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M4M

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3.69  ·  Rating details ·  45 ratings  ·  26 reviews
2nd Edition

Finding and keeping love can be a challenge in the modern world of blogging, social media, and online dating, as one man will learn in this trilogy.


VGL Male Seeks Same

Poor Ethan Schwartz. At forty-two, he’s alone, his bed is empty, and his HDTV is overworked. He’s tried bars and other places where gay men are supposed to find each other, but it never works o
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ebook, 2nd edition, 182 pages
Published July 10th 2017 by Dreamspinner Press
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True Loveislovereview
Jul 10, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2017, lgbtq
Ethan and his life....
He was good with musing...Ethan was lonely and wanted company.
A dating site.....that was something from this time....Ethan in his early forties thinks of himself as common, plain, nothing special.
Maybe a makeover would help. Not in real but online....
And so he meets Brian and they have a click....even a real life click...

Then Ethan went to the doctor to get the news HIV and his world is tumbling down...
Blaming Brain for 'things' he wants to end his relationship. Trying to
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Erica Chilson
I received a copy of this title to read and review for Wicked Reads

4 Emotional Stars

I'm not entirely sure how to review M4M, as I don't want to ruin another reader's enjoyment by giving away too much. However, one could deduce what occurs from the blurb.

M4M is told in 3 parts, spanning a decade. During 2/3 of the book, Ethan is in his early forties, down on himself and the romance game. He decides to try internet dating, going to a site that wasn't for hookups but for relationships. But, whil
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CrabbyPatty
The three novellas that comprise M4M introduce us to Ethan as he wonders if life has passed him by at the ripe old age of 42.
Somewhere there had to be a companion for him, just waiting. His dream man wasn’t in all the places he had fruitlessly checked, like the bars, backstage, and in his office. But he was out there, and like Ethan, he too was pulling the covers up by himself and thinking the answer to the riddle of how to escape a solitary existence was just within reach.
In VGL Male Seeks Sa
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Barb ~rede-2-read~
Note: This book was provided to me by the publisher through Hearts on Fire Reviews in exchange for an impartial review.


This story is divided into three segments, two were formerly released as short books, and the third is new. I’ll review each and then summarize the whole. And I’m keeping this as spoiler-free as possible.

VGL Male Seeks Same:

This segment was really terrific. The self-deprecating humor of MC Ethan was outstanding. In fact, there were so many times when I found it outright hila
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Serena Yates
Aug 31, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read-2020, gay
Dating and finding the right partner can be tough, and whoever thinks it’s easier in the computer age - what with all the blogs, dating sites, and chat rooms now available is wrong. The basic problem is still human nature, all the individual idiosyncrasies and quirks we have, and if you’re an “older” gay male (i.e. above forty), the task becomes almost impossible. The three novellas in this collection accurately, sometimes humorously, describe Ethan’s path to happiness, and I loved every single ...more
Pat
Jul 22, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Another thought-provoking romance from Mr. Reed that will stay with readers long after they finish the book.
Melanie
Jul 10, 2017 rated it it was amazing
A Scattered Thoughts and Rogue Words Review

Rating: 4.75 stars out of 5

For the full review, visit http://wp.me/p220KL-b18

From that review: "I  truly can't imagine reading M4M by Rick R. Reed as anything except one deeply moving story...to me it doesn't even register as three separate tales. Rather three stages in one man's life, two so heartrending that the tissues seemed inadequate at times to stop the amount of tears that flowed.  Even now just thinking about Ethan and his journey, I start to c
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Kirsty Bicknell
Review originally published at Joyfully Jay Reviews

M4M is a novel made up of three parts — VGL Male Seeks Same, NEG uB2, and Status Updates (the first two were previously released as separate stories). For me, reading M4M as a whole is perfect, taking the reader from the beginning of Ethan’s foray into online dating and his meeting with Brian in VGL Male Seeks Same, to the moment he is diagnosed as being HIV positive and begins writing a blog in NEG UB2, and finally, Status Updates in which Eth
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Fiona Lyle
Jul 10, 2017 rated it really liked it
Full review at: https://optimummblog.wordpress.com/20...

M4M was previously published and released as two separate short stories. It has now been put together in one book, with a third part added to bring a conclusion to the story and tie it all together.

Ethan Schwartz is a publicist for theater companies in Chicago. He’s had enough of being single and hates how mundane his life has become. Ethan wants more than just a hook-up. He’s done with the pretty party boys and the bar/club pick-up’s, wher
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Sandra
This book is told in three parts/novellas and span about 10 years of Ethan's life.

We start off with VGL Male Seeks Same, in which Ethan, in his early 40s, has lost hope of ever finding someone to build a life with. He's tired of the bar scene and his empty bed. When he overhears a younger colleague at his job talking about a website to meet other men, he's intrigued and signs up. At first, he doesn't get any bites, but when he changes his profile picture to that of a fabulous hunky silver fox, h
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Steph ☀️
***2.75 stars (rounded-up)***

Part One - 2008
Well, to put it bluntly it sucked. The first part is a lot of his inner dialogue that drove me up the wall. There is very little exchange between him and his coworkers, he doesn't have any friends outside of work so yeah it was boring. I really wanted to give him a happy pill. It wasn't until he met Brian for the first time that it started to get a bit better. I never knew I craved so much interaction until I read this story lol.


Part Two - 2009
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Jeff
Aug 29, 2020 rated it it was amazing
M4M contains three stories in one volume. BUT for me, reading it for the first time, it worked as one complete work. I'm not sure how I would rate this if I had read it in 'pieces'. I chose this based on the art, title, and author-- expecting a romance with complicated characters- based of previous work (I've read) by Reed. I loved this-- but I don't consider it a M/M Romance. It's a full-fledged novel.

Gay men are often portrayed as shallow, haunted, sex-obsessed creatures. Here, Ethan (as well
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Linda
Aug 27, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Lonely and middle-aged Ethan longs for love: full of emotion👬

4-4.5🌟stars
I found this trio of stories about Ethan and Brian an interesting construction. Author Rick R. Reed is anything but formulaic about the stories he writes.
I love that when I open a new book by Reed I never know what to expect (though I have always found the writing excellent and the emotional content powerful).

Ethan is the central figure who unites the three segments which all take place in Chicago from 2008 to 2017. Each s
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Shirley Frances
Back in 2012, I read VGL Male Seeks Same where Ethan, a 42 year old gay man was looking for love in all the wrong places when he decides to give online dating a chance. That's where he meets Brian, who sounds utterly perfect for him and soon Ethan feels like he's found the love of his life and his own happily ever after.

In NEG UB2 Ethan gets some news that turns his word upside down and and we find ourselves accompanying Ethan in this journey as he battles doubt, hurt and a huge sense of betra
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D
Aug 30, 2020 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Thank you Netgalley for letting me read this book in return for an honest review.

M4M has three stories in it all featuring Ethan.

The first book is where Ethan is lonely and tries to find someone using the internet (it is also set in 2008).
The second book is where Ethan finds out he is HIV positive and he is wondering if his boyfriend (who he met in the first book) was the one who infected him.
The third book finds Ethan all alone and when an old nemesis contacts him on Facebook, he may find anoth
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annob
4.5 stars! Reading the 2nd edition of this story, I can see why it is totally worth to be published anew. It's a strongly recommended read, with a main character and supporting cast that come across the page as real and fully fledged, all with flaws of their own (mainly simply being human), reflected in their actions and reactions as the story progresses. I blush along with Ethan when he is confronted with the tangled web of untruths he created, get angry with him when he - during a vunerable ti ...more
Michael W. McFarland
The first of many i believe

I will read of Rick's books. He knows how to play on heartstrings and took me from happy to angry to grabbing for the Kleenex. At first, I could "hear" Rick's voice reading M4M to me, but then his characters took full hold and developed their own voices. I'm looking forward to reading another, and another, and so on....
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Sarah Baines
Nov 04, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This will be a short review as words don't do this book justice. Simply put, M4M is absolutely stunning. It's also incredibly emotional. I confess at one point I nearly gave up on it as it wasn't grabbing me. I am so glad I didn't because I'd have missed a beauty.

Thanks to NetGalley and Publishers for my ARC of this book.
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AL
Sep 03, 2020 rated it really liked it
It took me a moment to get used to the style the author chose to narrate the story, but overall, I liked it. The theme of story is very contemporary and important, the approach interesting and well realised.
I liked the characters and it's a stron 4 stars for me.
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Laila
Jan 26, 2021 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I received a copy of the book from Netgalley to review. Thank you for the opportunity.
A nice idea behind this story but it didn't really deliver. Things moved very quickly and it was more like a series of novellas than a cohesive story. The writing is good if quite explicit at times.
An OK read.
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Pat
Jun 22, 2021 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
And the end is just genius!
Stupid Romance
Feb 17, 2021 rated it it was amazing
Wow! Did not expect that. Not a typical love story, but what a beautiful one it is. This is not a book I am likely to forget soon. It most definitely made an impression on me.
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Rick R. Reed is an award-winning and bestselling author of more than fifty works of published fiction. He is a Lambda Literary Award finalist. Entertainment Weekly has described his work as “heartrending and sensitive.” Lambda Literary has called him: “A writer that doesn’t disappoint…” Find him at www.rickrreedreality.blogspot.com. Rick lives in Palm Springs, CA, with his husb
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