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A Tokyo Romance: A Memoir

3.47  ·  Rating details ·  360 ratings  ·  58 reviews
A classic memoir of self-invention in a strange land: Ian Buruma's unflinching account of his amazing journey into the heart of Tokyo's underground culture as a young man in the 1970's

When Ian Buruma arrived in Tokyo in 1975, Japan was little more than an idea in his mind, a fantasy of a distant land. A sensitive misfit in the world of his upper middleclass youth, what he
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Published March 6th 2018 by Penguin Press
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Mar 29, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: books-bought
Over the years, and especially going back and forth from Japan, I have read many books by fellow Americans and some British citizens on their time spent in Japan. A lot of them are crap. The ones that stand out are the ones that wrote about Japanese cinema and literature. The girls or guys who went there to get a job as an English teacher are usually not that interesting, but alas, those who are devoted to a specific Japanese artist or thinker, then yes I very much enjoy that type of book. There ...more
Lyn Elliott
Nov 27, 2018 rated it really liked it
As a young man, Ian Buruma lived in Japan for several years , exploring the fringe worlds of theatre, film and performance art, where erotu, grotu and nonsensu prevailed (erotic/porn, grotesque and nonsensu) prevailed.

He hung out with actors, joining them on tour, eating, drinking, visiting sex clubs – all part of the life of the Tokyounder-life that he wanted to explore. There was more than enough detail for me of his and the group exploits, though those interested in the inner workings and ten
Stephen Durrant
Apr 21, 2018 rated it really liked it
This memoir is both a poignant account of Buruma's romance with Japan, a romance that both succeeds and fails, and also a compelling "insider" account of 1970s Japanese avant-garde culture, particularly the theater of Juro Kara. Buruma confronts an old problem with insight and sympathy--the inability of the gaijin, however much energy he might pour into the effort, to ever be accepted in Japan as anything other than an exotic outsider (so-called "gaijinitis"). Ironically, he argues, the more ade ...more
Mar 24, 2018 rated it it was ok
I was prepared to love this book and looked forward to a trip down memory lane since I was also in Japan during the time period Buruma is writing about. But it's more of a brag about his own youthful sexual exploits and unless you have a really strong interest in Japanese cinema, a lot of this is old hat and just another gaijin in Japan story.
There were moments when he did express some deeper and more interesting thoughts so the book is not a total loss. But mostly I just thought, "this again."
Jim Coughenour
Mar 13, 2018 rated it it was ok
Shelves: japan, memoir
An unfinished book that regularly reappears on my bedside table is The Donald Richie Reader: 50 Years of Writing on Japan, or its alternate, The Japan Journals: 1947-2004. Richie arrived in Japan in 1947 and ended up enjoying the rest of his life there – the journals, writings on Japanese cinema and culture (not to mention, The Inland Sea), never lose their charm for me. Richie appears in the first sentence of Buruma’s new book, and I was guilty of expecting a modulation of the same, the insider ...more
Apr 13, 2019 rated it liked it
I’ve travelled several times to modern Japan, I adore the country, so I appreciated the perspective of the country in the time that Buruma writes about, the 1970’s. It is a fascinating account of some of the avant-garde creatives of the era, and is set to a good pace. However, the let down of this is, unfortunately, that the writer himself anchors the interesting parts of Japan around his inability to do anything interesting at all. I suppose it is one way of reflecting on the way a gaijin’s exp ...more
A great source of reading ideas for me these days is the weekly NYTimes Book Review "By The Book" column where I was first introduced to Ian Buruma who I hadn't heard of before. The idea of this book resonated with me as my wife and I spent two years in Japan. Buruma was attracted to Japan by the Japanese cinema and spent much of his time there among some of the most radical, innovative theatrical producers and movie directors in the country at the time (the mid-1970s). Can't say that I could re ...more
Stephen Douglas Rowland
Uninspired. And at least 60% of the material here can be found in other (better) books by Buruma.
Jim Coleman
Apr 04, 2018 rated it really liked it
Exceptional meditation/memoir of the author's years in Japan in the mid-70's, mostly as a student. Do not look to this to help you understand Japan or the Japanese. Such understanding would come obliquely, as the author examines his "otherness" vis-a-vis both the Japanese and Westerners as well.

Buruma has a Dutch father and an English mother. His mother brought him up with a lot of English traditions which led to his feeling apart in Holland. There are also feelings of sexual ambiguity even befo
Mar 02, 2018 rated it really liked it
Buruma spent several years in Japan experiencing all he could about the post-war, avant-garde theater scene in Tokyo. It’s incredibly interesting to get such a privileged view of the somewhat crazy and hyper-cultural counter culture of Japan in the 70s, even more so when it comes from an outsider/foreigner who managed to luck into some very rare opportunities. Every troupe and individual worth mentioning in the time period is someone Buruma either interacted with in private or met in highly pers ...more
Gayle Zawilla
Feb 22, 2018 rated it liked it
West meets East and past meets future in this somewhat self-indulgent retrospective into the “gaijin” author’s foray into the creative, if sometimes seedy, underground culture of 1970s Tokyo. It reads like an ethnography in parts, which I guess it is. I was given an advance copy courtesy of LitHub First Readers’ Club Book Giveaway (thank you).
Apr 16, 2018 rated it liked it
Fascinating tale, memoir. It starts off with a privileged baby boomer from Holland, albeit his mother is a Jewish woman from a England whose brother was John Schlesinger, director of the iconic 1969 film Midnight Cowboy. The description of the upheaval of the 60s was interesting mainly because it showed how similar the scene was in Europe and US. The author is drawn to Japan, having a Japanese girlfriend, where he remains for six years.

He is involved in the underground art world in Japan, dance,
Sam Law
Apr 13, 2018 rated it it was ok
Shelves: asia, memoir, non-fiction
This is a memoir, by the editor of the New York Review of Books, which takes us largely to his life in Japan, between 1975 and 1981.

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A restless, bored, middle-class youth in the Netherlands, Buruma felt that he never fit in to his own society, that he was always on the fringes, the outsider looking in. He travels to Japan, where he explores both his emerging self, and the Japanese film and theatre culture.

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Celeste Chia
Apr 14, 2019 rated it really liked it
“Despite the extraordinary spread of certain aspects of Japanese culture — sushi, manga, Pokémon — Japan still is an insular nation, not much understood in the rest of the world. This opens up great opportunities to a writer, who knows Japan even a little bit, for so much still needs to be explained.” This explains what Ian Buruma is known for, and how I came to hear about this book.

I found this book a treasure, containing nuggets of information so niche — in the field of theatre; culture; avant
Marija S.
Sep 09, 2018 rated it really liked it
This is a memoir. A subjective, peculiar, artsy, anecdotal recollection of the author's youth, a rambling search for outlines of his own identity in a city that de facto does not exist anymore. Anyone picking it up with expectations to be presented with a flattering, familiar picture book of Japan or Tokyo just because of the title is bound to be disappointed.

Having said that, by reading this book, you get a unique chance to immerse into the life of one most unusual characters (just check Ian B
Marjan Kloosterman

Gaijn, buitenstaander zijn en blijven in Japan. Als Gaijn kan je het leven met kalme onthechting observeren zonder aan iemand iets verplicht te zijn, vertelt Donald Richie, een Amerikaan die jaren in Japan woont, en Buruma inwijdt in de Japanse cultuur en kunstwereld. Ian Buruma vertrok op jongen leeftijd naar Japan om zich los te maken van het eigen milieu en kennis te maken met een totaal andere wereld als Japan was en is.
Hij schrijft zich in als student bij een filmacademie waar hij niet vaa
Books on Asia
Oct 31, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: japan
This book was an easy read, and it was well-enough written, giving some interesting insights on Japanese culture and what was happening socially in Tokyo in the late 70's. Ian Buruma lived in Japan for 6 years, but he says he didn't keep a diary and he didn't write many letters during that time. He had only photos and his memory. Perhaps that's why the book seems to be lacking any narrative. The book is more about other people—mainly the literati he hung out with—than himself. Buruma spends most ...more
Ondřej Hojda
Jan 18, 2019 rated it it was amazing
"Mimicking Japanese figures of speech, or even adopting the physical mannerisms that go with a language—the bobbing of the head in half bows when speaking on the phone, smiling all the while—sometimes made me feel like an actor in real life. One would like to think that operating in a different culture is enriching. And so it is. But there are moments when the performer in a foreign language feels that he is leaving something of himself behind, or, to put it differently, that the foreign languag ...more
Carla Patterson
Sep 03, 2018 rated it really liked it
Quite interesting to hear about people and places I am familiar with due to my own time learning Japanese language and culture... but also, to read about aspects of the art and theater scene I would never have been aware of. I totally understand the Gaijin disease even though I never lived in Japan (spent a couple of nights in Tokyo on the way to and from Hong Kong, where I lived for a year but that's it). For a while I seemed to be 'Turning Japanese' (as the song says), but it was never going t ...more
Apr 03, 2019 rated it liked it
A lot of interesting history around Japanese Cinema of the 70s, and the context around that. Me and all of the other people going to Japan Society screenings will feel more confident reading this book. On the other hand, I do think Mr. Buruma could have been more sensitive or reflective on tourism type activities in Japan. There's a point about 1/3 of the way through the book where he rather uncritically makes the analogy that the desire to have sex with a japanese person (women? mostl ...more
Jun 09, 2018 rated it liked it
3.5 stars

“You know,” he said, before we parted company at the Hongo subway station, “you have to be a romantic to live in Japan. A person who feels complete, who does not question who he is, or his place in the world, will dislike it here. To be constantly exposed to such a radically different culture becomes unbearable. But to a romantic, open to other ways of being, Japan is full of wonders. Not that you will ever belong here. But that will set you free. And freedom is better than belonging. Y
Mary Ellen
Jul 14, 2018 rated it really liked it
Having lived and study in Japan, I initially had trouble relating to the author's engagement in the Tokyo arts community and the seeming view that it represented a foreigner's typical experience in Japan. There is an objective, nonchalance description of some disturbing art he experienced. However, he did win me over as the book progressed and I felt his memoir did capture the distinctness of Japan and a foreigner's inability to be accepted by the Japanese and his attempts at "fitting in" while ...more
Sep 23, 2018 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: reis
Ik het het boek uitgelezen, en sommige stukken waren wel ok maar .... zucht.... Ik had me er zo op verheugd.... Een boek over japan... van een vermaard Essayist die er 6 jaar gewoond heeft. Ik had gehoopt om de "tover" de "magie" te ervaren... maar het werd een koude realiteit. Niet omdat Buruma een Gajin blijft... dat denk ik wel te begrijpen, maar omdat het grotendeels een opsomming blijft van mensen, plaatsen, toneelstukken waar we hier in het westen te weinig van afweten. Tijden het lezen we ...more
Jun 30, 2018 rated it really liked it
In dit boek een heel andere kant van de schrijver Buruma. Als jonge student woont hij 6 jaar in Japan, van 1975 tot 1981. Dat is de tijd van het surrealistische theater en film. Hij dompelt zich onder in het milieu van acteurs, schrijvers en filmmakers. De intentie is om helemaal thuis te raken tussen de Japanners, maar dat blijkt een illusie. Een vreemdeling (gaijin) wordt in Japan nooit helemaal geaccepteerd. Waar wel trouwens? Buruma beschrijft dit goed. Hij heeft soms hilarische avonturen, a ...more
Nels Highberg
Other reviews say the author has written these things before in his other works, but this was my first encounter with him. Maybe the other books are better, but I'm wary. Perhaps it's not fair I wanted a deeper portrait of Japan, but I felt like I read a lot of well-told gossip about alternative performance scenes. I'm not sure the stories add a lot of depth to what is already known about these creators. I just kept waiting for more.
Jacques Thielen
Buruma laat een wereld zien die ik niet had verwacht in het Tokio van de tweede helft van de vorige eeuw. De andere kijk op erotiek, sexualiteit en de mogelijkheden deze publiekelijk te 'genieten' had ik niet gezocht achter de voor mij onbekend cultuur. De vraag is ven wat er nog van over is. Goed dat Buruma ons laat zien dat deze wereld er in elk geval was en aantrekkelijk was om in te verblijven.
Jenny T.
This is a memoir about a "gaijin" (a white person) in Japan in the late '70s. I was surprised at the contemporary films, theater, and art scene described (at times reminiscent of what I've read about the Andy Warhol scene at the Factory in its outrageousness). Ultimately everything had a foreign feel, but what resonated for me was the attempted immersion into another culture described in this book.
Thanks to First to Read- Penguin Books USA for the free copy of this book.
Kaoru Cruz
Sep 02, 2018 rated it it was ok
2.5 stars. It was promising in the beginning and I endured because I lived in Japan around the same time the author was there, so places and people he mentioned were familiar. But for those who have never been to Tokyo or Japan, it would be rather boring as he spends on Japanese films and film makers, theatre influencers most of the time in this book. It's his passion so if you like Japanese films from 1950-70's that's fine, but the book wasn't for me.
Marianne Meyers
May 10, 2018 rated it really liked it
One of the best memoirs of a place and time that I've ever read. His observational abilities are excellent. If you've been a student travelling and living in a foreign country, this will speak to you. He also followed many avant garde performers during his time there which is also very fascinating.
Feb 12, 2019 rated it it was amazing
An enthralling account of a young Dutch-English man finding his identity in 1970s Japan. Immersed in the theatre scene, Buruma's adventures are simultaneously unique and universal. The detailed descriptions could only come from a prodigiously observant outsider. Yet the feelings of unmoored curiosity, longing, and desire for fraternity will be familiar to anyone who has been young and lost.
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Ian Buruma is a British-Dutch writer and academic, much of whose work focuses on the culture of Asia, particularly that of 20th-century Japan, where he lived and worked for many years.
“I think that Ryu Chishu, or Tanaka Kinuyo, or to be more precise, the imaginary characters they portrayed, were more real to the film buffs than any existing human being. This is why cinephiles are spookier, on the whole, than music lovers or balletomanes. For they are creatures of the dark, getting off on the lives of others.” 0 likes
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