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Tomorrow Will Be Different: Love, Loss, and the Fight for Trans Equality

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A timely and captivating memoir about gender identity set against the backdrop of the transgender equality movement, by a leading activist and the National Press Secretary for the Human Rights Campaign, the nation's largest LGBTQ civil rights organization.

Sarah McBride is on a mission to fight for transgender rights around the world. But before she was a prominent activist, and bef
Hardcover, 272 pages
Published March 6th 2018 by Crown Archetype
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Mona Langer Absolutely. Many of them may not be aware of the biases and discrimination that this population faces on a daily basis. This would be a very…moreAbsolutely. Many of them may not be aware of the biases and discrimination that this population faces on a daily basis. This would be a very educational book. There are no graphic scenes or language in this book. (less)
Meagan A limited preview of the memoir is currently available on Google Books. The full book can be ordered on and on Target and Barnes &…moreA limited preview of the memoir is currently available on Google Books. The full book can be ordered on and on Target and Barnes & Noble's websites. (I'm sure it's available through other retailers as well, but those are the big ones I know of.) There's also an audiobook version for sale in the iTunes Store, or you can listen to it for free on Audible if you haven't already done a free trial with them. Hope this helps!(less)

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Miranda Reads
Feb 11, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Nearly cried like four times, actually cried once. If I could have rated it higher, I would.
And every day that we rob people people of the ability to live their lives to the fullest, we are undermining the most precious gift we are given as humans.
Sarah McBride, a prominent activist, was the first out transwoman to work at the White House, under the Obama administration.
It's rare to know in real time that what you are about to do will define the course of the rest of your life.
A native Delawarean, she was always excited aboutalwaysadministration.
Nov 30, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2018
Succinct and affecting, Tomorrow Will Be Different recounts activist Sarah McBride’s experience of coming out as a trans woman. The memoir is roughly divided into three parts: McBride’s transition process as a college student, her role in advancing groundbreaking trans legislation in Delaware, and her romance and marriage to her first love, who tragically died of cancer in 2014. Unlike some readers who found the second part to be a slog, I thought the memoir was consistently compelling. McBride writes si ...more
Katya Kazbek
My one wish right now is that Sarah McBride stays healthy, both physically and mentally, so she can one day become the president of the United States. This is a wish packed with hope: I want to live in the US that can have a woman president, a transgender president, and a young president. Hey, even a progressive president right now seems like a stretch :( Anyway, I also selfishly want Sarah to be happy, because that means that we as a society will benefit from her light, so strong and brave. I a ...more
Mar 17, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: first-to-read
"I'm twenty-four, transgender, and a widow...that's a lot for someone in this society to handle." Sarah McBride

In Tomorrow Will Be Different, Sarah McBride shares her personal story as inspiration and to put a face on what it is to be transgender.

Imagine being unable to go into a public restroom in North Carolina without breaking the law. Imagine being unable to change your sex on your state ID, or being unable to keep a job or find housing. Imagine being vilified, ostrac
Jun 08, 2018 rated it really liked it
I really enjoyed this!

The writing is quite simple, and at times I wish it had been a bit more literary, but I can appreciate that the writing style makes this more acceptable to people who may not know much about LGBTQIA+ (and specifically trans) issues.

I really loved how much emphasis McBride puts on intersectionality. While she is very open about her own struggles with discrimination as a trans woman, she is always quick to emphasize her own privileges. She reiterates how violence
Feb 25, 2018 rated it it was amazing
"Amazing Grace."

That line, repeated over and over again in the midst of the darkest days of her life, says so much about Sarah-- that in the midst of any hardship, she can look for, and see, the hope in the broken and beautiful world we live in.

I read this book in one sitting (while sobbing on a train next to concerned and loving strangers). It is such a gorgeous, honest, and brilliant lesson for all of us. It's a lesson about what we give to and take from each other. It'
I hope I get to vote for President Sarah McBride in twenty years! She has such a strong and compassionate voice that she has already used in such powerful ways at such a young age. Tomorrow Will Be Different is an inspirational memoir that details the author's coming out as transgender, her relationship with her late husband, and her work in politics and advocacy for equality for the trans community. It's both uplifting and heartbreaking and I recommend it for anyone interested in politics or stories of ...more
Leigh Kramer
Apr 11, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Tomorrow Will Be Different may be the most important book I'll have read this year. This is the one I'll be pushing—er, gently encouraging—people to read. 

Sarah McBride's memoir is both accessible and powerful. She shares her own story but she is ever pointing out her privilege and centering the experiences of the transgender community. She lets us in to her life, while also providing a bird's eye view of the larger issues. The result is truly masterful. I particularly appreciated th
Sep 29, 2018 rated it really liked it
This is an autobiography of the author's struggle and journey of being transgender.....and I think that is the part I liked the most. She covered her inner turmoil with identifying as transgender, coming out to her family, friends, coworkers and trying to find her place on the spectrum of womanhood. This felt honest and I liked how she told her story. She is an activist for transgender rights and has seen much change. But even with the legislative changes and increased awareness many who are tra ...more
Sep 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing
It's hard to not give a book five stars when it made you tear up three times (for three different reasons!) when you're really not a crier.

Sarah's story is amazing and heartbreaking, and it's particularly engaging if you have an interest in politics.

My favorite quotes:

- ...we all live our lives with multiple identities intersecting with one another, creating a mix of privileges and challenges that all people carry with us.

- ...each time we ask anyone - whether they are
Mar 31, 2018 rated it it was amazing
A powerful memoir. Just what I was hoping for. I feel I have a better understanding about some of the complexities and nuances of being transgender in America today.

Side rant: I wanted to scream at the way Andy and Sarah were treated by the medical community in some of the conversations Sarah described. It’s just not how it should be done! And, I know oncology socials AT Hopkins who have better conversations with patients than the ones they experienced. Sigh.
Casey the Reader
Jun 10, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: nonfiction, lgbtq, memoir
Sarah McBride came out at trans her senior year of college. Her memoir, TOMORROW WILL BE DIFFERENT, covers her coming out and her rise as a trans rights activist. It's also the story of how she fell in love with and lost her husband, also a trans activist, to cancer just days after their wedding.

McBride's story is one of the most compelling memoirs I've ever read, political or otherwise. Her lightning-fast move from newly-out to being the first openly trans person to speak on stage at a major p
Jun 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
In this incredibly moving memoir, Sarah brings us through her life, her transition, and her work in trans equality. If what you want to hear is all the sordid details about Sarah's past when she wasn't living her true life, then move on because that's not what this book is about. Tomorrow will be Different is about Sarah's journey into the field of politics and finding her voice to speak up for the injustices set against the trans community.

I absolutely loved seeing how Sarah's political career started
Jul 26, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I am so glad I read this book. The author, Sarah McBride, is a transgender woman who is an activist for her community. She tells her story with three intertwining stories, political activism, a coming out memoir and a grief memoir. She begins with her early childhood and her vigorous desire to be politically active. She was raised in the comfortable suburbs of Delaware and her parents aware of her strong interests made opportunities available to her to pursue her dreams. After serving as class p ...more
Jul 13, 2018 rated it it was amazing
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"Having certain privileges does not mean that your life is easy or that you do not face challenges. It just means that you don't experience specific kinds of obstacles or barriers faced by someone with a different identity or background. And our empathy should require us to acknowledge the plight of others in both its similarities to ours and in its differences."

Thank you for sharing your story Sarah, so that others may see beyond identity lables to the amazing people be
Jun 25, 2018 rated it really liked it
This is the first book I've read by someone who is openly transgender. Sarah McBride offers a compelling glimpse at the world through the eyes of one particular transgender person. With empathy, self-reflection, and confidence—not to mention great vulnerability—she tells the story of recognizing who she was, of coming out to family, friends, and the public, of becoming involved in political battles for LGBTQ rights, of falling in love, and tragically, of becoming a caregiver for a dying loved on ...more
Rachel Rooney
Aug 04, 2018 rated it really liked it
Sarah McBride's personal story of being transgender, coming out, and finding love is combined with her political journey and the fight for trans rights. She is inspiring.
Christopher Jones
Aug 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing
OMG, this book is why we read, this is absolutely, totally amazing , thank you Sarah Mcbride from the bottom of my heart for giving us Tomorrow Will Be Different, I for one will definitely be recommending it.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ ...more
The first time I was introduced to Sarah McBride was when she spoke at the DNC. I already knew about transgender people as my daughter had a friend in high school who was transgender and she would come stay at our house and our daughter would go to her house for overnight stays. I never had an issue with the sleepovers. My husband only asked once if we should be worried and allow it. Once I explained why someone is transgender then he understood. In Tomorrow Will Be Different, Sarah does a great ...more
Mar 13, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: memoir
I received a digital ARC in exchange for an honest review.

Two to three stars.

McBride's memoir of coming out as a trans woman and losing her husband is difficult to review as it reads like a few different books. Some chapters read as non-fiction and include many statistics and facts about the trans population in the U.S. as a whole, other chapters are detailed accounts of McBride's efforts to change Delaware legislation, and others are a personal account of her experiences
May 02, 2018 rated it it was amazing
An amazing story written by an amazing woman. While I sometimes have a hard time rating memoirs when I don’t like them, it’s much easier when I really do like them. It’s not a spoiler to say there are some really sad parts — no one should be a widow in their mid-twenties — but Sarah and Andy’s love story was so tenderly and beautifully written that we are all better people for hearing about it from her.

She’s already accomplished so much in her young activist life, and I was captivated by her al
Jun 22, 2018 rated it really liked it
Sarah McBride is such a compelling figure and her story is both uplifting and heartbreaking. She is quick to acknowledge her relative privilege in the trans community and uses it to uplift and advocate for others. I’m sorry to say I was not aware of her before reading this but I will definitely be following her now. Also, be sure to read the acknowledgments at the end. To me it felt like the true ending of the book.
Stef A.
Apr 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
READ THIS. Then tell others to read this. It is not easy, but it is so necessary.
Sarah went to the same high school as my daughter. She and the group of other politically-minded friends she hung out with always struck me as remarkable. Although I didn't have the chance to get to know her well, those times I did come in contact with her, I felt she was someone to keep an eye on -- someone destined to do something great. In her last year of college and at the end of her term as student body president at AU, Sarah came out as transgender by way of a piece published in her schoo ...more
Aug 28, 2018 rated it really liked it
Tomorrow Will Be Different: Love, Loss and the Fight for Trans Equality🍒🍒🍒🍒
By Sarah McBride
Crown Archetype

A journey from self- loathing to self- acceptance to fear about being a trans, nothing stopped Sarah from her goal, becoming an intern in the white house.
Coming out as gay was difficult, but being surrounded with supportive and loving acceptance, not just tolerance made it a positive for everyone. He also has a brother who is gay. And another brother who is straight.
Jul 04, 2018 rated it liked it
The final chapter of this book is powerful. And there are a few moments here and there that offered me a new perspective and helpful explanation. But I have to treat this fairly as I would any book in regards to the writing, and while I respect Ms. McBride, I felt like she was holding back. In my mind I’m wondering if she was afraid to be too vulnerable lest she give away the ability to be seen as professional or worse, could be accused of being overly dramatic or confused.Instead, she presented ...more
Jessica Hurley
Feb 11, 2019 rated it really liked it
Quick read that was a constant mix of hope and heartbreak. Culminating with the strong message that progress and hope are the only worthwhile path.

- "Vulnerability breeds empathy."

- “The best way I can describe [being transgender] for myself [...] is a constant feeling of homesickness. An unwavering ache in the pit of my stomach that only goes away when I can be seen and affirmed in the gender I've always felt myself to be. And unlike homesickness with location, which eve
Sarah McBride is an amazing woman, a powerhouse in the fight for trans equality. Her own story is beautifully told in Tomorrow Will Be Different. Sarah is honest, forthright, and informative in recounting her journey to bring her from the gender identified at birth to her true gender as female. Because of her political activism, a passion from a young age that grew into a career, Sarah has also had the opportunity to support and fight for gender equality and supportive legislation in Washington DC, her ho ...more
Katie Harder-schauer
I received a copy of this book through Penguin's First to Read program. This is my honest review.

This is the first memoir by a transgender individual that I have read that focuses on the author's trans-identity and the issues surrounding that. And I have to admit, that early on while I was reading, I couldn't help but thinking that Sarah likely had some advantages growing up because she was born in the wrong body. She's always been passionate about politics and went on the campaign trail with J
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Sarah McBride is a progressive activist and currently the National Press Secretary at the Human Rights Campaign, the nation’s largest LGBTQ civil rights organization. In 2016, Sarah made history when she became the first openly transgender person to address a major party convention. She has been featured in the New York Times, Washington Post, TIME Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Elle, Vogue, Rolling Stone, and The New Yorker, and she speaks regularly at nation ...more
“Hope can be limitless. Inspiration can always be found. Ideas are endless. But time, that is the one resource that none of us can afford to waste.” 7 likes
“The best way I can describe [being transgender] for myself [...] is a constant feeling of homesickness. An unwavering ache in the pit of my stomach that only goes away when I can be seen and affirmed in the gender I've always felt myself to be. And unlike homesickness with location, which eventually diminishes as you get used to the new home, this homesickness only grows with time and separation.” 5 likes
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