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The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love

4.28  ·  Rating details ·  1,487 ratings  ·  233 reviews
A global movement guided by love

Humans are a varied and divergent bunch with all manner of beliefs, morals, and bodies. Systems of oppression thrive off our inability to make peace with difference and injure the relationship we have with our own bodies.

The Body Is Not an Apology offers radical self-love as the balm to heal the wounds inflicted by these violent systems. Wor
Paperback, 137 pages
Published February 6th 2018 by Berrett-Koehler Publishers (first published January 25th 2018)
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Whitney Atkinson
Feb 06, 2019 rated it it was amazing
A book that makes you cry in chapter one is one that will stick with you, indeed. I loved this book. From the language of it to its message to its format, it spoke to me so much and I can envision just how wide-reaching this sort of messaging could be.

I assumed this book was only going to be about body positivity and self love, but Sonya has spun all forms of diversity and marginalizations as aspects of the body. In this way, race, disability, sexuality, and gender are all intersecting forms an
Mar 11, 2018 rated it it was amazing
If you are a person with a body, you should read this, even if you don’t think you have a bad relationship with said body.
Sylwia (Wish Fulfillment)
Why I Recommend Bumping This UP On Your TBR:
This is a MUST READ educational novel about how to live your best life and how to improve this world. The author is intelligent, has an impressive way with words, inspires, validates, and address many important topics that revolve around our health, our community/ies, and our world. I cannot emphasize enough how much I got out of this and how much I know that you will too.
Sarina M
Apr 09, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: a
I like how Taylor concentrated on self love instead of self esteem/acceptance. One major deterrent I have felt in the past is that if I accept my body for how it is, I will lose motivation for improvement of it. It has been hard to rectify this cognitive dissonance (trying to be body positive while holding onto the idea that SOMEDAY I will make some change that will result in being perfectly fit and thin). Loving yourself and your body is not so limiting. Loving yourself leads to improving yours ...more
>“advocating or based on thorough or complete political or social change”
>“designed to remove the root of a disease or all diseased tissue”
>“supporting massive, unmeasured, and rapid change”

Self-love in this sense is not to be confused with having a positive self-image nor to be likened to body positivity. It is much more than that. Radical self-love requires action to be put behind the thought process. It takes work. In The Body is Not An Apology, Taylor uses the body a
Danika at The Lesbrary
This would have been an amazing book to have as a teenager. I've read other fat-positive books, but I liked that this included all kinds of body shame/hatred. It also makes clear that we have to not only stop hating our own bodies, but also understand how body shame/hatred plays out on other people's bodies, and how it's incorporated into our laws and culture. Sonya Renee Taylor made for a great, entertaining narrator, but I do wish I had read the physical copy so that I could pause and reflect ...more
Erin Glover
Nov 18, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: self-help
A must-have book for people who have fallen trap to body-shaming themselves. It's also for those who have been sucked up into the cultural norms that define a perfect body and need help softening their attitudes toward people who inhabit different types of bodies. The book explores the negative reactions to gay bodies and transgender bodies, along with fat bodies. Taylor encourages everyone to be more open toward people of different body types.
Aug 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I’m familiar with and always working on self love, so I didn’t think I “needed” this book - but I did, and I’m so grateful I picked it up on a whim. This book is about more than liking the way you look, it’s about how social change and societal transformation starts with loving ourselves & our bodies, radically. It’s about the many ways oppression wreaks havoc on our bodies and how we can combat it - with practical tips and guided self inquiry. I want to reread this book slowly, working my w ...more
Naeemah Huggins
Aug 22, 2018 rated it it was ok
I finished it! It was a feat, trust me. Took me 4 or 5 months. It was exhausting and times and I felt punished my the reading, constant exhortations. I don't think I can recommend it. This is an attempt to be honest rather than tear down the book or the author. I think that the content and the message are important, however the delivery system leaves some to be desired.
Lea (drumsofautumn)
Jan 31, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
This was brilliant. BRILLIANT! Like everyone should read it kind of brilliant. I love how much this focused on how radical self-love also changes how you see other people. As someone who has come a long way and is already doing a lot of the things mentioned in this book, I still found it incredibly inspiring and I honestly wanna quote at least half of this book.
This is just such an important read.
Apr 02, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Empowering, radical, imperative. I listened to the audio version and it’s fantastic, but I definitely want to get my own “to keep” physical copy. This is both a reference book and a to-do list on how to truly, really love your body as it is right now. Highly recommend.
Six stars! Thoughts to come.
Jenn "JR"
You may have read a lot of books on mindfulness, personal transformation and working on your own personal roadblocks -- and you still need to read this book. Sonya Renee Taylor writes in a super friendly, accessible style and uses brilliant metaphors to help persuade you that you are not your thoughts and not all your thoughts were put in your head by yourself.

One of the examples she uses to talk about radical self-love is the pot pie her mom would make for her when too busy to make dinner. She
May 13, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Sonya Renee Taylor has created an extraordinary masterpiece with this debut! If I could, I would gift this book to everyone on the planet! From its stunning cover, to its intersectional approach, this book rocks! ❤
lucy  black
Sep 09, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fic
I loved her message and some ideas really stood out for me. Generally I didn’t like the writing though, I found it hard to follow, I kept zoning out. Maybe it was the mix of academic and conversational tone. I think I’d much prefer to see her speak or do a workshop.
This little book manages to be quite an inclusive guide and radical self love manifesto, especially for its size. Sonya Renee Taylor wrote her book with all kinds of people in mind- especially those predominantly left out of many self-love conversations- and she makes this clear regularly throughout the text. She catalogues a bit about her journey towards creating The Body Is Not An Apology website, and then delves into tackling radical self love as an attainable concept and lifelong journey.

Rachael Bettiens
Jan 16, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
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Danni Green
May 17, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: having-a-body
This book has a lot of really good stuff in it! I loved its relentless messages about body positivity and I especially loved how it tied together the themes of radical love for your own body with radical love for every body and the personal and political implications of both. I had a hard time with some of the metaphors; it felt like the author relied so heavily on the use of metaphor that it became confusing (and I'm usually pretty comfortable with metaphor language, so I imagine this would be ...more
Dec 27, 2018 rated it really liked it
It is difficult to review a book that is so heartfelt and filled with love, and yet so practical and helpful. Many books sing the praises of body positivity, yet aren't entirely practical (or, perhaps, don't provide any advice for practical application). Taylor has changed the game here. She understands the difficulty in beginning any radical practice, so she is empathetic and compassionate to the newbies (and just those of us who are weathered by how hard the world can be). Sonya Renee Taylor h ...more
Mar 04, 2019 rated it it was ok
Overall, I acknowledge that this book does contain important themes that can be helpful for a variety of people. However, this was not the kind of book I expected. Personally, the author's fast-paced style of stating many different facts about how body-shaming affects us each individually did not go deep enough into the core problems that lead people to criticize themselves and others. The content seemed pretty surface-level stuff, things that seem fairly obvious, but rebranded in order to make ...more
Lenny Husen
Mar 29, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audio-books
This was fabulously read by the fabulous author, whose style is direct, forthright, admonishing and tender. Sonya is a sassy queer fat black friend we all need to have and to be to others. In case I am not being clear, this is AWESOME.
The concept, the examples, the terms, are aimed at everyone of us who has hated our body (or a part of our body) for being too fat, too skinny, too old, too childish, too dark, too lily white, too wrinkled, too hairy, too bald, too large-breasted, too flat-chested
Mar 12, 2019 added it
Community compassion, because you gotta get out of yourself to change the world.
May 02, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This is the book I needed as a child, but I’m grateful to have access to it as an adult. It’s full of so much truth.
Jan 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book changed my life. It took me so long to finish because the content was so rich and made me think A LOT. Everyone should read this book.
Go us! Go all of us people in all of our bodies! Go radical self love!

„Dismantling oppression and our role in it demands that we explore where we have been complicit in this system [...]“
Sep 24, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Really positive and puts a framework on the nebulous but essential process of loving your body. The author's constant use of goofy metaphors may wear on some (they did on me at times), but all in all it's a good basic guide to breaking down body shame and loving yourself. This book also gets points for showing the way our own self-hatred props up a system that profits from our shame. It also underscores how shaming our own bodies leads us to shaming others and participating in this whole problem ...more
Apr 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I'm going to keep coming back to this book. A lot.
Feb 26, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: woc-writers
72 stars!

This is book is straight up incredible. So thoughtful, so compassionate, so powerful, so radical, and so timely. I honestly and truly would recommend it to anyone and everyone. Sonya Renee Taylor's words are still resonating with me, and they likely will be for some time.
I like the ideas presented, I just have an aversion to self-help.
May 02, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-in-2018
I will just let The Body is Not an Apology and Sonya Renee Taylor speak:

"At The Body Is Not an Apology, we talk about body positivity being part of what we do, but in no way the whole of it. Because there’s a way in which that language and movement has really been flattened to mean something that’s not nearly as expansive as what mean. We’ve made body positivity a very sort of middle-aged or millennial white woman’s experience about how she feels about wearing a size 16.

And there’s space for th
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“When our personal value is dependent on the lesser value of other bodies, radical self-love is unachievable.” 6 likes
“When we say we don’t see color, what we are truly saying is, “I don’t want to see the things about you that are different because society has told me they are dangerous or undesirable.” Ignoring difference does not change society; nor does it change the experiences non-normative bodies must navigate to survive. Rendering difference invisible validates the notion that there are parts of us that should be ignored, hidden, or minimized, leaving in place the unspoken idea that difference is the problem and not our approach to dealing with difference.” 6 likes
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