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Tomorrow Will Be Different: Love, Loss, and the Fight for Trans Equality

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A timely and captivating memoir about gender identity set against the backdrop of the transgender equality movement, by a leading activist and the National Press Secretary for the Human Rights Campaign, the nation's largest LGBTQ civil rights organization.

Sarah McBride is on a mission to fight for transgender rights around the world. But before she was a prominent
Hardcover, 272 pages
Published March 6th 2018 by Crown Archetype
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Mona Langer Absolutely. Many of them may not be aware of the biases and discrimination that this population faces on a daily basis. This would be a very…moreAbsolutely. Many of them may not be aware of the biases and discrimination that this population faces on a daily basis. This would be a very educational book. There are no graphic scenes or language in this book. (less)
Meagan A limited preview of the memoir is currently available on Google Books. The full book can be ordered on and on Target and Barnes &…moreA limited preview of the memoir is currently available on Google Books. The full book can be ordered on and on Target and Barnes & Noble's websites. (I'm sure it's available through other retailers as well, but those are the big ones I know of.) There's also an audiobook version for sale in the iTunes Store, or you can listen to it for free on Audible if you haven't already done a free trial with them. Hope this helps!(less)

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Miranda Reads
Feb 11, 2019 rated it it was amazing
The tears...oh the public humiliation of tears. But this book was so good that it was worth it.

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Nearly cried like four times, actually cried once. If I could have rated it higher, I would.
And every day that we rob people people of the ability to live their lives to the fullest, we are undermining the most precious gift we are given as humans.
Sarah McBride, a
Nov 30, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2018
Succinct and affecting, Tomorrow Will Be Different recounts activist Sarah McBrides experience of coming out as a trans woman. The memoir is roughly divided into three parts: McBrides transition process as a college student, her role in advancing groundbreaking trans legislation in Delaware, and her romance and marriage to her first love, who tragically died of cancer in 2014. Unlike some readers who found the second part to be a slog, I thought the memoir was consistently compelling. McBride ...more
Katya Kazbek
My one wish right now is that Sarah McBride stays healthy, both physically and mentally, so she can one day become the president of the United States. This is a wish packed with hope: I want to live in the US that can have a woman president, a transgender president, and a young president. Hey, even a progressive president right now seems like a stretch :( Anyway, I also selfishly want Sarah to be happy, because that means that we as a society will benefit from her light, so strong and brave. I ...more
Mar 17, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: first-to-read
"I'm twenty-four, transgender, and a widow...that's a lot for someone in this society to handle." Sarah McBride

In Tomorrow Will Be Different, Sarah McBride shares her personal story as inspiration and to put a face on what it is to be transgender.

Imagine being unable to go into a public restroom in North Carolina without breaking the law. Imagine being unable to change your sex on your state ID, or being unable to keep a job or find housing. Imagine being vilified, ostracized, beaten up, an
Jun 08, 2018 rated it really liked it
I really enjoyed this!

The writing is quite simple, and at times I wish it had been a bit more literary, but I can appreciate that the writing style makes this more acceptable to people who may not know much about LGBTQIA+ (and specifically trans) issues.

I really loved how much emphasis McBride puts on intersectionality. While she is very open about her own struggles with discrimination as a trans woman, she is always quick to emphasize her own privileges. She reiterates how violence against
Feb 25, 2018 rated it it was amazing
"Amazing Grace."

That line, repeated over and over again in the midst of the darkest days of her life, says so much about Sarah-- that in the midst of any hardship, she can look for, and see, the hope in the broken and beautiful world we live in.

I read this book in one sitting (while sobbing on a train next to concerned and loving strangers). It is such a gorgeous, honest, and brilliant lesson for all of us. It's a lesson about what we give to and take from each other. It's a lesson about
I hope I get to vote for President Sarah McBride in twenty years! She has such a strong and compassionate voice that she has already used in such powerful ways at such a young age. Tomorrow Will Be Different is an inspirational memoir that details the author's coming out as transgender, her relationship with her late husband, and her work in politics and advocacy for equality for the trans community. It's both uplifting and heartbreaking and I recommend it for anyone interested in politics or ...more
Leigh Kramer
Apr 11, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Tomorrow Will Be Different may be the most important book I'll have read this year. This is the one I'll be pushinger, gently encouragingpeople to read. 

Sarah McBride's memoir is both accessible and powerful. She shares her own story but she is ever pointing out her privilege and centering the experiences of the transgender community. She lets us in to her life, while also providing a bird's eye view of the larger issues. The result is truly masterful. I particularly appreciated the way she
Sep 29, 2018 rated it really liked it
This is an autobiography of the author's struggle and journey of being transgender.....and I think that is the part I liked the most. She covered her inner turmoil with identifying as transgender, coming out to her family, friends, coworkers and trying to find her place on the spectrum of womanhood. This felt honest and I liked how she told her story. She is an activist for transgender rights and has seen much change. But even with the legislative changes and increased awareness many who are ...more
Sep 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing
It's hard to not give a book five stars when it made you tear up three times (for three different reasons!) when you're really not a crier.

Sarah's story is amazing and heartbreaking, and it's particularly engaging if you have an interest in politics.

My favorite quotes:

- ...we all live our lives with multiple identities intersecting with one another, creating a mix of privileges and challenges that all people carry with us.

- ...each time we ask anyone - whether they are transgender, Black, an
Mar 31, 2018 rated it it was amazing
A powerful memoir. Just what I was hoping for. I feel I have a better understanding about some of the complexities and nuances of being transgender in America today.

Side rant: I wanted to scream at the way Andy and Sarah were treated by the medical community in some of the conversations Sarah described. Its just not how it should be done! And, I know oncology socials AT Hopkins who have better conversations with patients than the ones they experienced. Sigh.
Casey the Reader
Jun 10, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: lgbtq, nonfiction, memoir
Sarah McBride came out at trans her senior year of college. Her memoir, TOMORROW WILL BE DIFFERENT, covers her coming out and her rise as a trans rights activist. It's also the story of how she fell in love with and lost her husband, also a trans activist, to cancer just days after their wedding.

McBride's story is one of the most compelling memoirs I've ever read, political or otherwise. Her lightning-fast move from newly-out to being the first openly trans person to speak on stage at a major
Jun 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
In this incredibly moving memoir, Sarah brings us through her life, her transition, and her work in trans equality. If what you want to hear is all the sordid details about Sarah's past when she wasn't living her true life, then move on because that's not what this book is about. Tomorrow will be Different is about Sarah's journey into the field of politics and finding her voice to speak up for the injustices set against the trans community.

I absolutely loved seeing how Sarah's political career
Esther King
Mar 07, 2020 rated it really liked it
One of the most important things in the queer community is the voices within the community being heard. Sarah McBride provides her incredible story of transition, her fight for advocacy and justice, and her short but lovely marriage to her late husband. Her bravery in the face of overwhelming grief is absolutely amazing, and to read a book from a trans woman pushing for her rights every single day in a public forum was wonderful. The author has a clear and concise voice, and lays out her story ...more
Jul 26, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I am so glad I read this book. The author, Sarah McBride, is a transgender woman who is an activist for her community. She tells her story with three intertwining stories, political activism, a coming out memoir and a grief memoir. She begins with her early childhood and her vigorous desire to be politically active. She was raised in the comfortable suburbs of Delaware and her parents aware of her strong interests made opportunities available to her to pursue her dreams. After serving as class ...more
Jul 13, 2018 rated it it was amazing
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"Having certain privileges does not mean that your life is easy or that you do not face challenges. It just means that you don't experience specific kinds of obstacles or barriers faced by someone with a different identity or background. And our empathy should require us to acknowledge the plight of others in both its similarities to ours and in its differences."

Thank you for sharing your story Sarah, so that others may see beyond identity lables to the amazing people behind them.
Jun 25, 2018 rated it really liked it
This is the first book I've read by someone who is openly transgender. Sarah McBride offers a compelling glimpse at the world through the eyes of one particular transgender person. With empathy, self-reflection, and confidencenot to mention great vulnerabilityshe tells the story of recognizing who she was, of coming out to family, friends, and the public, of becoming involved in political battles for LGBTQ rights, of falling in love, and tragically, of becoming a caregiver for a dying loved one. ...more
Lindsay Nixon
Mar 06, 2020 rated it liked it
Im glad this book exists. I also think Sarah is incredible/smart/passionate/driven and am going to throw money at her campaign. (I wish I could vote for her).

Overall, I believe memoirs like these need to exist. I learned; I gained insight and perspective; I applaud her sharing her experiences so honestly... however, like many memoirs I start getting bored, feeling like Im stuck in a corner with THAT person at a party. Its almost too detailed for me and very slow paced. I would have preferred a
Rebecca McPhedran
Sarah McBride is one of the faces and powerful voices of the fight for LGBTQ equality. When she was finishing up her final year as student body president at American University, she came out as transgender and finally started to live as her true self.

Her journey is one of pain, love, loss and discovery. Her words are so very powerful. And her work serves as a starting point for those who are interested in learning more about transgender rights. She is still working hard to make sure that all
Dane Brooks
Dec 12, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Loved this book, world needs people like Sarah spreading love, tolerance and acceptance in our world to often filled with hate. Why does it matter if someone looks different then you, loves a different sex then you or wants to be/is a different gender then you think they should be. How can someone look at another human being and just hate them on principle based on any of those things, it hurts my heart and is mind boggling. So glad to see there are good people out there that have supported and ...more
Feb 12, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: america, audiobook, lgbtq
This book made me tear up a lot. And outright cry once or twice.

The book is basically a coming out story, a love story, a tragic story and a political story.

As a parent, parts of the coming out story were devastating to hear. These were, ultimately, really supportive parents. But their initial reaction, my Maude, it was heartbreaking to hear about. As a queer person myself who came out after long years of not really opening up about who I was, these were the things I feared hearing.

I found
Rachel Rooney
Aug 04, 2018 rated it really liked it
Sarah McBride's personal story of being transgender, coming out, and finding love is combined with her political journey and the fight for trans rights. She is inspiring.
Christopher Jones
Aug 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing
OMG, this book is why we read, this is absolutely, totally amazing , thank you Sarah Mcbride from the bottom of my heart for giving us Tomorrow Will Be Different, I for one will definitely be recommending it.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ ...more
The first time I was introduced to Sarah McBride was when she spoke at the DNC. I already knew about transgender people as my daughter had a friend in high school who was transgender and she would come stay at our house and our daughter would go to her house for overnight stays. I never had an issue with the sleepovers. My husband only asked once if we should be worried and allow it. Once I explained why someone is transgender then he understood. In Tomorrow Will Be Different, Sarah does a great ...more
Mar 13, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: memoir
I received a digital ARC in exchange for an honest review.

Two to three stars.

McBride's memoir of coming out as a trans woman and losing her husband is difficult to review as it reads like a few different books. Some chapters read as non-fiction and include many statistics and facts about the trans population in the U.S. as a whole, other chapters are detailed accounts of McBride's efforts to change Delaware legislation, and others are a personal account of her experiences with coming out and
May 02, 2018 rated it it was amazing
An amazing story written by an amazing woman. While I sometimes have a hard time rating memoirs when I dont like them, its much easier when I really do like them. Its not a spoiler to say there are some really sad parts no one should be a widow in their mid-twenties but Sarah and Andys love story was so tenderly and beautifully written that we are all better people for hearing about it from her.

Shes already accomplished so much in her young activist life, and I was captivated by her
Rachel SV
Jun 23, 2018 rated it liked it
I may be the only person in the world who had mixed feelings about TOMORROW WILL BE DIFFERENT - not because of the subject matter, but because I found the writing to be, at times, tedious. I feel McBride was at her best as a writer when discussing falling in love with her husband, his diagnosis, and taking care of him. I wanted to read more about that. But some of the legal and political talk made my eyes glaze over. Thats clearly her world, a huge part of her life, and the historical landmarks ...more
Jun 22, 2018 rated it really liked it
Sarah McBride is such a compelling figure and her story is both uplifting and heartbreaking. She is quick to acknowledge her relative privilege in the trans community and uses it to uplift and advocate for others. Im sorry to say I was not aware of her before reading this but I will definitely be following her now. Also, be sure to read the acknowledgments at the end. To me it felt like the true ending of the book. ...more
Stef A.
Apr 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
READ THIS. Then tell others to read this. It is not easy, but it is so necessary.
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Sarah McBride is a progressive activist and currently the National Press Secretary at the Human Rights Campaign, the nations largest LGBTQ civil rights organization. In 2016, Sarah made history when she became the first openly transgender person to address a major party convention. She has been featured in the New York Times, Washington Post, TIME Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Elle, Vogue, Rolling Stone ...more

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