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Unwifeable: A Memoir

3.63  ·  Rating details ·  1,307 ratings  ·  183 reviews

A gutsy book you need to read right now. Filled with heart and humor, it’s scary good.” —Courtney Love

Unwifeable is the “riveting” (Cheryl Strayed), “inspirational” (Issa Rae), “hilarious” (Candace Bushnell) debut memoir from notorious dating columnist/>/>“A
Hardcover, 321 pages
Published April 3rd 2018 by Gallery Books
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Sasha Brown-Worsham
Feb 16, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I loved this book. So honest and raw and beautiful. It made me want to spend even more time hearing Mandy muse on life. The writing is gorgeous, too. Just a complete winner. Don't miss it.
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***ARC provided for honest review***

I’m rarely at a loss for words, but I find it difficult to put into words how I feel about Mandy Stadtmiller’s memoir, Unwifeable. At first blush (or second or third), this feels like a tawdry tell-all. Mandy does not mince words or descriptions of her life in NYC following her divorce.

Parts of Unwifeable are so in your face that I felt like a voyeur reading it. Like it was a car crash or a train wreck, but I just couldn’t look away. Other parts are so poignant and sad
Lauren Salisbury
Apr 18, 2018 rated it did not like it
Shelves: nonfic, memoirs, giveaways
I received this book in a Goodreads giveaway.

And I wish I hadn't.

I've tried to write this review in multiple ways but every time I try it comes out meaner than the last. I'm not sure this version will be any better but I swear I'm trying.

This book is full of problems and woes that I cannot relate to. It is full of problems that no woman I know could relate to. Though other reviews seem to point to some sense of a relatable cache of "problems women go through"
Vanessa Botelho
Feb 05, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: owned, giveaways
This is the most Raw and honest Memoir I have ever read. This book took so much courage and strength to write and I applaud the author for being so honest. I found this to be a very relatable book to many women and the struggles we go through in our lives. This book gives women hope for a better tomorrow. Once I picked up this book and started reading I was super interested and felt a connection with the author even though we have never met. I felt like most women reading this book will feel the ...more
Jan 24, 2018 rated it it was amazing
"I am unloveable, I am unwifeable. I am a failure. I am not worth it." Wow - when I came across this passage in the book I was stunned because of the raw authenticity of it and also because I could 100% relate to the author. This is a memoir that will touch your life because it is REAL and profound and very very funny in parts. I could not put this book down once I started reading it. I so appreciate the author sharing her life with her readers especially with the details that she shares. While ...more
Debbi DuBose
I was fortunate to win an ARC of: UNWIFEABLE - A MEMOIR by Mandy Stadtmiller through a Goodreads Giveaway and Gallery Books. I have to admit this: when I started this Memoir; I wasn't sure that it was a book I wanted to read. MY FIRST OPINION WAS UNEQUIVOCALLY MISGUIDED!! Ms Stadtmiller pours her heart and soul into writing her Memoir which takes place during the decade of her 30's. It begins with her move to NYC to take a position to write for THE POST. She's ecstatic at her good fortune and fi ...more
Mar 29, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I got sent an ARC of this by Goodreads because I won a giveaway, so I was thrilled to read the free book. The version I had included a few spelling mistakes, but overall I don't think the book will change much from the version I read.

This book is raw, as many other people have said already, and honestly I was surprised the depths that the story devolved into. But at the same time, I wasn't startled by it. Mandy tells the story in a way that eases you into even the most depraved moments. She's a
Jan 06, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: for-review
A big thank you to Simon & Schuster Canada for sending along a review copy of this book.

Fans of Cheryl Strayed and Stephanie Klein will enjoy this raw memoir that touches on everything from alcoholism and binge eating to sexual addiction. I wasn't familiar with the author and so when I glanced at the pink cover and title (I completely missed the cigarette on the cover), I expected some saccharine, cringey chick lit romance thing. Instead, I was surprised at how relatable and honest Stadtmiller's writi
Debbie Dunning
Mar 12, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book knocked the wind out of me -- Mandy's story combined with her self-awareness and ability to touch the reader's emotional nerves make hers such a fresh and refreshing voice. Her soul-baring confessions made me remember choices and feelings of my own that I've never been brave enough to put into words. This has got to be one of the hottest books of the year -- I think that every woman should read it. Her life experiences are unique and universal at the same time. At times you wonder how ...more
Jessica Delfino
Mar 23, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I love everything that Mandy writes because her heart is a faucet left on and what comes out is a pure, cold, fresh drink when your mouth is full of sand. She gets into the cracks of your spirit and sits there and you find yourself thinking her words days, weeks, months, years later. She is one of those writers who changes you--you don't see the world the same anymore after reading what she wrote. Unwifeable hit me the same way other things I've read by her have, but maybe a little bit harder, b ...more
Rachel Kramer Bussel
Apr 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing
It's rare to read a dating memoir that doesn't end with a sweeping happily ever after, where all the narrator's struggles were worth it because they found true love. Unwifeable follows a different model, even though former New York Post reporter Mandy Stadtmiller does find love. This is not a book about finding "The One." It's a book about gossip, both the business and the name-dropping kind woven throughout, ambition, journalism, New York, lust, drugs, addiction and eventually slowing down enou ...more
Jenna Whalen
Apr 16, 2018 rated it really liked it
I received this book as a Goodreads giveaway.

It's refreshing how open, raw, and honest Mandy Stadtmiller is in her memoir. She could have easily glossed over parts of her life to make herself look better and still have a good book, yet she chose to write about it all. She is open with her problems, mental health issues, and therapy. It's wonderful seeing someone write so openly about all of that.

I felt like Mandy was one of my friends... I was rooting for her throughout
Ann Colette
Oct 16, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Based on the cover art, I was worried that this book would be a 300 page Carrie Bradshaw column. Turns out Stadtmiller is a hilarious writer with more than enough dishy anecdotes and celebrity gossip to make this a highly entertaining read. It's also emotionally raw and hard to read at parts, with the pain just as well expressed.
Michelle Arredondo
Jun 05, 2018 rated it really liked it little known fact about me: I am a reality show junkie. Bravo being my channel of will find me watching anything from something with Housewives, something about a certain city and the most popular socialites of that city....reality t.v anything....I am all for it. Sometimes I like a book that provides that much pleasure and more. This book was it.

Unwifeable: A Memoir by Mandy Stadtmiller is titillating, pleasing, salacious, raunchy, raw, witty, and honest. From start to
Derek Milman
Mar 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing
An absolute un-put-down-able, laugh-out-loud, dizzying, breathtaking masterpiece. Stadtmiller's voice is as sharp and gleaming as a surgical scalpel. The memoir is fearless, taking on some tough subjects, tackling some difficult questions, and never afraid to show its dark side. A soon-to-be modern dating & romance classic! Not to be missed.
Hannah Orenstein
Apr 02, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I couldn't put this down! If you ever watched Sex and the City and thought, "Huh, what is it like writing about your relationships?" — you need to read this book. Mandy explores how dating in the public eye transformed her relationship with men, alcohol, and herself.
Sep 14, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: booksparks
Unwifeable is an unflinchingly honest memoir detailing Mandy Stadtmiller’s drug, booze and sex filled New York City life. That sentence is horribly simplistic, and doesn’t do the book any justice, but is the bare bones gist of the tell-all. And I couldn’t put it down. Mind you, I read most of it with my eyebrows up somewhere around my hairline, and let me tell you…I am no prude. Stadtmiller worked for the New York Post, xoJane, New York Magazine, and assorted other organizations as a journalist, ...more
May 15, 2018 rated it it was amazing
As a long time fan of Mandy, I was super excited to read this and it did not disappointment. You'll laugh, you'll cry, you may cringe but you will enjoy this and walk away feeling, at least a little bit, more hopeful. I loved this book and will be returning to it again in the future. So many great nuggets that one read isn't enough.
Janilyn Kocher
Feb 19, 2018 rated it really liked it
Unwifeable is a narrative of a woman hell bent on self destruction. She drank herself into stupors, had raunchy sexual escapades, and doped up on drugs and then wrote all about it for the NY Post. It's also sad that Stadtmiller valued herself so little that she imbibed in the dissolute rituals. In the end, she turns it around and finds her salvation, in more ways than one.
Jul 18, 2018 rated it really liked it
Yay! A memoir about how messed up your life is AND being a comic? Two of my favorite things!

Good memoir, she did some crazy shit out of hating herself and don't we all identify and I'm glad she has pulled herself together. Great memoir, great listen.
Mar 01, 2018 rated it it was ok
There were some cringeworthy moments that made me think we she did the things she did. She clearly didn't like it, but she did it anyway.

For a journalist, the memoir read like it was written by a high-schooler.
Sarah Ames-Foley
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This was a really difficult read for me. It felt like rubbernecking, like witnessing someone else’s painful life-changing crash and not looking away even though you know you should. This memoir was unbelievably candidly honest, peeling back the layers none of us want to see. It was awkward and filled with secondhand embarrassment, it was graphic and showy, I had no idea how to feel about it and I honestly still don’t.

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Oct 25, 2018 rated it really liked it
I always feel a bit guilty rating and reviewing memoirs. Who am I to judge the quality of someone else’s experience? My opinion of it doesn’t make it more or less valid.

Things I liked about this book:
1) Mandy.
2) I can relate to a lot of her feelings and her fears.
3) She got her happy ending, but it was framed in a way that was real, and painful, and work - not fairytale bullshit.

Things I did not like:
1) As a writer and comedian in NY she meets a lot of famous people, and she dropped a lot
Morgan Schulman
Mar 16, 2018 rated it it was ok
Shelves: reader-s-copy
I was given in advanced readers copy in exchange for an honest review. I had requested this book because I loved XO Jane to death and because Cat Marnell's memoir was entertaining as hell. Unfortunately, this book is luridd without being entertaining , and just feels like I read somebody's AA 4th step or sat in on somebody's therapy session . I felt uncomfortable, not enlightened . Not sure what she was trying to achieve, but I don't think she achieved it
Kim Kardash
Apr 22, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Read this now!! But if you are easily offended I would suggest avoiding. If I could give this book 6 stars i would. Raw, sad and also very hilarious memoir. The last few chapters of her meeting Pat were incredible and warmed my heart!
Nov 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Unwifeable is the memoir of New York writer, columnist, comic, podcaster, reformed starf*cker extraordinaire Mandy Stadtmiller, though her story begins in Chicago and even takes readers on a brief jaunt to California. With the exception of the occasional flashback, her memoir covers 2005-2017. We meet her just after a painful divorce from her hipster college sweetheart; she's headed to the City as a newly transformed "piece of ass" (thanks to the divorce diet) to start a job at the infamous New York Post. Read ...more
Oct 18, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Mandy Stadtmiller's Unwifeable is a brutally honest memoir about her life in Manhattan writing for the New York Post after leaving an unsatisfying job and marriage. She attends glamorous parties, meets a wide variety of celebrities (who are not always happy to make her acquaintance as a gossip journalist), gets in over her head with drugs and alcohol, all while trying to accept herself, develop meaningful relationships and a satisfying career. Although sometimes cringe-worthy and tough to read, ...more
Annabelle Everett
Oct 04, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
I don’t typically enjoy memoirs, but Unwifeable is one of the best books I’ve ever read. It’s relatable and honest, without being self-righteous. I highly recommend it, especially to anyone feeling a little lost. ...more
Oct 02, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-in-2018
When I first started reading this book I hated it because I found the author to be incredibly self-absorbed. However, the more I read, the more I think the book really captures rape culture and can offer insight into why the #MeToo movement has gained such momentum.
Erin Khar
Sep 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I absolutely loved this book. It was an engaging, fast read. Mandy's clear and moving prose captivated me from the first page. Her honesty and vulnerability resonated so strongly with me. Readers will be equally entertained and moved. Highly recommend.
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