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The Curse of the Boyfriend Sweater: Essays on Crafting

3.72  ·  Rating details ·  797 ratings  ·  180 reviews
The Curse of the Boyfriend Sweater is a memoir about life truths learned through crafting.

People who craft know things. They know how to transform piles of yarn into sweaters and scarves. They know that some items, like woolen bikini tops, are better left unknit. They know that making a hat for a newborn baby isn’t just about crafting something small but appreciating the b
Hardcover, 256 pages
Published March 20th 2018 by Flatiron Books
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Lisa Silverman
Feb 11, 2018 rated it liked it
Received the ARC in a Goodreads giveaway. Amusing in places, moving in places, but it never really wowed me, even as a knitter. Possibly because it felt more like a memoir than a collection of essays about crafting, though crafting is certainly the overarching theme. And it's the memoir of a millennial (though she claims early on to hate that word) who doesn't have a long or fascinating-enough life yet to fill a memoir.
Olive (abookolive)
Apr 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing
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Dec 30, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: knitting
I received an advanced copy at the New York Sheep and Wool Festival, Miss Okun even inscribed it, "To Christine, Congrat on breaking the curse!" Dan was with me, carrying one of the 4 sweaters I'd knit him before we were married (it was too hot to wear it, but he's that loyal). We've been married 24 years.

The book itself is a collection of essays, lists, and stories. I felt like I'd met her family and friends, mourned over her losses and cheered her successes with her. It was lovely for reading
Apr 22, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I started listening to this book last month and somehow managed to not finish it until now and I’m so glad I found this collection of essays.

Listening to the author read I was taken aback at how much I related to her. I shouldn’t have been given that this is a book telling stories about how crafting has been a huge part of her life.

“Each stitch is a step forward” is not quite the final line, but pretty darn close. But it’s incredibly not wrong and in true crafters fashion, I want to embroider
May 10, 2018 rated it liked it
It wasn't as good as I thought it would be. Too much anxiety, not enough knitting. I loved her descriptions of her relationship with her grandmother though.
Dec 30, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, 2018
Unsurprisingly, The Curse of the Boyfriend Sweater is very Buzzfeedesque: it's often funny, sometimes thought-provoking, and also a bit all over the place. I liked it but wanted to like it more.

My old roommate and I used to talk about how satisfying it is to just look at your knitting/crocheting. How proud you can feel to make something from nothing all on your own. How happy you can feel imagining its future. My roommate told me stories about learning to knit, advised me on the best yarn for ha
I will pretty much always pick up a book if it pertains to knitting. As a fan of Stephanie Pearl-McPhee's knitting-centered writing, I was expecting a series of highly identifiable essays where I would see myself or something very similar reflected in the writing. I did find a good deal of that as someone whose crafts also make an apartment a home and who always has at least one project in any given bag.

The thing of it is, though, that Pearl-McPhee has, er, a wider set of life experiences to dra
Regine O
Jul 13, 2018 rated it did not like it
Shelves: abandoned
DNF. Made it through 1/4 of the book and there is just no substance to any of the stories.

I would have preferred more knitting references and less whining about losing her boyfriends.

Aug 05, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Even though I was excited for this book, I was nicely surprised. I seldom enjoy the pop culture memoirs that have proliferated these days (with all the footnotes, exclamation points, unfiltered inner-monologue-to-page transcriptions, and just, I don’t know, mannerisms in place of substance). However, these are thoughtful, well-written essays and it was unexpectedly wonderful to read about being a knitter – I didn’t realize this was an area of representation I was missing. The strongest pieces we ...more
Apr 10, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: audiobook
Wonderfully put together collection of essays. Alanna is both a riot and harshly serious, simply well written.
Apr 03, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: arc, read-in-2018
Alanna loves crafting. Like, she REALLY loves crafting so much that she wrote a book about it, so if you're not up for knitting talk then keep moving right along! I love hearing people talk about what they're passionate about, so I was all in for learning about public acts of crafting and "knitting prom" and why the second sock is the worst. She uses crafting, this common thread (haha) throughout her life, to get to the complicated things: friends, relationships, family, anxiety, graduation, bod ...more
Arielle Walker
Sep 24, 2018 marked it as dnf
I thought this might be a light, enjoyable listen while on residency focusing on textiles - theme appropriate without being too work-heavy!

But unfortunately, though I’m sure the author is utterly lovely, I was not at all interested in reading lengthy pieces about her ex boyfriends, inability to be single, or her glorious bestest bud (with, of course, the requisite knitting descriptions thrown in at random). I stuck it out as log as I could, but in the end this was a swift return to the Overdrive
Apr 19, 2018 rated it liked it
This is not a light, fun look at knitting like I expected. It delves into knitting as therapy for anxiety and mental illness. It wasn't funny like I expected, but it definitely held my interest.
Dec 02, 2018 rated it really liked it
This was everything I needed. It was a perfect companion for all the gift knitting I've been doing. So much of this book was #relatable.
Greg Kelley
Mar 10, 2018 marked it as to-read
I'm not going to read this book. But it looked like a fine addition to my new shelf of books that I will "admire from a distance" (and never touch). I like the premise, that building/creating things for your S.O. leads to unintended consequences. I have a feeling this works in mediums other than yarn.
Jan 23, 2019 rated it it was ok
::shrug:: This was okay. It didn't particularly amuse me or pull at my hearstrings. It also suffers as do many books or sitcoms with this type of "feel"; unless it's incredibly witty, I'm not drawn to stories about stereotypical affluent neurotic white women in the big city. This is more a memoir collection with each essay themed on a knitting-related metaphor rather than a collection of essays about knitting. My mismanaged expectations likely contributed to my lackluster response.

The essay from
Sep 12, 2018 rated it it was ok
Boy, I say this with affection, but what a slog. This felt like a love letter to the author's friends and family, as well as her way of processing a breakup. Which is fine, and I'm glad she wrote it, and I hope that said friends and family read it, but really the audience did not need to extend beyond these chosen few. The ties between crafting and her relationships felt forced, and there just wasn't enough going on for me to care. I'll go back to my own knitting, rather than trying to hash out ...more
Apr 13, 2018 rated it it was ok
This one was just painful for me to listen to, so I gave up around the halfway mark.

Unlike Stephanie Pearl McPhee’s books, which tend to actually be about crafting, The Curse of the Boyfriend Sweater seems to revolve around the author’s former boyfriends and unreasonably awesome friends.

Her life stories are not interesting enough, nor is her writing entertaining enough, to keep me interested.
Alissa Roy
Oct 29, 2017 rated it liked it
Look at the cover of this book- doesn’t it make you want to read it? It’s so beautiful
May 03, 2018 rated it really liked it
This short book of essays covers not just knitting but is a bit of a memoir too. The author is quite young so she doesn't have that much history to get into but her experiences with family, friends and boyfriends is fairly relatable and she is quite funny. I'm not a knitter or crafter but I do understand the satisfaction and peace that can be gained through creating something and sharing it with loved ones.
I listened to the audiobook version which is narrated by the author. Other than mispronou
Mar 31, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: read-in2018
This was truly delightful and I think I want to buy a copy so I can have it forever
Mar 11, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Supremely heartfelt, a case both for examining your life more closely and picking up the ol' knitting needles.
Mar 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2018
Full disclosure: I am friends with Alanna! Maybe that is why I can hear her voice in every sentence of this collection, but I think you will too. It’s thoughtful, at times vulnerable, and incredibly relatable even for someone who’s never before touched a knitting needle. It made me want to make things too!
Rachel B
I thought this was going to be a light, humorous read about crafting. One of those books you like just because you can relate.

In reality, Okun wrote more of a reflective memoir (or tried to, anyway) than a collection of crafting essays, and her attempts at humor completely missed the mark for me. She went on and on about how she always has to be in a romantic relationship, and I just felt sad for her.

This book also felt very "written," for lack of a better word. It reminded me of essays I wrote
Mar 13, 2018 rated it really liked it
I am not a knitter. I might start next year. I did once knit a very plain scarf that was too short, but I was flummoxed by connecting a new skein of yarn.

Alanna is a knitter. In fact, she's a KNITTER, all caps. She knits forever and always and in every situation. She is in her twenties and moving to New York City and getting a new job and dating. And in these series of memoir-essays, she covers all of this, and knitting. And a few other crafts. Her mother is also crafty, which they put to good u
vanessa marcoux
Apr 20, 2018 rated it did not like it
Shelves: unfinished
I listened to the audio version (while knitting!) and it had its moments, but overall I wasn't a fan of the author's casual and hyperbolic writing style. It reads more like a blog post or Buzzfeed article than proper essay writing. Her choice of topics beyond crafting just couldn't hold my attention.
Jun 05, 2018 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I saw this recommended on twitter and I'm crafty too, so why not? It was fine. A typical sort of personal essay collection for the early twenties to early thirties female demographic. I think I've read too many so I've gotten cynical about the formula of it.
May 06, 2018 rated it really liked it
I don't knit or craft but I really enjoyed this book. All the essays were entertaining, funny and relatable. I also liked how Alanna was open about mental illness.
Nov 09, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Got an advanced copy of this and it’s lovely and comforting and funny and relatable. So so relatable.
Mar 23, 2019 rated it it was ok
Shelves: overdrive
I got about half way through and it just wasn't for me. I was interested in the book because I thought it was a collection of essays about knitting and crafting. While knitting is mentioned, most of it is actually the cathartic essays of an insecure 20-something. If you enjoy those, then this book is for you. If you want an actual book with essays on crafting, then I recommend Clara Parkes book on Stash.
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Alanna Okun is a writer, editor, and crafter living in New York. She's currently a senior editor at Racked and worked at BuzzFeed for a while before that. Her work has appeared on NPR, Brooklyn Magazine, Apartment Therapy, Vogue Knitting, The Hairpin, The Billfold, and other places. She's also done segments for The Today Show, Good Morning America, and a whole bunch of local and national televisio ...more
“So often the only thing you can do is give up the idea that you can perfectly visualize a life, and just keep stringing days together one by one; so often a gaping hole in a sleeve just needs a little tug a few stitches back. And sometimes you just have to sit with the hole, to accept that it’s there and it’s uncomfortable and it’s fine.” 1 likes
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