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Single State of Mind

3.56  ·  Rating details ·  2,544 ratings  ·  221 reviews
Andi Dorfman, breakout star of ABC’s The Bachelorette and New York Times bestselling author of It’s Not Okay, returns with this new collection of her adventures as a still-single gal surviving and thriving in New York City.

Sharing moments like finding her first New York apartment (the front door broke so she had to use the fire escape), her first dates on “celebrity Tinder
Hardcover, 288 pages
Published January 9th 2018 by Gallery Books
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Stephanie No, not really. She definitely references a couple things that happened in the first book, but this one is more about her starting her life over in Ne…moreNo, not really. She definitely references a couple things that happened in the first book, but this one is more about her starting her life over in New York after the breakup and navigating life as a single girl.(less)

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Jan 21, 2018 rated it did not like it
Shelves: nonfiction
I didn't like Andi's first book, but at least it had fun Bachelor gossip, which made me give it two stars. This book, however, was just a mess.

Andi came across extremely unlikeable in her first book, and I suspected she had a serious drinking problem, but I chalked some of that up to her "heartbreak". It's clear after reading this book, however, that both of those things are true even in her normal life. Andi spends this entire book ragging on everyone, even friends she supposedly loves. Most o
Rachel Reeves
Jan 04, 2018 rated it did not like it
Shelves: 2018
DNF at 38%

Thank you to the publisher and Edelweiss for providing a digital ARC in exchange for an honest review.

As a longtime fan of The Bachelor/The Bachelorette franchise, I had to see if an ARC was available for this when one of my library co-workers who knows of my love for all things Bachelor mentioned seeing something about the book coming out. Andi was someone who I liked okay when she was on the show but still not a favorite for me. Reading this book, I found myself liking her less and
Feb 20, 2018 rated it did not like it
This book depicts the honestly biased and shallow thoughts and experiences of a typical simple-minded privileged all-American white girl, as well as her misconceptions about life. Which we can all learn from. I know I did.

But first, let me say how intrigued I was by the 75 entries of the word "wine" and 88 entries of the word "drink", including drinks and drinking, on the book. Intrigued by the fact that they did not go with the much more interesting title of "Drunken State of Mind".

There's som
Jan 12, 2018 rated it did not like it
Wow, save your money. This is honestly not a good book... I couldn't even get through the first half. This book simply wasn't well written, and I found it boring. She must believe that her life is so interesting, but i'm sorry it's just not... at least not for me. And for her to go into such great detail about her private life... basically running an escort service and letting that be known to thousands of people, how can she have so much pride writing a book like this? Welcome to the 21st centu ...more
Jan 12, 2018 rated it did not like it
She's a nice girl but I don't think she's an author. It felt like a myspace blog that dragged on for 200+ pages. I also didn't appreciate her gendered ideas littered throughout the book, like "a man would know what to do". Girl, it's 2018! ...more
Jan 29, 2018 rated it did not like it
Oh boy, where do I start? I’ll admit, I’m a junkie for a celeb memoir & since I read Dorfman’s last book, I was excited to read the next one. I really wanted to like this book but the author made it very difficult. I am a single, 29 year old, well-educated woman, & I couldn’t relate to anything she was whining about. She came off so unlikeable; she portrayed herself as shallow, egotistical, someone with a bit of a drinking problem, & someone who really just wrote this book so she could brag & co ...more
Jan 10, 2018 rated it did not like it
I liked Andis season on the Bachelorette and Andi. That’s why I read her first book and thought she was really open if not a little heavy on the spoiled rich girl giving ridiculous advice side. So I wanted to give this book a chance. Here is what I realized. She’s not a good writer, this reads like the diary of a high priced call girl and literally she never takes accountability for her part in the ending of any of her relationships. I started to notice every ending to her many relationships was ...more
Jan 17, 2018 rated it did not like it
Seeing as how The Bachelor franchise is one of my favorite guilty pleasures, I often chalk up reading the books written by Bachelor contestants to that of reading my favorite guilty pleasure magazine Us Weekly....meaning I expect lots of gossip, fluff, and not to learn a lot but to be entertained by pretty people. Andi's first book fit that bill. It was fun, fluffy and filled with somewhat interesting stories. This book is just dreadful. Andi, I am shocked you used to be a lawyer because this bo ...more
Jan 16, 2018 rated it did not like it
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Jan 15, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 4-stars, favorites, memoir
4.5 stars

I absolutely loved reading this book, and it's just what I needed at this time in my life. Andi writes about her first two years in New York (from 2015 I think to the beginning of 2017), and a lot of it does cover her dating life (no serious relationships though). I like how honest she is about it all. On the other hand, she's not very relatable. She spends a lot of her time drinking and getting flown by guys to visit them in Seattle, Canada, and Vegas. Additionally, she was paid to att
Jan 30, 2018 rated it it was ok
I liked this more than her first book. it read a lot like a book version of sex and the city. it was entertaining. But much like her other book, Andi comes off as extremely shallow. basically, she drinks A LOT, is horrible at picking out decent men to date (I mean she choose Josh Murray, this shouldn't be too much of a surprise.), and loves the quasi-fame the bachelor has given her.

I DO appreciate that SHE wrote it. a lot of famous people books are written by ghost writers. I respect that she h
Jan 30, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Andi Dorfman is seriously one of the most amazing women out there in the world right now. Having read her two books I can safely say without a doubt that she is an inspiration for women. I loved this memoir so much! The things she talks about are real and honest and at the same time she is making reader's laugh through the whole thing, even during moments that shouldn't be hysterical! I loved every second of this book!

Longer review coming soon!
Alexa Krahn
Jan 11, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I loved this book. It's like hanging out with your best friend and gossiping about everything. I kinda want to be BFFs with Andi. ...more
Rachel Rickard Rebellino
Oh, Bachelor books. This was better written than Andi’s first book but still not that great.
Feb 22, 2019 rated it really liked it
My favorite kind of audiobook
Feb 02, 2018 rated it really liked it
I feel embarrassed that I am even putting this out there that I read it, and that I even liked it enough to give it four stars. Let me explain.
As a fangirl of the Bachelor, I totally read her first book for all the BTS secrets, and I also follow most of the Bachelor franchise rejects on Instagram. Of course all of Andi's BFF's shamelessly posted selfies with the book and I fell succumb as their target audience and bought the Kindle version (that way I look smarter). :)
I don't really know what
Feb 12, 2018 rated it it was ok
2.5 stats: I appreciated the fact that this was fun, light reading for the past few days when I was up overnight with a sick kid.

I’m not sure if this memoir was supposed to be an ode to the single life but it ended up making me feel really grateful to be in a relationship.

I was also wondering what the overall takeaway and lessons were supposed to be from this book. A lot of it was fairly unrelatable, like being able to just fly to the Super Bowl and then hop a free flight to Vegas. I also thou
Feb 27, 2018 rated it really liked it
Andi, A confused 28 year old, decides to leave everything shes ever known to pursue her dreams and move to New York. Along the way she has a lot of struggles and setbacks but she will survive.
After breaking up with her fiance in front of everyone on reality TV, She decides to leave Georgia all together to maybe get rid of the bad memories. She soon realizes that living in New York is was different than Georgia. Way more expensive, a lot of long coats, and the people are nicer.
This book was supp
Mar 08, 2019 rated it liked it
I liked this a lot more than her first book. A real anthem to single women and figuring yourself out. Resonated with me as I'm the same age as her. It was fun reading her disastrous dating stories and even though she's on a slightly more sophisticated level, nice to know single girl problems are the same all around. Includes tell all drama from The Bachelor that you know you want to know about. Of course, not the most well-written or insightful book, and she obviously has a single white privileg ...more
Jan 18, 2018 rated it really liked it
I really enjoyed Andi’s book. I found it very juicy, entertaining and quite simply, some pure guilty pleasure. Her dating stories are hilarious and I just couldn’t get enough of her “single state of mind”. I find Dorfman’s writing style very remniscent of Carrie Bradshaw and this book felt like a modern day “Sex and the City” type story.
Danielle Werge
Feb 01, 2018 rated it really liked it
While no bachelorette author could ever compare to the infamous Carrie Bradshaw, Andi Dorfman came pretty close. I enjoyed Andi’s honest and comedic account of her crazy NYC lifestyle.
Feb 21, 2018 rated it did not like it
Having read Andi’s first book, I thought I liked her as a person but after reading her second book, I realized rather quickly that I knew nothing about HER. Her first book was truly about the men she had in and out of her life and Single State of Mind was about her as a person... and I strongly dislike her.

She is incredibly insecure but not aware of it yet. She spends so much time in the book trying to describe to the reader how the party or club or event she’s at is super exclusive but if you
Mar 12, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2020-gr
ingle State of Mind is all about Andi’s move to New York and her dating escapades.

There are some very funny and relatable parts to the book – from the difficulty of finding an affordable apartment to attending weddings without a date to being set up with the worst guys. The story feels like a modern version of Sex and the City. Andi has a dry sense of humor that reads well and her writing has vastly improved from her first book.

The glaring issue with this book is a lack of self awareness. Andi t
A light, easy-to-read and quite entertaining account by a former Bachelor and Bachelorette contestant who decides to reset her life by moving to New York at the prime age of 28. There, she begins recounting the myriad of dating disasters that she encounters, mostly with rich athletes that have her flying over to visit them. I have to give her credit for being honest and open about her feelings throughout this experience, but her snottiness is downright insulting to say the least. Rarely does she ...more
Jan 27, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I really really really LOVED this book! The 3 star review had me really skeptical about buying it but I decided to get it anyways, keeping in mind it might be a disappointment.

I loved Single State of Mind more than It's Not Okay. I already knew half the stuff she wrote in It's Not Okay having watched her season on the bachelorette and reading about her breakup with Josh so there wasn't anything new in it for me.

You get to witness Andi grow as a person and a woman in this second book. I also fi
Morgan Ensor
Jan 15, 2018 rated it liked it
I love the Bachelor/Bachelorette! I’ve been watching it since Trista was on, so of course I’m gonna read any/all books having to do with the brand. I really liked Andi when she was on Juan DoucheBags season. I was so excited about her finding love with Josh... then that ended.. and I had to know the deets. This book though... it barely touches on the Bachelorette, mostly just her life. I disagree with her single state of mind lifestyle(like I don’t need all the deets about your love life). I do ...more
Caitlin R.
Jan 25, 2018 rated it really liked it
I liked this one more than her first honestly! Instead of it reading like a self-help book like “It’s Not Okay”, “Single State of Mind” read like a Carrie Bradshaw column - A single girl in the big apple!

I’m not the type to pick this kind of book, but I just love Andi so much from her Bachelor/Bachelorette days that I just had to read it to find out what she’s doing now... and I definitely don’t regret that decision!
Feb 02, 2018 rated it really liked it
I thought Andi's 2nd book was much better written than her first (although not as juicy in content). While the private jets, free Super Bowl tickets and last-minute excursions to Mexico/Canada/Seattle with new love interests were not very relatable, her dating experiences certainly were. I also really appreciated her candor and vulnerability- not easy to publish I'm sure, especially for a pseudo-celebrity. Really enjoyed! ...more
Feb 28, 2018 rated it it was ok
The Bachelor series is 100% my guilty pleasure show so when I saw Andi had a new book out about her life post-breakup from her season on the show, I figured I'd give it a read. After the show, Andi moved to NYC where she was shocked to find apartments were really expensive, went out on a bunch of bad (and not so bad) first dates, and made a new group of friends. It was a fine read, I enjoyed it more because I watched the show, but it was nothing super special. ...more
Feb 22, 2018 rated it liked it
I enjoyed the first half of the book a lot more than the second, it was interesting reading about her getting set up in NYC. Also, Ive never seen the bachelor or Bachelorette, so i think there were a few connections missing there, but still a fun read.
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