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Quiet Girl in a Noisy World: An Introvert's Story

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Sweet, funny, and quietly poignant, Debbie Tung’s comics reveal the ups and downs of coming of age as an introvert.

This illustrated gift book of short comics illuminates author Debbie Tung's experience as an introvert in an extrovert’s world. Presented in a loose narrative style that can be read front to back or dipped into at one’s leisure, the book spans three years of Debbie's life, from the end of college to the present day. In these early years of adulthood, Debbie slowly but finally discovers there is a name for her lifelong need to be alone: she’s an introvert.

The first half of the book traces Debbie’s final year in college: socializing with peers, dating, falling in love (with an extrovert!), moving in, getting married, meeting new people, and simply trying to fit in. The second half looks at her life after graduation: finding a job, learning to live with her new husband, trying to understand social obligations when it comes to the in-laws, and navigating office life. Ultimately, Quiet Girl sends a positive, pro-introvert message: our heroine learns to embrace her introversion and finds ways to thrive in the world while fulfilling her need for quiet.

178 pages, Paperback

First published November 7, 2017

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Debbie Tung

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Deborah "Debbie" Tung is a cartoonist and illustrator from Birmingham, England. Her comics are based on simple (and sometimes awkward) everyday life moments and her love for books and tea. She lives with her husband and son.


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288 reviews413 followers
April 2, 2021

تمام طول این کتاب لبخند زدم و تو دلم گفتم می دونم چی میگی

دبی یک دختر درونگراست که خیلی وقت ها ترجیح میده با یک چای و کتاب تنها باشه تا اینکه مهمونی بره و با بقیه آدم ها صحبت های معمولی و بی معنی بکنه. تصویر های ساده ی کتاب دبی رو از کالج تا ازدواجش و اولین کارش دنبال می کنخ و درگیری های متفاوت بودن در همه ی این مراحل رو نشان میده

برای من این حس های مشترک خیلی جالب و شیرین بود. منی که چون اصلا ساکت نیستم (مکانیزم دفاعی) و خیلی اجتماعی به نظر میام، به جز نزدیک ترین آدم های زندگیم کسی حتی نمی دونه که یک دبی درون من زندگی می کنه

و مثل اون هر وقت کار به معاشرت با آدم ها میرسه، انگار یک باتری از درونش خالی میشه و باید اینجوری شارژش کنه
با پیدا کردن یک جای امن و راحت

آپلود عکس

و هر روز درگیر اینه که به اندازه کافی نتونسته بهتر بشه

آپلود عکس

البته جز درون گراها، دوستداران کتاب هم می تونند خودشون رو بین این تصویرها پیدا کنند، مثلا این حس که شاید برای خیلی ها آشناست و بقیه به این میشناسنتون که همیشه همراهتون کتاب دارید

دبی در نهایت در طول کتاب کم کم بزرگ میشه و یاد میگیره خودش رو بیشتر بپذیره، و من دیدن این رشد رو در کتاب ساده ای مثل این دوست داشتم

کتاب رو هم مثل همیشه اینجا گذاشتم
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155 reviews579 followers
July 23, 2020
Had to share this...😂
Intoverts vs Extroverts

Trust me guys...sometimes I have to remind myself that majority of people on GR are introvrts and I need to shut the hell up😅😂

As an extrovert who is surrounded by introverts 24/7.....
I can say that this book pretty accurate
It did a great job of portraying the "introvert nature"
While many of the things that happened were not relatable to me directly...
I had seen most of my friends go through it..
We are a groupn of 5 friends and I am the only extrovert...
You guessed it right😂Sometimes I have to do the "small talk" for 4 people😅🤣
Not that I am complaining...😉
The thing that could be a nightmare for introverts is actually a fun thing to do for extroverts..
We love meeting new people🤩Atleast I do...I shouldn't say that's the case for all extroverts...

I had to add this meme over her
Cause it is the best example of our (girlgang's) expressions while meeting new people..

And then there is always a comment from people who don't know my friends,"Why are they anti social??"
And I am like,"No they are not...They are just shy!!"

The author had an accurate description of this situation in this book😂
Like I remember my friends saying how nervous they get while meeting new people OR just having a conversation with someone they don't know
Also the "introvert anatomy" had me laughing out loud
I don't have the exact one in the book..
But here's what I found!!

That playlist thing is so true!!
Like whenever we were commuting through public transport my best friend would just keep her ear phones ready..
She was legitimately afraid of someone talking to her in the time she would even put her earphones😂

So I did enjoy this book..
However it got repetitive after sometime....
I felt as if the same thing was being told just in different situations
Also I would have loved to see the MC have at least ONE friend
I understand many introverts find it difficult to make new friends
It's not like they are friendless!!
I mean if you are an introvert an extrovert will FIND you and talk to you about anything something😅😂
But overall a great experience

Also did I mention you introverts are awesome???!!
Like you teach us so many things.....
Don't think you guys even realize it!!
There's so much to learn especially your calmness and patience🥰
Or the way you are passionate about the things you like
But most importantly the great friend you are!!
The supportive friend who always has your back and won't hesitate to tear a person down if they hurt you😘🥰🥰
Here's me hugging you all..

Update 2

Feeling like an introvert just after reading this😅Even though I am not😂

Update 1

As an extrovert myself...I am really intrigued to know the world of introverts😁🤓

Exactly how I meet my friends😊😛

Basically...when my "talking mode" is on....my introvert friends be like....

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169 reviews33 followers
June 18, 2022
فکر کنم به عنوان "داستان یک درونگرا" ایراد داشت
نکته‌ی اول اینکه همه‌ی درونگراها خجالتی نیستن
بعد هم شخصیت این کتاب استرس و اضطراب اجتماعی داشت که نمی‌دونم چرا قاتیِ درونگرایی شده که خب نرمال نشون دادن همچین چیزی کاملاً اشتباهه. تازه بعد بیای بگی همینطوری که هستی پرفکت و بی‌نقصی! و مشکلی نداری

جز اینا خیلی هم تکراری می‌شد و انگار یه ایده رو چندبار طراحی کرده و نوشته بود که تعداد صفحات بره بالا
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268 reviews676 followers
June 22, 2020
"You are shy, an over-thinker, an empath, a bit quirky and would rather stare at your walls all day than go out and socialize. You're not weird. And you're definitely not alone. You're an introvert and you're awesome the way you are!"

My mum says this to me often and although my plaguing self doubts have always tried to refute it aggressively, I've learned to mute it (to some extent). I'm still a proud work in progress!!

This book was so relatable that after every page I was hit with a pang of nostalgia followed by a squealing exclamation, 'Gawwwd, this is so me!'.

To all the times I've thought I was the only awkward weirdo trying to fit in! Wish this book was written when I was wading through my teenage years and grasping at straws to be "normal".
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570 reviews3,197 followers
August 2, 2018
Sweet, funny, and quietly poignant, Debbie Tung’s comics reveal the ups and downs of coming of age as an introvert.

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There’s a fine line between being an introvert and having social anxiety, and the author of this book managed to truthfully showcase both. This illustrated gift book full of short comics will make you want to say "STOP READING MY MIND!" Debbie Tung fully managed to show me those shadowy parts of myself through her story.

Also, the title Quiet Girl in a Noisy World perfectly gets me.

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I recently listened to the podcast — Quiet: The Power of Introverts with Susan Cain and it fits wonderfully with this illustrated book, especially the parts of Debbie Tung's early childhood. The podcast, “where quiet voices are heard,” is about introverted kids and focuses on giving parents and educators the tools to empower quiet kids. Which is where the central theme of Quiet Girl in a Noisy World can be summed up by this Susan Cain quote:

“Why shouldn’t quiet be strong? And what else can quiet do that we don’t give it credit for?”

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The only tiny hindrance I want to mention were the time jumps and how they made the narrative a bit rocky and unclear at times, from going to college to meeting someone new to marriage to graduate school to flashbacks from her childhood… all over the span of not that many pages. But once it got its right footing, the story worked wonders.

Speaking of which, here are the many moments that got me at my core:

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I desperately wanted to push The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson into her hands whenever she got stressed over declining a social outing.

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It was beyond satisfying to finally see her accept her introverted self after doing some research on the topic, instead of trying to meet the many expectations “of the extrovert ideal.”

All in all: I was very in tune with everything written in this illustrated book.

ARC kindly provided by the publisher in exchange for an honest review.

Publication Date: November 7th 2017


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429 reviews594 followers
May 20, 2023
Cartoonist Debbie Tung shows the world what it's like to be her in Quiet Girl in a Noisy World: An Introvert’s Story. This sequential-art memoir comes at a time when introversion is, at long last, getting attention that’s positive. The book's very existence is a testament to how much perception of the trait has improved; it wasn't so long ago that introversion was something to be ashamed of.

The only problem is that many of these pages don’t portray introversion. Tung exhibits strong signs of social anxiety and high sensitivity. “Severe anxiety” is mentioned once on a page where she describes Googling “What is wrong with me?” She also briefly mentions struggling with social anxiety, so that is on her radar, but this book contradicts her belief that she’s “learned to cope with it over the years.”

It bothered me to see Tung misunderstand introversion so much, and I was surprised that she wouldn’t make sure she has the definition, in all its nuance, nailed down before publishing a book about it. Introversion is a set of characteristics, but its most defining characteristics are getting energy from being alone and, socially, strongly preferring one-on-one interaction and meaningful conversation. Not wanting to socialize at all is not introversion. Feeling comfortable with never marrying is not introversion. Being distracted by loud chatter is not introversion. Raging over inconsequential problems is not introversion. Feeling nervous about starting a new job is not introversion. Tung may indeed be introverted, but with so many panels depicting instances of social anxiety and high sensitivity, that can’t be said for sure.

Quiet Girl in a Noisy World is an honest book that seems more like Tung wrote it for herself, an illustrated diary of sorts. If any readers feel comforted by it, that's simply a nice bonus. But it does portray a life that’s regularly very stressful and distressing, so I find it odd that Tung has no desire to improve it. Most of what she experiences aren’t cute introverted traits to lean into or to own with pride; they’re problems that demand therapy. Her only interpersonal happiness appears to come from time spent with her loving husband, and her only personal happiness appears to come from disengaging from the world entirely. As an introvert, I recognized myself in the depictions of genuine introversion, but most of the time I just felt bad for her.

Complementary reading:
For a thorough education on introversion: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking
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1,801 reviews132 followers
January 14, 2022
"Why should I always feel obligated to be more social and outspoken? No longer will I bend over backward to please others who don't care to understand me. No more of this 'come out of your comfort zone' nonsense! I'm going to make a change!!! . . . and I'll start by being quiet about it." -- on page 153

Unpretentious graphic novella memoir regarding a oft-conflicted young woman accepting and fine-tuning her introversion - specifically during her final months as a grad student, her first full-time job in a bustling office setting, and in her first year of marriage to a nice and understanding young man - in a life otherwise largely populated by extroverted types. I was sort of expecting to be blown away by an involving story and/or some astute insight, but it seemed like things stayed on a superficial (yet sort of charming) level. Also, I have to agree with a number of other GR reviewers who noted that 1.) being introverted and 2.) experiencing social anxiety are two different things, but appeared to be treated as interchangeable personality groups here. Still, there were moments that did remind me at times of Atticus Finch's gentle advice of "just learn a single trick to get along with all kinds of folks - you never really understand a person until you consider things from HIS point of view", and the main character's love of books / reading and need for alone time (both of which are depicted with her charging an 'internal battery' to equip her for the outside world) will strike a knowing chord.
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4,476 reviews2,412 followers
July 25, 2022
I can so well relate with Debbie. Being an introvert is not a weakness or a negative personality/behaviour. It's just how we are. This comic collection is not meant to be funny or to entertain everyone. It's just the reality of how we as introverts act and behave and feel. It's not our fault if people do not understand us. We are comfortable as how we are. And yes, there's nothing wrong with us.
Thank you, Debbie Tung, for this fabulous collection. You are an inspiration.
I need the rest of the comic collection!
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1,748 reviews5,288 followers
September 19, 2017

This book is the perfect portrayal of the life of an introvert, 100%. I related so freaking hard to every single thing that Debbie said, and I found myself snickering and nodding along to pretty much every other page. If you're an introvert - especially one who doesn't frequently find books you can relate to very well - I highly recommend picking up a copy of this when it releases!

Thank you to NetGalley and Andrews McMeel Publishing for the ARC in exchange for an honest review!
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2,264 reviews406 followers
June 27, 2019
I enjoyed this even more than Book Love. Debbie Tung's artwork is lovely, I really enjoyed reading this story in pictures. I loved the thought bubbles and imagined scenarios, it goes without saying that there will be lots in here that introverts and readers will identify with and certainly raise a smile or two! I like the way the couple in this book compliment each others personalities and I enjoyed the snapshots looking into their life together.

This was a quick fun read and one I would happily pick up again.
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950 reviews859 followers
February 3, 2018
I'm an introvert, but unlike the author or this graphic novel, I consider mine as mild. I prefer just to stay at home, read a book, or watch a movie/series online than going to the beach or doing sports. That's where my reticence ends because on the contrary, I'm a talkative person, opinionated, a little assertive, and more of a motivator. However, Debbie Tung's case is more severe because she got some problem communicating and dealing with others.
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Quiet Girl in a Noisy World: An Introvert's Story
I'm quite sure that a lot of introverts and bookworms can relate to Debbie, may it be close to her situation or their's is a milder condition just like mine. Being an introvert has both its pros and cons; one just need to monitor and control it so it will not take over their lives. Seeking help from friends and love ones on this condition is a huge help also, because having someone behind your back will make introverts co-exist with everyone.
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152 reviews162 followers
June 9, 2023
Is our current world better suited for extroverts? What should one do when they do not fit in? The book follows an introverted girl on her journey of self-identification. She is about to discover and embrace her (more or less) true self.

The main character is in the process of discovering that she is an introvert and that it is okay for her to love being alone, be tired of people, and stay away from the crowd.
She lives in an extroverted world, where socializing is often considered a priority. She often feels pressure to socialize and be more outgoing. She has to figure out how to deal with this world of networking, as one might call it.
The protagonist is not suffering from loneliness. Small talk and attending parties are not how she chooses to spend her time. Spending a quiet evening at home with books and her partner is what she prefers.

The pictures in the comic book are well-done and some episodes seem real. I liked that the author was able to demonstrate how the main character has matured and finally accepted herself.
It has taken her many years to explore her own personality and to fully accept it.
At some point in her life she stops trying to live up to others’ expectations or caring about society’s standards. This helps her to live a much freer and more tranquil life.

The book, however, left me with mixed feelings. I have serious doubts that most introverts are like the main character. She is probably a special case of an introvert and may lack maturity. Introverts could be social enough, emotionally mature, and not all of them are afraid of letting others know their preferences, such as love for solitude or not being very comfortable in a new situation.
Say, I consider myself an introvert, and I do not remember being afraid to tell close friends about this.
At the same time, I found in the book some descriptions that applied to me. I also hate unnecessary phone calls from people when they can easily message me instead.

Overall, I think that the reader should not expand this particular portrait of an introvert to all introverted people. When extroverted people for whom many problems experienced by introverts are unknown territory read such stories, they may develop certain misconceptions. All introverted people start to be seen as hermits who shun human interactions except within a very narrow circle, do not care about achievements and are prone to social anxiety.
Even if some researchers suggest that introverts are less sensitive to all types of social rewards that the world can offer, which may explain certain things about introverts, this is not always the case.
Some introverted people can behave almost like extroverts in different situations, such as speaking in front of the public or attending noisy events. They may give the impression of being truly outgoing people whilst having a high degree of sensitivity.

Another point concerns what might be called 'a black and white approach'. To divide most people into two groups – introverts and extroverts – is not correct, strictly speaking. Apart from these two extremities, many people find themselves somewhere in between and do not fit into either category. Such people are sometimes called ambiverts, or social introverts, – those who can be outgoing when they need to. After all, most of us, instead of being solely an introvert or an extrovert, combine the qualities of both.

All in all, Quiet Girl, in my opinion, presents a too simplistic picture of 'being an introvert'. The wider the generalization, the greater the element of simplification in it.
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1,227 reviews949 followers
December 18, 2017
Have you ever read a book that was so ridiculously relatable, you weren't sure whether to laugh or cry? Yeah, that was me and Quiet Girl in a Noisy World. Yet, whilst reading it, I was wearing an smile ear to ear smile from the first page until the last.

It was funny, adorable, heart breaking, heart warming, painful, honest, inspirational and oh so relatable. The artwork and its simple back and white colour scheme was utterly gorgeous and inviting.

I would without a doubt recommend this to all introverts and extroverts alike. I have undoubtedly found a new all time favourite graphic novel!
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1,210 reviews19.7k followers
February 2, 2018
A book all introverts need. A book extroverts need. A book people need to understand those who have introverted family members and friends and do not get why we're so socially reserved or prefer cancelled plans to a party.

This book SPOKE to me!
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147 reviews240 followers
February 19, 2019
I have been an introvert all my life, and I used to think this was a problem. Introverts do not always have the best reputation. We can be seen as rude, antisocial, and insecure. As a child, I felt like I wasn’t good enough as a whole person because of my reserved nature. Thankfully, I’ve come to learn that being an introvert is not a sign of weakness -- this is just a part of who I am, and I’m going to live my life on my own terms.

“Quiet Girl in a Noisy World “ by Debbie Tung holds a special place in my heart. Through her comics, Tung tells her own personal story of the ups and downs of coming of age as an introvert. I can relate to her struggle to fit in, her quirkiness, her love of the little things, and how she finally learns to embrace who she is. You get to step inside Tung’s world, as she takes you on a journey from her last year in college to the present. Along the way, she shares the struggles of navigating social and dating situations as an introvert. My favorite part was seeing the love story between Tung and her extrovert husband unfold, they make quite an adorable pair!
The artwork is so expressive and alive, and the writing is just as charming yet perfectly succinct. Even though it wasn't about my life, I felt so understood. I've been learning to celebrate my introversion over the years rather than apologize for it -- and this book is a celebration!

For those of you who used to be awkward, quiet and shy, to those of you who can’t stand to relive your childhood days -- you’ll be totally in your element while reading this book. However, "Quiet Girl in a Noisy World" could be enjoyed by everyone. Every comic is the perfect blend of humor and heart, and it allows you to see the world from a quieter, more thoughtful perspective.
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121 reviews323 followers
February 16, 2022
HERZENSBUCH (4,5/5 ⭐️)

Beendet: 31.01.2022 | Nr. 14

Ah was ist das bitte für ein schönes Buch? Ich konnte mich so, so gut mit Debbie identifizieren. 😍
Für alle Introvertierten ein Must Read, ich habe mich so verstanden und weniger allein gefühlt.
Liebe! 💛
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1,195 reviews249 followers
October 6, 2017
Introverts of the world unite! In your home... on your couch or in bed... alone... Just the way we like it!

Debbie Tung has done a brilliant job of turning my biography into a graphic novel. Sure, she got my name wrong and I'm not married to a wonderful extrovert called Jason, but she got everything else spot on so who am I to quibble? Okay, so maybe Quiet Girl in a Noisy World wasn't written with me specifically in mind, but it could have been! Debbie has totally nailed what being an introvert looks and feels like.

In this graphic novel, we follow Debbie through her final year of college, meeting and marrying an extrovert, navigating the workplace and surviving the nightmare of social interactions, often by using her husband as a social shield. From experiencing doubt about who she is and feeling different from the extroverts surrounding her who thrive on small talk, we see Debbie's transformation upon learning there's a word that describes her - introvert. Upon learning more about her tribe, Debbie learns to accept herself as she is and begins to embrace her dreams and passions rather than trying to fit into the extrovert shaped box she's been struggling to fill.

In a world that seems to be filled with extroverts (probably because all of the introverts are at home or in hiding) introverts outside of their natural habitat can be made to feel like they're from another planet when forced to interact with more than one person at a time and from another galaxy if even one of those people are a stranger. A stranger in the Dictionary of Introverts could be defined as 'a person who isn't a family member, partner or closest friend'.

Debbie is a very talented illustrator and captures the worldview of introverts so well that there will be people safely tucked away in their homes quietly murmuring, "Me, too" as they wander with hope through this graphic novel. I loved that you can just as easily enjoy this book in snippets as you can reading from cover to cover. I adored the use of a battery percentage above Debbie's head showing how long she has to go before she needs a recharge. Should extroverts want to discover why we introverts act so weird in social situations (and let's face it, we do!) this is the perfect way to find out because we'll most likely be too shy to tell you face to face.

Through the wonder of internet anonymity, those who have read a couple of my book reviews most likely already know me better than some people who have been in my life for decades. I know the pain of feeling alone in a roomful of people who are happily making small talk and the comfort of not feeling lonely at all when I get to recharge by myself. My fellow introverts and I must have forgotten to register for Small Talk 101.

If you don't know me you could be forgiven for wondering if I was born without a voice box. If you've managed to find your way through the labyrinth and cracked the code at the end to become a trusted friend then you may wonder if I'll ever shut up! I guess that's just one of the many paradoxes of introversion.

I received an ARC of this graphic novel from NetGalley (thank you very much to NetGalley and Andrews McMeel Publishing for the opportunity) in exchange for honest feedback. I love this graphic novel and will be rereading it whenever I need to remind myself that being an introvert can be a strength, not a character flaw.
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2,802 reviews1,234 followers
March 14, 2019
This is my second borrowed Hoopla book. My first was Book Love, another book by this same author/artist. I’d found myself out and with some unexpected free time and without my current hardcover book so I borrowed this one. I read it in one day. These comics books lend themselves well to e-reading, even though normally I read paper books.

I adore Debbie Tung’s art and I appreciate her POV and identify with much (but not all) about her life and experiences.

I’m not as introverted as the author. I’m not an extreme introvert. On the continuum I’m definitely well over on the introverted versus extroverted side; I have aspects of both. But I knew this book would fit me and that I would love it and I already knew I loved her art style and writing/captions.

I think I liked this book slightly less than Book Love but I still loved it. Many of favorite cartoons were the ones about books and reading.

I did love this part though. This list: Introvert, highly sensitive person, empath, shy, compulsive worrier and over thinker and what she says about them fitting her:

“In hindsight, I should have been terribly disappointed at the discovery of so many flaws. But instead, I felt immense relief.” (Page 152 of my e-book)

Yes! That was me when I first learned about introverted vs. extroverted personalities. I’d gotten so much criticism when I was young for not joining enough groups and not liking large noisy parties, preferring one on one and small intimate group social experiences. The “lonely in a crowd” definitely fits me, even more so in my early years than now.

She’s so honest and so relatable. I love the humor and the pathos. I recognized so many of her experiences in my own, but I think that most people who appreciate her art style (as I do!) will enjoy her work, even if they are gung ho extraverts.

I’m happy for this artist/author that she was able to feel comfortable with herself as she has and to pursue the creative career she’d wanted. I enjoy her art & books, and I envy her artistic talent.

I’ve loved both books I’ve read so far and will follow her and read/view all her work I can find.
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3,213 reviews104 followers
April 30, 2023
Debbie Tung's graphic novel autobiographical sojourn into her highly introverted world and personality, her Quiet Girl in a Noisy World: An Introvert's Story has indeed been a bit like looking intensely into a reflecting mirror for an extended period of time, as so much (not all of it of course, but definitely and in fact a sizeable majority) of her depicted and described scenarios could have been taken almost entirely and "verbatim" from my own life story (as while I am not in any way quite as intensely introverted as Debbie Tung obviously is, I am also not someone who is all that extroverted and therefore also generally prefer either working, thinking, being alone or one-one-one interaction and definitely just like Debbie despise huge groups of people, parties and other social gatherings, too much background noise and so on and so on). And especially when in Quiet Girl in a Noisy World: An Introvert's Story, Debbie points out her family's and also to a certain extent later her significant other's family's reactions and general attitudes to her preferences of reading a book alone in her room to going out and visiting, being a social butterfly, oh my, how often have I not heard similar critical words regarding my lack of friends, my preference of reading alone in my room to going to a movie or to some other kind of social event (even if said social events would likely have been rowdy and filled with loud music and overindulgence of alcohol and/or drugs).

Of course though, Quiet Girl in a Noisy World: An Introvert's Story is still first and foremost Debbie Tung's and not my personal story (and I am therefore also not in any manner saying that she is I and I am she). However, there certainly are enough similarities to be found in Quiet Girl in a Noisy World: An Introvert's Story for me to say that yes, this perusal (this reading and viewing experience) has been a very much eye-opening, heartening and both sweetly and sometimes painfully honest excursion into much of my own life and personality as well, although I do hope that Debbie Tung actually is appreciative of the fact that she is incredibly lucky to have found a partner, to have found a husband who is both extroverted and also understanding of her introversions, who seemingly always "gets" her but also often takes the social pressures off by playing extroverted defence so to speak (as that is certainly not always the case and in fact, many introverts do end up going out with and/or marrying fellow introverts, such as like in my case, where my partner is actually even more introverted and shy, even more not into people than I am, than I ever could be). Highly recommended both for its storyline and for its black and white illustrations is Quiet Girl in a Noisy World: An Introvert's Story, and while simply as artwork in and of itself, Debbie Tung's pictures are a bit too bland and colourless for my personal aesthetic tastes, the combination of text and images in Quiet Girl in a Noisy World: An Introvert's Story does work extremely well (and indeed, here is yet another contemporary graphic novel I have very much if not actually totally enjoyed, although it sure does seem that most of the graphic novels which tend to appeal to me are definitely more often than not either autobiographical or at least potentially nostalgic in theme and content).
October 5, 2017
This whole book is so relatable!
It was like I was reading a story about myself.
The feelings, the thoughts and the reactions reminded me of myself and I loved every page of this book.

Definitely worth a read!
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Author 6 books31.5k followers
January 12, 2019
I haven't read any of the introvert books such as Susan Cain's work, Quiet. I am on record as not liking much two of the most popular memoir-ish, self help-ish, introvert-ish books that were #1 and #2 on the 2018 Goodreads Graphic Novels and Comics award list, Sarah Anderson's Herding Cats and Little Moments of Love by Catana Chetwynd. But I was a largely introverted kid until (I met a girl when) I was eighteen. My mom, worried about me and all my closed bedroom door reading, and told me repeatedly to go outside and play with others. Sometimes I did. I like people! I think many if not most Goodreads folks are at least partly introverts. If you read a lot, as I do, you might prefer to read than be with others a lot of the time.

Tung got known as many others have through her webcomics on this and related topics. Some pages are one page self help memoir/vignettes, but the book is largely a story of her self acceptance as an introvert who prefers to read, drink tea and write and draw rather than socialize. And she has an extrovert boyfriend/husband who understands her and whom she can reply on in social situations. This is a book for introverts to help them feel normal, because Tung had to go through a process to accept herself. She thought there was something wrong with her, then discovered words to describe herself in the literature such as empath, shy, introvert.

Tung took the Myers-Briggs personality test and discovered she was INF-J, and was told she was one of less than one percent of the world who were dominated by introversion, intuition, and feeling. Huh??! I should think more than half of the millions of Goodreads readers would technically be INF-J!

But it is also a guide for extroverts who want to love introverts, as Tung's husband clearly does. I liked that aspect of the story.

I guess I would rate this roughly 3.5, as I am just meeting Tung and her work for the first time and am not yet annoyed by her. :) (Be nice, Dave!) Okay, I did like Tung's voice and story here, and the support role her husband plays, even if her "be yourself" takeaway is not that startling. For fans of Anderson and Chetwynd, this is also just as cute, and less web-comicky (random) and more narrative. Which I prefer.
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108 reviews12 followers
May 16, 2022
فکر کنم تنها کتابی بود که تونستم خط به خط اشو درک کنم!تا حالا هیچ شخصیت درونگرایی رو تو کتاب ها ندیده بودم که انقدر شبیه من باشه. از این به بعد هرکسی که خواست من رو بشناسه این کتاب رو بهش هدیه میدم:)))
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273 reviews216 followers
October 8, 2020
The title spoke to me so I had to read it...

This just makes introverts look like they are high maintenance people who aren't exactly how they appear. The awkward situation that the MC faces didn't quite translate very well and often end up making her seem unintentionally rude. I don't know if it was ment to be funny to see how different she was but I didn't get the humor. Each panel shows a very stereotypical behaviour any introvert might show. It's very distinct from reality so, keep that in mind. Some parts were very repetative and didn't bring anything new to the table. The art style looks like "lazy doodles" which may or may not work for everyone else. I like the last 10 pages because it showed how she embraced the fact of being an introvert and has overcome her social anxiety. Overall it wasn't groundbreaking or anything.



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1,579 reviews1,849 followers
May 3, 2021
Big hugs, Debbie Tung! I could identify with every thing you said in this book. It felt like I have a twin soul elsewhere in the world.
Only point of contention with the book: For me, coffee makes everything better. 😁❤️

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1,094 reviews1,269 followers
September 5, 2017
My little introvert self loved this so much.

Of course I decided to dive into this graphic novel with my favourite beverage : a huge mug of warm tea.

This graphic novel just had a really soothing effect on me, it allowed me to take some me time and simply enjoy reading about my beautiful introverts.

Being an introvert in this too noisy world can be exhausting! Every morning you wake up and you already know you’ll come home extremely tired because the world is working against you. Being an introvert means you have to push yourself to talk to strangers sometimes because they ask you something, or answer the phone even though you get anxious just thinking about it, or just calm yourself down when you’re in a too crowded place because it’s just too much noise and body heat for you.
That’s the reality of being an introvert.

It’s not always easy, but like this graphic novel said so well, it doesn’t mean we’re all alone in this world. We find our people - we even make great friends with extrovert people because they balance us so well - and we stick to them because they understand us and our ‘awkwardness’.

This graphic novel is just really precious, it made me feel understood and at ease, surrounded by love and I simply had an amazing time reading it!


Thank you Netgalley for providing me an e-arc in exchange for an honest review.
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783 reviews62 followers
January 13, 2019
Beautifully illustrated graphic novel that I could most certainly identify with. I prefer quiet to social gatherings. I like being around my close knit family and find social interactions exhausting. Give me books and space and I am happy. It's nice to know there are "others" like me. Yes, we learn to meld with others, but ultimately we like our "quiet" and there's nothing wrong with that :)
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