influenced my thoughts and rating.

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Angela Cuéllar
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I am SOBBING and I am SWOONING and I am SOBBING SOME MORE. I could read this book a hundred times over just to spend more time with them omg.

The Impossibility of Us is a beautiful but heart-breaking journey through pain, difference, and love, each moment carefully penned with exquisite emotion demanded by heart’s truth. It is a reminder that we cannot control the world or the pain it delivers, but we can choose to the break the chains it would have us drown in, because bey
Aug 06, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Have you ever just hugged a book for a few minutes after you finished because you didn't know how to process how lovely it was? Yeah, that was me after finishing The Impossibility of Us. Katy Upperman has seriously outdone herself with this story. Not only is the prose gorgeous, but each character is drawn so complexly and tackles each side of hard topics like xenophobia, religion, and sexuality with careful consideration. Mati and Elise are two characters that I won't soon forget for their love ...more
Mandie Baxter
Mar 25, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: borrowed
I can not put into words how beautifully written this story is. Katy’s words swallowed me whole and spit me back out. Truly grateful to have been given a chance to read this story early. And I hope it touches the lives of many, many people after it’s release. Everyone should read Elise and Mati’s story.
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