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Slutever: Dispatches from a Sexually Autonomous Woman in a Post-Shame World

4.01  ·  Rating details ·  617 ratings  ·  75 reviews
"Slut" is a great word. It just sounds perfect-so sharp and clear and beautiful. It's one of those satisfying four letter words, like cunt and fuck. Slut also happens to be an anagram for lust, which is one of those divine coincidences that makes you wonder if God actually exists.

We're lucky that slut is such a great word, because it's safe to say that almost every woman w
Paperback, 288 pages
Published February 6th 2018 by Grand Central Publishing
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Valerity (Val)
I began to pass this book by just on the face of it. Then I read the description and I got interested and thought, "well why not delve deeper?" So I went ahead and got it.

Vogue columnist and writer/producer Karley Sciortino knows her stuff when it comes to Slutology. It's been her area of interest as she developed along the way from high school in the US, finally escaping small town life to a brief attempt at university across the pond, then hanging out in London squats. She writes very intelli
May 15, 2018 rated it it was ok
Shelves: did-not-finish
YIKES! The intentions behind this book are nice and all, but the execution is clumsy and cringeworthy. All the sex positive stuff is great, until it shits the bed. Anti-sex worker slurs are used as pejoratives in the same breath as the author claims sex workers should be respected, then she goes on to present many of the same slut shaming anti-sex worker stereotypes as true but in a “good way.”

Then there’s the completely mishandling of rape culture or should I say “supposed rape culture.” Fuuuuc
Jun 14, 2019 rated it liked it
This was a fun read- there’s a lot of sex-positive, feminist content, and the broad message that women should be able to explore complex and unconventional sexual experiences and identities is important. Some of the execution was a bit clumsy, but overall it was a good time.
Feb 16, 2018 rated it did not like it

Initially I was intrigued because I thought this book was about reclaiming the word slut and the double standard women face, however, once I started reading I realized this is more of a memoir.

I also had issues with some of the comments the author was making. She was insensitive and making jokes about eating disorders and also made comments about underage girls being in sexual relationships with older men (just mentioned them, didn't talk about how wrong it was).

I also couldn't finish readin
Olivia Hilyard
Feb 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I was either laughing, agreeing, or staring at the wall w "Jim Halpert face" because something I read was just so on point or over the top ridiculous
Feb 03, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I did NOT know what to expect when I picked this book up. I've dabbled in Karley's blog "Slutever" on and on since its conception, but I'd never been a "ride or die" fan. Mostly because I'm not sure I fall into the category of women Sciortino would refer to fondly as "sluts". In any case, this memoir is enthralling. From Catholic school in New Jersey to squatting in a loft in London to romping around New York, this is a memoir about modern sexual freedom. I couldn't put it down and read it in tw ...more
Sonia Reppe
Apr 09, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
In a #metoo world, I think it's refreshing when a woman proudly displays her sexuality and sexual choices, and in this case, her pro-slut stance and kinky confessions.

Karley is a sex blogger. (If you're looking for erotica, look to erotica writers. This was interesting but not arousing). Karley shares her experiences, a lot of them are weird and kinky as she was doing research for her blog, but mostly, this is about deviant and kinky sexual behavior in context of societal norms and psychology a
Mar 20, 2019 rated it did not like it
Shelves: swork, audiobooked
For a book about OMG EDGY SEX this is surprisingly boring at times. Sorry if this review is incoherent, I just really did not enjoy this book. I listened to this on audiobook, and the author's narration made me like this book even less than I would have read the print version of this. OF COURSE she's a former Vice columnist. This book is alternately extremely smug, condescending, and clueless. Rife with choice feminism bullshit. I don't want to read another book by wealthy women getting involved ...more
Anne-Marie DT
Mar 01, 2018 rated it really liked it
Between untold eye-opening stories and enlightening facts, Slutever hits the nail on the head by addressing many sex-positive feminism challenges together and contributing pieces of the puzzle. With humour and passion, Karley contributes to boosting open-minded visions on sex and modern relationships.
Whitney Hansen
Jul 13, 2018 rated it liked it
This has been one of the hardest books to rate because there were so many quotations and anecdotes that I'd rate 5/5 followed by a plethora of problematic comments that I would rate -10000/5. Oofta. Overall, I'm happy to have read it but it took a lot of mental gymnastics to keep moving through the parts that were just immature and ignorant.
Keith Schnell
May 26, 2018 rated it really liked it
I first got into Karley Sciortino’s writing almost ten years ago, when she was living in a squat in South London, eating out of dumpsters and taking a lot of drugs. Even at that early stage in her career, she was easily in the top tenth of a percent of garbage-eating, squat-dwelling 20-something writers, and it was easy to imagine her developing into the next great Gonzo journalist. If ever anyone in the 21st Century was going to wind up alone in Las Vegas, completely twisted on drugs, with no c ...more
May 25, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: own-it
This book is so well rounded, its hard to pick a starting point to write this review. The main thing I'm left with is a feeling of gratitude: that a female pioneer like Sciortino exists who while telling her own story, celebrates the accomplishments and ideas of those that have come before her (like Camille Paglia and my girl Nina Hartley, swoon). But its women and books like these that are going to make an actual change in the world. Even if its not in the conventional way of shouting from the ...more
May 20, 2019 rated it liked it
The three stars are basically for being entertaining. I watched season 1 of slutever on tv, and I knew about Sciortino's blog although I hadn't read it. I think this book had a touch of the 'blog to book' scenario where the writing that passes muster online seems a bit subpar when you're reading it in a book. There's also a phenomenon here which made the work seem a little disingenous--I'll elaborate. So--Sciortino's wheelhouse is basically sex and she cites her own experiences extensively. I li ...more
Jun 28, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: to-buy, favorites, sex-ed
When I picked this up, I thought I would be in for a 280 page long episode of Viceland's Slutever, and in some ways, that's what I got. Karley Sciortino's unmistakable, unapologetic wit and charm coat the narration of this book, along with spotlights on the stories of slutty individuals from all walks of life (some of which, if you have seen the show, may sound familiar to you). However, the book also provides a more personal insight to Karley as a person and her commentary on sexual autonomy, g ...more
Le Sex en Rose
Apr 25, 2018 rated it it was amazing
(My entire review on my blog:

When I first came across Slutever, I thought it was yet another book reclaiming yet another word (and yet another time the word ‘slut’) in the name of sex positivity and female empowerment, two often-abused topics in a (supposedly) sexually liberated world.
I’m obviously referring to The Ethical Slut, the radical guide to nonmonogamous relationships worshipped as ‘the poly bible’ that, back in 1997, re-framed the word ‘slut’ t
Jenny Hartnett
Mar 27, 2019 rated it really liked it
“You can be a hedonist and still have composure. You can be a sec maniac and also be a decent human being who communicates your desires in a way that doesn’t offend anyone. You can be a slut with poise. You can even, is I’ve heard, be a slut with morals. You just have to get the dance right.”

“Visibility is power, because we cannot be what we cannot see.”

“Gay men and lesbians have already opened up the question of what qualities and roles are male and female in ways that can be liberating for str
Apr 29, 2018 rated it really liked it
I loved and also had a hard time reading this book.

I loved when Karley was vulnerable with us and shared her deepest personal stories and experiences. Hearing her unabashedly talking about her desires and mistakes, relationships, and her internal struggle with not being 'basic' was refreshing and heartbreaking at once. Her humor and irreverence really worked in those passages.

Still, I finished the book wanting. I wanted more acknowledgement of how privilege affects sluttiness and identity, and w
Steve Erickson
May 31, 2018 rated it liked it
Sciortino is a pretty engaging guide to her own sexual adventures, which include working as a "sugar baby," BDSM and discovering that she's bisexual relatively late in life. Her arguments on behalf of sex-positive feminism are quite basic if you know this territory, but readers coming to this book because of the TV show named after it may not know it. There are a few areas where the author hints at darker territory than her happy-go-lucky approach to sex allows and I wish she'd dug deeper: she a ...more
Samantha -Nicole
Nov 04, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I enjoyed this book a lot but I’ve personally been a fan of Karley and slutever for a while.

There are some thoughts she has about rape that I think can be misunderstood. Like how if a guy is coerced into sex he should be happy bc he just got some but if a woman is coerced she’s a victim. This is a comment about the double standard. If a man is coerced into sex he should be able to feel bad. I think The author believes that any sex is good sex but that’s just her opinion. She likes sex and if sh
Geoffrey Kleinman
Feb 22, 2018 rated it really liked it
I listened to the audio book version of this, and if you are going to read this book I'd recommend the audio version. Be warned Karley Sciortino has a valley girl like voice lettered with millennial vernacular, but once you get past that you'll see a smart and insightful woman who has a lot to say and says it well.

Very much like Diablo Cody's Candy Grill, Slutever is a behind the scenes look at the sex industry. Slutever goes a bit deeper, flirting with moments of sexual manifesto, and clear de
Dominique "Eerie" Sobieska
First things first, I loved reading this book. I did not expect it- at all. I laughed while reading the summary in the back and thought how bad it could be, I was wrong.

Sciortino wrote her life journey and sexual exploration with such panache. I laughed. I smirked. I showed certain parts to friends. Although a memoir, it was written intelligently, not at all judgmentally with a good scope of humour. This isn't a self help book or something to put you on the path of enlightenment. It is just a r
Apr 08, 2018 rated it liked it
I have so many thoughts about this book. Overall I enjoyed it, but she says some seriously questionable, harmful and problematic things. Sometimes I feel like she does it on purpose to be edgy and controversial (she's been writing for VICE for years so it's very much *that* vibe). I found it fun to read, particularly as I've been reading her blog since I was about 15/16 years old. But it has so many problems too. I honestly could barely get through the introduction, it made me so angry some of t ...more
Jul 17, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Amazing and liberating

Similar to the ‘Magical School Bus’, Karly takes the reader on journey through landscape of a sexually liberated woman. Challenging modern culture’s sexual norms and expectations, and freeing women from the chains of a boring life.
This book will force readers to think about what they want out of life and relationships. Slutever is an incredible book that challenges monogamy and traditional relationships, and asks the question “does one size fit all” in sex and relationshi
Apr 24, 2018 rated it liked it
As someone that works in reproductive health, I was super excited to read this. It started out pretty strong; she has an energetic, conversational voice. The chapter about dominatrixes was great. By the last two chapters I wasn't as charmed. There's a surprising judgey undertone to some of her non-sexual observations (and even some sexual ones, too), some of her interjections undermine what she's saying, and I guess I was expecting more musings on sexual exploration than a memoir (granted one ab ...more
May 15, 2018 rated it liked it
Interesting memoir. She goes and tries a lot of different ways of having sex, and it's good to hear about it. I listened to the audio book version, and she's definitely not the best narrator. A lot of upspeak which got annoying after a while. I'm a self-identified millennial, and even I got tired of her "Oh this is what we millennials do" tropes. She's also fairly hung up on her desire to have a traditional relationship despite wanting to try it all.

Overall it's entertaining and good to normaliz
Emma-Kate Schaake
Mar 23, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, 2018, humor
I do not have, haven’t had, and don’t want Karley’s lifestyle, but I was really intrigued. She tackles female promiscuity with a feminist lens and I appreciated the power that fluid sexuality can give to women. As with most things, sex work and/ or sluttiness is not black and white. Women have power and are not the victims, if they take care of themselves, as in every other aspect of life. A pretty fascinating read that opened my eyes and helped me find respect (and maybe admiration?) for a life ...more
Robert Hudder
Jun 04, 2018 rated it really liked it
Not much to say here. It is a thoroughly modern look at the adventures of a woman and sex. Feminism gets it as bad as other -isms. It seems that sexual deviancy for lack of a better term makes everyone uncomfortable to some degree. Even within sex work there is a hierarchy where sugar babies don't seem to be sex workers and street workers are just the worst. There is light shone on BDSM, sex workers, promiscuity and orientation labels. Yes, it is just one woman's experience but it is written wit ...more
Lekisha R
Dec 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I've been following Karley Sciortino's writing for years on Slutever and Vogue and I was excited for her debut. I loved it! I loved how she spoke about sex and sexuality in a fun and quite frank way and really works to eliminate any shame about sex. Because we live in a patriarchal society, she is pretty honest about working to become sex positive and shameless around her sexuality. I would recommend it to anyone doing the inner work to become more confident and positive by building a healthy se ...more
Jun 09, 2018 rated it liked it

I’m a fan of her Viceland show but not necessarily this book. There are a lot of times that she just seems really inauthentic. It feels as if she’s trying to shock and impress the reader but for the most part it’s a bit tame. Also just some problematic moments when, although claiming to be an intersectional feminist, she says things to the contrary. The last chapter was a real shining moment, though, that was enlightening.
Tea With Krystle In Bed
Oct 08, 2018 rated it really liked it
Funny, shameless, and slutty is Karley Sciortino’s Slutever book.
It is a memoir of what life has been like for a millennial woman who comfortably identifies as a slut. Slut Ever is informative and thought-provoking which takes its readers on a journey through the thought process of a woman who allows her sexual curiosity to navigate her life.

Check out the link on my blog below for more:
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