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How Do You Like Me Now?

3.75  ·  Rating details ·  9,900 ratings  ·  824 reviews
'Turning thirty is like playing musical chairs. The music stops, and everyone just marries whoever they happen to be sitting on.'

Who the f*ck is Tori Bailey?

There's no doubt that Tori is winning the game of life. A straight-talking, bestselling author, she's inspired millions of women around the world with her self-help memoir. And she has the perfect relationship to b
Hardcover, 368 pages
Published June 14th 2018 by Hodder & Stoughton (first published April 23rd 2018)
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Jun 08, 2018 rated it liked it
My god, this was difficult to read and get through.

This book is about Tori, an author who from the outside is someone that seems to have everything life has to offer. A great career, a great guy, a bestselling book, great friends, she’s travelling the world and inspiring millions.
Little do people know what really is happening.

I mean, what’s the word that tops honesty and rawness? Reading this book made me feel fuckin uncomfortable. Mainly due to the fact that our main character knows she’s no
Éimhear (A Little Haze)
Feb 16, 2019 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Thirty-somethings and beyond
Recommended to Éimhear (A Little Haze) by: Gabby
I have somewhat of a *colourful* history with Holly Bourne. I've read the majority of her YA novels and I find her brand of writing to be somewhat limited in its viewpoint, especially when it comes to feminism. I feel she overcooks her novels with issues that sort of bash you across the head with feminism at the expense of narrative and character development. Particularly with her male characters. So it was incredibly interesting to read her first foray into the world of adult fiction and to see ...more
Abbie (boneseasonofglass)
DNF at 24%

I just really found the main character so irritating
I really struggled carrying on with this, and I've decided to DNF it, because I honestly can't read any more of this character's inner monologue / thoughts right now

I've loved every other one of Holly's books, and loved the characters in them, but this one just really wasn't doing anything for me at all unfortunately :(
Apr 05, 2018 rated it it was ok
Though I can see I'm in the minority (welcome to my life), I found this book almost intolerable. I disliked it pretty fast but optimistically kept reading hoping I'd like it further on. I ended up only finishing it coz I knew I'd be done within hours.

Having said that, I'm clearly not the target market. Where Tori just wished she wasn't mainstream and only kept up the pretense because her writing career pushed her that direction, I guess you could say I'm pretty much the opposite.

Her constant wh
Stacey (prettybooks)
"Turning thirty is like playing musical chairs. The music stops, and everyone just marries whoever they happen to be sitting on."

Holly Bourne is known for writing relatable teenagers (such as the Spinster Club girls), but, as a 28-year-old, How Do You Like Me Now? is her most relatable novel (for me) so far. I keep telling friends – all in their mid-to-late 20s – to read it as soon as it's out, messaging screenshots of paragraphs eerily similar to conversations we had that very same week.

Alexis Hall
CW for review: sexual assault

Fuck me, this was savage. Like, I didn’t think it was a romcom or anything but I’m still not quite sure I was prepared for how completely devastating this book would be.

The heroine…um protagonist? Wrote a book in her early 20s about being lost and finding yourself in your early 20s that went on to be a bit hit in the self-help market. She’s now in her early 30s, equally lost but can’t admit it, projecting an enviable lifestyle over her social media accounts and bomba
Kirsty Stanley
Oct 08, 2017 rated it it was amazing
HDYLMN was not a completely enjoyable read for me (it kept hitting a nerve) but it was a very important one. It has been proposed that often books might come along when we need them. This was Authentic, Raw and Validating. It's also very contemporary and real. I have definitely had variations of the discussions in this book with friends and family.

Holly has an ability to tap into the collective consciousness of women and girls. During reading there were times that I felt she had climbed into my
Umut Rados
I haven't read Holly Bourne before. I know she actually writes YA and this was her first adult novel.
I have to say, I enjoyed her writing, story telling, the way she engages the reader. I wasn't bored and I finished the book quickly.
It was a chick-lit contemporary about a woman called Victoria, who became famous by sharing her miserable 20s when she had hard time dating and getting to know herself. Then she meets a man called Tom and they are together since 6 years. But, she's not happy, and f
Liz Barnsley
Dec 13, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This book made me laugh SO MUCH and made me cry a bit too - clever, insightful, you'll find yourself nodding along to so much in this especially if you are in or have been in your 30's - that in between time when you are supposed to have thrown away childish things but are still not a fully formed adult (I actually believe very few people morph into full on adulthood I think we all remain kids at heart for the majority of our lives)

Holly Bourne has written a page turning, thought provoking, res
Jul 13, 2018 rated it did not like it
I can honestly say this was the worst book I’ve read all year! From the first page and onwards it did nothing but piss me off! I’m well read, feminist, political and have really lived an exciting life thus far. So I open this one up, and oh my goodness my most unfavourite thing to read....Facebook messages, text messages even cheeseball pictures are included! Arggg!!! This is a big no for me! I’m not into it. I’m a mature adult, if I wanted to read Facebook, I’d log in and read my own account! A ...more
Aug 25, 2017 rated it it was ok
Thanks Netgalley for sending me this ARC in exchange for an honest review!

08/03/18 - so I've been thinking about this one a lot and I'm going to have to give it a reread because I'm disagreeing a lot with what I've said


I've liked every single one of Holly Bournes novels that I have read. Am I Normal Yet?, What's a Girl Gotta Do? and most recently, It Only Happens in the Movies. All of these novels have held something special for me: whether it's important and good discussions on mental heal
Trish at Between My Lines
Somehow I never wrote a review for this book. And that makes this reviewer feel all kinds of awful, as this book was all kinds of wonderful. And I figure it's never too late to shout from the rooftops about how much I loved it.

The main character was one I loved to hate, while at the same time I hated to love her. I was conflicted but intrigued. Tori is messed up. Striving to be authentic on social media, but in a very contrived artificial way. Craving meaning in her life, but trying to find it i
Sep 29, 2018 rated it liked it
A bit of a mixed bag. I found myself enjoying and relating to certain aspects of the plot (how life takes a shift towards the end of your 20s/early 30s) but totally frustrated by others (namely how self absorbed Tori was, although I get that we aren't supposed to like her all the time). I get some of the hype surrounding this but the second half felt way too dragged out - I just wanted more character development! ...more
Odette Brethouwer
Oh, wat was ik enthousiast toen ik zag dat HarperCollins Holly Bourne ging vertalen. Ik ben echt megagroot fan van haar Spinster club serie (Am I Normal Yet?, How Hard Can Love Be? en What's a Girl Gotta Do?) Ik hoop nog steeds heel erg dat ze deze serie ook gaan vertalen.

Maargoed, dan dit boek. Één van mijn favoriete schrijfsters die een moderne Bridget Jones schrijft? Ik wilde het meteen lezen. Het lag voor mij in de lijn der verwachting van boeken zoals Hot Mess en Sandwichvrouw, die ik alleb
4.5 stars

Wow. That was totally unexpected. How Do You Like Me Now? is such a page-turner yet at times difficult to read for the simple fact that it is SO. DARN. RELATABLE. I mean, it actually scares me how relatable considering I'm 10 years younger than the protagonist.

This story is a critical, self-aware look at how ageing is perceived in our society, the impact social media is making on our lives, and the pressures of being someone in the public eye. A truly wonderful novel that hit a bit too
Mar 23, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: review-copy
Tori Bailey has it all - because she has figured out that you don't need it all.
She has written a successful book about how to navigate your twenties in your own way, and people have lapped it up. She has a worldwide fan base, hoardes of fans on social media, and a wonderful boyfriend, Tom.

But in reality, Tori doesn't know what she's doing. All her friends are moving on and doing "proper grown up" things, her own social media streams are full of baby scan pictures or engagement shoots, and she
Mar 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing
It’s time to review a book I read a while back and LOVED (I swear one day the paces of my reading and reviewing will match!)

If you’re a Young Adult Fan, chances are you already know (and love!) Holly Bourne’s books - she has given us the fantastic Spinster Club series and a myriad of other delectable stand-alones - most recently It Only Happens In The Movies, with her next book Are We All Lemmings and Snowflakes out on August 9th.

Holly’s books are always relatable and humorous, and this, her fir
Jun 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Holly Bourne is my favourite author and I have been waited MONTHS to read this book and the day finally came! I went to her book opening in London to receive my copy and I started reading it as soon as possible. (I was finishing a book at the time, so did not put that down until I finished it so I could start this one!) I had high hopes for this book, and it definitely did not disappoint! (I would just like to add that she stated she wrote the first draft of this book in only three and a half we ...more
Manon the Malicious
Jun 17, 2018 rated it it was amazing
*4.75 stars*

It grabbed me and I could barely put it down.
Holly Bourne is definitely one of my favorite authors.
Jun 07, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: contemporary
Relationships suck and I want nothing to do with them. Thank god I'm aro-ace. ...more
Apr 13, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2020
Everyone wants to be Tori Bailey.

A straight-talking, bestselling author, she's inspired millions of women around the world with her self-help memoir and uplifting posts online. What's more, her perfect relationship with her long-term boyfriend is the envy of all their friends.

But Tori isn't being honest.

While everyone around her is getting engaged and having babies, Tori's boyfriend will barely look at her, let alone talk about marriage. And when her best friend Dee unexpectedly falls in love, s
I hint at spoilers in this review- nothing is explicit but if you've just started the book you may want to stop reading

I received this book from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review

I have some very mixed feelings about this book and I think most of them come from not quite being the target audience. I am in my mid-twenties and found it very difficult to relate to Tori (for many reasons) and am not at the point where I'm worrying about life in my thirties at all.

I didn't really like T
Daphne (Illumicrate)
This book is fantastically brilliant. It's a witty, unflinchingly honest, funny/sad mirror into adulting. It's that shock you get when you hit your 30s and you inevitably ask yourself, 'What the f*ck now?', in book form.

Honestly, whatever age you are, this book will speak to you. Whatever you're worried about in your life at the moment, this book will speak to you. Whatever you don't like about yourself, this book will speak to you. It will speak to you about all your fears, doubts, insecuritie
Georgie Haberdash'Ry
Mar 20, 2020 rated it did not like it
One star is generous, this is by far the worst book I have ever read.
Kwante in Wonderland
Recognizing so much in this one 💕 laughed and cried! Review will follow on my blog soon!
Jul 29, 2018 rated it really liked it
Ok guys, this really hit home and I've probably liked it so much because of that!

I've recently turned 30 and I'm single, so I really understand all the social pressure discussed in this book. You can let if affect you or not, but it's there.

I love this book because it's totally honest, to the point of being a little bit unconfortable. For example, if your BFF finds the love of her life or have a baby you should be happy for her, but for at least a moment you are going to be annoyed because you
Read this if you like books on: women's lit, feminism, living with narcissists, societal standards, age-appropriate-socially-acceptable behaviors, twenties/thirties life journeys, growth and self-reflection

I was expecting a light read, a bit of romance thrown in, a bit of self-reflection in the end, but boy this book gave so much more!

It talked about women empowerment, realizing the lives we want, about the societal expectations attached on women's age and the hard decisions women are still conf
Nov 08, 2017 rated it really liked it
I received an advance copy of this from Netgalley in exchange for a review, cheers Netgalley I’m so grateful!!
I loved this book so much such that I ended up reading it in two days, when I suppose to be working on my university assignments. When I first requested this, I was little bit apprehensive because I’m such a huge fan of Holly Bourne’s YA books I didn’t want to be let down by this and thankfully I wasn’t. The story is about Tori a 31 year old successful author who everyone thinks has it
Jul 08, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: yalc2018
There better be a book two.

A powerful story about a horrible, emotionally abusive relationship. It's hard to walk away from a relationship, really hard. But sometimes you have to do it no matter how scary life could be afterwards. My heart breaks for Tori.

Holly is brilliant with her feminist writing. I was swept along, even hating Tori to begin with, all the social media moments had me rolling my eyes.

Very good. Very sweary sweary. Very heart-breaking. Loved the photos and the mental impact and
Kara Babcock
This first paragraph is just me screaming really loudly and enthusiastically because yessssss another Holly Bourne novel and this one is for adults!! I am an unapologetic fan of everything Bourne writes. Her young adult Spinster Club trilogy is incredible. Now she has a book out about adulting and relationships, and it is just as brilliant.

How Do You Like Me Now? is the story of Tori Bailey, who wrote a bestselling memoir of her twenties but now, in her thirties, is beginning to yearn for the fr
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Holly started her writing career as a news journalist, where she was nominated for Best Print Journalist of the Year. She then spent six years working as an editor, a relationship advisor, and general ‘agony aunt’ for a youth charity – helping young people with their relationships and mental health.

Inspired by what she saw, she started writing teen fiction, including the best-selling, award-winni

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