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The Trans Partner Handbook: A Guide for Partners of Trans People

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Individuals who transition from one gender to another are often in some degree of a relationship, and over 55% of these relationships endure through the transition process.

While more resources are emerging for trans people themselves, there is very little information available for their partners. Through first-hand accounts and vignettes of successful partnerships, this bo
Published August 21st 2017 by Jessica Kingsley Publishers
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Oct 14, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: trans, queer, sexuality
3 stars only b/c i was hoping this would be a more comprehensive guide for partners of trans folks. I think the audience for this book is partners who have little prerequisite trans knowledge and/or are not sure whether they're comfortable staying their trans partner. If that's you, there is definitely some info that will help you better understand your partners' identity and the transition process.

What i was looking for and didn't get was more guidance around being a supportive partner while a
Laura Missett
Aug 19, 2018 rated it liked it
I think my biggest gripe with this book is that it's called a handbook. It should be called an anecdotal book about being the partner of a trans person in the U.K. I like that the author devoted a whole page to a disclaimer about it being a limited book and how language is evolving, but I feel like that wasn't even enough. This is specific to the U.K. So get used to a lot of "U's" where they don't belong. And S in place of Z. The book got about 6 peoples' perspectives on their experiences with t ...more
It's a pretty decent book. I'm glad it exists. Though I was disappointed that it talked about gender dysphoria but not about gender euphoria. The author says they wrote this because of having a trans partner and wishing they had a book like this to help. They clearly did research but not enough to realize that not all trans people experience dysphoria. That's a harmful thing to perpetuate, especially in a book that's supposed to help cisgender people understand. And it didn't really have a concl ...more
Sep 19, 2019 rated it really liked it
While this book should never be read in place of someone's firsthand experience with transitioning, I believe it supplies a very nice complement to the subjects that come up, especially for someone intimately close to the person transitioning.

Jo Green offers a look into subjects facing the partners of trans people, including dysphoria, coming out, sexuality and gender (and how your own identities may shift), loss and grieving, as well as the nitty gritty of social, medical, and legal transition
Katie Robinson
Aug 17, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I thought this was an excellent book to help someone understand why their partner has decided to change their gender. It's written by someone who has lived through that experience, so knows just how difficult and bewildering it can be.

There are contributions from other partners as well, which is extremely useful as no-one's journey is the same as another's, and gives different views to consider.

This is not a "How To" manual, but presents lots of information for a couple to work their way throug
Karen Blanchette
Dec 19, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This book was really comforting to me, especially in the very beginning of dealing with my spouse coming out as transgender earlier this year. It is short, straightforward and overall very positive. It helped me feel less alone and that there was hope for our marriage to continue to be successful. I would highly recommend it for people grappling with a partner's transition.

It is highly based on laws/practices in the UK, and thus not everything applied to me in terms of legal requirements and suc
Jul 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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A lot of the information is very 101 style stuff that I already knew as my partner has been transitioning for over two years now, but it will be an important reference guide for me now that she will be attending a GIC appointment for the first time (tomorrow!) so that I know what to expect as her partner
Jun 08, 2020 rated it really liked it
This guide is a lovely and simple account to helping those who are partners of trans folks, offering helpful advice, laying out typical timelines, and highlighting different experiences that partners have had helping their loved ones transition.
Thank you so much to the author for putting this together!!
Jan 01, 2019 rated it really liked it
Very informative
Nathan Frechette
Definitely recommend this for partners.
Melissa G
Dec 24, 2020 rated it it was amazing
A practical resource for partners of trans people, with shared experiences throughout the entire book. Loved it!
May 01, 2018 rated it liked it
a good intro for cis people who previously were unaware of trans folks. published/written from the perspective of cis partners with lots of direct quotes, based in the UK.
Oct 01, 2017 rated it really liked it
This book is a very important resource aimed at supporting the reader to support their partner as they transition. It could also be useful if the trans person you know is a family member or close friend rather than partner.

The idea is that someone close to you coming out as trans can be a lot to deal with and it's okay to have conflicting feelings, but you need to deal with those on your own time and just be there to support that person. This book is a great place to start for those looking to e
Jackie Haske
May 09, 2019 rated it did not like it
This book would be more helpful to someone whose partner *just* came out. If your partner has been out for awhile and you're still together, then chances are most of the advice and info in this book is already extremely familiar to you. I will be donating this to my library so at least they have *something* in their catalog. ...more
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Jo Green is a queer person who’s the author of Queer Paganism and the The Trans Partner Handbook. They also founded the largest active support space for partners of trans people, called Distinction Trans Partner Support. Jo is also lead singer and lyricist of a post punk band called Pentacorn and their pronouns are they/them/their.

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