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Belong: Find Your People, Create Community, and Live a More Connected Life

3.66  ·  Rating details ·  730 ratings  ·  139 reviews
Its the great paradox of the digital age, what Radha Agrawal calls community confusionthe internet connects us to hundreds, thousands, even millions of people, and yet we feel more isolated than ever, with 1 in 4 Americans saying they have zero friends to confide in. Where are our people? The answer is found in Belong , a highly energetic and beautifully illustrated guide ...more
Hardcover, 232 pages
Published September 4th 2018 by Workman Publishing Company (first published 2018)
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Oct 18, 2018 added it
Shelves: nonfiction
Radha offers some great tips on building a community that you want to be part of. Thinking this way about friendships seems revolutionary.

First, you need to identify the kind of people you want to hang out with and think about how you can be better friend to those people.

She also has some pro tips such as: when you hang out with someone you want to cultivate a friendship with, be sure to schedule your next meeting then and there. I also liked her chapter urging everyone to "show up." It's
Sep 23, 2018 rated it it was ok
2.5 stars

In the spirit of this book, I am making acronyms for every point I want to make.
So, TWC...This Was Crap. Written by a 30-something big city dwelling social media professional, it was not what I expected. Nor what applies to me (even the few pages on Master Citizens, which btw is a TUP...totally unneeded phrase. We are Senior Citizens...not thing wrong with that.) I think a lot of the problems we are facing today is one is "facing" anyone. A community is defined as: a social
Aug 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Such a true and beautiful book with raw facts and life experiences that offer a chance for the reader to discover way it truly means to belong.

Full review to come!
This book is not what I expected. I'm not sure what I expected, to be fair, but it wasn't this. I think I was expecting another "we live behind our screens and we're the most lonely generation" type book, with the added point of "it's hard to make new friends as adults because we're not in school anymore." This book was kind of that, but not really.

The first chapter irritated me to the extent that I almost gave up. Every page had a different font, font size, color, shape of the text, etc., and
Jan 06, 2019 rated it it was ok
So chipper. So positive. So many exclamation points. So much self promotion.
Jess Lomas
Jun 21, 2018 rated it liked it
3-3.5 I can't quite decide.

I don't usually write reviews for books I read on here however I picked this book up at Book Expo and figured a review was worth writing in exchange for the ARC. The first line of the blurb sucked me in: "It's the great paradox of the digital age - the internet connects us to countless numbers of people, and yet we feel more isolated than ever."

What I liked about this book:
Practical advice about how to seek out new people and communities, mostly stemming from
Apr 13, 2019 rated it it was ok
This book has several issues, too many acronyms and cutesy names for everything , it was confusing. Secondly I thought this book would be a kind of self help guide for social anxiety issues. Her remedy for this is exercise and getting up early, instead of you know maybe actual therapy and maybe medication. Most of this book is just her promoting Daybreakers, her morning dance/rave company 🙄. Id rather hurl than dance at 5am with anyone. ...more
Caiti S
Oct 05, 2018 rated it it was ok
This was a disappointment, but at least it was a quick read. It ended up incredibly surface level, full of gimmicky acronyms/concepts (Red Ego/Green Ego, V.I.C, FYF, FSF, etc.) and page-count-bloating illustrations, while not actually diving into how to create community and connect with people in a more fulfilling way. It felt like her definition of community had more to do with shared activities than authentic connection. She also used her own company (Daybreaker) as an example of ...more
Mrs. Europaea
Jul 13, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Did you know that one in four Americans report that they have zero friends to confide in and discuss important matters with. Or that having poor social connections is as bad as being an alcoholic and twice as bad as being obese. This is just the tip of what Agrawal addresses with her new release Belong: Find Your People, Create Community, and Live a More Connected Life.

Belong is a resource guide for the masses. In an age where humans are more connected than ever, Agrawal confronts the
Kristen L
Feb 26, 2020 rated it really liked it
This book was a fast read, although the author encourages you to take it slow and move through it like a workbook. I haven't ever felt compelled to actually write down my feelings/thoughts for self help or motivational books, but this one asked good questions that I wanted to ponder and reflect on.
As I build my own community, I will remember this book. It's not comprehensive, but is a good start to evaluating where you are at, where you want to go, and ideas of how to get there.
Tara Brabazon
Mar 18, 2020 rated it really liked it
This book is as light and frothy as a bubble, but just as pretty and attractive. This book explores how to create communities with authenticity and meaning. Yes it is a simple. Supposedly, what you put out is what you receive... Good luck with that... But the desire to live an authentic life, with vulnerabilities and truth-telling, is powerful and important.

This is not a scholarly or intellectual book. But it offers models and systems to build links, communities and communication.
Sep 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: audiobook-listen
Stop hanging out with the wrong people doing things that dont fulfill and energize you, and choose how you spend your time and who you spend it with. In BELONG, Radha Agrawal beautifully explains how she found her tribe and built a truly global dance party, Daybreaker, with and for the people she loved. (If you've ever been to one of her Daybreaker parties, held monthly in 24 cities around the world, youve felt the strong sense of community and a feeling of belonging that radiates through the ...more
Craig Wiesner
Sep 11, 2018 rated it it was amazing
One of the most devastating results to come from a wellness survey I've been working on was to learn how epidemic loneliness is locally and across the country. Despite having hundreds or thousands of "friends" on social media, over half the people in our midst are suffering from incredible loneliness. What to do? How do you figure out where you might "belong?" This incredible book provides step by step guidance on how to figure out what really makes you tick and how to either find or create the ...more
Rebecca Tiffany
Mar 05, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I love going inside the Agrawal mindset and seeing radically different thinking has led to a vibrant life. We're all craving community - but not just any kind of community - the kind that helps us become our highest, most thriving selves. Radha lays out the roadmap to building that community, starting from within.
Nov 07, 2018 rated it it was ok
Shelves: non-fiction
Newsflash, honey - there are plenty of people out there who don't like (or aren't able) to dance or exercise. For a book supposedly about finding "your" people, the author was awfully stuck on suggestions that matched HER values.
Anna Vonderheide
Apr 06, 2019 rated it it was amazing
For any community builders out there- this is a must read!
Mar 31, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: books-i-own
A group of activists with whom I volunteer has been working through this book collectively to strengthen our community. I think reading and doing it alone could be helpful but working through and discussing it with others really helps to know not only yourself, but those with whom you communicate with regularly. We're an online community with members around the country and we may never meet face,to face. But we have learned about each other through this book and it helps us to work better ...more
Julie Wright
Sep 14, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This is an amazing workbook that details how to overcome loneliness by building your own community of friends who share common interests and goals. Too many of us fall into friendships or family relationships and we just talk about other people and not about interesting subjects. Ive learned many of the techniques she discusses through therapy but I love the fact that you brainstorm and journal in this book so that the ideas solidify in your mind and you can easily access them in one journal. ...more
Karrie Miner
Jan 21, 2019 rated it it was amazing
A really useful thought exercise to think about how you can intentionally create a community and build meaningful relationships. A lot of it seems like common on sense, but with all of the technology we have, we forget about human interaction. Check this out if you feel something is missing for you and your relationships!
Jan 26, 2019 rated it liked it
This was a fun read with very constructive advice and exercises. If you are anxious about finding a new social community, I think there are solid steps for you to follow in this guide. Be warned: the use of acronyms is wildly out of control!
Ann T
Oct 31, 2019 rated it really liked it
Thankyou Workman Publishing and Netgalley for an ARC of this book.

Radha guides the reader, providing tools and ideas into how to make your place in a community. As someone who relocates regularly this was an enjoyable, useful book. Radha highlights the deep importance of having your tribe on our overall well being.
This book is super useful for anyone with an impending move, or for anyone who is feeling surrounded but alone in their environment.
Nov 03, 2019 rated it liked it
I connected and felt challenged to grow in the first part but the second half of the book fell flat to me.
Jan 12, 2019 rated it it was ok
Shelves: other-nonfiction
I loved hearing Radha speak at the Boston Book Festival with her talking about her wake up call to build a better community and how she went about that, which inspired me to pick up her book. Unfortunately, I don't think this book has that much new ideas to offer, but I thought it was helpful about how we can set up our spaces and ask ourselves a few questions to facilitate rich conversations that deepen relationships.
Sep 18, 2020 rated it liked it
Shelves: read-books-2020
I bought this book with both a professional lens and personal curiosity. I think it is incredibly important to feel like you belong. I dont necessarily think I learned anything more about why this is important but she does offer tips and a pathway to creating more connection. And what is almost laughable at this point is that many of the suggestions arent advised now due to COVID. Whats a person to do now?

As a professional life and leadership coach this book is helpful because someone could
Aug 29, 2018 rated it it was ok
I think I would have benefitted more from this if I'd read it in my early 20s...not that I had any wherewithal about what "community" really meant at that age. I operated much like Agrawal's own description of her 20s (sans the high-powered corporate job). As it stands now at 36, none of this came as news to me. I was hoping for a few new insights, but came up short. This is not to say that there isn't any merit here. Agrawal provides a lot of insight and great exercises to help readers explore ...more
Nicholas Brown
Oct 04, 2018 rated it really liked it
Life is a grand adventure, and you cant go at it alone. Your community will give you wings to create fearlessly. @love.radha ...more
Sep 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Ever felt like you haven't quite found your community yet, the place where you can fully flourish as the best possible version of you? No need to wait anymore. In "Belong", Radha Agrawal shows you how you roll your own.
Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs (1943) was pretty cool, but let's face it -- it could use an update for 2018. Radha does just that, putting belonging right at the bottom of the pyramid amongst humans' most basic needs. Especially in a world where most Americans live alone,
Summer Petersen
Oct 17, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book gets right down to one of the biggest dilemmas of the modern age: how to find your community and real connection when we're playing out our lives on social media, and comparing ourselves and how we measure up to everyone else on a world-wide scale, via carefully curated news feeds. Sitting on the computer leaves us depressed and disaffected, while we are posing for 'grammable photos that look aspirational but in fact make us feel like Ingrid Goes West. We forget we need to go out and ...more
Nov 05, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
If you are either feeling like you dont have enough friends or your friendships arent nourishing and supporting you the way youd like, this book provides guidance on finding friends who will align with your values and interests, understand and accept you, and fill your emotional tank.

If youre interested in organizing a community, this book offers some practical steps to take and suggests some helpful questions to answer to help you design a sustainable community with a clear goal.

The author
May 27, 2019 rated it really liked it
I have a love/hate thing with books like this, so I guess this one bordered closer on "love" because it got me to think a bit more.

Disclosure: I've been going to Daybreaker for a couple years, so I had a bit of an extra reason to pick this up. (And, parenthetical remark on that - if you are a morning person and live in a city, look up Daybreaker. It's awesome.)

I don't fully subscribe to the whole "tribe" thing. I don't think we're the same beings that were hunting and gathering (I'm a
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