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Love That Lasts: How We Discovered God’s Better Way for Love, Dating, Marriage, and Sex

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In Love That Lasts, New York Times bestselling author of Jesus > Religion Jefferson Bethke and his wife, Alyssa, expose the distorted views of love that permeate our culture and damage our hearts, minds, and souls.

Drawing from Jeff’s “prodigal son” personal history and from Alyssa’s “True Love Waits” experience, the Bethkes point to a third and better way. Blending personal st
Paperback, 256 pages
Published October 10th 2017 by Thomas Nelson
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Christina Zahniser
Aug 10, 2017 rated it it was amazing
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This is really more of an autobiography than a "how-to" book of any sorts, but it's impossible not to learn from Jeff & Alyssa's experiences! I think most people can relate to either Jeff OR Alyssa, but even if you find yourself somewhere in the middle, the lessons they've learned - and how they've learned to process events throughout the lives is inspiring and challenging.

Besides it being an incredibly applicable, Jeff and Alyssa's writing is hilarious, relatable, and comforting
Aug 10, 2017 rated it it was amazing
If you're wanting Godly advice or to read about a Godly couple's experiences in navigating dating, life as newlyweds, and etc., I highly recommend this book. Jeff and Alyssa are so relatable. They hold nothing back and share some of the deepest parts of their stories, both as individuals and together. If you struggle with singleness or even an eating disorder/porn and similar things, you'll want to read this. Whether you've never been in a relationship or have been married for years, there is so ...more
Jeff Rynning
Aug 10, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I was lucky enough to have received an Advance Reader Copy from the publisher and have to say, this is seriously one of the best books I have ever read. Jeff and Alyssa's openness and vulnerability give you a front row seat into their marriage, which is not only so great of them to do, but that vulnerability helps you feel open enough to look within your own heart and see where God might be leading you. Reading this made me feel like I was sitting down and talking with some of my oldest friends! ...more
Katherine Yeung
Sep 14, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I COULD NOT STOP READING!! This book is amazing if you're single, in a relationship, engaged, married.. anything! Every chapter has something that you can relate to, whether you are male or female; everyone goes through similar trials and our stories can help each other grow in multiple ways. Though their book is all about their own life stories, I found that I could see myself in their shoes at one time or another and I loved that I could feel so relatable to them! The honesty and the openness ...more
Cara Riker
Sep 14, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Wow! If you feel like your love life is not in line with God's best - pick up this book! Jeff and Alyssa are open and honest about how they've worked on finding 'God's Better Way' and let me tell you, it's amazing. Don't think you can't learn from this book if you are not married or dating. As someone who recently became single, I took so much away from reading this! I really believe that reading this book and learning about their own story can help anyone in whatever walk of life they're in. ...more
Erika Contreras
Aug 10, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I enjoyed reading this book. It made me both laugh and cry but more importantly it reminded me how important it is to keep God first in your life whether single, dating, or married. Jefferson's writing has a way of drawing you in just as his YouTube videos do (I'm a fan!). Alyssa's writing is so intriguing, it was hard to put this book down!

I received an Advanced Reader Copy from the Publisher
Aug 18, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I was fortunate enough to receive and Advanced Reader Copy from the publisher. This book is truly amazing and gets down to the nitty gritty of you life and it really makes you think. It is a wonderful read and funny too! Jeff and Alyssa share their stories and much of it you can relate with.
Whether you are single, married, divorced, widowed, or dating, this book is a must read!
Chloe James
Aug 10, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This is a MUST READ for ANYONE! Young, old, single, dating- you can relate to it. The authors are two imperfect people who are simply sharing their story to glorify God! You did to order yourself a copy of this book. I received an Advance Reader Copy from the publisher.
Alexandra Yearley
Sep 14, 2017 rated it it was amazing
A little backstory on my husband and I before I jump right into my review. He and I both were not raised religious. We never went to church with our families, nor did we discuss religion. It just wasn't a part of our lives. As we got older, we both experienced church a bit through our friends, but nothing in depth by any means. In April of 2017 we briefly discussed faith and that same day a pastor showed up at our door. We were stunned. A week later, Easter Sunday, we attended church and fell in ...more
Aug 17, 2017 rated it liked it
This book could use a more accurate title. It posses the story of two people and how they feel in love. What little advice given can bee seen on the authors YouTube page. Also unfortunately compare to his pst books, their is a real lack of scripture. This book makes me feel like I'm listening to someone's story, and God just happens to be there on the side. The current title leads you to believe that their will be much advice about life, marriage, and sex. Honestly it's a story of two people who ...more
Sep 13, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Wow. Just finished reading this book and although I'm bummed it's finished, I feel like I'm now well equipped to take what I read and apply it to something that seems to always make or break the human race: relationships. This book truly is for anyone. From ages 0-99, any walk of life and relationship status, gender, cultural background, etc. The author and his wife truly poured out their hearts in this book and the product was not only an amazing read, but what I like to call it, a "flashlight. ...more
Abby Stoker
Sep 13, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I am so grateful I was selected to receive an advanced reader copy. I enjoyed every second I got to read and experience the joy, hardships, struggles, and realizations that Jeff and Alyssa share. They are so vulnerable and real and relatable. I can't wait to get my own physical copy and get to mark it up, share it, and read it over and over.
I have followed the Bethkes for years now, since before they were married, and I have loved every bit of content they have shared with the world. They
Sep 13, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This book has the potential to change the thinking of the younger generations in how they look at love! This was a phenomenally written book, giving insight into relationships in the 21st century and how to 'unlearn' what our culture and even our churches are feeding us when it comes to love, marriage, sex, etc. This is a book that I will make each of my children read before they start dating, when they get to that age. It is a book that is great for everyone and anyone, regardless of what stage ...more
Shay Fort
Sep 03, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Jeff and Alyssa Bethke beautifully weave together a story of perfect love as exemplified in Christ's love and sacrifice for us. With this picture in mind, they vulnerably describe their successes and struggles and the crucial turning points in their own lives and marriage. Their story is intensely encouraging to anyone who values relationships built on mutual trust, acceptance of flaws, and forgiveness. Lifelong commitment to a single person may be hard, but the Bethkes illustrate it is not impo ...more
Kelly Fisher
Sep 04, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Every now and then you come across a book that is just so real and raw, so bare and honest, that you have to finish but you don't want to finish it all at the same time. This book is that. Intertwining the need for community in our relationships, as well as God's redeeming love in each of their personal lives, Jeff and Alyssa have created not a 'How-to' book, but a funny, tear-jerking, honest look at what, Who, we find true contentment and fulfillment in in order to have grace and love-filled re ...more
Alayna Clementi
Aug 14, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I had the great privilege of reading this AMAZING book by Jeff and Alyssa. I received an Advance Reader Copy from the publisher, and boy, I glad I did! This book hit the deep topics of struggling with singleness, how to keep God the center go your relationships, and keeping the sanctity of marriage.

As a young woman who has struggled with many of the topics mentioned in the book, I just automatically connected with the chapters written by both authors. Jeff and Alyssa both just wrote from the he
Christina Wellman
Aug 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Let me start off with that I was given the opportunity to read an advanced copy of this amazing book! Now, I don't want to give anything away, or tell you what is in the book, because I honestly believe that this book is a MUST READ/MUST HAVE for everyone!!! The conviction I had while reading was hard at first, but the grace and love that is put into this book is outstanding. Lets, face it, we aren't perfect, there is no,perfect relationship. Its hard, especially being a stay at home mom, I know ...more
Elana Carson
Aug 12, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I have now decided to buy this book as a wedding gift for every one of my friends, in addition to purchasing it for all the “single ladies” (now put your hands up!) in my life. Love That Lasts is one of the most riveting books I have ever read. While the book isn’t considered a “novel”, the stories Jeff and Alyssa share will you keep you on your toes the entire read. Unique in nature, the book covers many challenging topics facing our world today: true love, self worth, relationships, and sex. T ...more
Alisa Jeffus
Aug 21, 2017 rated it liked it
The book is a quick and light read, with lots of great stories about the authors. They're open and honest about the struggles they have faced and the things they've learned through dating and marriage. I'm giving it three stars because if you've read the authors books before, it's a little repetitive. I've heard about their dating relationship in past books, and didn't learn anything new from it in this book. The book is also more of a memoir than an advice book. Short takeaways are given at the ...more
Aug 10, 2017 rated it it was amazing
One of the most honest and heartfelt books I have read. Both Jeff and Alyssa opened up about their struggles with relationships and things from the past that impacted how they viewed marriage and love. It guides the reader back to Christ and His love for us.
Totally relatable with many different examples from their own lives and incredibly well written. This book made me cry and laugh out loud.
It is a book that I will read over and over and encourage anyone I know to read it.

I received an Adva
Amanda Layton
I've been a big fan of Jeff & Alyssa Bethke since I first started following Jesus back in November 2014. I am so thankful for their YouTube Channel, Instagram posts, and the books they write. Their thoughts on life are always so life-giving to me!

As someone who is in a serious dating relationship I am incredibly thankful for this book! I would recommend LOVE THAT LASTS for anyone who is single, dating, or engaged. While Jeff & Alyssa touch a little bit on marriage I do think
Bethany Richards
Sep 05, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I received an Advance Reader's Copy from the publisher and I still can't believe I got to read this book prior to its October release date!

If you're single and trying to understand how to be content in your singleness, this book is for you. If you're dating and pulling your hair out because you don't know if the guy/girl you're dating is "the one," this book is for you. If you're engaged, newly married, or have been married for years, this book is for you! Basically, no matter what s
Stephanie Baquedano
Aug 10, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This wasn't just a book. It was a story of how God brought 2 individuals together through his divine love. Jeff & Alyssa remind us that marriage isn't perfect. There is much more to dating, love, marriage, and sex and the Bethke's help remind us of that.This story is RAW, it's RELATABLE, FUNNY, IMPACTFUL. It's for everyone to read from female/male, single/engaged, teens/young adults, adults/older adults, married/divorced, etc. Once you start reading, it'll be hard to put it down. For me, it ...more
Austyn McAnarney
Aug 18, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I have always loved the content the Bethke's put out - from the YouTube videos, to their Instagram posts, other books, and most recently, their 31 Creative Ways to Love Him/Her. This book has by far been my favorite! Jeff and Alyssa speak with honesty and vulnerability and bring so much wisdom out of their story. I found myself asking questions about my own heart and looking into some of the prickly parts I need to work on. I am so thrilled to have been on the launch team for this book, and high ...more
Aug 12, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This book is absolutely LOADED with truth!!!! Before reading I thought I would gain relationship advice for others/my future self as I am currently single. But, this book has truth for those who are single, looking for a relationship, dating, engaged, or married!! I was captivated by both Jeff and Alyssa's writing, but I really connected with Alyssa on this one!! This couple is raw, real, and relatable - the hands and feet of God. They hold nothing back in this book, and I am so thankful for the ...more
Ana Nuñez
Sep 14, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Love That Lasts has something for everyone. No matter what your relationship status or love life currently looks like, this book is for you. It was as if I was sitting with Jeff and Alyssa at their kitchen table drinking coffee and hearing their stories. It was as if I was directly getting this wonderful, real life advice from godly people who are still figuring it out, but sharing what they have found with grace and humility. It was so interesting to read their stories from both points of view. ...more
Sep 14, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This is a great book and a must read for anyone who is single, dating, engaged, newlyweds, or married for any time. This truly gives a great plan for how to make your love last by putting God First. We were meant for marriage; the Bible begins and ends with a wedding. We can take that and the advice (with scripture and lessons to back it up) to make our own marriages and future marriages last.
I enjoyed reading the experiences and pit falls of Jefferson and Alyssa and how I can relate as so
Hayley Johnson
Sep 15, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This book is a treasured gift to my misfit soul. I wish this book could have fallen into my hands when I was a young girl. Yet I received so much wisdom and conviction from its pages even now, when I sure wasn't expecting it. Jeff and Alyssa share the deepest broken parts of themselves and how Jesus shined redemptions light into the cracks...and some dog poop in the toilet. Get ready to laugh, cry, shout some Amens! and fold every page over.
-Hayley Johnson, Jesus lover, wife to hot husband
Amanda St Germain
Sep 14, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Thoroughly enjoyed reading this book. I loved how they alternated between chapters so the reader can enjoy different writing styles and to explain how to create "love that lasts!" I found this book entertaining as well as beneficial for anyone single, dating, engaged, and especially those in the young family part of marriage. I loved the biblical aspects and reminders displayed regarding how Christ asks us to love each other and most importantly Him. I received an advance reader copy from the pu ...more
Sep 13, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I was lucky enough to receive an advanced reader copy of this book from the publisher! I love everything about this book. The testimonies in this book helped me to fix my broken marriage because it showed me the other side of big issues in relationships. Throughout the book it feels more like the authors are just talking to you and telling you about what happened in their marriage and while they were dating. This book is so raw, honest, and beautiful. There is something for everyone to learn or ...more
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