Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships: Decoding Social Mysteries Through Autism's Unique Perspectives
This book was just so weird. To have social rules dissected by those who have learned them and not absorbed them innately is a bit like having an alien come down and start describing our society to us. I had wanted to read the book because I find difficulty getting on with people and reading social clues and wonde ...more
I am not autistic or on the spectrum, but definitely am socially awkward due to my ideas of how people should be vs how they are.
I found parts of this book helpful and it gave me good insight into situations where I may have had awkward social situations and why that would be so. It also gave ...more
On the one hand, this wasn't my favorite. I thought the co-authoring was managed a bit awkwardly. It was also illuminating, providing a second perspective as well as reinforcing the point that autism is different for every autistic person. I also felt the authors lingered on the introductory/background material too ...more
Here are a few of my observations:
- Austitics tend to think in black and white.
- They often have a problem with anger management.
- It often runs in families.
- If everyone was socially adept, we might have a lot fewer things designed and built.
The ten unwrit ...more
I found this book very helpful, with some qualifications. First, it is told through the perspective of two individuals with ASD, and I think you have to be careful about extrapolating too much into the ASD population as a whole. Clearly, what worked for Sean and Temple might ...more
The format of the book is also very strange.It almost seems like the two co authors wrote their own books independently and it was up to the editor to splice them together with their own comments. On top of that, each of the authors cuts into their own text with "2017 updated comme ...more
“If you’ve ever wondered, ‘What is going through my child’s mind? Why can’t he get social interactions?’ then this book is for you! ‘A-ha!’ moments abound.”
Veronica Zysk, editor of Autism/Asperger’s Digest and this book, both published by Future Horizons.
“I wish I had this book when Sean was a child. It would have helped me understand Sean so much more.”
Judy Barron, co-author of There’s A Boy In Here and mother of author Sean Barron.
“I would love to have the ten rules from page 119 as
Temple and Sean are high functioning people with autism spectrum disorders, but wildly different phenotypes. In this book, they describe their experiences and how they learned to socially integrate and function. Temple is extremely analytical while Sean is more emotional and intuitive, but they have arrived at similar ...more
The structure was difficult for me to navigate. I felt that the information was not well organized and somewhat hard to find, though occasionally important "rules" were printed in italics. I liked the understanding that came from hearing the two dif ...more
It helped me understand better the challenges people on the Autism Spectrum face in daily living - and the CRITICAL IMPORTANCE of parents who insist that children do their VERY best to follow norms, etc.
I don't even know if I had autism or not. Still, this is probably quite helpful to me.
I'm particularly struck by Grandin's comments about today's social environment vs. the environment she grew up in.