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Being in Balance: 9 Principles for Creating Habits to Match Your Desires

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In this inspirational work, beloved best-selling author Dr. Wayne W. Dyer shows you how to restore balance in your life by offering nine principles for realigning your thoughts so that they correspond to your highest desires.

Imagine a balance scale with one end weighted down to the ground, and the other end—featuring the objects of your desires—sticking up precariously in the air. This scale is a measurement of your thoughts. To restore the same balance that characterizes everything in our universe, you have to take up the weighty thoughts so that they match up to your desires.

The seasons reflect the overall harmony of life. For example, winter passes and the blossoms emerge. This is balanced by a need to have the trees rest, so autumn arrives on time and helps the trees ready themselves for another period of repose. This book is dedicated to the idea that we’re a vital component of this creative process and have within ourselves the wherewithal to create all that we want if we recognize and revise out-of-balance thoughts.

160 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2006

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Wayne W. Dyer

437 books3,079 followers
Wayne Walter Dyer was a popular American self-help advocate, author and lecturer. His 1976 book Your Erroneous Zones has sold over 30 million copies and is one of the best-selling books of all time. It is said to have "[brought] humanistic ideas to the masses".

He received his D.Ed. degree in counseling from Wayne State University. He was a guidance counselor in Detroit at the high school level and a professor of counselor education at St. John's University in New York.
He first pursued an academic career, publishing in journals and running a successful private therapy practice, but his lectures at St. John's, which focused on positive thinking and motivational speaking techniques, attracted students beyond those enrolled. A literary agent persuaded Dyer to package his ideas in book form, resulting in Your Erroneous Zones; although initial sales were thin, Dyer quit his teaching job and began a publicity tour of the United States, doggedly pursuing bookstore appearances and media interviews ("out of the back of his station wagon", according to Michael Korda, making the best-seller lists "before book publishers even noticed what was happening"

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Profile Image for Kim R.
195 reviews13 followers
November 5, 2013
I took a couple of months for me to read this book because it is a "ponder" book. I found it life changing. As in, I have it with my scriptures; (which I study daily, as nothing fills my soul and teaches me truth like studying the gospel.) It's amazing to me that the obviously inspired author can take many of the truths I learn in church and from the scriptures and re-word the same principle to give it a new application in my life. When I find myself crabby, or needing a little shot of joy, I can turn to this book and be reminded that it is me who decides to be in whatever mood I am in and it is me who can change that mood. This book has earned itself a permanent place on my bedside table.
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501 reviews4 followers
October 27, 2015
I have read Wayne Dyer, listened to him on audio and watched him speak on PBS. At times he has said things that have made me speculate that he might be tricky to live with, such as saying that his kids from a former wife don't have allergies when they are with him versus when they are with his wife because he teaches them to not believe in allergies. And I have thought, "Yes and you live in Hawaii and maybe your kids don't have allergies to what is there. Ugh."
On the other hand, I think he was a master at re-framing destructive thoughts in a way that is positive, hopeful and quite often far more religious than what people would believe of him. I had one major take away from this book, which is to reflect on the imbalance that comes from when what you want isn't in harmony with your actions. There are many good quotes and common sense moments. At the end were some sappy (to me) quotes from children about what is love.
The book is short and pretty, probably marketed as a gift book, which makes it an easy, pleasant way to get some personal thinking time.
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284 reviews29 followers
February 23, 2014
Quick thoughts: Inviting, honest and provoking.

I have a few of Dr. Dyers books on my bookshelf sitting there waiting to be read, and after reading Being in Balance, I can honestly say I am exited to get into them. Dyer has a really positive, informative and resonating voice that really connected me to his words of universal wisdom. He offered great, simple approaches to balancing areas of life that are often overlooked and disconnected and shared some beautiful quotes and poetry throughout to showcase his ideas and experiences.

I am adopting many of the principles already so it was fantastic to read some tips and take a look at different perspectives behind the principles. Manifestation is a huge learning point in my own self transformational development and the frequent “You are what you think, and you create what you think,” is really absorbed into my mind now.

Apart from also being pleasing to the eye, I found this to be a provoking, emotionally inviting and profound look at life, balance, spirituality and the world at large and would recommend it for fans of Dyer, or for anyone wanting to learn more about self love, and how to balance key areas in your life for a fulfilling, energetic and abundant life. I will be reading further works. This book would also make a fantastic gift and is small enough to fit into your bag or handbag for slower reading or reflection.
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583 reviews
May 26, 2018
"We become what we think about all day long." Some people get this immediately. Others don't get it, can't get it, or don't want to get it. But nonetheless it is true and definitely worth getting. So in his own unique and good-natured manner, Wayne breaks it down for us, step by step, piece by piece. Reading this book is a gentle reminder on how to "think" to "become" who you really desire to be.
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387 reviews22 followers
August 29, 2022

Reading a lot of spiritual, manifestating books lately. I don’t feel like they are my jam per se, but I do want to find out more about how can I live a perfectly peaceful life. And I do believe highly in manifesting things and experiences. It works. It’s miracles galore, if only you believe that what you want is available, is yours, and you let go of principles and be delusional. I swear it works.

This book is accurate to the T, it shows how to mind your own business and get peace whilst doing it.

Really enjoyable but truly helpful.
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405 reviews8 followers
April 24, 2018
Hermoso libro. Hermoso propósito.
El equilibrio es posible xq el ser humano es eso:una posibilidad.
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89 reviews
May 15, 2019
I’ve read a lot of Wayne Dyer’s books - they’re always filled with his incredible insight drawing from the wisdom of philosophers, poets, teachers, etc.

Easy to read and ingest before sleeping. Good reminders, thoughts and ideas for staying balanced in what you might perceive as an unbalanced world or rather that an unbalanced world is one of your own making.
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26 reviews
August 19, 2019
Simple effective principles to practice in everyday life.
May 18, 2019
You are what you think about! An excellent book about being in balance. There are a lot of god and faith references. Ignore reference to Deepak Chopra.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
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268 reviews12 followers
April 4, 2015
The concept of balance defines our Universe, but ever so often we have to be reminded of the need to restore this nature equilibrium in all aspects of our life. This little book provides us with the nine principles to help restore this balance. The focus of these nine principles is about the realigning of our thoughts, that if our thoughts are not aligned with our desires these thoughts are then resistant energy which counters our desires. Basically, as stated in Law of Attraction, we become what we think. An inspirational book, definitely one to be re-read periodically.

1) Balancing your dreams with your habits
2) Balancing your desire to enjoy life with your need to achieve
3) Balancing how you see yourself with what you project to the world
4) Balancing your desire for what you want with your addictive behaviour
5) Balancing your desire to have your body feel great with what you feed it and how you exercise it
6) Balancing your desire for prosperity with your habits of scarcity
7) Balancing your desire to live in a peaceful world with messages of evil continually bombarding you
8) Balancing your desire for love with feelings of not having enough love
9) Balancing your Spiritual Life with your Material Life
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835 reviews
November 10, 2021
I had casually listened to this long ago. I "really" listened to it this time. Wow. I'm changing my review to 5 stars. Perhaps because I'm older or perhaps life has made me wiser or more receptive to Mr. Dyer's message. His message resonated with me this time. Eye-opening stuff. It was too woo-woo before now it seemed aimed at me.
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12 reviews
June 12, 2011
There were good insights and reminders in this book. While the writing was nice and simple it was almost simple to the point of losing some of the deeper truth in the writing. In any case, this was a good, quick read that reminded me of truths necessary to live by.
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206 reviews16 followers
July 5, 2016
I give 5 stars to Wayne Dyer - he was a master. When I am feeling low, down, helpless, I pick up one of his books and get an instant reminder of who I am, what I am capable of, and he sets me right again. Priceless.
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3 reviews
August 11, 2012

Read this book in piecemeal and found it refreshing every time I picked it up. This is definitely a book I will be referring to every so often.
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26 reviews
June 17, 2014
I get something new out of this every time I read this. It is my go to for attitude adjustment
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17 reviews1 follower
December 10, 2014
I love Wayne. Great Spiritual self help/law of attraction/positive thinking book. Along with exercises and tips for applying good habits to your life.
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2 reviews2 followers
January 30, 2015
I loved this book so much I shared it with someone i love hoping it could inspire hem as it did me.
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23 reviews3 followers
October 14, 2015
Very good

It is very insightful, inspiring, informative and interesting book .it has a very balanced view of human existence and God.
2 reviews
November 10, 2015
It's all about Perspective

This is a simple reminder when you lose track of yourself, what is truly important. You get back what you put out into the universe. Loved it!
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117 reviews
November 18, 2015
Thought provoking

You don't realize that what you are feeling is out of balance..until Dr Dyer helps you realize how easy it is to realign. I suggest the audiobook.
8 reviews
February 14, 2023
Being in Balance is a book about the key principles to being balanced and in alignment to benefit your future. Personally, one of the important questions this book inspired me to consider more deeply, would be the question: What areas of your life right now are currently balanced? My life is currently balanced in a lot of the aspects this book has talked about. For example, I find myself balanced in habits, need to achieve, what I project to the world, addictive behavior, diet, my views of the world around me, and spiritual vs material. I do believe I am lacking in the aspect of my perception of love, and prosperity. I had already been aware of more than half of the lessons that were taught in this book, but it is the extra knowledge I gained from the lessons that made the read worth it. One of the main lessons that I took from the book, is when you are feeling lovelessness, start to project love onto others. You get what you state, you attract what your desires are directed towards. I believe that this book was beneficial to me and my journey, by allowing me to gain the extra lessons I needed to continue to remain in balance. I would not just recommend this book to a friend, but I would recommend it to anyone struggling with their mental state, and seeking a shift in their routines / daily life. I believe that this book can be very beneficial to anyone seeking a mental change. A great example of how life-changing this book can be is when it talks about addiction. This book talks deeply about how to regain balance when and if you are struggling with an addiction. Instead of looking at the battle of addiction in a negative way, you can see it in a positive light and look at what you can start replacing that habit with. When this book talks about lovelessness and loneliness, it mentions the way you view loneliness as well. Instead of looking at loneliness as a bad thing, and searching for someone to fill that “void” with love, reflect on how loving you are. The book mentions several quotes talking about how when you are seeking love, you often don’t find it, but when you look at someone extremely loving, they often times have someone filling that void. Lovelessness and addiction can cause an immense amount of imbalance, so I feel that not only will I learn from these chapters, but others struggling with these various things (and more) can learn a lot from this book.
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1,137 reviews24 followers
May 1, 2023
Being in Balance is collection of nine short essays that explain how to balance your spiritual life with your material life. It includes a good number of quotes from other sources and I can’t say I always understood their meaning, especially in the context of their use. One was attributed to Jesus of Nazareth - this is the quote from the book - “Believe that you shall receive and you shall receive.” This was in the section about the Law of Attraction, the idea that we become what we think about.
I’m not sure what verse or from which version of the Bible the quote came from (KJV Mark 11-??) but the only similar ones I know of have to do with prayer which I understand to be different than thoughts. If they are the same, then the phrase ‘thoughts and prayers’ seems redundant. Anyway, there was no bibliography at the end of the book to check so I was left to take it on trust that the quotes were accurate and not paraphrased in a way that might change their meaning. My inner cynic expected more. Like an earlier book of Dr. Dyer's, Your Erroneous Zones, I found this to be a little glib and superficial.
673 reviews2 followers
August 15, 2021
While I like some of what he says...we project what we think about and see things through our own thought patterns and that we need to reframe negative thoughts into positive ones, I just could not get past how overly simplistic his solutions were. While we do reframe how we think about things, I also believe we need to change our behaviors to match those thoughts too. I cannot think my way to a slimmer and healthier body, I have to put the time in at the gym and make better food choices. This reminds of The Secret--law of attraction and think it and it will be so. I have spent way too much of time wanting a positive change and love in my life to realize that I will not receive them unless I make needed changes and change behaviors, like being kind to the point where people used me continuously.
I see the attraction in what he has to say because it is easy to sit and think about what you want. But you also need to put in the physical work and make changes too.
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72 reviews37 followers
July 26, 2017
كتاب بسيط وعميق يحوي على الكثير من العبر

يتكلم عن تسعة مبادىء لحياة متوازنة
الموازنة بين الحلم والحقيقة
الموازنة بين الاستمتاع بالحياة والوفاء بمتطلباتها
الموازنة بين الافكار والتصرفات
الموازنة بين الرغبة في تحقيق المثالية والتخلص من العادات السيئة
الموازنة بين الرغبة في العافية والانطباع الداخلي عنها
الموازنة بين الرغبة في الغنى والسلوكيات الجالبة للفقر
الموازنة بين الرغبة في حياة امنة ورسائل الارهاب اليومية
القدرة على بث مشاعرالحب في الوقت الذي نفتقر فيه تلك المشاعر النبيلة
الموازنة بين الروح والمادة

من احلى المبادىء لدي كان فصل الرغبة في الغنى والسلوكيات الجالبة للفقر

ملاحظتي للترجمة :
دار الفاروق للاستثمارات الثقافية - مصر
اتوقع ان الترجمة اثرت سلبا في محتوى الكتاب لانه به الكثير من استدلالات الدين الاسلامي التي اعتقد انها ابتعدت عن فكر الكاتب
September 28, 2017
I read “Being In Balance” by Wayne Dyer. It was a great book. I loved the way he explained balance. I love how he gave examples and steps of how to include balance in your life. Wayne has written a lot of books and they are all amazing. This book helps you better your life, and I’m all about that. I know people who have read this book as well and they all loved it. My dad told me to read this book because it helped him and he thought it could help me too. In the book, it tells the 9 principles for creating habits to match your desires. I like books that teach me things. This book is also pretty small and easy to take with me. Usually I don’t like reading, but I loved all 220 pages of this book.
115 reviews3 followers
November 7, 2022
This is another law of attraction/ the secret type of book. It’s got a decent amount of emphasis from a Christian background which I don’t care for. My issues with the book are the same with any law of attraction. Traumas are your fault and make you “perfect” in God’s eye, if you simply think happy and abundance then it doesn’t matter your economic status or how you were raised, and that all health concerns can be fixed with your thoughts including addictions and high blood pressure. It’s a book where the “darkness” or shadow self is evil and you must only focus on the love and light to have a productive, “balanced” life.
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