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How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

3.79  ·  Rating details ·  14,934 Ratings  ·  597 Reviews
"You'll not only break the ice, you'll melt it away with your new skills." -- Larry King

"The lost art of verbal communication may be revitalized by Leil Lowndes." -- Harvey McKay, author of "How to Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive"

What is that magic quality makes some people instantly loved and respected? Everyone wants to be their friend (or, if single, thei
ebook, 345 pages
Published October 10th 2003 by Contemporary Books (first published January 1st 1999)
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Chad Warner
Sep 30, 2012 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: businesspeople
A useful collection of tips for social interactions, mostly for business networking. They emphasize nonverbal communication such as body language and vocal tone. This book definitely increased my awareness of my social behavior, and I’ll keep several of the tips in mind.

If you’ve read How to Win Friends and Influence People (my review) or other books about winning people over, you won’t find much new here. However, there are a few tips that countered common wisdom, such as waiting until after a
Dec 21, 2008 rated it it was ok
The woman who wrote this may have social skills, but she is also an idiot. The book is unfortunately so shoddily and offensively written, I often found myself needing to take breathers between chapters. At least 150 pages of this tome needn't exist. Like a true conversationalist, Landes makes sure every single "trick" is accompanied by one or two vapid anecdotes. She has some good tips, but far from 92 of them. Some just make you a stupid jerk -- instructions on how to trap someone else into spe ...more
Jan 02, 2012 rated it it was ok
The first impulse is to rip this book to shreds in my review because of how many times it made me cringe and cover my face with my palm. I have honestly never read anything quite so...bombastic. It gets extremely laughable and pitiful. I shall elaborate.

The author of this book, Leil Lowndes, has divided the book into 92 "mini-essays" for each of her "little tricks". Each mini-essay comes with some kind of anecdote. You can guarantee these anecdotes will tell us all about Leil's very very high po
Theoderik Trajanson
Apr 11, 2016 rated it it was amazing
1. The Flooding Smile – Don’t flash an immediate smile when you greet someone, as though anyone who walked into your line of sight would be the beneficiary. Instead, look at the other person’s face for a second. Pause. Soak in their persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into your eyes. It will engulf the recipient like a warm wave. The split-second delay convinces people your flooding smile is genuine and only for them.
2. Sticky Eyes – Pretend your eye
Nov 27, 2011 rated it really liked it
Shelves: kindle-read
I'm on a mission of self-improvement. I found many of the tips in this book to be very helpful (especially those focused on conversations), and I'm already putting some of them into practice. What I liked was the practical advice and clear examples and anecdotes for each tip.

I docked a star because I while I understand where Lowndes was going with the "Big Cat" vs "Little Cat" comparison (or "Big Winners" vs "Losers"), at times I felt she took it too far. For example, it came across in the book
Mar 31, 2007 rated it did not like it
2 word review, shit sandwich.
May 16, 2008 rated it did not like it
This lady probably has some good social skills herself, but she's a god damn idiot.
Jan 01, 2015 rated it did not like it
Shelves: what-the-fuck, nope
I read this book because the title was appealing to me, an awkward turtle. But it wasn't helpful at all. I'm not good at small talk even when I know what I should say, I probably have ADD and I don't like looking people in the eyes for too long. Nearly all these tips are so phony and about basically being a fake person for other people so they like you. The tips are all fairly obvious (if not contradictory) but it doesn't help anyone like me who already knows the lot of it but has severe trouble ...more
Apr 20, 2016 rated it did not like it
There's a (likely apocryphal) story about Groucho Marx being interviewed, where the interviewer asked him what the key to success as an actor was. Marx responded, "Sincerity is the key. Once you can fake that, you've got it made."

Leil Lowndes apparently feels the same way, but she appears not to catch the irony in it.

There's a difference between advice that helps bring out the real you, enabling you to put your best foot forward, and advice that helps hide the real you, enabling you to convinc
Sepideh R
Jul 22, 2015 rated it really liked it
از کتاباییه که هر کسی باید بخونه
به نظرم یک بار خوندن واسه اظهار نظر کافی نیست
وقتی بار دوم خوندم دوباره ادیت میکنم
♥ Ibrahim ♥
Aug 05, 2017 rated it it was amazing
It is good to be reminded of these skills if you are working with people and counseling them. Some of them I found came natural to me as I invest my entire life in being fully there for people in their needs and pains.
Nadin Adel
Sep 08, 2017 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-development
The author starts by saying that Dale Carnegie's book of How to Win Friends and Influence People is not applicable for the 21st century any more. However, the author did nothing but copying the same lame ideas from his book and attached her name on the cover. I real time waster. Nevertheless, I listened to it through as an audiobook, however it keeps to be waste my valuable moments of peace. I really have to stop giving a chance to this sort of self-development books and keep in mind that they a ...more
Topu Apple
ไมคอยถนัดอานแนว how to เลมนีซือมาเพราะเหนวานาจะมีประโยชน สวนใหญเคลดลับในเลมกเปนสิงทีรูกันอยูแลว หากทำบอยๆ มันกคงจะพัฒนาทักษะการสือสารสนทนาได แตพวกอานแลวอานเลยอยางเรา คงไมเกิดผลอะไร อืม แตการทีมีคนเอาเคลดลับมาสรุปยอยเปนขอๆ แถมยกตัวอยางขำๆ มันกสะดวกดีนันแหละ ...more
Reza Mardani
اول های کتاب خیلی هیجان انگیز بود، حتی چند تا از تکنیک هاش رو هم استفاده کردم و جواب خوبی گرفتم، ولی آخر کتاب خیلی لوس بود، انگار نویسنده مطلب کم آورده بود
May 11, 2012 rated it really liked it
Having scoured Amazon for days, I finally narrowed my selection to three books on social skills, one of which was this book.

I was looking for advice on honing my conversational skills to the level of a social butterfly. Having some experience as a management trainer, I look at self-help books critically and here is my analysis.

First the positives. This book does teach you some important and overlooked facts that are helpful for all of us, as they may be our blind spots. It also gives you real li
Chris Dietz
Oct 25, 2010 rated it liked it
This book delivered what it advertised in that there were 92 tips in it. 'How to talk to anyone', however, didn't seem to come across as much as 'how to talk to someone who's potentially hiring you and/or someone who you're sexually interested in.' Then again, maybe that IS anyone. Either way, this book had a couple truly good, insightful tips (all at the beginning), and the rest was either common sense or something that a socially observant person would have already picked up on in the course o ...more
Cindy Muya
Apr 19, 2007 rated it did not like it
my mom made me read it; the "tricks" are totally superficial and many of them are actually rather conniving. i'm not a fan.
SyaSya Syed Nasir
Oct 03, 2015 rated it liked it
Shelves: english-novels
It really does helps me a lot before I enter my current job.
Rey Carter
Feb 08, 2013 rated it did not like it
This book sucks.
ضهرا درعلی
Feb 22, 2015 rated it it was amazing
چندین بار دیگه هم ،خواهم خوند این کتاب رو8>
Ruth Govaerts
Sep 27, 2017 rated it liked it
Interessant boek met heel goede tips. Zeker voor mensen die van nature geen groepsdieren zijn of eerder introvert zijn. Het enige dat mij een beetje stoorde was dat het boek voornamelijk handelde vanuit eigenbelang. Je geeft bijvoorbeeld complimenten omdat je gesprekspartner JOU leuk zal vinden, je herinnert je bepaalde belangrijke evenementen uit zijn leven omdat hij JOU meer zal appreciëren. Ik vind dat zo'n dingen ook zouden moeten kunnen gebeuren zonder er meer uit te willen halen.
Hatem Araar
Mar 11, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great book for anyone who wants to learn more communication tricks
Neil Coulter

The content of Leil Lowndes's How to Talk to Anyone is much better described by its subtitle: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships. Some of the book is about talking to people, but quite a bit is about other aspects of relationships. I read this just after reading How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less by Nicholas Boothman (reviewed here). Both books are on similar topics, but written by very different authors. While Boothman's book is short and less thorough than I would

Oct 17, 2011 rated it liked it
Some good tips and some obvious ones. I can, and will, apply parts of this book to my life but the content and tone is heavily geared towards your professional life and creating somewhat artificial relationships to get sales or get ahead. This isn't what I wanted or expected from the title.

For some this book might be more valuable by skipping the talk of big cats and glass ceilings, reading the tips at the end of the chapter and then reading that chapter if they apply. Some of the information f
Arminda Lindsay
I'm a big fan of clear communication and speaking up and representing yourself. I am also a big fan of relevant and concise information, without wasting anyone's time, especially my own and that of my clients'. This book is too long, it is badly read in the audio version AND it is dated. Very very dated. I lost track of moments I was embarrassed for the author because it would be so easy to revise and update this resource. And her self-aggrandizement got old after the first time she did it, but ...more
Indi Martin
Oct 19, 2009 rated it really liked it
Shelves: read-enjoyed
I don't generally go for self-help books. I find that most of them couch painfully common sense in media-ready sound bytes, and it pains me in return to spend money on them. But this one caught my eye, and flipping through it, kept it, so I gave in to the urge (needed something light and fluffy after all that Cambodia/Khmer Rouge reading anyway!). What do you know? This is a fantastic book. I practiced some of the techniques the other day at a gathering of a few new acquaintances, and they worke ...more
Jacob Walls
Mar 21, 2017 rated it really liked it
Repeating an action makes a habit
Your habits create your character
Your character is your destiny..
Feb 28, 2016 rated it it was ok
I can see why this received such mixed reviews. On one hand, some of these tips make sense. For example, when giving appreciation it's more meaningful to the recipient to hear why you're grateful, so you should always say, "Thank you for (something)." For some of her tips, she includes suggestions by experts in social sciences.

On the other hand, she sometimes offers advice and examples without ample research. For example, she suggests using a tradesperson's lingo to get a better deal. Then, she
Oct 23, 2017 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
The author starts this book explaining how anecdotes are a memorable way to carry a message. The author then continues to anecdote you to death. For every would be sentence of wisdom there is 2 pages of useless anecdote.

The wisdom in this book is essentially the notes taken from reading good books of the same genre, then separating them with anecdotes. No research. no studies. no tests... just anecdotes. Anecdotes that you instantly do not believe as the author has told you already they serve t
Sam Kuntz
We listened to this book and although it has some helpful tips, I can tell you that the person that wrote it talks down to anyone who reads/listens it. The things I did like about it were it has many tricks (hence its name) to talk to anyone, and I did enjoy some of the little stories she used to explain how her techniques. My favorite technique was the one that tells you if someone is lying or not. This book is not as good as some other books I have read and/or listened to but I still hope you ...more
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