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Unfathered is a memoir of rejection and abandonment, but also a story of the search for healing. Written as a long overdue letter to her father, Mogashana is at pains to let him know of her life, and of growing up torn by a bond that always seemed to come loose at the seams. A quest by a daughter to finally have the conversation that matters, but also to let her father kno ...more
Paperback, 142 pages
Published June 1st 2017 by TSI Books
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Jun 29, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Hi Disa!!!! Wow!!!! What a powerful read. Could not put it down till I finished. Very inspiring too 'cos I believe that one should deal with all one's stuff positively - that way enriching one's lives (as opposed to drinking or drugging ourselves to numb whatever pain). For me, this book is a reminder that we are the only ones that live in our bodies and we need to take care of one else can (internally, that is!). Very well written, Disa! Had a good laugh with the castor oil and burglar ...more
Precious Gomba
Jun 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This is such an amazing book. Once I received the book in my hands, it only took me a total of 16 hours to finish it. An easy read, but intense and real. This book took me back to my own childhood, to reflect on my relationship with my dad. It brought me to my present, to reflect on my daughter's relationship with her biological father, who is not "present" all the time, nor "absent" all the time. Also reflecting on my daughter's relationship with the "stepdad", who is always "present" in her li ...more
Maite Matlala
Jun 22, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Dear Disa.
I have finished reading the book,You are a good writer and storyteller.I found it a bit hectic,I felt a big lump on my throat as I was paging through and I felt every emotion with you.It also got me thinking about my life,and how I would never dare to speak about my experiences the way you do with yours.I admire your courage and honesty.If I were to summarise the book in one word ,it would be:"RAW" .Thank you for sharing your life with us and I look forward to reading more books from y
Jun 21, 2017 added it
It has never happened to me. Having read countless memoirs, there is no doubt in my mind that there was ever been a book that dug deep into my soul forcing me to close it because my welled eyes would not continue to read. Disa Mogashana has tapped into her inner struggles as she grew up in Thaba Nchu without a father. Mogashana’s debut Self-published novel, ‘Unfathered’, is a brutally honest narrative that pierces the heart and soul of the reader as the writer bares her cyclical relationship wit ...more
Anastacia Haddon
Aug 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing
The marketing for this book leading up to the launch was the first exciting bit for me and i just had to have this book. The launch was probably another two months away at that time and I looked forward to having the copy in my hands daily until the launch so i could get ticked in to the story.

The launch in Cape Town was educational, emotional, eye-opening and created good conversation that night around the topic of absent fathers. Great panel too!

The book itself was about a topic I could person
Jul 27, 2017 rated it it was amazing
In an amazing letter penned with brilliance Dr Disa opens many other letters that have been trapped in many hearts for years. Unfathered explores the battles that a child who grows up without their father gets to fight daily. In an account of an impact that her father’s absence has had on her, she manages to be the voice of many people who want their father to know what their absence meant. Written from personal experience, Dr Disa’s life story is one of struggle, one of perseverance and one of ...more
Feb 28, 2018 rated it really liked it
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This is a very honest book. It shows just how deep the impact of the father, or rather lack of, can be to a child. Because of behaviours that have now become norms, we tend to understimate the importance of a father's involvement in raising their children. A lot of people who have experienced this form of an injustice will relate better to the book, while those who have no idea might be tempted to label some of the feelings manifested as an unhealthy sense of entitlement. But, that is just it! T ...more
Hloni Dlamini
Nov 26, 2017 rated it really liked it
i could relate to this book especially as a peson who had an absent father
Nov 09, 2018 rated it really liked it
A lot of this author's story was quite heartbreaking, though there was the occasional humorous moment. By the end of the book, things had somewhat stabilized, though the author did have to make peace with certain things. I feel that example reasons for fathers who are unavailable could have been given, since most likely due to privacy reasons, the deeper reasons for her own father's unavailability wasn't mentioned.
Jul 04, 2017 rated it it was amazing
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I have enjoyed reading this book a letter wrote by a daughter to her father who was absent in her life living her to be raised by a single mother. The author was able to express her pain and the rejection she felt growing up without her father in her life. The letter is well written and easy to relate too for anyone who might be in similar situation, reading this letter got me in tears i could feel the pain expressed in the letter i could also feel the heavy bitterness as a result of pain. I wil ...more
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Dr Disa Mogashana is the Managing Director at True Success Institute (Pty) Ltd, a company she established to help others find inner strength to triumph over their circumstances and achieve their true success. She is a Life Transformation Coach and NLP Practitioner, and an Inner Freedom Coaching Practitioner. Her areas of interest include Relationship Coaching, Personal Success Coaching, as well as ...more

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